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Addiction to Alcohol/Questions Answered by Expert Beverley Glazer

Subject	Date Asked
Fiance in rehab	2/4/2012
Q: Beverley My story in a short version is this, my fiance and I have been together for a little over 7 ... A: To answer your question -- Yes, this is normal. While your fiance is in treatment, it has been ...
Confused and so hurt	1/12/2012
Q: My ex just came out of 28 day rehabilitation on 12/9. I broke it off in Oct and he said losing me ... A: When someone leaves a rehab the first and only focus that is recommended is to stay sober. Most ...
i think my boyfriend is an alcoholic	11/19/2011
Q: ive been with my boyfrind on and off for 3 years anad all those years ive known that he drinks ... A: It's obvious that your boyfriend has a problem, however, it's not obvious to him. This is what we ...
Helping and coping with a recovering alcoholic	11/16/2011
Q: I have been dating Dave for 7 months, and from the beginning he has gotten (severely) drunk at least ... A: Bev here. Your question has not been answered for quite awhile, so I picked it up. You sound like a ...
aging alcoholic father, never in recovery	11/11/2011
Q: My father is 75 years old. He has been drinking since his early 20s and has never stopped drinking ... A: Your father is an alcoholic. Since he's been drinking all these years, he has a very high tolerance, ...
son	11/10/2011
Q: I just read you response to a parent of an alcoholic . I to have a 37 yr old who continues to go to ... A: Not 'helping' a troubled child, whether he/she is an adult or not is one of the most difficult ...
recovered alcohol and relationships	10/15/2011
Q: Ms. Glazer, I had been in a relationship with a now 20 year recovered alcoholic. He also was ... A: It's really not possible to say how a recovering alcoholic with multiple cross addictions might ...
Statements about Addictive behaviors	10/1/2011
Q: Overheard a person in the healthcare field state that her job as a healthcare professional was ... A: Coming from 17+ years of recovery the word 'addictive' would be very negative for you. Of all ...
Recovering Alcoholic Living with Alcoholic Partner	9/21/2011
Q: When my boyfriend and I first met, I was the more alcoholic partner. We didn't live together and he ... A: As you know, no one can stop anyone from drinking. In your case, you had a wake-up call when you ...
HELP	9/15/2011
Q: My boyfriend is 26 years old. We have been together for 3 years, we broke up for 6 months after he ... A: It seems that your boyfriend doesn't want to give up drinking and although he says he 'loves you', ...
Use of Alcohol	9/13/2011
Q: My husband recently quit drinking after an incident of Severe Alcohol Withdrawal. Since the ... A: Your husband is right. He is the only one who is responsible for drinking, however, both you and ...
Questions about if I have a drinking problem	9/10/2011
Q: I know that this is something I have to answer for myself but I'd like your opinion. My father was ... A: Because you are a child of an alcoholic you and your siblings may have a genetic predispostion to ...
Sex, Alcohol and Friendship	9/6/2011
Q: I have had a alcoholic female friend for 5+ years now. She and I have gone on vacation together, ... A: This is not a healthy relationship. Your friend seems to be OK with it and why shouldn't she? She ...
Other half dependent on alcohol..	8/26/2011
Q: I have been dating my partner for a short while, however. She has this urge (possibly a dependency) ... A: As you've suspected, your partner may have a substance dependency problem and she's obviously ...
Enabling / codependent question	8/8/2011
Q: My fiance' and I are both 52. He has been a substance abuser (occasional crack) until recently ... A: Good question. When you are a designated driver, you're allowing the person to 'let go' -- past ...
my husband relapsed	7/28/2011
Q: My husband has been in outpatient treatment for the past 9 weeks. I thought he was doing well but I ... A: It is really difficult when relapse occurs, but there's a saying in AA that 'relapse is part of ...
ALCOHOL ABUSE	7/19/2011
Q: I have been drinking for over 20 years and I am 44 now, I am so depressed over my problem and don't ... A: All these medications have been tested and have received mixed results. There is no magic ...
Alcoholic Brother-in-Law	6/18/2011
Q: I have two questions that are related in nature. They are "Is it right to not let my children have ... A: First of all, you are not wrong, nor are you a 'horrible' person. Your mother-in-law is in denial ...
Husband	6/6/2011
Q: My husband can go for many months without drinking at all, but then all of a sudden he will start ... A: It sounds like your husband is a binge drinker. Binge drinkers can go for weeks or months without ...
my husband drinks too much	5/26/2011
Q: This is an update. My husband is now in trthe beginning of treatment. Things are even worse than ... A: I'm glad that your husband is in treatment, but you should know that this is a process. Right now ...
transplant patient is drinking	5/7/2011
Q: I am helping a friend get through a bone marrow transplant. One of the many restrictions is "no ... A: You sound like an amazing friend, but this man is taking advantage of your good nature. His bone ...
my husband drinks	4/25/2011
Q: My husband and I have been married for 23 yrs. He has always been a drinker, but I believe he has ... A: One thing for sure, your husband has a drinking problem, but unfortunately only he can do something ...
Dating Someone in NA Recovery	4/17/2011
Q: I have just recently met someone who is in recovery from a heroine and coke addiction. They are 10 ... A: I understand your concern, but this man has not only been clean for 10 years, but he's also very ...
zoloft and alcohol	4/2/2011
Q: My son 19 yrs old has depression he started taking zoloft in January. He sees regularly psychology. ... A: Unfortunately, all your advice and best attention will land on deaf ears. Your son wants to be left ...
zoloft and alcohol	3/31/2011
Q: My son 19 yrs old has depression he started taking zoloft in January. He sees regularly psychology. ... A: Here's the information: "The manufacturers of Zoloft do not recommend drinking alcohol while on the ...
How to Stop Someone From Drinking	3/24/2011
Q: um my brother is starting to drink and how do i stop him ? heather. A: Unfortunately, you can scream, nag, you name it -- but no one can stop someone from drinking. Your ...
dual personality under the influence	3/19/2011
Q: First off, I admit to drinking a lot. That comes from my background. It takes a lot for me to feel ... A: It seems that over the years, you've developed high tolerance to alcohol, and that's how the ...
What can I do she drinks every night?	3/5/2011
Q: My mother has been drinking for some years now. Yes our life has been stressful over the years and ... A: Your mom is an alcoholic, and she's justifying her behavior by saying that because her mother died ...
CAN'T GET OVER THE EX DRUNK	2/15/2011
Q: Please please help me. My ex left me 4 years ago 2 weeks into a rehab program. He relapsed after ... A: As you know, this is a typical codependency issue. You've gone to therapists, read the books, done ...
SCRAM Device	1/26/2011
Q: Should diabetics wear a scram device? Will this condition trigger false positives? A: This information from the Traffic Injury Research Foundation, in Ottawa, Ontario should answer your ...
My husband drinks moderately and its killing me	1/26/2011
Q: My father was an alcholic and from the time I could talk, I always spoke that I would NEVER be ... A: Because of your past history, you are hypersensitive about alcohol and this is the reason that you ...
Dating someone in recovery/Intimate times	1/25/2011
Q: I have been living with my boyfriend since July of 2010. When we began dating 8 months ago I knew ... A: It's not enough for your boyfriend to attend AA meetings because in AA language, he can be 'clean, ...
Living with a recovering alcoholic	1/20/2011
Q: I first want to say that I appreciate a free website to ask such questions. My husband has been ... A: As you know, your husband should not be mixing drugs and meds whether he has ADD or not. He has no ...
heavy drinker with children	1/6/2011
Q: my husband is a wine expert who works in a wine & spirit shop and has been doing this for over 25 ... A: Your husband probably drinks too much but without an actual assessment it's not possible to tell if ...
Alcoholic with a young child	12/20/2010
Q: My sister is an alcoholic. She has been for years. She is not a good drinker. she slurs her words ... A: This is a difficult situation, because no one can remove the child from the home unless it reaches a ...
What's the next step with my friend?	12/16/2010
Q: I am struggling with my friend. She is more than a friend, more like a sister – we have been ... A: It sounds as if your friend is heading down hill, but she's still in denial. She feels that ...
