Addiction to Alcohol/my husband

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Expert: - 6/18/2010


Question
My husband stays at our camper to drink and dosn't come home.  I understAND ABOUT ALCOHOLISM BECAUSE 25 YEARS AGO i WAS AN ALCOHOLIC. The problem is he doesn't have a drivers license so He is drinving a truck titled in my name with my license plATE ON IT.  wHAT SHOULD i DO??

Answer

Beverley Glazer MA., I
Hi June,

This is a difficult question, however it can be simplified by thinking this way:

The truck is in your name and you are responsible for it. He's driving without a license. Not only can he kill himself but kill others also. As you know, an alcoholic will do what he/she wants to do, but if you allow him, you're enabling him.

http://www.untwist-your-thinking.com/enabling-behavior.html

It's your truck and your responsibility, so it's up to you to stand up to him. Tell him that you're nervous about him driving without a license, and from now on you're not permitting him to drive it.

Hide the keys. Tell him that if someone wants to drive him to the country, or to the bar or wherever, they can -- but unless he gets himself a drivers license, you don't want to be responsible for his behavior or any consequences that can happen because of it.

He's not going to like it, and be very angry, but stand firm. His temper is the way he gets others to give in, so hang in there. You can also help you by thinking: 'would you allow your child to take your truck without a license?' It's the same thing.

I hope this information is helpful
Thank you for writing AllExperts

Good luck!!

Bev
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Beverley Glazer

Expertise

I can answer questions on all addictive behaviors: alcohol, drugs, food, compulsive sex, codependency, gambling, compulsive shoplifting etc.

Experience

I have over 20 years experience working in the addiction field. My experience extends to all levels of substance abuse. I've worked in rehabs and detox centers, prisons and half-way houses and have a busy private practice as well as an active website where I can be reached for recovery coaching and consultation. I am a cognitive behavioral therapist, but 12-step programs are an excellent support. When working in the addiction field, there is no cookie-cutter solution. In the recovery field, you witness miracles. That's why I love what I do.

Organizations
NAADAC The Association for Addiction Professionals, CACCF Canadian Addiction Counselors Federation, CCA Canadian Counseling Association, For more information please see: http://www.untwist-your-thinking.com

Education/Credentials
BA Psychology, MA Counseling Psychology, ICADC International Alcohol and Drug Counselor, ICAC International Clinical Addiction Counselor, CGC Certified Gambling Counselor.

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