Expert: Druideck - 6/29/2009

Question
After consuming alcohol I lied and exaggerated things talking with my best friend. After years of friendship she is no more talking with me.
She trusted me and asked for my help when in need and I always obliged. The only problem was, I was a little obsessed with her and expected a lot more than she could deliver, also there was a fear that I may loose her in future.
That night there was an emotional out-burst I was not only aggressive but also said thing which would have meant completely different had I been sober.
She think i broke her trust but I never meant what I said.
I am confused, how did this happen?
PLEASE help
You are my last hope.


Answer
Shashi,

alcohol is a chemical that can influence
our minds and our emotions either
good or sometimes in a bad way.

If you said something that you did not
mean to say it was probably
because the alcohol reduced your
inhibitions and affected your thinking.
This could result in an outburst.
The outburst was based on your own
thinking at the time and possibly
due to some fears that may or may not be real.

If you find alcohol affects you in a bad
way it may be time to give it up.
It can often get worse once it starts
to influence your life this way.

If you have hurt your friend it may take
time for the emotional wounds to heal.
All you can do is be honest and then
it is up to her to decide if she
can build trust again.

We are all human and make mistakes,
all we can do is try to repair the
damage and move on.
Remind your friend that you do your best
but all humans can slip sometimes.
Try to avoid alcohol if it affects your
emotions this way, it may be better
than risking your friendships.

Good luck, Namaste!