Alcoholic husband	12/13/2010
Q: My husband moved out in July as I told him I no longer wanted to watch him kill himself with ... A: When you could not continue to watch your husband kill himself with drink, he chose to leave, rather ...
Alcoholic & Porn Addicted Spouse	12/6/2010
Q: My husband is an alcoholic. Has been since he was about 20 years old (now 43). Lost his first wife ... A: As you realize, your husband is an alcoholic, but by going to his parents house, he's not only ...
recent break-up with an addict	11/26/2010
Q: I have been in a relationship with a guy for just over a year. I met him four years previously when ... A: Seems you've done quite a bit of soul searching and understand the situation. In the process you've ...
recent break-up with an addict	11/23/2010
Q: I have been in a relationship with a guy for just over a year. I met him four years previously when ... A: The reality is that this guy is an alcoholic, a cheater, an abuser and many other things and you ...
fiance broke up with me while hes in rehab	11/12/2010
Q: my fiance and i have been on and off for about 9 years now.its only gotten serious 4 years ago.he ... A: When someone is in recovery, it is advisable that they focus on themselves, and as they become ...
addiction	10/30/2010
Q: Goodmorning...my husband is an alcoholic and has a very addictive personality. I have just ... A: It sounds like your husband is in denial of his drinking problem, and I agree, it's going to get ...
Alcohol addiction	10/29/2010
Q: I am curious to know what you would advise if within a marriage the wife is clearly an alcoholic and ... A: If the wife is an alcoholic but is in denial of her addiction, it isn't helpful if the husband, who ...
Alcoholic Husband	10/28/2010
Q: I have been with my husband for 10 years we have a daughter together and he has helped me raise my ... A: On the one hand, your husband sounds like a really nice guy, but when he is drinking he gets out of ...
Supporting Husband in Rehab	10/21/2010
Q: My husband is currently in a drug rehab program - doing well. How do I balance his need for ... A: You're in a difficult position. When a person is in treatment, the goal is to work with the ...
follow up	10/20/2010
Q: ..and you are right...I am focused on his drinking...But I am focused on our marriage and the loss ... A: Good stuff. The primary problem for families of alcoholics is that there is so much focus on the ...
I need a kick in the butt	10/19/2010
Q: I've been married 16 years and over this time, my husband's drinking has surely turned the corner ... A: You are focussing on your husband's drinking, which seems to be a problem, but the larger problem is ...
Alcoholic Sister on Methodone	10/19/2010
Q: I have an alcoholic sister who had been abusing pain meds for a number of years, who is now going to ... A: I agree that you have no control of her behavior, however by stopping communication with her you did ...
Alcoholic Husband	10/15/2010
Q: I am drowning! I have read a few posts on your site - lots sound all too familiar. My husband ... A: Although your husband admits to alcoholism, he prefers to drink, risk jail time and losing you, ...
Just found our new wife has a long history of drinking, heavy drinking	10/8/2010
Q: So here it is. At 48 years of age met the woman of my dreams, literally. Six years, and lots of ... A: It sounds to me like your wife has been progressively drinking, and now she's not been able to hide ...
Husband's alcholic relapse	10/5/2010
Q: I have been married for 26 years the first five years were very hard my husband started drinking and ... A: Although your husband has lost his license and has served time, he still is in denial of his ...
1 year sober	9/1/2010
Q: I have been living with my fiancee/ boyfriend for four years. He is and alcoholic, who went to ... A: By what you explained, there is no way of knowing if your fiance is on the verge of relapse, ...
Living in a bubble with a recovering alcoholic	8/22/2010
Q: I have lived with my boyfriend and his two children and one of mine for two years now. He is ... A: When you are in recovery and go to meetings, you form close bonds with others who have a shared ...
Boyfriend of 3 yrs alcoholic	8/20/2010
Q: I'm a 31 year old woman in a relationship with a 46 year old, divorced man. He is an alcoholic but ... A: Your partner is an alcoholic, has been in rehab and seen by a psychiatrist and yet he's still in ...
my boyfriend is an alcoholic, can i help him?	8/10/2010
Q: i have been with my partner for 3 years and although my children are from a previous relationship he ... A: Your partner said that he loves you and he probably does, but neither you nor your children should ...
do we have a problem?	8/8/2010
Q: My boyfriend (age 52)and I have been together for 2+ yrs. His drinking has increased to the point ... A: Due to the accident, your boyfriend has chronic pain and has been prescribed oxycodone for pain ...
seeking help	7/20/2010
Q: I have been in a relationship with my significant other for the past 10 years. I have left him twice ... A: If your significant other has been through a program, he must also be aware that he should go to AA ...
relationship in recovery	7/19/2010
Q: I would like to know how I can achieve some balance in my life.I have been in a relationship for the ... A: As you know from to continue to stay sober, you have to take care of yourself and you seem to be ...
Alchohaul and Drug addiction	7/14/2010
Q: I just found out that my boyfriend is into some pretty heavy drugs and he drinks every two days or ... A: Your boyfriend has a lot of problems, and he's not denying them, however this puts you in a ...
My Brother is an alcoholic	7/1/2010
Q: My name is Jen, and ineed help! My brother suffersfrom alcoholism, he is 27 years old. Our mother ... A: This is extremely hard for you, because not only is your brother a family member, but you know the ...
My boyfriend has not limits on drink and drugs..	6/30/2010
Q: just need to know why my 2 year relationship has ended due to drinking taking drugs and not knowing ... A: What has gone on is that alcohol and drugs have taken over your boyfriend's life in the past 2 ...
Have I done the right thing	6/26/2010
Q: Ive been with my boyfriend for 10 years and we have a 2 year old son together hes always enjoyed a ... A: It sounds like your boyfriend's drinking has gotten worse and at this point it's out of control. ...
drunk boyfriend	6/25/2010
Q: i have been with my bf for 6 years now. for the past 3 years he has really developed a horrible ... A: Your boyfriend is in denial about his drinking, as well as the effect that it has on your ...
How to help a friend	6/21/2010
Q: I am looking for ways to help pull a friend/co-worker away from the bars and drinking. I don't know ... A: Right now your friend is functioning, however alcohol takes up a large portion of his life. If he ...
my husband	6/18/2010
Q: My husband stays at our camper to drink and dosn't come home. I understAND ABOUT ALCOHOLISM BECAUSE ... A: This is a difficult question, however it can be simplified by thinking this way: The truck is in ...
Boyfriend	6/14/2010
Q: im 28 and he has just turned 31, we have been going out for just over a year. He was taken into ... A: Why would your boyfriend hate you and never speak to you? Getting help for his drinking may be the ...
Lost	6/6/2010
Q: I feel very lost and alone at this point. My fiance and I have been friends for five years and been ... A: Your fiance is an alcoholic and as an active drinker, you can not trust him with your son. No matter ...
Husband is an alcoholic	6/2/2010
Q: My husband is an alcoholic, has been since the day I met him. I had never dealt with alcoholism on ... A: Your husband can be violent when he's under the influence of alcohol but he doesn't want to do ...
My husbamd has hit rock bottom..!	6/2/2010
Q: i been with my husband for 4yrs, he has always had a drinking problem he has never accepted that he ... A: It's not uncommon for jail to be a wake-up call for an alcoholic/addict to finally get help. ...
Need advice for close friend	5/30/2010
Q: I have attended Al-anon where I live in NV. My question, however, is for a good friend of mine. He ... A: Your friend has to make up his mind. Does he want to divorce his violent alcoholic wife or not? If ...
erratic behaviors	5/28/2010
Q: My new husband and former high school sweetheart drank in his 1st 2 marriages and became sober 5&1/2 ... A: Moodiness is often related to alcoholism, but it's impossible to say if this is the case. Your ...
sibling issue	5/21/2010
Q: I received a call from my sister-in-law this week and she's "had it" with my brother's drinking. I ... A: From the sound of it, it seems your sister-in-law has 'had it' with him, but she may just be venting ...
tied to doom-damage control	5/19/2010
Q: i have a brother who is a violent alcoholic/crack addict whom i am stuck with trying to resolve my ... A: If the law says that you're stuck with him, you have no legal power. However, there are a few ...
