AboutRebos Expertise If you think that you or someone that you care about is having a problem with alcohol, ask me a question, I may be able to help you. I have over 39 years of experience dealing with alcohol recovery and I am willing to share that experience with you. Alcoholism is a disease, and there is no shame in being an alcoholic. The shame is in doing nothing about it!
Experience Over 39years of experience in the field of alcoholism and alcoholic recovery.
I have read your answers to other questions and appreciate your direct approach.
My situation is this - I have been in a one year relationship with someone I now realize, has a serious problem with alcoholism. As everyone says, he is a special person with great qualities. He is a wonderful, caring, charming man, who is loving to me and amazing with my kids. They really like him.
Over the last 6 months, I have watched as his life has fallen apart. For example, 2 months ago he was arrested for impaired driving. At the moment, he is in the hospital because he fell down the stairs and fractured his skull in 3 places.
I started attending Al-Anon last month and today, while he was lying bruised and battered in a hospital bed, 2 weeks before his 50th birthday I gave him the choice to get sober, or lose me. I felt horrible doing it, but knew I had to.
I suspect that he will choose drinking and I am heartbroken to realize that the man I love, will possibly die very soon.
This is what I need your help with - how do I just carry on knowing he could be gone at any moment? What do I do with my feelings for him? What do I do with the guilt of watching things deteriorate and choosing to stay involved anyway? What do I tell my kids about where he is?(he doesn't live with us, he just visits when he is not drunk.)
I don't mean to paint such a bleak picture, but I think I have seen enough to know that he would prefer to leave this world in a drunken haze, rather than fight for sobriety. I think his pain is too deep - he is a tortured soul. I feel truly sad for him.
Anything you could tell me, would be very much appreciated.
Answer Good mormning Kim and thank you for your question. You might want to contiune with Alanon, but you owe it to your childern to have a step
father that is not a drunken Sot. Your Kids will have enough to worry about witht out a drunken father the mix. Thank you Rebos
