Expert: Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist - 4/5/2009

Question
hi
i am only 17 but have liked my boyfriend since the day i saw him. it took me 4 years to be with him and i never felt better. months went by and i got to know him better he was sweet and loving. we have been going out for almost 3 years now and i am over his addictions but i don't want to leave him. everyone tells me i can do so much better and he doesn't deserve me which i know is true. i want to be with him he is my dream but he is an alcoholic at 19 and addicted to marijuana. he has had a bad life and doesn't know how to stop. he gets very angry over little things and runs in front of cars. he has been hit before. i get so hurt by what he puts me through and always promises to stop. the nights he is drunk i can't sleep as i stay up just to make sure he is breathing. he doesn't care about me even know he reckons he does. i'm scared to wake up one  day and he is dead. but he says it will never happen. i know i shouldnt be with him but i really want to help him before its too late.
thanks laura

Answer
HI Laura,

I must say that alcoholics can destroy lives and marriages, and that you may be headed for a very difficult life if you remain with him. An alcoholic suffers from a very serious illness, over which he has very little control.
He can only overcome this if he is really motivated to do so, because nobody else will be able to help him.

If he wants to treat himself he should read:

Why Alcoholics Drink? at
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/WAD.html

Addiction (Alcoholism) is a Treatable Disease at:
http://curezone.com/upload/PDF/Articles/jurplesman/alcoholism_treatable.pdf

Read my book: Getting of the hook at:

Getting off the Hook at:
http://books.google.com/books?lr=&ie=ISO-8859-1&q=foreword+Jurriaan+Plesman&btnG...

Summary of the self-help psychotherapy course at:
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/self-help_personal_growth.html#PSYCHOTHE...

I wish you the best of luck.

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Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist
Hon. Editor of
The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia.
www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Author of "Getting off the Hook"
Freely available at Google Book Search
Skype: jurplesman