Is my room mate an alcoholic?	5/10/2010
Q: I have a room mate who I am worried about. He has phases where he will drink excessive amounts of ... A: Your room mate has discovered that 'drinks dull the pain', so he's not drinking simply to get drunk. ...
Split Personality when drinking	5/7/2010
Q: I am writing in regards to a very good friend who also happens to be my room mate. I tried to find ... A: The way someone reacts to alcohol depends on genetics, their constitution, their neurological ...
Drinking	5/6/2010
Q: My Husband drinks. He says he hasn't got a problem and could stop but he is over 18 and therefore ... A: Unfortunately your husband is right. He is over 18 and can drink as much as he likes. He says that ...
alcoholic husband	5/1/2010
Q: my husband has liver damage and diabetes as aresult of his drinking. he is in a program at the v.a. ... A: You have lived with an alcoholic for 26years, and only you know what you've gone through with this ...
Drinking	4/30/2010
Q: My name is Rachel. I have been with my husband just shy of 7 years. We are coming up on our 3 year ... A: As you can see, your husband is back partying with his friends and unfortunately he's the only one ...
my boyfriend is an alcoholic	4/29/2010
Q: ok....i just wrote a whole thing then my computer crashed!!!!! So here goes: I feel like i am at my ... A: No matter how alcohol has effected his life, your boyfriend is staying in denial. Denial keeps him ...
Alcoholic Dependent Boyfriend	4/28/2010
Q: My boyfriend of 13 years is an alcoholic. Yes, I knew he liked to drink but it has gotten to the ... A: --You're right Leisa. Alcoholics will lie and do anything they can to get what they want, but they ...
alcoholic wife	4/24/2010
Q: Robyn - My wife's alcoholism spiraled out of control in 2007. She went to rehab in Sept 2007, and ... A: I suspect that if your wife has remained sober, it's because she's fighting for the custody of her ...
Alcoholism and drug abuse	4/24/2010
Q: Background: : I was achieving well within my chosen career, but did drink quite heavily. : There ... A: Sounds like you've been through a lot, but I'm glad that you've gotten your life back on track. To ...
I'm in love w/ my alcoholic boyfriend!	4/19/2010
Q: My boyfriend whom I can't imagine living without has an alcohol problem that isn't going away. He ... A: Your boyfriend is the only one who can change his drinking habits and it seems that he's still in ...
Struggeling	4/17/2010
Q: Been to 31 day in patient rehab, now in Out patient rehab, tried AA meetings(Dont tell me to get a ... A: To answer your question -- no you are not destined to drink, but it's a long road and the struggle ...
My dad's drinking problem	4/15/2010
Q: Hey Todd, My dad drinks all the time and when he does, he argues with everyone in the family well ... A: Your dad is in denial of his drinking problem, and no matter what you do or say, only he can change ...
dry versus sobriety	4/12/2010
Q: I am a medical Doctor and knew my "medical" diagnosis of alcoholism as long ago as 1997. However it ... A: As a cognitive behavioral therapist in private practice, I've heard this problem many times. I ...
Behaviour When Intoxicated	4/12/2010
Q: Question. Have you heard of someone committing a sexual act with someone other than his wife while ... A: When someone is intoxicated, they lose their inhibitions so it's entirely possible that you ...
new relationship with a recovering alcoholic	4/10/2010
Q: My question hopefully is a simple one, but I am hoping in return for some real honest and truthful ... A: This guy is new to recovery and although he's doing well, it is only 60 days. He is not stable. ...
unemotional	4/6/2010
Q: why is my recovering alcoholic husband unemotional towards me . when i said to him we should may be ... A: There may be many reasons for your husband's behavior, but this shouldn't be overlooked: When ...
Can Alcohol change a person and make them insane?	4/5/2010
Q: Heartbreaking decision - I have been married for 15 yrs. We have wonderful kids. Alcohol has played ... A: To answer youryes alcohol can change the personality and this is what you're experiencing. When your ...
Girlfriend who drinks	4/2/2010
Q: I'm standing at a crossroads in a relationship that has become very emotionally draining for me. I ... A: You poured your heart into that letter, but your girlfriend twisted everything around. In other ...
Girlfriend who drinks	4/1/2010
Q: I'm standing at a crossroads in a relationship that has become very emotionally draining for me. I ... A: When you're involved with an alcoholic, you are second -- the drink is first. This is an abusive ...
alcoholism	3/26/2010
Q: I have an on/off relationship with a man that drinks. We lived together for two years, but I asked ... A: You seem to be doing and saying all the right things. This man admits to his drinking problem, and ...
daughter is an alcoholic	3/24/2010
Q: My daughter is 29 years old and has two children, ages 11 and 7. They all live with us. She is ... A: Your daughter is living with you, so she can be even more irresponsible knowing the children will be ...
AA	3/23/2010
Q: Todd I would like to take steps to deal with my drinking. One step after going sober of course is to ... A: Bev here -- not Todd AA online may be helpful for you. Meetings are set times, but the schedule ...
Alcohol Abuse w/ codepence	3/17/2010
Q: After reading several questions posted here, I realize that our problems are not unique. It is very ... A: Unfortunately there is nothing you can do to change your mom's behavior, the only thing you can do ...
my-ex alcohol	3/16/2010
Q: Please help me!! Exactly 3 years ago my ex alcoholic of 4 years broke-up with me after a week into a ... A: Alcoholic/addicts usually get into codependent relationships and as you know, this is exactly what's ...
Violent alcoholic	3/10/2010
Q: My brother is a severe violent alcoholic.He has abused my parents for 32 years.They tolerated it and ... A: Intimidation has worked for your brother for many years and this allowed him to do what he wanted -- ...
My Alcoholic Boyfriend	3/9/2010
Q: I have been dating a very bad alcoholic for a little over four months now. We do not live together. ... A: Alcoholic/addicts often get into codependent relationships and this sounds like what's going on. You ...
long term sobriety/possible dry drunk	3/4/2010
Q: I met and married an alcoholic who has been sober for over 20 years. I could not believe my good ... A: AA is all about 'giving back' and the newcomer is supposed to be the most important person in the ...
long term sobriety/possible dry drunk	3/3/2010
Q: I met and married an alcoholic who has been sober for over 20 years. I could not believe my good ... A: I think you nailed it. You're husband sounds like a 'dry drunk'. But he'd probably not admit it ...
partner	3/1/2010
Q: i met my partner 4yrs ago and altough he had a drink or two each day i wasn't aware at that time he ... A: Rehab is hard work and after six weeks of restrictions, naturally your boyfriend wants to go home. ...
"I don't want to stop drinking"	2/23/2010
Q: My friend drinks five or six bottles of wine a day. She is not the type of drinker who falls down ... A: You're witnessing your friend's self distruction and you can't do anything about it. Unfortunately, ...
My girlfriend is an alcoholic and i finally took a stand but....	2/21/2010
Q: my names Steven. i don't even know where to begin so i will give you a abbreviated version of my ... A: I'm glad that you recognized that this is a codependency problem and although you've had enough of ...
How to stay in and when to leave a relationship with an alcohol dependent partner.	2/16/2010
Q: Background/Up to date: I have been with my boyfriend for about a year. I moved in with him after 5 ... A: I understand the turmoil that you're going through -- particularly when you know that your boyfriend ...
Spouse support how?	2/11/2010
Q: Todd, I am married to an alcholic who quit drinking 3 weeks ago due to liver damage and other ... A: Your husband is on quite a few medications that can make him tired and lethargic. If this persists, ...
