Expert: Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist - 7/12/2011

Question
Hello,

I was living with my boyfriend for about 7 months and for the first few months things were pretty decent until I noticed some pretty weird things happening. Around Christmas time, I noticed that whenever my boyfriend now my ex, would drink he would drink in very excessive amounts. Under the influence he would become a very ignorant, belligerent person, he said some very hurtful things, which he did not remember the day after. I watched things continue to get weirder and weirder, as soon he started coming home really late, which I later found out he was drinking, past out on the couch at his bosses house. This started happening a few months later after a few more fights about his obnoxious nights. When he would come home, he seemed confused, and irritated. He always had something to complain about and I began to think he was hiding something from me so I would always ask him if he had someone else and wanted to move on. He always said no no. Just frustrated with work. He started to just come home to sleep, when I tried to talk to him he could barely keep his eyes open. In my heart I knew something was wrong, a part of me thought he went crazy. He would swear at me and go into frantic rages, he punched the wall once but never hit me. But, nevertheless still very scary. I ended up leaving him because I found out from a friend of mine that he was cheating on me. I asked him... he lied.. he swore on his life he wasn't involved with anyone else. However I pursued to find the truth, found a number on his phone and well, after finding some racy text messages, ended up he was cheating on me with an escort. She was well into her early 40's much older than I, early 20's, and much older than my ex. They went away for the weekend, the same weekend he said he was going to see a counselor. The escort drove because she said he was absolutely pissed.
I was so hurt. I left him and we have been separated for 3 months. He has been in a recovery center for 6 weeks apparently and he says he's got himself sober. He says he has some papers addressed to me he wants me to read and to come with him to his appointment he has at the same facility soon.I would be lying if I said I didn't try to help him, it was like watching a horror movie watching him spiral downwards like that. I have a big heart and I was very serious about him. He is begging me for a second chance..We met and had coffee and he appeared to be the old guy I used to know before the drinking. I am very scared. I want to trust, but I don't realize how that is possible, with the lies.
Please help me understand this wicked disease. I really don't know what to do.

Thanks alot

Answer
Hi Kim,
You got yourself involved with an alcoholic with the unavoidable consequences in your relationship. Before you even consider resuming the relationship I recommend that you make sure he has been properly treated for alcoholism.

Please read:
  
Why Alcoholics Drink? at
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/WAD.html

Alcoholism (Addiction) is a Treatable Disease at:
http://curezone.com/upload/PDF/Articles/jurplesman/alcoholism_treatable.pdf

Drug Addiction is a Nutritional Disorder at:
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/drug_addictions_nutritional_disorder.htm...

The first step in treatment is going on a hypoglycemic diet ( See our web site). If problems persist, it is best to consult a Nutritional Doctor, Clinical Nutritionist or a Nutritional Psychotherapist for further diagnosis and treatment.

For more information please look up our web site or the INDEX for article that may be of interest.

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Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist.
Hon. Editor of
The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia.
www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Author of "Getting off the Hook"
Freely available at Google Book Search
Skype: jurplesman