Expert: Rebos - 2/22/2008

Question
I have been in a 5 year relationship with a drinker and i am having issues with his daily habit and weekend binging.

When i get to the point of leaving, he makes promises about cutting back which of course he doesnt stick too.

In resolving this issue in a relationship, should i agree to terms and conditions so he can keep drinking eg light beer at home and no drinking at home after returning from the pub, or should i be asking him to give it up all together to stay? The problem is he is not prepared to give it up but always makes promises to cut back. do i keep following this path or can you just not negotiate with a drinker? Do i have to go even though i cant stand it?


Answer
Good morning Heather and thank you for your question. In order to answer your question it is important for me to have a lot more details of how your boyfriend acts when he starts drinking. I can’t recommend (for example) to have you break-up a 5 year relationship without more facts about your boyfriend’s drinking habits. Send me a follow-up message. Thank you Rebos