Addiction to Alcohol/Boyfriend

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Expert: - 6/14/2010


Question
Hi, im 28 and he has just turned 31, we have been going out for just over a year. He was taken into hospital just over a week ago because of his drinking and also some other complications. He is going threw detox via tablet form whilst in there which making him hillusinate and then when discharged he going to AA for 28 days. I have a feeling he goin to hate me for all of this and never speak to me. The truth about it as i dont know what to do every night when he not around and i miss him so much. Is there a possiably you could advise/ reassure me some way. I just want the best for him cause he is to nice of a person like anyone to be going down that road.

Thanks
Elaine

Answer

Beverley Glazer MA. IC
Hi Elaine,

Why would your boyfriend hate you and never speak to you? Getting help for his drinking may be the best thing that ever happened, because he was killing himself with alcohol.

Going to detox and meetings will keep him on the sober path, so encourage him to keep it up. It's also important that you don't enable him.

Here's some information on that: http://www.untwist-your-thinking.com/enabling-behavior.html

AA is for him, however, you would be helped by Alanon. These meetings are for families of alcoholic/addicts and you'll not only get an understanding of alcoholism,  but the members will provide you with support when you need it. You can probably find a meeting in your area.

I hope this information is helpful,

Thank you for asking AllExperts

All the best

Bev
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Beverley Glazer

Expertise

I can answer questions on all addictive behaviors: alcohol, drugs, food, compulsive sex, codependency, gambling, compulsive shoplifting etc.

Experience

I have over 20 years experience working in the addiction field. My experience extends to all levels of substance abuse. I've worked in rehabs and detox centers, prisons and half-way houses and have a busy private practice as well as an active website where I can be reached for recovery coaching and consultation. I am a cognitive behavioral therapist, but 12-step programs are an excellent support. When working in the addiction field, there is no cookie-cutter solution. In the recovery field, you witness miracles. That's why I love what I do.

Organizations
NAADAC The Association for Addiction Professionals, CACCF Canadian Addiction Counselors Federation, CCA Canadian Counseling Association, For more information please see: http://www.untwist-your-thinking.com

Education/Credentials
BA Psychology, MA Counseling Psychology, ICADC International Alcohol and Drug Counselor, ICAC International Clinical Addiction Counselor, CGC Certified Gambling Counselor.

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