Expert: Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist - 8/27/2010

Question
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 4 years now. When I first met him he was already a recovering addict and our sexual relationship was never and issue. After about a year into the relationship though he just stopped being intimate with me and we haven't been intimate since. He says it has nothing to do with me and that in his eyes I am beautiful but this is really putting a strain on our relationship. Its not that I just want sex but I want to be close with him again and I don't want to feel like it is something wrong with me anymore. I am just hurt and confused and really don't know what to do. I love this man more than life itself but I don't know know if I can live the rest of my life like this!

Answer
Hi sarah,

I have a suspicion that being a recovering alcoholic, he may be suffering from depression. When you are depressed and don't know any valid reason for being depressed it is natural to blame the partner from whom happiness is supposed to come. Besides depressive people also suffer from anhedonia - or lack of sexual appetite.

Stopping to drink alcohol is not necessarily a complete cure for alcoholism, unless the underlying biochemical abnormalities that causes a person to be alcoholic is treated. It is obvious to me that your partner has not been properly treated for his alcoholism/depression.

To understand alcoholism please read:

Why Alcoholics Drink? at
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/WAD.html

Alcoholism (Addiction) is a Treatable Disease at:
http://curezone.com/upload/PDF/Articles/jurplesman/alcoholism_treatable.pdf

Drug Addiction is a Nutritional Disorder at:
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/drug_addictions_nutritional_disorder.htm...

Depression is a Nutritional Disorder at:
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/depression_disorder.html

Depression: a Disease of Energy Production at:
http://curezone.com/upload/PDF/Articles/jurplesman/depression_energy32.pdf

The first step in treatment is going on a hypoglycemic diet. If problems persist, it is best to consult a Nutritional Doctor, Clinical Nutritionist or a Nutritional Psychotherapist.


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Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist.
Hon. Editor of
The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia.
www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Author of "Getting off the Hook"
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