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| rehab | 11/15/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year in a half now.3 weeks ago he came clean to his ...
A: What's going on with your boyfriend is typical of any rehab -- there are restrictions -- and the ...
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| Relapse????? Any Hope | 11/12/2009 |
Q: I reunited with my high school sweetheart almost two years ago after being apart for 11 years...Soon ...
A: As you know your boyfriend has multiple addictions and this is what we offten call having an ...
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| Addiction with Mental Health issues | 11/9/2009 |
Q: My 46-yr old brother is an addict with mental health issues. In addition to being in denial about ...
A: This is a real problem for both you and your mom. Unfortunately unless someone wants to get help you ...
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| Drinking and the others around me | 11/7/2009 |
Q: I have been with and lived with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. He has since told me that he ...
A: It sounds as if you don't think that you have a problem with alcohol and so you don't really want to ...
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| My boyfriend wants to stop drinking on his willpower, | 11/5/2009 |
Q: I met my boyfriend 6 months ago.He used to drink a lot or everyday with his previous girlfriend and ...
A: It is possible for and alcoholic to stop drinking 'cold turkey', but since he's been drinking when ...
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| Behavior of an alcoholic when sober | 11/4/2009 |
Q: I think my mother-in-law is an alcoholic. Since my father-in-laws death last year, she has resorted ...
A: It seems to me, that your mother-in-law does have a drinking problem -- so when she stops, she's ...
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| alcoholism in the family | 11/1/2009 |
Q: What is your clinical impression of how substance abuse can be viewed as a coping mechanism and as ...
A: The common view of substance abuse is that there's no one reason for it. There are different ...
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| alcoholism | 10/27/2009 |
Q: My husband is an alcoholic. He also is a very productive person- very good job- not too many see ...
A: Because the holidays are right around the corner, I wouldn't make changes right now. All the family ...
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| Brain function during recovery | 10/24/2009 |
Q: I quit drinking three weeks ago with the aide of my doctor and have slowly started to feel ...
A: Congratulations for not drinking for 3 weeks. It's not easy. By now the fog should be clearing, ...
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| Alcoholic boyfriend | 10/23/2009 |
Q: I'd really appreciate your opinion. I'm 37 and dating my 39-year old boyfriend for the past 5 ...
A: It's very frustrating when an alcoholic changes his behavior and becomes withdrawn and ...
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| alcoholic husband and help for the family | 10/21/2009 |
Q: I have been with my husband for 17 years, and he has been a heavy drinker from day one. About 1yr ...
A: You have been in a relationship with a drinker for 17 years and I'm sure that you tried everything ...
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| my boyfriend the substance misuse practitioner who drinks every day | 10/20/2009 |
Q: my boyfriend is a counselor but he drinks at least 4 pts of snake bite(lager and cider mix) every ...
A: Your boyfriend is in denial and rationalizes that because he is familiar with alcoholism, he is ...
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| alcohol | 10/17/2009 |
Q: i have 2 kids one 2yrs and one 6mths .me and my boyfriend used to go out drinking all the time ...
A: I can understand how frustrated you must be with his behavior. Binge drinkers usually feel that they ...
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| living with a drunk | 10/16/2009 |
Q: I suffered my second stroke a year ago so i had to live with my ex wife& still do. She is achronic ...
A: You haven't supplied me with much information about your physical condition, but if the stroke has ...
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| Alcoholism | 10/16/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for six months now and in the beginning of our relationship he had ...
A: That's the problem. He refuses to get help and without it, his drinking will only get worse. One ...
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| Alcoholism | 10/15/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for six months now and in the beginning of our relationship he had ...
A: Be assured that you are not to blame for your boyfriend's drinking. No one can make someone drink -- ...
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| Alcohol relapse | 10/14/2009 |
Q: We are just two of them. Here is the deal: I live with a man who has been sober for two years now. ...
A: This question has been sitting in the question pool for almost a week, and no one picked it up. ...
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| Losing my father | 10/13/2009 |
Q: i'm 17 and i my father who was my best friend passed away a month ago due to alcoholism. I am ...
A: It is very common to have guilt feelings when someone passes away and you can feel particularly ...
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| Where do I go from here? | 10/13/2009 |
Q: My sons father is an alcoholic. My son is 5 years old now and I have raised him pretty much on my ...
A: You have to understand that your son's father is an active alcoholic and this is an unhealthy ...
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| BAC after passing away | 10/12/2009 |
Q: My son passed away a few months back of ethanol intoxication and blunt force trauma from falling. ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about your tragic loss. Your question is beyond my expertise, but I understand ...
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| 23 yr old son is an alcoholic | 10/10/2009 |
Q: After 5 years of denial now I am convinced my son is an alcoholic. 1st DUI age 19 in a single car ...
A: --note I didn't call you 'helpless' because you're not:) Every parent feels helpless this ...
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| 23 yr old son is an alcoholic | 10/9/2009 |
Q: After 5 years of denial now I am convinced my son is an alcoholic. 1st DUI age 19 in a single car ...
