Addiction to Alcohol/son alcoholic,

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my 38 year old son was on methadone program and drinks heavy been this way for a long time years now he has stopped his meth program he just drinking bottles of spirits  daily  he stays outside off licence drinking all day till he falls on the ground he gets arrested 5/6 times a week been drunk and disorderly i don t allow him drink in my home so he does it on the streets he comes to my home could be 2am treating and abusive if i don t allow him in to my home why do i allow him do this to me my family are falling out with me because im allowing my son to do what he doing they want me to put him out and wash my hands of him

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The only question I see here is "why do i allow him do this to me" so this is what I will try to help with.  I would suggest getting to an Al-anon meeting ASAP.  Al-anon is a support network for the families of alcoholics.  They will be able to help you, and you should go today.  Here is a list of meetings in Dublin:

http://www.al-anon-ireland.org/Dublin%20meetings.htm

Also, I would recommend seeing a counselor who specializes in addiction and families.  You're in what sounds like a really tough situation and you need all the help you can get.  This question is way beyond the scope of this forum.  You need to work with someone professional or a group like Al-anon long term to get the help you need. Do not wait to do this.  This is a serious situation.

I hope this was helpful and I wish you and your son peace.  Good luck to you,
Erin

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Erin Madigan Stathis, LMHC, NCC

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I am a licensed and nationally certified psychotherapist providing treatment for addictions. I counsel adults and adolescents in outpatient clinics and work in a high school one day per week. I also am an adult child of an alcoholic parent. I can answer questions on any subject related to alcohol abuse and dependency such as: • Adolescent alcohol abuse • Effects on the physical and emotional well-being of the person using alcohol; • Effects on relationships, family, friends and society; • How to tell if you have a problem with alcohol and what to do; • What to do if you suspect a loved one has a problem; • Questions related to treatment, withdrawal and relapse prevention. • Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) vs. “Harm Reduction” models of treatment • Alcohol dependency and co-occurring disorders (also known as "dual diagnosis"), which means addiction plus another mental health issue, such as depression or anxiety.

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I am a licensed psychotherapist providing treatment for addictions. I counsel adults and adolescents in outpatient clinics and work in a high school one day per week. I also am an adult child of an alcoholic parent. Unfortunately, many of my other family members struggle with addiction, too. Hopefully my experience may be able to reach some of your readers.

Organizations
American Counseling Association Massachusetts Mental Health Counselors Association South Boston Hope and Recovery Coalition

Education/Credentials
I have a Masters Degree in Mental Health and Behavioral Medicine from Boston University School of Medicine and a Bachelor's Degree in Psychology from Boston University. I have completed many continuing education courses such as "Substance Use and the Adolescent Brain" by the Institutes of Health and Recovery and "Self-Harming Behaviors" by Harvard University and the Cambridge Health Alliance.

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Adults and adolescents in the Boston area.

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