Expert: Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist - 3/4/2010

Question
Hi,
My fiancee and I have been together almost 5 years.  Over the course of our relationship alcohol has negatively affected our relationship and majority of our serious fights were alcohol related.  In the first couple years it was much more consistent until a huge blow up resulted in his cutting back.  Since then the frequency of his drinking has dramatically lessened.  However, recently, although the incidences are fewer in between ( about once a month once every couple months) they are getting more serious.  I can tell when he is starting to get to this level and I know I'm in for trouble.  Last night was the most recent example he had some friends over drank a lot was starting to get slightly aggressive in his speech, once they all left he twisted his knee while outside and started yelling at me.  This progressed even though I tried to stay calm not argue with him ( because I know that is useless# just try to go to bed.  He would keep coming into the room pulling the blanket off me #along with pulling my hair along with it) to keep yelling at me, either name calling B***h, c**t, ect.  He also brought up past incidents from almost a year ago, and after about an hour of this he decided he was going to drive.  I tried to stop him from leaving when he would push me away from the door and threaten to hit me and knock me out.  He did eventually throw me to the ground and hold me there before I gave up and let him leave.  I called his parents because that is where he said he was going.  They ended up talking to him and he came back.  I spent the night on the couch.  I know that this is completely unacceptable behavior and should not be tolerated.  However he is only like this when he is at this level of drunkenness.  What scares me is this is not the first or second time this has happened although it is the most serious.  What worries me is each new incident seems to be the most serious.  I love him, but am I setting myself up for a life of misery and even danger if I stay?  Should I call off the wedding?  I don't know what to do.

Answer
Hi Geneva,

There is a strong association between alcoholism and violence see:
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/research_hypoglycemia.html#ALCOHOLISMAND...

Stopping to drink alcohol may reduce these behaviour but may not completely stop it. He needs to be treated for alcoholism which is related to hypoglycemia. Thus going going on hypoglycemic diet is the first step in treatment See:

Why Alcoholics Drink? at
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/WAD.html

Alcoholism (Addiction) is a Treatable Disease at:
http://curezone.com/upload/PDF/Articles/jurplesman/alcoholism_treatable.pdf

Drug Addiction is a Nutritional Disorder at:
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/drug_addictions_nutritional_disorder.htm...

Anger Management: Nutrition and Psychotherapy at:
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/psychotherapy/anger_management.html

The first step in treatment is going on a hypoglycemic diet. If problems persist, it is best to consult a Nutritional Doctor, Clinical Nutritionist or a Nutritional Psychologist.
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Please familiarize yourself withn the connection of addiction. depression and other mood disorders and nutritional medicine. If self-help fail see a Nutritional Doctor.

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Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist
Hon. Editor of
The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia.
www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Author of "Getting off the Hook"
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