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Addiction to Alcohol/I need to leave my alcoholic boyfriend!


Joseph Lee O. wrote at 2007-11-17 01:24:47
It is insane for an abused individual to keep returning to his or her abuser, and yes, it is possible some member of Al-Anon could help someone get over that kind of behaviour.

Kristie wrote at 2007-12-17 17:14:30
Please, please don't cave in and go back to him.  I lived with my alcoholic boyfriend for 3 years as well, and he was EXACTLY the same pattern of behavior, including the construction and complaining about his job.  He NEVER got any better, despite his "attempts" at AA, slowing his drinking, quitting drinking, talking about getting help, etc.  I finally managed to leave him for good, and while it was difficult I'm now happily living with my new boyfriend--a medical doctor with no addictions--and much, much happier.  You can't change him, you won't change him, and you'll be miserable for the rest of your life.  GET OUT OF THERE.

The suicide threats come out when they feel like they're losing control over you.  They'll never actually do it, and if they do it's not your fault.  It's just a last-ditch attempt to keep you stuck in his spiral of a crappy life.

You, regardless of who you are, are better than that.

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Joseph Lee O.


Greetings to you! I have experienced “Alcoholics Anonymous”, the book, and that is what I share with others. I understand the physical, mental and emotional aspects of the real alcoholic's plight, and here is what can be done to overcome chronic alcoholism: "If you are an alcoholic who wants to get over it, you may already be asking - 'What do I have to do?' It is the purpose of this book ('Alcoholics Anonymous') to answer such questions specifically. We shall tell you what we have done." (page 20)


I took my first drink of alcohol at age 24...and within minutes I had become obsessed with its seemingly-magical effect. That glass of wine had just done something *for* me, and I was amazed. Just seven years later, I wanted to never again touch another drop of alcohol -- I had a desire to stop drinking forever -- but I just could *not* leave the stuff alone. I knew what alcohol was doing *to* me, but I still needed something done *for* me. The effect of the Twelve Steps is now my “sufficient substitute” ("A.A.", page 151) for the effect of alcohol, and I do not have to puke anything back up in the morning!


30-year student of “Alcoholics Anonymous”, the book

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