Question I have a male best friend who does drink from time to time. Now when sober he does tell me loves me and he will kiss me and hold me tight, but when he drinks he tells me he is in love with me and there is a connection between us, he wants me to sit on his lap and is very touchy feely. My question is.. Could the alcohol be a truth serum and allowing his true feelings to come out. Even though we are "friends" he has the ability to let his true feelings out, because every single time it's the same conversation and the same things are being said and the same actions.. I just don't know how to take him and I would like to know what to do about it.. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
The more someone drinks, the more it affects their bran ~ which affects their emotions as well as memories. The person becomes less inhibited, leading to exaggerated emotions ex. if you're happy before drinking, you'll be 'happier' or if your down, you'll be even more depressed or upset. This is why people tend to argue or act out and do and say things they never would do if they were sober. It is not a truth serum.
His words and actions can be believed when he's sober. Don't trust the words and actions of someone who is drunk.
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