Expert: Azure - 7/25/2007

Question
Hi R,

I was dating this guy Chris and everything seemed to be going great. We had so much in common, we even liked the same rock bands. One day he came up to me and said he would have to break up with me because he was stressed. But the real reason was that he cheated on me and dumped me for another woman Joanna. Also, after a while, I think they broke up because his profile says he is single now. He does not know that I know about her, he thinks I am really stupid and don't have a clue about what he really did to me and have no idea it was another woman.

The other day he saw me online and wanted to talk to me, but I cut the conversation short.

Yesterday I sent him a YouTube video of a band I really like and he really likes.

Then I wrote him this message:

"Hope you got a chance to check out the band video. I told you, they were really freakin' awesome! You know Chris, it's really a shame that Joanna and all those other girls you were fucking the entire time we were dating don't like hard rock. Kinda sucks, eh? Take care sweetheart! ~ Leslie"

Then I blocked him and deleted him from my life.

My question is, does that make me look really immature and mean?

Or is he just getting what he deserved? (Well, at least he knows now that I'm not as clueless as he thought.)

Thanks,
Leslie

Answer
great question, and good that you were able to step back and objectively look at it from 2 angles; your reaction was understandable, so i wouldn't call it mean or immature, and i'm sure it gave you some degree of satisfaction; now if you wanted to "graduate" up to an ADMIRABLE response, you would have given him the "poor guy, doesn't know any better way to act" pass, sent him the video, and moved on, but we all, being human, know that's not always easy to do...