Expert: Jan Edward Williams - 1/3/2010

Question
Having been dating thz guy for 3years now,we had a disagreement a few months back and he started taking alcohol in a stupid way worst of we are far from each other but we communicate i really want him to change please help.vanesa

Answer
Hello Vanesa,
I regret the delay in responding to your question. I have been ill. You really don't provide enough information for me to respond other than in a general way. What are the behaviors that you have witnessed that suggest a problem with alcohol: negative personality change, behavior against his values, excessive use resulting in negative consequences, inability to control amounts or frequency of use? If this man is an alcoholic, I suggest that you condition continuing your relationship on his abstaibning from alcohol use and getting treatment and/or attending meetings of AA. I would be happy to be more specific if you care to provide me with more information. Good luck.
Jan Edward Williams, MS, JD, LCADC
http://www.alcoholdrugsos.com