Alcoholism?	2/8/2010
Q: I have been with my husband for 12 years and married for three. He drinks about once a week and it ... A: As you can see, your husband's drinking is progressing, but right now, he may be abusing alcohol, ...
what to do?	2/4/2010
Q: I had to leave my home due to my husband's severe drinking problem. I am in the process of trying to ... A: It's unfortunate, but sometimes no matter what we say or do, an alcoholic refuses to stop. As the ...
my brother is an alcoholic	2/3/2010
Q: ok, my brother is an alcoholic, he is 34 yrs old and has always had a problem with alcohol. ... A: It sounds like you're doing the best you can, with this difficult situation. And you’re fortunate to ...
My husband is in denial!	1/31/2010
Q: I am at a loss for what to do with my husband. He will drink 4 weekends in a row, until he slurs his ... A: Unfortunately you can't do anything to stop him from drinking, but you don't have to put up with it. ...
Son	1/25/2010
Q: My son is 43,working and said he quit drinking New Years. He is living with my daughter, his ... A: Your son is taking advantage of your daughter by not contributing to her household. He is a burden ...
alcohol	1/25/2010
Q: I accidentally drank alcohol but spit it out immediately! I rinsed my mouth out, but i'm worried ... A: The Secure Continuous Remote Alcohol Monitor (SCRAM) reads the blood alcohol content every hour and ...
a story in the blue book	1/22/2010
Q: I am trying to remember the AA big book story where the man talks about his sobriety being tied to ... A: I'm not sure if story is the one that you're looking for but check page 449 in the 3rd edition or ...
PAWS	1/21/2010
Q: My husband tells me he has been sober for two months. I can only hope this is true because when he ... A: As you know, going to meetings doesn't mean that your husband is not drinking and it sounds to me ...
Behaviours in Recovery	1/18/2010
Q: My boyfriend is a binge alcoholic. His last binge was 7 months ago when he nearly died. This is the ... A: For some reason, your question only landed in the pool today, although it was submitted on the 18th ...
Alcoholic boyfriend.	1/18/2010
Q: My boyfriend is an alcoholic; he denies it though. He says he is still young and enjoying his life. ... A: You can't force your boyfriend to seek professional help, to join AA or stop drinking. The ...
Alcoholism - Recovery Support	1/18/2010
Q: Beverly - my last question to you was on 11/22 regarding my wife's recovery. Unfortunately, we've ... A: I know this is not easy, but you're doing the right thing. She has to stay focused on her sobriety, ...
Intervention for a sick mother	1/15/2010
Q: My mother has a severe drinking problem. It has finally gotten to the point where my family members ... A: An intervention can backfire, with or without a specialist. Family interventions are done all the ...
alcoholic father-in-law	1/14/2010
Q: I am happily married with 2 wonderful children ages 4 and 1. My wife's biological father has been ... A: Your wife is filled with guilt and many other mixed feelings and that's why she wants to do her ...
Relapsing boyfriend	1/8/2010
Q: I am seeking advice about my boyfriend(age 28) or two years and what I should do to help him. His ... A: Bev here. Your boyfriend has been battling substance abuse as well as anxiety and depression. You ...
I am giving him alcohol	12/16/2009
Q: My husband has been an alcoholic for 37 minus 4 years sober. The last 7 years has been unreal. He ... A: Your husband has chosen to drink regardless of what it's doing to his body and the people around ...
legal drinking age	12/10/2009
Q: a student at University of Caterbury.Im doing a research about legal drinking age. Could you please ... A: Here in Montreal, Quebec the legal drinking age is 18 and I believe it should stay the same. At ...
Tequila	12/8/2009
Q: I'm a substance abuse counseling student and this topic came up in class last night: Is tequila a ... A: I go with the theory that alcohol is a depressant -- and tequila is no exception. But for some ...
Alcholic/Addict boyfriend left me.....	12/7/2009
Q: I am 28 and have no kids. My boyfriend of 3 years recently left me. He did not come home from work ... A: Your boyfriend probably wanted to have a sober life when he first met you, but he was unable to do ...
Confused by alcoholic ex	12/7/2009
Q: I was involved with an alcoholic for 3 years. For the first 6 months he was in and out of hospital ... A: It's Bev here, not Todd. Seems like you've been up and down quite a rocky road with this guy, but ...
Alcoholics and pain	12/3/2009
Q: My father is an alcoholic. He doesn't admit it but I am sure of it. He is 63 years old and he's been ... A: There really isn't any way of knowing why your Dad has pain in his leg. He may have bumped into ...
Husband	12/1/2009
Q: I am writing today because I need someone to talk to and I haven't got that. My husband plays ... A: It sounds like your husband is a compulsive gambler. He may be a binge drinker and may also have ...
Alcoholic in early recovery	11/28/2009
Q: My boyfriend is a chronic binge alcoholic and has just completed a 3 month intensive recovery day ... A: When someone is recovering from alcoholism is hard to get back into a life without it. Your ...
Wife's recovery	11/22/2009
Q: We have 4 beautiful little girls (11, 9, 7, 3), and my wife has been struggling with alcoholism for ... A: It's not uncommon that an alcoholic falls off the wagon once they've hit a year of sobriety. They ...
Alcoholic brother threatening suicide	11/20/2009
Q: My name is Katrina and I am 21 years old. I have a brother who is 26 and has been suffering ... A: You are in a particularly difficult situation because you seem to be the parent of both your mother ...
rehab	11/15/2009
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year in a half now.3 weeks ago he came clean to his ... A: What's going on with your boyfriend is typical of any rehab -- there are restrictions -- and the ...
Relapse????? Any Hope	11/12/2009
Q: I reunited with my high school sweetheart almost two years ago after being apart for 11 years...Soon ... A: As you know your boyfriend has multiple addictions and this is what we offten call having an ...
Addiction with Mental Health issues	11/9/2009
Q: My 46-yr old brother is an addict with mental health issues. In addition to being in denial about ... A: This is a real problem for both you and your mom. Unfortunately unless someone wants to get help you ...
Drinking and the others around me	11/7/2009
Q: I have been with and lived with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. He has since told me that he ... A: It sounds as if you don't think that you have a problem with alcohol and so you don't really want to ...
My boyfriend wants to stop drinking on his willpower,	11/5/2009
Q: I met my boyfriend 6 months ago.He used to drink a lot or everyday with his previous girlfriend and ... A: It is possible for and alcoholic to stop drinking 'cold turkey', but since he's been drinking when ...
Behavior of an alcoholic when sober	11/4/2009
Q: I think my mother-in-law is an alcoholic. Since my father-in-laws death last year, she has resorted ... A: It seems to me, that your mother-in-law does have a drinking problem -- so when she stops, she's ...
alcoholism in the family	11/1/2009
Q: What is your clinical impression of how substance abuse can be viewed as a coping mechanism and as ... A: The common view of substance abuse is that there's no one reason for it. There are different ...
alcoholism	10/27/2009
Q: My husband is an alcoholic. He also is a very productive person- very good job- not too many see ... A: Because the holidays are right around the corner, I wouldn't make changes right now. All the family ...
Brain function during recovery	10/24/2009
Q: I quit drinking three weeks ago with the aide of my doctor and have slowly started to feel ... A: Congratulations for not drinking for 3 weeks. It's not easy. By now the fog should be clearing, ...
Alcoholic boyfriend	10/23/2009
Q: I'd really appreciate your opinion. I'm 37 and dating my 39-year old boyfriend for the past 5 ... A: It's very frustrating when an alcoholic changes his behavior and becomes withdrawn and ...
alcoholic husband and help for the family	10/21/2009
Q: I have been with my husband for 17 years, and he has been a heavy drinker from day one. About 1yr ... A: You have been in a relationship with a drinker for 17 years and I'm sure that you tried everything ...
my boyfriend the substance misuse practitioner who drinks every day	10/20/2009
Q: my boyfriend is a counselor but he drinks at least 4 pts of snake bite(lager and cider mix) every ... A: Your boyfriend is in denial and rationalizes that because he is familiar with alcoholism, he is ...
alcohol	10/17/2009
Q: i have 2 kids one 2yrs and one 6mths .me and my boyfriend used to go out drinking all the time ... A: I can understand how frustrated you must be with his behavior. Binge drinkers usually feel that they ...
living with a drunk	10/16/2009
Q: I suffered my second stroke a year ago so i had to live with my ex wife& still do. She is achronic ... A: You haven't supplied me with much information about your physical condition, but if the stroke has ...
