Expert: Amarnath.B - 11/11/2006

Question
Hello
I am dealing with an alcoholic brother who is in deep trouble.  He is 45 and and has been in and out of trouble for years.  No matter how many times we tell him we are done he get's in trouble and calls and calls in the middle of the night, ranting and raving, etc.  I thought I was done until this past week.
We received a call that he was in a hit and run and now has 2 broken legs/a wired jaw and of course no resources.  He won't accept that he is indigent and I know in my heart we can't help him and I admit I am scared to help him, but at the same time my heart is breaking as he is going into a homeless shelter in a wheel chair. I have been calling to get him into rehab but totally agree without him taking the first step I am probalby throwing my money out the window. I don't feel ok turning my back on him, yet with his violent temper, etc I am not sure I can help him.  Any suggestions.  When do you truly stop enabling him and help.  

Answer
Hello Sir,

The simplest way is to get a social organization involved who sometimes forcibly (can't help but it works) put him into a rehab for a minimum of 6 months & brother it works as it has worked for thousands of them who are forcibly put into rehabs.

Try this and if it does not work then send me a mail I shall suggest something else.


God bless


Amarnath