AboutJurriaan Plesman Expertise Specializes in the treament of alcohol and drug addiction, using nutritional and psychotherapeutic methods
Experience Psychotherapist
Organizations The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia
Publications Book: "Getting Off the Hook"freely available on the internet at Google Book Search.
Editor: Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Education/Credentials BA(Psych), Post Grad Dip Clin Nutrt
Question I've been married to my husband for almost one year, but we've been together for 8. We've always drank beer together, socially. In the year since we got married, his drinking has become worse...almost daily and usually more than a six pack (he only drinks beer). I used to drink with him often, but since I found out I was pregnant 3 months ago, I haven't had a drop. We always talked about how when we started a family that we'd cool it on the drinking. But I'm starting to think he's got a problem. I've held up my end of the bargain and he says he's trying (he's down to a six pack about 3 days/week, having more than six one day per week). I still think it's excessive and I'm finally seeing he may have a problem since he can't cut back more than he has. He is not abusive and he's never called in sick to work or even shown up late. I'm torn because i know he has cut back quite a bit, but I wish for him to make even more of an effort. He drinks alone which really bothers me. So I've started leaving the house when I know he has had or intends to have more than 6 beers. And I refuse to sleep in the same bed with him if he's had more than 6. I feel anxious around him and in my own house when I know he's had more to drink. In fact, when he does have more than 6, I get really cold and angry and tend to ignore him. I'd like to set healthy boundaries, rather than constantly telling him what i want him to do and always showing my anger. I've told him I'm okay with him drinking 6 beers a couple of nights a week, but I'm not happy with anything more frequent or more in quantity. I feel like I'm always angry with him and will soon really resent him. How can I set boundaries with him so that I can be happier and he knows that i'm serious about wanting him to change. Thanks!
Answer Hi Leah,
It seems to me that your husband has a real problem with alcohol, and unless he admits to himself he is an alcoholic and wants to do something about it, there is little hope of him recovering. Addiction is a difficult disease to treat, but nevertheless not impossible. There is no such thing as being half an alcoholic, he will have to stop drinking altogether..
Mot addicts have been found to be hypoglycemic and when he withdraws from alcohol, this is the first step that needs treatment
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Jurriaan Plesman
Editor of
The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia.
www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Author of "Getting off the Hook"
Freely available at Google Book Search
Skype: jurplesman
