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Hi. I once dated a violent alcoholic til 3 years ago. I met a man 3 months ago who had killed a 22 year old as he was driving drunk. He expects to go to jail for 2 years. He also has a baby on the way from a 1 night stand while drunk. Today he drank for the first time in 5 mths since the crash. He cried over the crash and jail. I feel like he is using me til he goes to jail. Are all alcoholics the same? I was sick over the drinking and feel like I should end this relationship. Advice??
Hi Kelly,
Yes Kelly, you are right to leave this man. Think about it. He has to serve time for killing a 22 year old. He has to go to jail for 2 years (and most probably serve less) His lawyer will probably get him into rehab if this was a 1st offense. Basically he has an opportunity to change his life for the better, the family of that 22yr old will never be the same.
-And he's still drinking. This man has a serious problem. This man plays the victim, a common pattern of an alcoholic/addict. Don't feel sorry for him. Get out before you get too involved.
All the best,
Bev
http://www.untwist-your-thinking.com
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Beverley Glazer
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I can answer questions on all addictive behaviors: alcohol, drugs, food, compulsive sex, codependency, gambling, compulsive shoplifting etc.
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BA Psychology, MA Counseling Psychology, ICADC International Alcohol and Drug Counselor, ICAC International Clinical Addiction Counselor,
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