A: You've made the first step which is that you've finally broken your denial. Great!! By doing this ...
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| can/should i be friends with him? | 10/9/2009 |
Q: my boyfriend of just under a year broke up with me two days ago. i am devastated. he is in the ...
A: Yes, you're right, there's a reason that in the AA program, they recommend having no new ...
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| I just left my alcoholic husband | 10/7/2009 |
Q: My husband is an alcoholic, he has had years of sobriety only to return to drinking vodka - I have ...
A: After all this time, you should be congratuated for leaving this man, but this is not and easy thing ...
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| Just wondering... | 10/5/2009 |
Q: Why is it so hard to reason with an alcoholic when he is sober. I wouldn't even TRY to have a ...
A: Not every alcoholic is unreasonable when they're sober, but when you stop drinking without working ...
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| alcoholism | 10/5/2009 |
Q: My husband is an alcoholic. He also is a very productive person- very good job- not too many see ...
A: Your husband is a 'functioning' alcoholic, so unless they see him dysfunctional, others won't ...
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| alcoholism | 10/3/2009 |
Q: . I'm really hoping to get some guidance here.. My boyfriend (he's 32) and I have been together for ...
A: As you know, your boyfriend is an alcoholic and because he has a job, and his family members are ...
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| Help | 10/1/2009 |
Q: I believe my partner is an alcoholic although sometimes I feel like I am dealing with a sociopath, ...
A: Many people who stop drinking 'cold turkey' are irritable because they're fighting the cravings to ...
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| Moving on...again | 9/30/2009 |
Q: After almost 5 years with an alcoholic, I've been dumped (yet again) for another woman. I'm sure ...
A: Most probably you have enabled your boyfriend, however it really doesn't matter at this point. ...
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| Subconsious Relapses and Relationship Synapses | 9/30/2009 |
Q: I've read a plethora of your posts. After reading a multitude of questions, I realized that my ...
A: You seem to have a good understanding of what's going on and know that this is a codependency ...
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| Can a beer drinker be a alcoholic | 9/24/2009 |
Q: My husband drinks 12 plus beers every night. He dosen't miss work, physically abuse, etc. Although ...
A: To answer your questions: Alcohol is alcohol and beer contains alcohol. You can be an alcoholic and ...
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| ultimatum for alcoholic mother | 9/22/2009 |
Q: My mother has been drinking for most of her life and now that i'm old enough to realize, I feel for ...
A: It's amazing how fast chidren grow up when they live in a household with an alcoholic!! Don't ...
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| When children are involved? | 9/18/2009 |
Q: Please advise me if possible To cut a long story short my hubby of 10 years who is an alcoholic was ...
A: It's a good thing that you taking care of yourself and you're aware of not enabling your husband. He ...
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| When children are involved? | 9/18/2009 |
Q: Please advise me if possible To cut a long story short my hubby of 10 years who is an alcoholic was ...
A: This letter was answered Sept. 18 but it still remains in the question pool. I think that there's ...
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| support | 9/14/2009 |
Q: If you are in a relationship with someone who is dependant to alcohol are you supposed to ignore ...
A: To answer your question -- Yes and No. You can ignore him while he is drinking, because he's not ...
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| What am I? | 9/7/2009 |
Q: I was in a relationship with a man who is 32 years old. He never have been so honest. His problem ...
A: It sounds like you're in an abusive relationship with this man, and you're very conflicted. He has ...
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| Feel Divorce is needed - fear for step child | 9/3/2009 |
Q: I have been married to an alcoholic for several years. I have become very close to my step children. ...
A: This is a very difficult situation, and divorce seems like the only option, but has your wife gone ...
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| Spousal support during sobriety | 9/2/2009 |
Q: I've been married for 5 years and have had 3 separations from my husband because of his drinking. ...
A: The fact that your husband has quit drinking and is attending AA and a Bible college can only have a ...
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| brother | 8/31/2009 |
Q: my brother is living at home with my parents. he has had two dui's and drinks until my mom has to ...
A: The first thing I can tell you is not to feel badly about not forcing your brother to stop drinking ...
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| with a recovering alcoholic | 8/23/2009 |
Q: I am 40 year old single woman, dating a 46 year old man for over 2 years. He was an active alcoholic ...
A: Although your boyfriend quit drinking for the past three months, it seems he has a problem dealing ...
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| Any way I can help? | 8/21/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend's sister has been having problems with alcohol in the past few months, and it has ...
A: Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about getting your boyfriend's sister help for her alcohol ...
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| dating someone in Recovery | 8/20/2009 |
Q: I am dating someone who is sober for 3 years. She is early twenties, works the steps very hard, has ...
A: Your girlfriend seems to be working very hard on her sobriety and is putting a lot of energy into ...
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| Beer addiction | 8/17/2009 |
Q: My husband is a beer addict. He doesn't like it to be called alcoholism but what else would it be, ...
