Expert: Clyde - 2/11/2010

Question
Hi I asked a question her yesterday n got my response but when I attempt 2 read it it says bad URL???? What 2 do

Answer
Dawn,
   I do not know what to do But I would suggest sending an e-mail to the website Allexperts.com and let them know of the difficulty in retrieving the answer.

    Just in case the problem is resolved and you can open this answer, here is a copy of what I wrote yesterday:

Dawn,
   Thank you for your questions and for the lengthy information.

    You are seeing the very subtle attack of alcohol on a person's mind. It takes over all the mental faculties and there is no rational thinking to be done.  No book, in my opinion, other than the Big Book of AA will help together with mandatory attendance of meetings, getting a sponsor, working the steps, and changing one's psyche.  Unless one is willing to do this then there is little chance of having sobriety for good.  There may be other ways but I can only share my experience, strength, and hope of what I found in AA.

    Until he gets absolutely and brutally honest with himself, there is little hope.

    You have done the best thing - leave him and demand that AA is the only way.  Give him at least one year before you go back and only then if he has a sponsor he sees regularly; goes to meetings (3-4 times a week minimum); has worked the steps; and above all, has remained sober.  Then and only then can you have a rational talk with him about any possible future.

    I will say that it is my opinion that this separation is also what you need to consider for yourself with no relationships developed unless you, too, are working a program of Alanon with a sponsor and working the steps.  This thing works.

   I hope this may have helped and write again if I may be of any further help.

Grace and Peace,
Clyde