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I am due to get married to my fiancee this year and we are having an issue with her drinking.  She does not always drink but when she does she cannot stop.  In the morning she blames me for it saying that I am responsible for allowing her to drink.  I have stopped her on a couple of times but often find that she gets angry and argumentative.  the next day she is thankful.  This is getting quite exhausting because I am held responsible it feels like I am minding a child.  Am I to blame for getting her drunk?  I admit I like to drink as well but it doesn't stop me doing things the next day and beer does not give me hangovers.  In the morning she says that I am not supportive and that she cannot trust or rely on me.  Is this fair?  


Beverley Glazer MA., ICCAC
Beverley Glazer MA., I  
Hi Chris,

When someone doesn't always drink, but 'when they do they cannot stop' they are binge drinkers. It sound like that's where you see a problem with your fiancee's behavior. Here is more information on that:

You are not to blame for 'getting her drunk' nor is it your responsibility to stop her from drinking. She is the only person who can control her behavior. What she does is not your fault.

I hope this information is helpful.

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