Expert: Druideck - 7/27/2009

Question
MY husband stopped drinking himself for 6 yrs.If someone stops drinking but does not deal with any issues ;like not able to talk over disagreement with him or treating me like I am his enemy ;like when he was drinking he would be nice to everyone but me.I felt like I was crazy Thank God I threw him out and we were separated for 2 yrs.We got back together he quit drinking but it was not good he did not sleep with me for 2yrs and no sex for 6yrs.He  made statements that he was going to drink ;I did not say anything about it ;We have been separated for MO. he is drinking and living with a woman that will drink with him.If he was at the end stage of his disease when he quit for six yrs.;does his disease pick up where it left off or will it take awhile to get to the last stage again.He is a mean drunk.I don;t have any contact with him I filed for a divorce 1mo.ago.I can not do it anymore 11yrs. was tOOOOOOOOO long.Now I have to work on getting my selfesteem back again.  Terrie

Answer
Terrie,

it won't take long for him to
resume where he left off drinking.
Without any recovery treatment program
he will progressively get worse.
How long it takes to get in bad shape
depends on the individual alot.

Now that you have moved on to heal
yourself one of the things you
will have to address is your
tendencies to focus on him and his
problem even though you are apart.

Often it is hard to change the
focus of your attentions to yourself
and begin to reshape your own life
including your own thoughts and emotions.

You no longer have to be concerned with
what he is doing or how his life
will unfold.

This is your time to remake yourself
so you can avoid attracting men with
these problems.

Take care!