AboutJurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychologist Expertise I have a degree in Psychology from the Sydney University and a Postgraduate Diploma in Clinical Nutrition.
I am also the author of “GETTING OFF THE HOOK” which deals with the nutritional and psychological treatment of personality disorders. It is freely available on the internet at Google Book Search.
I am interested in the relationship between nutrition and behaviour, and as a Probation ans Parole Officer facilitated groups for offenders, many of whom were alcoholics and drug addicts, sex offenders or compulsive gamblers, as well as the whole gamut of “personality disorders”.
I am also the ex-editor of the Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia Newsletter, a quarterly publication dealing with hypoglycemia and related health problems. Its web site, together with a shortened course of PSYCHOTHERAPY can be visited at: http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Experience Nutritional Psychotherapist
Organizations The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia
Publications Book: "Getting Off the Hook"freely available on the internet at Google Book Search.
Editor: Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Education/Credentials BA(Psych), Sydney University, Post Grad Dip Clin Nutr (International Academy of Nutrition)
Question I have been living with my children's dad for 8 yrs and we've been together for 12 yrs. I have pretty much lost everything - I had a good job and I paid all of the bills as he was not working at the time and stayed home w/our youngest as opposed to paying a sitter (which would have taken his whole pay had he worked at the time and seemed reasonable). I take some responsibility for creating the monster that has emerged since then as I believe that he got used to me paying the expenses so that when I did lose my job (due to him not being there for the baby and me being late often) he did not feel it was his duty to step in and help out. At this point I am working but not nearly as much as I used to or for as much pay. Every time I try to bring up ANY discussion on him helping (he is working now) he somehow turns it around and makes me out to be the one in the wrong. He goes to the bar every night and feels that all of his money should go to his car, motorcycle and habits. His excuse for going out is me - he can't stand the stress of kids, dog (that he brought home and left for me to take care of and then complains about) and state of or house. I have told him on several occassions to leave and his answer is always "I'm working on it" He is constantly complaining and ordering everyone around and will not do anything at all for himself and trys to make me feel inadequate if I do not do what he expects. I can no longer handle the stress of putting up with him (he is extremly verbally abusive and never even speaks in a normal tone of voice) and trying to sheid my kids from him. He points out all of my "faults" which are actually the things he is doing wrong but has convinced himself that is me that has done whatever misdeed he's yelling about. I don't drink and rarely go anywhere except to work and to run errands. I have tried to ignore him and hope for the best and I have tried standing up for myself but neither works. I really do not know how to handle this anymore and I don't think he will ever just leave although he says he hates being here.
Answer Dear Stacie,
Living wit an alcoholic is dreadful, and my thoughts are with you. I suggest that if he ever lay a hand on you that you make this a police matter of assault. I also suggest that you seek some advice from a lawyer or an agency dealing with family matters. Also it might be an idea to contract AA and se if they can help.
Her in Australia we have Department of Community Services, that would assist you, if the child is in any danger of being neglected due to family circumstances.
I sincerely hope that once this situation is resolved, that you will be able to start a new life. Please don't give up. You seem to be s strong woman.
I wish I could be of more help.
If your husband is ever ready an willing to do something about his alcoholism, visiting our web site might help him how to.
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Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychologist
Hon. Editor of
The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia.
www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Author of "Getting off the Hook"
Freely available at Google Book Search
Skype: jurplesman
