Expert: Druideck - 2/28/2008

Question
Please help:

I am currently pregnant, with two other children, and i do not work right now. Back in june of 07 i had my boyfriend (father of my kids) arrested for domestic violence, he was then given abstinence classes and anger management classes, since they are court ordered and three times a week, i had to quit my job to make sure he made them or hed have to go to jail, which i cannot afford, but since he has the classes, he has to blow (to find out if hes been drinking) three times a week, so he does not drink during the week, which he used to everynight...now come friday night and saturday, hes binge drinking, arguing with me over things from years and years ago, things that never even happened, he throws things, breaks things, my kids are scared of him, and then on saturday nights he "is out of smokes and needs to go get some from the store" and then disappears for hours at a bar, is this okay for him to do? he makes me feel like since i don't work, i don't have any say so as to what he does with the money...i need some advice, or someone to tell me im not wrong...i think i love him, and i want to be there for him, but i can only tolerate so much, and my kids are so young they cant help me if it gets real bad..im lost and i don't know what to do, since i have no money of my own, i can't just up and leave 37 weeks pregnant....?  

Answer
Carmen,

what kind of alternatives are there for you
where you live?
Violence is not something to minimize or
to tolerate. This is not love.
It is a lack of love for yourself to be around
such a sick man. He will need many years of
recovery if he seeks recovery.
This is not the way most people live.
My days are peaceful and I do not accept
being treated badly . Please look in your
area for a woman's shelter or go to free al-anon
meetings. You need to find others that can help you
and give you the support you need.