Expert: Jan Edward Williams - 2/15/2008

Question
well we have been dating for 6 months known each other 4 2 yrs, &&&  been engaged for 3 months!!
well i called him last nite 4 valentines day && he was doped up on codine, morphine, and vodka, and he was kinda in trouble with the law, but thats all clear now, but idk wat to dew, he was talking crazy, sayin how he was going to go to the mall && buy some shoes ( he has more shoes than me) lol idk if i need to break upp with him or wat becuz i am tired of all his crap but i love him so much
plz answer sum one

Answer
Hello Hanna,
I'm sorry, but I don't  have enough information to make specific suggestions to you. Has your fiance had a pattern of loss of control over drugs and alcohol that has caused ongoing problems in your relationship, ongoing problems with the law, etc.? If there is such a pattern I suggest that you confront him, when he is drug and alcohol free, with your concerns about his use and let him know that such behavior is unacceptable. If he does not, or cannot, stop, then, clearly he has a problem, and you will need to perhaps make some tough decisions about your relationship. Good luck. Take a look at the information on my web site as well.
Jan Williams