Expert: james52144@earthlink.net - 3/8/2011

Question
dear mr. james, my wife is habituated to drinking. her husband died whom she loved too much and then we both got married. before we got married, she used to drink heavily remembering her husband. we are married for 6 years and we have 5 year old daughter now. she loose control over everything after drinking and we end up fighting badly everytime. i am not able to tolerate my anger when she is drunk. she says this marriage is a disaster. how to get rid of her habbit. i love her too much. Sir Pls help...

Answer
Dear Mr. Tensed

You first have to get all of the alcohol out of the house. Second you have to quit being angry at her. How can you say you love her if you get angry at her? If she gets drunk, simply wish her well. If there are any alanon meetings in your city, you can attend those. Good luck.