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my husband has liver damage and diabetes as aresult of his drinking. he is in a program at the v.a. and living with his sister. i lived with his drinking and illnesses for 26 years. i don't want to do it anymore. his sister is angry with me because i don't believe he will stay sober and i don't want to live with the problem. i love him but have to take care of my self.now do i try to explain my feelings with him and his sister or just go on my way and let them think what they will?
Hi Sherry,
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You have lived with an alcoholic for 26years, and only you know what you've gone through with this man.
You don't believe that he'll stay sober, because you've been there many times before.....From the outside, it seems that you don't care and are not supportive of his recovery. However, it has nothing to do with that. You've been burned many times.
Explain this to him and his sister, but don't expect them to 'get it'. But whether they get it or not doesn't matter. By telling them how you feel, you become even more committed to your decision. They will think what they want regardless,
When you're living with an alcoholic, you're in an abusive relationship and you've suffered. It's time to take care of yourself.
I hope this information is helpful.
Thank you for asking AllExperts
All the best!
Bev
http://www.untwist-your-thinking.com
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Beverley Glazer
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I can answer questions on all addictive behaviors: alcohol, drugs, food, compulsive sex, codependency, gambling, compulsive shoplifting etc.
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I have over 20 years experience working in the addiction field. My experience extends to all levels of substance abuse. I've worked in rehabs and detox centers, prisons and half-way houses and have a busy private practice as well as an active website where I can be reached for recovery coaching and consultation. I am a cognitive behavioral therapist, but 12-step programs are an excellent support. When working in the addiction field, there is no cookie-cutter solution. In the recovery field, you witness miracles. That's why I love what I do.
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NAADAC The Association for Addiction Professionals, CACCF Canadian Addiction Counselors Federation, CCA Canadian Counseling Association,
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BA Psychology, MA Counseling Psychology, ICADC International Alcohol and Drug Counselor, ICAC International Clinical Addiction Counselor,
CGC Certified Gambling Counselor.
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