AboutBeverley Glazer Expertise I can answer questions on all addictive behaviors: alcohol, drugs, food, compulsive sex, codependency, gambling, compulsive shoplifting etc.
Experience I have over 20 years experience working in the addiction field. My experience extends to all levels of substance abuse. I've worked in rehabs and detox centers, prisons and half-way houses and have a busy private practice as well as an active website where I can be reached for recovery coaching and consultation. I am a cognitive behavioral therapist, but 12-step programs are an excellent support. When working in the addiction field, there is no cookie-cutter solution. In the recovery field, you witness miracles. That's why I love what I do.
Organizations NAADAC The Association for Addiction Professionals, CACCF Canadian Addiction Counselors Federation, CCA Canadian Counseling Association,
For more information please see: http://www.untwist-your-thinking.com
Education/Credentials BA Psychology, MA Counseling Psychology, ICADC International Alcohol and Drug Counselor, ICAC International Clinical Addiction Counselor,
CGC Certified Gambling Counselor.
Question Hello,
I am a recovering alcoholic. I am sober 6 months at this time. I went to a treatment facility for 6 weeks and am involved in a support group. I'm doing very well and feel very proud of the place I am. My situation is regarding my hsubands family. They are very happy I am doing well and always ask if I am still in my program. What hurts me is they continue to talk about wineries and good wines while I am present. They all drink around me and some know this hurts me. I understand I am the one with the problem, but I would apreciate it if they would support me in this espeically since I am so new in recovery. I don't want to hurt their feelings by asking them not to talk about alcohol or even drink when I am present but, it's hurting me inside when they do these things. I uderstand in time I can be around these situatins, but right now it's just to raw. Any advice would be appreciated.
Answer Hi Barb,
First I want to say congratulations. It has not been an easy 6 months.
I don't think that your husband's family intends on hurting you, they just don't 'get it'.
It would be helpful for your husband to explain that you are new to recovery and that they should be aware that it's not easy. They should also be told that drinking alcohol and talking about it right now, can sabotage your sobriety. In other words, they should be more sensitive. They should also be told that this is temporary.
It is too difficult an issue for you to discuss with them, so it's best if he or another close family member tell them.
If they refuse to comply, you may have to go late to family functions and leave early. You should not allow yourself to be subjected to these triggers.
