Expert: Druideck - 6/23/2008

Question
my wife and i have been together for eleven years we have had lots of problems but when we are together without any stress it is the most beutifull thing in the world but she fell ill a year and a half and became unable to work she became addicted to opiates for a year and finally went to rehab the first week was great i even went to family dayand took her to lunch she said she loved me and missed me and i really felt good about it then 4 days later she stopped calling and after she got out she said she wanted to seperate, I WAS FLOORED we were waiting for her to get better so we could start over but now she has changed and has closed off her mom and me and our 5 year old son now i am heartbroken and dealing with serious pain and suffering what do i do? please help

Answer
Jayme.

there is no easy answer as to
why she wants to end the relationship.
I would imagine it has to do with
being confused but often people
are told not to make any big changes
until they are clean or sober for a time.

It is a bad time to make major
decisions but if she feels her
ability to stay clean is somehow
related to the stress of being
in a relationship she might
want to be separated until she
can work out what she is feeling.

It is often very hard to have
relationships and stay clean
or sober.

I would say the best thing to do
right now is let her be so she can
decide what she wants and how she
feels. If you put any pressure or stress
on her she may become even more distant
to protect her sobriety and sanity.
This is one of those times to think
of what she might need and take
care of your self as best you can.