Alcoholism	10/16/2009
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for six months now and in the beginning of our relationship he had ... A: That's the problem. He refuses to get help and without it, his drinking will only get worse. One ...
Alcoholism	10/15/2009
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for six months now and in the beginning of our relationship he had ... A: Be assured that you are not to blame for your boyfriend's drinking. No one can make someone drink -- ...
Alcohol relapse	10/14/2009
Q: We are just two of them. Here is the deal: I live with a man who has been sober for two years now. ... A: This question has been sitting in the question pool for almost a week, and no one picked it up. ...
Losing my father	10/13/2009
Q: i'm 17 and i my father who was my best friend passed away a month ago due to alcoholism. I am ... A: It is very common to have guilt feelings when someone passes away and you can feel particularly ...
Where do I go from here?	10/13/2009
Q: My sons father is an alcoholic. My son is 5 years old now and I have raised him pretty much on my ... A: You have to understand that your son's father is an active alcoholic and this is an unhealthy ...
BAC after passing away	10/12/2009
Q: My son passed away a few months back of ethanol intoxication and blunt force trauma from falling. ... A: I'm sorry to hear about your tragic loss. Your question is beyond my expertise, but I understand ...
23 yr old son is an alcoholic	10/10/2009
Q: After 5 years of denial now I am convinced my son is an alcoholic. 1st DUI age 19 in a single car ... A: --note I didn't call you 'helpless' because you're not:) Every parent feels helpless this ...
23 yr old son is an alcoholic	10/9/2009
Q: After 5 years of denial now I am convinced my son is an alcoholic. 1st DUI age 19 in a single car ... A: You've made the first step which is that you've finally broken your denial. Great!! By doing this ...
can/should i be friends with him?	10/9/2009
Q: my boyfriend of just under a year broke up with me two days ago. i am devastated. he is in the ... A: Yes, you're right, there's a reason that in the AA program, they recommend having no new ...
I just left my alcoholic husband	10/7/2009
Q: My husband is an alcoholic, he has had years of sobriety only to return to drinking vodka - I have ... A: After all this time, you should be congratuated for leaving this man, but this is not and easy thing ...
Just wondering...	10/5/2009
Q: Why is it so hard to reason with an alcoholic when he is sober. I wouldn't even TRY to have a ... A: Not every alcoholic is unreasonable when they're sober, but when you stop drinking without working ...
alcoholism	10/5/2009
Q: My husband is an alcoholic. He also is a very productive person- very good job- not too many see ... A: Your husband is a 'functioning' alcoholic, so unless they see him dysfunctional, others won't ...
alcoholism	10/3/2009
Q: . I'm really hoping to get some guidance here.. My boyfriend (he's 32) and I have been together for ... A: As you know, your boyfriend is an alcoholic and because he has a job, and his family members are ...
Help	10/1/2009
Q: I believe my partner is an alcoholic although sometimes I feel like I am dealing with a sociopath, ... A: Many people who stop drinking 'cold turkey' are irritable because they're fighting the cravings to ...
Moving on...again	9/30/2009
Q: After almost 5 years with an alcoholic, I've been dumped (yet again) for another woman. I'm sure ... A: Most probably you have enabled your boyfriend, however it really doesn't matter at this point. ...
Subconsious Relapses and Relationship Synapses	9/30/2009
Q: I've read a plethora of your posts. After reading a multitude of questions, I realized that my ... A: You seem to have a good understanding of what's going on and know that this is a codependency ...
Can a beer drinker be a alcoholic	9/24/2009
Q: My husband drinks 12 plus beers every night. He dosen't miss work, physically abuse, etc. Although ... A: To answer your questions: Alcohol is alcohol and beer contains alcohol. You can be an alcoholic and ...
ultimatum for alcoholic mother	9/22/2009
Q: My mother has been drinking for most of her life and now that i'm old enough to realize, I feel for ... A: It's amazing how fast chidren grow up when they live in a household with an alcoholic!! Don't ...
When children are involved?	9/18/2009
Q: Please advise me if possible To cut a long story short my hubby of 10 years who is an alcoholic was ... A: It's a good thing that you taking care of yourself and you're aware of not enabling your husband. He ...
When children are involved?	9/18/2009
Q: Please advise me if possible To cut a long story short my hubby of 10 years who is an alcoholic was ... A: This letter was answered Sept. 18 but it still remains in the question pool. I think that there's ...
support	9/14/2009
Q: If you are in a relationship with someone who is dependant to alcohol are you supposed to ignore ... A: To answer your question -- Yes and No. You can ignore him while he is drinking, because he's not ...
What am I?	9/7/2009
Q: I was in a relationship with a man who is 32 years old. He never have been so honest. His problem ... A: It sounds like you're in an abusive relationship with this man, and you're very conflicted. He has ...
Feel Divorce is needed - fear for step child	9/3/2009
Q: I have been married to an alcoholic for several years. I have become very close to my step children. ... A: This is a very difficult situation, and divorce seems like the only option, but has your wife gone ...
Spousal support during sobriety	9/2/2009
Q: I've been married for 5 years and have had 3 separations from my husband because of his drinking. ... A: The fact that your husband has quit drinking and is attending AA and a Bible college can only have a ...
brother	8/31/2009
Q: my brother is living at home with my parents. he has had two dui's and drinks until my mom has to ... A: The first thing I can tell you is not to feel badly about not forcing your brother to stop drinking ...
with a recovering alcoholic	8/23/2009
Q: I am 40 year old single woman, dating a 46 year old man for over 2 years. He was an active alcoholic ... A: Although your boyfriend quit drinking for the past three months, it seems he has a problem dealing ...
Any way I can help?	8/21/2009
Q: My boyfriend's sister has been having problems with alcohol in the past few months, and it has ... A: Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about getting your boyfriend's sister help for her alcohol ...
dating someone in Recovery	8/20/2009
Q: I am dating someone who is sober for 3 years. She is early twenties, works the steps very hard, has ... A: Your girlfriend seems to be working very hard on her sobriety and is putting a lot of energy into ...
Beer addiction	8/17/2009
Q: My husband is a beer addict. He doesn't like it to be called alcoholism but what else would it be, ... A: Your husband doesn't like his drinking to be called alcoholism, because he justifies to himself that ...
cutting down alcohol safely	8/14/2009
Q: i have been drinking between 25 and 30 units of alcohol per day for over a year. i stopped before ... A: You're right, this is a medical question, but unless a physician specializes in addiction, it's ...
23 Y/O SON	8/13/2009
Q: First let me say that I feel blessed to come across your name on the internet because I have no one ... A: I understand how hurt and angry you must feel, but believe it or not, this might be the best thing ...
My husband is an alcoholic	8/12/2009
Q: I have a very similar problem to many who email you, my husband is an alcoholic.For many years, I ... A: It's Bev here --not Todd You try in every possible way to believe in him hoping and praying that ...
bestfriend is an alcoholic	8/11/2009
Q: He will drink everyday starting around 6pm and usually consumes at least a 12 pack of beer and a ... A: I wish I could be more helpful, but as you've seen its pretty impossible to help an alcoholic when ...
Alcohol and Desease	8/6/2009
Q: How did the consumption of alcohol become a desese? I always believed that a desease was natural and ... A: It's a long story but basically in 1951 the World Health Organization acknowledged that alcoholism ...
Alcohol	7/30/2009
Q: My boyfriend used to be an alcoholic. He is no longer that way and says he knows what types of ... A: Just got back from vacation and found your question on alcohol. To answer youryour boyfriend has a ...
Alcoholic Husband	7/25/2009
Q: My husband has recently started to become unbearable to deal with. I thought maybe I was just ... A: Alcoholics are very good at hiding drinks, cans etc, but his mother knows the signs and finally you ...
wet brain care	7/24/2009
Q: We are trying to find a facility that caters to patients diagnosed with wet brain, alcohol and ... A: The term 'wet brain' applies to a permanent condition, however, there are different levels of ...
