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Expert: - 4/12/2010


Question
Question. Have you heard of someone committing a sexual act with someone other than his wife while being intoxicated and have no memory of it. My story is, I am accused or have been confronted by my wife and sister-in-law of attempting to kiss and expose myself to my sister-in-law not once but twice 3 years ago and I do not have any recollection of this happen. Over the past years, 10 plus to be exact I have been experiencing total Black-Outs with no recollection. Apparently, this happen. I don't have any aspiration to be involved sexual with my sister-in-law, and I love my wife like all man should be in love with their spouse, yet this happened. It has now cause a separation with me and my and I would like to know if you have ever heard of something like this happening. Am I sick or have some kind of disease that can be cured? I love my wife and we both need an explanation as to why this happen. My wife does not believe that I perform these acts unconsciously. Is there any help for me.

Thank you

Answer

Beverley Glazer MA. IC
Hi Everton,

When someone is intoxicated, they lose their inhibitions so it's entirely possible that you attempted to kiss and expose yourself to your sister-in-law. You've been experiencing blackouts for the last 10 years, so if you blacked-out later on, you may not have remembered anything that you did while you were drunk.

This not only affects your wife and sister-in-law, but it is dangerous for yourself.

Here's a self-test that can help you evaluate your drinking behavior:

http://www.untwist-your-thinking.com/alcohol-addiction.html

It is my opinion that you need to do something to stop your alcohol consumption. Go to AA meetings and/or get addiction counseling. If you show your wife that you're committed to changing your life, she may reconsider the separation and come back to you.

I hope this information is helpful,
Thank you for asking AllExperts,


Beverley
http://www.untwist-your-thinking.com/alcohol-addiction.html

Beverley Glazer

Expertise

I can answer questions on all addictive behaviors: alcohol, drugs, food, compulsive sex, codependency, gambling, compulsive shoplifting etc.

Experience

I have over 20 years experience working in the addiction field. My experience extends to all levels of substance abuse. I've worked in rehabs and detox centers, prisons and half-way houses and have a busy private practice as well as an active website where I can be reached for recovery coaching and consultation. I am a cognitive behavioral therapist, but 12-step programs are an excellent support. When working in the addiction field, there is no cookie-cutter solution. In the recovery field, you witness miracles. That's why I love what I do.

Organizations
NAADAC The Association for Addiction Professionals, CACCF Canadian Addiction Counselors Federation, CCA Canadian Counseling Association, For more information please see: http://www.untwist-your-thinking.com

Education/Credentials
BA Psychology, MA Counseling Psychology, ICADC International Alcohol and Drug Counselor, ICAC International Clinical Addiction Counselor, CGC Certified Gambling Counselor.

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