AboutBeverley Glazer Expertise I can answer questions on all addictive behaviors: alcohol, drugs, food, compulsive sex, codependency, gambling, compulsive shoplifting etc.
Experience I have over 20 years experience working in the addiction field. My experience extends to all levels of substance abuse. I've worked in rehabs and detox centers, prisons and half-way houses and have a busy private practice as well as an active website where I can be reached for recovery coaching and consultation. I am a cognitive behavioral therapist, but 12-step programs are an excellent support. When working in the addiction field, there is no cookie-cutter solution. In the recovery field, you witness miracles. That's why I love what I do.
Organizations NAADAC The Association for Addiction Professionals, CACCF Canadian Addiction Counselors Federation, CCA Canadian Counseling Association,
For more information please see: http://www.untwist-your-thinking.com
Education/Credentials BA Psychology, MA Counseling Psychology, ICADC International Alcohol and Drug Counselor, ICAC International Clinical Addiction Counselor,
CGC Certified Gambling Counselor.
Question QUESTION: I have been with my boyfriend for six months now and in the beginning of our relationship he had really cut down on drinking. But then he started speeding up again when he move to my town. I have asked him to slow down but he doesnt take my feelings into consideration. Is it my fault that he is drinking to much? What should i do?
ANSWER: Hi Deni,
Be assured that you are not to blame for your boyfriend's drinking. No one can make someone drink -- although might blame you for it. They do this themselves. Alcoholism creaps into your life slowly, so it's possible that your boyfriend can't cut down any more.
The only thing that you can do is to demand that he gets help for the sake of the relationship.
Do the research and find out where AA meetings are in your area, then point him in the right direction.
Unfortunately, he's the one in control of what he will do about the problem. If he doesn't get a handle on the situation, you may have to move on.
I hope this information is helpful,
Thank you for asking AllExperts,
QUESTION: The only things is is that he refuses not to go to AA meetings he has even gotten his license taken away from him. i dont want to break up with him but if its for the best for both of us then i will. thank you
Answer Hi again Deni,
That's the problem. He refuses to get help and without it, his drinking will only get worse. One thing you must not do is enable him. This will only prolong his denial.
Alcoholics are so good at manipulation to get their way but, here's some information to help you notice when you're enabling:
He has to learn from the consequences of his behavior or he won't bother to change.
If his drinking gets too hard for you to handle, you have no choice, but to leave. Often this is the wake-up call for him to get help -- but it's not easy.
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