Intervention	7/14/2009
Q: I would like to know if there is any way that I can get an intervention for my son who is 33 years ... A: Unfortunately there is no way you can force a 33 yr. old man to get help. He has to do it himself. ...
alchohol vs depression	7/14/2009
Q: Okay - I know it's a toughie, but does one cause the other? Is one an excuse for the other? Where ... A: As you know, alcohol and depression can go hand in hand. Someone can feel depressed and take a few ...
Repeatedly Blacking Out	7/13/2009
Q: I am a college student and have repeatedly been experiencing blackouts for the past year and a half. ... A: The fact that you've been experiencing blackouts is not a good sign and whether you are genetically ...
alcohlism	7/7/2009
Q: I do not think I am an alcoholic but I love getting drunk. I live in a drink culture and most ... A: Alcoholism creeps in slowly and many people don't believe that they have a problem because they're ...
girlfriend and addiction	6/29/2009
Q: i have had a relationship with this woman for nine month. We drank together and have been friends ... A: What you've done was not easy, but be assured that it was the right thing to do. No one can stop an ...
Recovering alcoholic support	6/24/2009
Q: I am a recovering alcoholic. I am sober 6 months at this time. I went to a treatment facility for 6 ... A: First I want to say congratulations. It has not been an easy 6 months. I don't think that your ...
Sober	6/23/2009
Q: if one is not using alcohol and still smoking weed is this being sober? A: Good question! There are many theories on this. According to the AA model, to be clean and sober ...
Alcohol dependancy	6/22/2009
Q: My husband says he wants to quit drinking. I'm all for it! He says that AA won't help though because ... A: You're husband may be right. He probably feels the withdrawal symptoms and they can be very ...
Life partner is alcoholic	6/20/2009
Q: Help! I am a 56 year old divorced woman who has been with my current partner for 8 years. We have ... A: As you know, you are living with an alcoholic and he has no intention of changing. The stress of ...
How do i cope with an alcoholic partner?	6/19/2009
Q: Here is a quick background on my situation: I am 25 and have been in a serious relationship with my ... A: The problem is that you're with a guy who says that he loves you, but he's an alcoholic, so his ...
fears and anger	6/19/2009
Q: I have been dating a 41 year old young lady (I am 60) for the past 6 months. It is a serious ... A: There can be many reasons that the woman in your life is combative, fearful and becomes 'totally ...
Will this help or mare it worse	6/11/2009
Q: I dated this woman for three years and always suspected she was an alcoholic. Every time I ... A: You're right. Your girlfriend of three years is an alcoholic, but she's in denial. Not all ...
ALCOHOLISM	6/11/2009
Q: I am involved with a man who i love very much and tells me i am his life, but he has gone from ... A: If he refuses to answer the questions and he's had 4 rehab failures, he doesn't believe that he can ...
ALCOHOLISM	6/10/2009
Q: I am involved with a man who i love very much and tells me i am his life, but he has gone from ... A: You're right! Your boyfriend is very much in denial. There is a perception that changing from ...
I think my girlfriend is an alcholoic	6/4/2009
Q: First let me say thank you for reading my question and being available to help people like me, I ... A: It sounds to me that your girlfriend has a drinking problem and she needs help, but first she has to ...
Husband drinks too much	6/1/2009
Q: I have been married to my high school sweetheart for going on 12 years now. I am a stay at home mom ... A: Your husband drinks too much, but right now he's in denial that there's a serious problem. He views ...
suboxone	5/30/2009
Q: My 20 year old son has been taking 24 mg of suboxone for 5 months. He was into oxycotone for about ... A: Your son is to be congratulated for turning his life around and of course he'd like to be completely ...
My sister seems to have a serious problem	5/26/2009
Q: My sister is 13 years older than me and with no children. She is a very closed private person but ... A: The lying and the manipulation that you're experiencing is all part of your sister's alcoholism. And ...
alcohol? cont.	5/26/2009
Q: I took the questionnaire and it said stage 2 alcoholism. I do want to drink more after my friends ... A: I don't know what your professor would ask, but I know how I've been trained and she'd probably do ...
alcohol? cont.	5/25/2009
Q: I took the questionnaire and it said stage 2 alcoholism. I do want to drink more after my friends ... A: The assessment that's on the web is simply for you to see that this is a serious problem, but it's ...
I need help.	5/24/2009
Q: I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. We have so many plans together for the future. Getting ... A: When he's sober, your boyfriend makes plans for spending the future together, but once he's with his ...
alcohol?	5/23/2009
Q: I am a 22 year old female. I have always had a hard time making and keeping friends, so when I went ... A: Alcohol suppresses many emotions as well as emotional pain and there are many issues that you have ...
alcoholic employer	5/21/2009
Q: I worked in a household as a caregiver for two elderly individuals wife and husband. They been ... A: I'm sure that this is very difficult for you to watch but as you said, she does not function as a ...
Scared	5/20/2009
Q: I really dont know where to begin. I have been married for 25 years.When we first got together my ... A: Your husband has a long history of drug/alcohol abuse and 2 years ago he relapsed. Because he was ...
Homeless Nephew	5/19/2009
Q: I have a nephew, age 22, who is homeless/ currently living in an abandoned house in Michigan. His ... A: Your nephew has many behavioral problems and he's got to straighten out, and he's the only one who ...
Advice needed	5/17/2009
Q: I need some advice on helping a friend become sober. He admits he has a problem and refuses all help ... A: It's obvious that your friend has mixed feelings about getting clean ex. asking you to take his ...
SUBOXONE	5/13/2009
Q: HOW LONG SHOULD A PERSON BE ON SUBOXONE?I am 29 y/o who was addicted to opiates,benzos,& weed for 10 ... A: I don't know the laws in CA, and every state is different, but there should be a help line for ...
SUBOXONE	5/12/2009
Q: HOW LONG SHOULD A PERSON BE ON SUBOXONE?I am 29 y/o who was addicted to opiates,benzos,& weed for 10 ... A: It sounds like you're really doing well and I'm sure it wasn't easy. Don't worry about the ...
alcohol addiction	5/9/2009
Q: why does my boyfriend always get mad and mean when hes drinking A: I have no idea why your boyfriend in particular, always gets mad and mean when he's drinking, but ...
Alcoholism and relationships	4/29/2009
Q: My husband is an alcoholic; he has been sober for a year but started to drink again two weeks ago. ... A: Unfortunately you can do nothing to help your husband with his alcoholism, but you must be more ...
alcohol	4/27/2009
Q: We are sorry, but Todd wasn't able to answer youri am a mother of 4 children,my husband drinks ... A: Being a mother of 4 is more than enough stress, without having to deal with an alcoholic. Your ...
alcohol;	4/27/2009
Q: i am a mother of 4 children,my husband drinks nearly every day stoppin at the pub for 1 0r 2 lagers ... A: I answered this question yesterday but it's still sitting in the question pool so you may not have ...
my husband is an alcoholic	4/25/2009
Q: I have been married for 25 years to an alcoholic. I am also an alcoholic, but not in denial and have ... A: First let me congratulate you on 4 months of sobriety - not easy. What you're going through right ...
my daughters grandma is an alcoholic	4/24/2009
Q: She takes my daughter on the weekends and i just found out she has been taking pills and drinking a ... A: There is no easy way to confront your daughter's grandma, but for the sake of your daughter you have ...
Verbal support	4/20/2009
Q: I have a good friend who has suffered with depression for years and believes that she is an ... A: Alcohol is a depressant, so since she's an alcoholic, it's too late to tell which came first, the ...
Dealing with Alcoholism	4/15/2009
Q: My husband has been drinking for perhaps almost 30 years. When he drinks we've agreed that I am to ... A: Your husband doesn't seem to want to change. He's just trying to keep the peace for the sake of the ...
Is my daughter an alcoholic?	4/13/2009
Q: I suspect that my daughter has a drinking problem, she is 21 and has lived back in our household for ... A: I believe that your daughter may have a drinking problem, and she may or may not be an alcoholic. ...
