Expert: Azure - 9/26/2006

Question
Hi
I have been with my bf for 3 years now. We have a child together. He has an anger problem, and he blows up abput the smallest things. He Doesn't want me to have any friends, or spend alot of time with my familu. I can't even get a pap test without him getting jealous! He tells me that I have a trust issue, and that I have to work on it, or else he doesn't want to be with me. I have found girl's #'s in his car, and I recently found half naked pictures of some girl on his pc, which dated back to when we first got together. he doesn't communicate with me. and I feel like he doesn't care. I told him that if we don't love eachother anymore, then we should slpit. but he doesn't want to. Why is he holding on? I don't really want to be wth him anylonger, but I feel bad for our child.... what should I do?
-c

Answer
let's see--a possessive, jealous, controlling boyfriend with an "anger problem", who doesn't communicate and most likely fools around; the REAL question is why/how have you stayed in this mess for so long??..the child,  once out of this environment, should be MUCH better off...don't waste any more precious time--move on ASAP..