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I am a problem drinker and when I drink too much I lose my inhibitions, say things that are inappropriate, and recently, I allowed a man to hold me close, and apparantly we touched, but I don't remember all of the details ( I know that when he tried to kiss me I said no ).  My husband has had enough and might leave me.  I have made a decision to stop drinking, and have a counselling session booked.  But my biggest fear is losing my husband (there are 2 kids involved as well) and I am wondering what I can do to convince him to stay?

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Beverley Glazer MA., ICCAC
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Beverley Glazer MA. ICCAC, CCC
Beverley Glazer MA. IC  
Hi Alia,

No one can convince anyone to stay if they're committed to leave. The only thing you can do is show him that you're committed to make changes and ask him to give you the chance to demonstrate your conviction.

You've already taken action. You've booked counseling sessions for yourself, but you may also benefit from additional support from AA as well. If your husband is willing, the two of you can be helped by couple counseling. Right now your husband is hurt, angry and has lost trust in your behavior.

If you make the necessary changes to overcome your problem drinking, although he is angry now, he may reconsider is decision.

I hope this information is helpful,

Thank you for asking AllExperts

All the very best,

Bev

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I can answer questions on all addictive behaviors: alcohol, drugs, food, compulsive sex, codependency, gambling, compulsive shoplifting etc.

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I have over 20 years experience working in the addiction field. My experience extends to all levels of substance abuse. I've worked in rehabs and detox centers, prisons and half-way houses and have a busy private practice as well as an active website where I can be reached for recovery coaching and consultation. I am a cognitive behavioral therapist, but 12-step programs are an excellent support. When working in the addiction field, there is no cookie-cutter solution. In the recovery field, you witness miracles. That's why I love what I do.

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NAADAC The Association for Addiction Professionals, CACCF Canadian Addiction Counselors Federation, CCA Canadian Counseling Association, For more information please see: http://www.untwist-your-thinking.com

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BA Psychology, MA Counseling Psychology, ICADC International Alcohol and Drug Counselor, ICAC International Clinical Addiction Counselor, CGC Certified Gambling Counselor.

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