My boyfriend just started AA	4/13/2009
Q: My boyfriend just started AA for the 2nd time. He started going before but was doing it for the ... A: This will be really hard for you, because as you know, only your boyfriend can do something about ...
My boyfriend could be and alcoholic	4/12/2009
Q: ok well i have this boyfriend and i am afraid that he is an alcoholic, we been together for about an ... A: It sounds like your boyfriend may be developing a gambling and/or drinking problem but he's in ...
Social Drinking Problems.	4/10/2009
Q: So, I have a problem when it comes to being out and social drinking and don't know how to quite deal ... A: Your fiancee may be right. You control yourself when you and your fiancee are together, but when ...
Social Drinking Problems.	4/10/2009
Q: So, I have a problem when it comes to being out and social drinking and don't know how to quite deal ... A: (this was sent to you yesterday but it's still in the question pool, so just in case you didn't get ...
Dealing with Alcoholism	4/7/2009
Q: My husband has been drinking for perhaps almost 30 years. When he drinks we've agreed that I am to ... A: Beverley here-- You're husband is using the night shift as an excuse not to get help and to ...
i think my husband is an alcoholic!	4/4/2009
Q: i have always thought my husband has drunk alot. he has a drink every day, sometimes only 1 can of ... A: It's very common for an alcoholic to hide bottles all around the house, so don't be surprised if you ...
parent of an alcoholic	4/2/2009
Q: My son is a practicing alcoholic. He has been through rehab 3 or 4 times and actually had about 9 ... A: Unfortunately there is nothing you can do to stop him from drinking - even with all the rehabs, he's ...
i do not know what to do!	3/31/2009
Q: I dont even know where to start. So this might be a little lengthy. But my boyfriend and i broke up ... A: Your boyfriend is an alcoholic/addict and there's nothing that you can do about it. He's in denial ...
alcoholics	3/28/2009
Q: I am 23 years old and I am engaged to a 31 year old he has a major problem with drinking and it ... A: I think you realize that your fiancee is an alcoholic, and his drinking has caused problems in his ...
Can't deal with my boyfriend being an alcoholic	3/27/2009
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. I don't know if I should feel hypocritical ... A: It sounds like your boyfriend is in denial, but he has a drinking problem. The first thing you have ...
Alcoholism	3/27/2009
Q: After being with my husband for the last 6 years I have now come to the conclusion that I am at the ... A: Your husband is stuck in his addiction and also in depression (alcohol is also a depressant). But ...
My sons recovery	3/26/2009
Q: My 25 yr old son is coming home today from a 7 day detox center for alcohol. I didn't know it was ... A: Unfortunately there is nothing that you can do to help your son. He's 25. He got into drinking by ...
My boyfriend is an alcoholic	3/24/2009
Q: I have been researching on the internet but haven't found much information that pertains to my ... A: The twisted thinking of an addict tells them that, if coke is the problem, they'll stop coke - ...
Opinion please, how bad is my Husbands drink problem, is this an alcholic??,	3/23/2009
Q: I would be grateful for your opinion, My Husband is a binge drinker & its affecting myself & our ... A: Your husband drinks way too much and has developed tolerance. He's what we call a binge drinker. ...
leave tobbaco	3/17/2009
Q: i leave abuse tobbaco pan paragh manik chand etc etc so i m very depressed i feelings of guilt and ... A: Certainly drugs ( and tobacco is a drug) don't help, but you may have been depressed in the first ...
Alchoholic partner.	3/17/2009
Q: I wonder Beverley if you would please take the time to help me as I am in a really bad place and ... A: It sounds like your partner of 8 yrs has a severe alcohol problem. Not only was he hiding alcohol, ...
X Girlfriend is an alcohoic	3/17/2009
Q: I have read several questions and I know all the answers but i need someone professional to tell me ... A: I think you realize that your girlfriend has an alcohol problem and although all areas of her life ...
Oh no...I married an alcoholic!	3/16/2009
Q: My husband and I got married on October 10th, 2008 so we have only been married for about 5 months. ... A: You're right. Your husband's drinking problem is bigger than you thought, but no one can get an ...
my son	3/15/2009
Q: My son is 25 years old, a really smart young man, married for 5 yrs to a beautiful girl who is ... A: It sounds like your son is a great guy but with school and family expectations, he's under a lot of ...
4 days sober	3/11/2009
Q: My name is Amanda and I have decided to stop drinking. I took an evaluation at a recovery center and ... A: Beverley here - Congratulations on your decision to change your life by going to meetings and ...
Blacking out	3/11/2009
Q: I am a young female that drinks about every weekend. I black out 9 out of 10 times that I drink. ... A: It sounds like you are a binge drinker, and binge drinkers are often in denial longer than daily ...
my co-worker	3/11/2009
Q: My problem is my co-worker. She and I are both in our 40's and work together. I work internally ... A: For some reason, your co-worker has issues, however, you're allowing her behavior to upset you. The ...
How do I help my son?	3/9/2009
Q: Good Morning, I will apologize for the length this in advance. I cannot think of any way of asking ... A: First let me tell you that letting your son come back to the house was the right thing to do. He's ...
emotionless?	3/7/2009
Q: I am in an on again/off again relationship with a recovering alcoholic(5 yrs sober,religiously ... A: It's very common for an alcoholic in recovery, not to to be in touch with his emotions. You're ...
Alcoholic aunt, unwilling to admit alcoholism.	3/6/2009
Q: My aunt, 42 this year, is a severe alcoholic. She's been living with my grandparents for many years, ... A: This is a very difficult situation and you're right to be concerned about your grandfather's health. ...
What is the type 5 questions	3/5/2009
Q: What is the type questions i need to ask a drug , alcohol addict or recover addict? A: I'm not sure what you mean by the 5 questions to ask an alcoholic/addict. Here's a link to a test ...
21 yr old daughter & binge drinking	3/4/2009
Q: My daughter is just a few days away from turning 21. She's still living at home with me and my ... A: The problem with binge drinkers is that they don't believe that they have a problem because they ...
My wife thinks I have a drinking problem.	3/2/2009
Q: and not finding it, I'll go ahead and ask. I'm 33, my wife is 29. We met at a bar ten years ago, ... A: The thing about alcoholism is that you develop tolerance to it and you're able to consume a lot ...
post-treatment behaviour	3/2/2009
Q: I need help... I met a man in a 28 day treatment program and we have become good friends. I was ... A: Although both of you were in treatment together, there's no guarantee of recovery. To recover, you ...
9 days...	2/28/2009
Q: So, I have a question for you. A little background first: I'm a 27 year old female professional ... A: It's not Todd, it's Bev here. I'm glad you've been detoxed and that you're on the road to recovery. ...
husband in denial about his drinking	2/24/2009
Q: I have been married to my husband 9 yrs. I knew that he drank when we got married but not to what ... A: I think it's great that you made all those changes. According to the law, he has to give you money ...
husband in denial about his drinking	2/23/2009
Q: I have been married to my husband 9 yrs. I knew that he drank when we got married but not to what ... A: It seems that you're doing all the right things. Continue going to Al Anon meetings, but this is ...
Alcohol Addiction	2/20/2009
Q: Every evening i have thus urge to drink - i somehow cannot seem to stop it - i feel uneasy if i ... A: Seems you know that you have a problem and you feel out of control. Try this self test: ...
binge drinking	2/17/2009
Q: how do i cope and prevent my spouse from binge drinking A: Unfortunately no one can prevent anyone from drinking. An alcoholic will always find a way. Binge ...
My Father is a chronic Alchoholic	2/16/2009
Q: My Father aged 53 is a Chronic Alchoholic. At the age of 15 he bacame a drug addict. Then my ... A: It sounds like both you and your Mom have your hands full. Rehab is good but there's no guarantee ...
