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I have over 22 years of personal experience with alcoholism and recovery issues.
Advanced Counsellor Training / Experience with treatment and AA.
Experience Over 22 years of recovery from alcoholism.
Counsellor in an alcohol outpatient office.
Experience as client and as counsellor in treatment center.
Education/Credentials Advanced counsellor certificate,
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Question I currently broke up w/ my bfriend of 3 years, I have found that although he has been sober for 10 years that he can act like a dry drunk or is this just his personality? He always has to offer up a suggestions to anything, he constantly Judges everyone, He has this Authority opinion that he knows it all and the rest of us no nothing .. specially me. Kind of Controlling has to be his way.I guess I'm just curious as to when they describe a Dry Drunk what does that mean. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks
Answer Dori,
there are many alcoholics that after
initially recovering do not follow
any form of personality recovery.
This is what the 12 steps of AA
are for. They help an alcoholic
to better recover from the
poor thinking and behavioral
traits they have aquired.
Of course none of us are
perfect alcoholic or not so
the degree of recovery may vary with
the individual and it is not
an easy path to follow.
A dry-drunk has retained most
of his poor habits and can
do this rather unconsciouly.
If he gets back to his recovery
"program" it can help him
to be more aware of his controlling
and self-rightous attitudes.
This is all his choice and responsibility.
There is no way to change another person
permanently.
If you look at your own attitudes
of judgement, desire to control
and knowing what is right for him
you may see a mirror of his attitudes
reflected in yourself at a lesser
degree perhaps.
We humans possess good and bad traits.
The best we can do is try to accept
and work on our own personal recovery
from these negative states of mind.
He will recover at his own speed,
wish him well and do what you need
to heal your own life with or without
him.