Alcoholism?	2/12/2009
Q: I am 60 years old, divorced and living alone for the past 11 years, I have no work or social life, ... A: I think you realize that you're drinking much too much. And when you're lonely, the drink fills the ...
family member relapse - bail out of jail?	2/10/2009
Q: My brother we just found is incarerated out of town. He called me today collect and I hung up. I ... A: However painful it is, it's a good thing that you hung up on your brother. If he doesn't get out of ...
should i believe him?	2/9/2009
Q: I was a widow with 2 boys ages 4 and 7 when I met my boyfriend. He was a single father (mother is ... A: It seems that this guy is functioning right now, but he's playing with fire and it's only a matter ...
my husband drinks	2/9/2009
Q: I'm fustrded with my husband who drinks every weekend. Usually a 12pk ea.day sometimes more. I ask ... A: Your husband probably doesn't believe that he has a drinking problem because he only drinks on the ...
i think i drink because i'm bored.	2/8/2009
Q: recently i have to realize that most times i succomb to the urge has been times that i have been ... A: I think that you got it. For you, boredom is a trigger for drinking and those video games are also a ...
My brother's alcoholism	2/7/2009
Q: My name is Steve and I am a recovering alcoholic. It will be 4 years for me in June. I am writing ... A: You are perfectly right. Your Mom is enabling your brother, however, at this point she's ...
What are "DT's"	2/7/2009
Q: My fiance drinks 2-3 bottles of wine every day. If he does not have "a glass" every 6-8 hours he ... A: You're right to be concerned. DT stands of delirium tremens, which happens when a chronic alcoholic ...
Alcohol is ruining our family	2/3/2009
Q: I have so many questions I don't know where to start. I just recently broke up with my alcoholic ... A: Right now, there's nothing that you can do to help this man. He's an alcoholic and his first love is ...
Alcohol, poker and medicines..	2/2/2009
Q: As pretty much everyone here, i am also dealing with an alcoholic husband. We have been married for ... A: It sounds like you've done just about everything to get this man to change. He's an alcoholic - and ...
being a sober alcoholic	1/31/2009
Q: thank you justin A: Congratulations! Being sober for 8 1/2 months was not easy. But one of the hardest parts is what ...
husbands possible drinking problem	1/29/2009
Q: I am worried my husband may have a drinking or even a drug problem. In October I found several ... A: The strange thing about alcoholism is that when the alcoholic is in denial he/she will lie to ...
Alcoholic Mother	1/28/2009
Q: My mother has been an alcoholic since right after I was born and I am now 28yrs old. Before that ... A: I noticed your letter has been sitting in the question pool for quite some time and no one has ...
Could I be addicted to an alcoholic?	1/22/2009
Q: Please help me. About 2 years ago my x alcoholic boyfriend called it quits when he went to rehab. ... A: To answer your question, yes, as strange as it seems, you ARE addicted to an alcoholic. This is not ...
addictive personalitly - alcohol drugs	1/18/2009
Q: I have been married 7 years, with him 15, we have 2 small kids. My husband tends to binge drink and ... A: Your husband is in denial of his drinking problem as well as the grief that he's causing you. What ...
Coping with my 'normal' boyfriend	1/2/2009
Q: I have had a problem with alcohol for about the past 18 months , I was binging heavily sometimes for ... A: You've been doing very well on the drinking side of the problem, but there is also a social/cultural ...
Christmas dinner with grandson in Rehab	12/19/2008
Q: What is advisable when having a family Christmas dinner with a grandson who is allowed out of Rehab ... A: Just got back from vacation - but the response to your question can also serve to help you with your ...
alcohol addiction	12/18/2008
Q: My husband has a drinking problem. He is not as bad as others that I have heard. He doesn't HAVE to ... A: As you know, your husband is in denial. When you confront him, he will only argue with you and this ...
obsessing	12/15/2008
Q: what are three examples of for obsessing or fantasizing over alcohol A: Obsessing about alcohol is when the thought pops into your mind and it keeps coming back. ...
trying to heal	12/11/2008
Q: I left my boyfriend 2 months ago due to his chronic alcoholism. He would down 1/2 pint of jack a ... A: Sounds like you were in an abusive relationship with that guy. An alcoholic will always blame the ...
My mom needs help!!!	12/9/2008
Q: I am sixteen years old. My mom has, for the past two years, been trying to deal with an alcoholic ... A: It sounds like your mom is codependent. She knows she shouldn't be in this relationship, but it's ...
Alcoholic Wife Relapse	12/8/2008
Q: My wife is back to drinking after 2 stays in rehab this year, the latest being August, and she is on ... A: Yes, in your wife's twisted thinking, the vanilla extract is not drinking. Same as drinking 'non ...
Alcoholic brother	12/7/2008
Q: My brother has recently got divorced and he is so in love with this women to where he is literally ... A: Now you're on to the next step. Check out rehabs. Find out all the particulars and if they have ...
Alcoholic brother	12/6/2008
Q: My brother has recently got divorced and he is so in love with this women to where he is literally ... A: Any emotional upheaval will send an alcoholic to the bottle. And your brother can't cope with all ...
Alcoholic	12/3/2008
Q: My husband's father is an alcoholic (heavy alcoholic). Although I've not seen the behaviors one ... A: You're husband's father probably has a very high tolerance for alcohol and so you won't see his ...
boyfriend is an alcoholic	11/25/2008
Q: my friend has been dating her boyfriend for 2 months, he was a recovering alcoholic when they met ... A: There are a few questions that need to be answered. The first one: how did your friend's boyfriend ...
fiance an alcoholic?	11/24/2008
Q: Ok, i am about to get married in 5 days and the guy i am with has been drinking since we met about 7 ... A: Yes it sounds like your fiance is an alcoholic, but if you want further evidence, these tests on my ...
I think my father is an Alcoholic	11/23/2008
Q: I am twelve. My father likes to Drink, anD that was fine at first. It was never a problem before, ... A: I think you're right. Your Dad is an alcoholic. He can't simply take one drink. This is very ...
alcoholic husband	11/22/2008
Q: I AM DESPERATE TO FIND SOME DIRECTION IN MY LIFE. I FEEL LIKE I AM MARRIED TO TWO DIFFERENT ... A: Be assured that you are married to only one person, but when he's wrapped up in the 'disease' he has ...
enabling	11/21/2008
Q: I will try to make this as to the point as possible. I have a brother that is an alcholic but does ... A: There are two theories on enabling and I'm sure you've heard the 1st one: Don't do anything unless ...
Partner returning from Rehab soon how do i respond in future	11/13/2008
Q: I wonder if you can help by telling me where on the net i can get information on how to hadle my ... A: There is no general answer to your individual problem, so it's doubtful if you'll find your answer ...
Alcohol Blackouts	11/10/2008
Q: I drink probably once every month or 2, sometimes I go longer without drinking, but when I do, many ... A: What you're describing is binge drinking. As you've discovered, binge drinking is very confusing ...
marriage	11/8/2008
Q: My husband(11 months sober) and I got married about 4 months ago. We are already having problems. ... A: It sounds like you have your hands full. In AA language, your husband may be 'clean but not sober'. ...
marriage problems	11/8/2008
Q: My husband and I got married about 4 months ago. We are already having problems. All we do lately ... A: It might be beneficial if you and your husband had a 'date night' once a week to go out for dinner, ...
Is my boyfriend an alcoholic?	11/6/2008
Q: I think I know the answer to that question, but I want to be sure before I make any decisions that ... A: It sounds like your boyfriend has numerous problems and copes with stress by using alcohol and pot. ...
Alcoholism	11/3/2008
Q: My husband drinks 2- 3 glasses of wine (sometimes the whole bottle) at home about every other night. ... A: A closet alcoholic is someone who hides alcohol and denies his drinking. I don't think that your ...
leting go of an alocholic son	10/27/2008
Q: I have a son age 23 and his common law wife age 21, both are alcoholics and admit to being so. My ... A: Your son and his wife are both young and have to get their lives on track. Are you in a position to ...
so confused	10/23/2008
Q: I once dated a violent alcoholic til 3 years ago. I met a man 3 months ago who had killed a 22 year ... A: Yes Kelly, you are right to leave this man. Think about it. He has to serve time for killing a 22 ...

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