A: Your husband doesn't like his drinking to be called alcoholism, because he justifies to himself that ...
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| cutting down alcohol safely | 8/14/2009 |
Q: i have been drinking between 25 and 30 units of alcohol per day for over a year. i stopped before ...
A: You're right, this is a medical question, but unless a physician specializes in addiction, it's ...
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| 23 Y/O SON | 8/13/2009 |
Q: First let me say that I feel blessed to come across your name on the internet because I have no one ...
A: I understand how hurt and angry you must feel, but believe it or not, this might be the best thing ...
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| My husband is an alcoholic | 8/12/2009 |
Q: I have a very similar problem to many who email you, my husband is an alcoholic.For many years, I ...
A: It's Bev here --not Todd You try in every possible way to believe in him hoping and praying that ...
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| bestfriend is an alcoholic | 8/11/2009 |
Q: He will drink everyday starting around 6pm and usually consumes at least a 12 pack of beer and a ...
A: I wish I could be more helpful, but as you've seen its pretty impossible to help an alcoholic when ...
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| Alcohol and Desease | 8/6/2009 |
Q: How did the consumption of alcohol become a desese? I always believed that a desease was natural and ...
A: It's a long story but basically in 1951 the World Health Organization acknowledged that alcoholism ...
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| Alcohol | 7/30/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend used to be an alcoholic. He is no longer that way and says he knows what types of ...
A: Just got back from vacation and found your question on alcohol. To answer youryour boyfriend has a ...
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| Alcoholic Husband | 7/25/2009 |
Q: My husband has recently started to become unbearable to deal with. I thought maybe I was just ...
A: Alcoholics are very good at hiding drinks, cans etc, but his mother knows the signs and finally you ...
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| wet brain care | 7/24/2009 |
Q: We are trying to find a facility that caters to patients diagnosed with wet brain, alcohol and ...
A: The term 'wet brain' applies to a permanent condition, however, there are different levels of ...
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| Intervention | 7/14/2009 |
Q: I would like to know if there is any way that I can get an intervention for my son who is 33 years ...
A: Unfortunately there is no way you can force a 33 yr. old man to get help. He has to do it himself. ...
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| alchohol vs depression | 7/14/2009 |
Q: Okay - I know it's a toughie, but does one cause the other? Is one an excuse for the other? Where ...
A: As you know, alcohol and depression can go hand in hand. Someone can feel depressed and take a few ...
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| Repeatedly Blacking Out | 7/13/2009 |
Q: I am a college student and have repeatedly been experiencing blackouts for the past year and a half. ...
A: The fact that you've been experiencing blackouts is not a good sign and whether you are genetically ...
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| alcohlism | 7/7/2009 |
Q: I do not think I am an alcoholic but I love getting drunk. I live in a drink culture and most ...
A: Alcoholism creeps in slowly and many people don't believe that they have a problem because they're ...
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| girlfriend and addiction | 6/29/2009 |
Q: i have had a relationship with this woman for nine month. We drank together and have been friends ...
A: What you've done was not easy, but be assured that it was the right thing to do. No one can stop an ...
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| Recovering alcoholic support | 6/24/2009 |
Q: I am a recovering alcoholic. I am sober 6 months at this time. I went to a treatment facility for 6 ...
A: First I want to say congratulations. It has not been an easy 6 months. I don't think that your ...
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| Sober | 6/23/2009 |
Q: if one is not using alcohol and still smoking weed is this being sober?
A: Good question! There are many theories on this. According to the AA model, to be clean and sober ...
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| Alcohol dependancy | 6/22/2009 |
Q: My husband says he wants to quit drinking. I'm all for it! He says that AA won't help though because ...
A: You're husband may be right. He probably feels the withdrawal symptoms and they can be very ...
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| Life partner is alcoholic | 6/20/2009 |
Q: Help! I am a 56 year old divorced woman who has been with my current partner for 8 years. We have ...
A: As you know, you are living with an alcoholic and he has no intention of changing. The stress of ...
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| How do i cope with an alcoholic partner? | 6/19/2009 |
Q: Here is a quick background on my situation: I am 25 and have been in a serious relationship with my ...
A: The problem is that you're with a guy who says that he loves you, but he's an alcoholic, so his ...
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| fears and anger | 6/19/2009 |
Q: I have been dating a 41 year old young lady (I am 60) for the past 6 months. It is a serious ...
A: There can be many reasons that the woman in your life is combative, fearful and becomes 'totally ...
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| Will this help or mare it worse | 6/11/2009 |
Q: I dated this woman for three years and always suspected she was an alcoholic. Every time I ...
A: You're right. Your girlfriend of three years is an alcoholic, but she's in denial. Not all ...
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| ALCOHOLISM | 6/11/2009 |
Q: I am involved with a man who i love very much and tells me i am his life, but he has gone from ...
A: If he refuses to answer the questions and he's had 4 rehab failures, he doesn't believe that he can ...
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| ALCOHOLISM | 6/10/2009 |
Q: I am involved with a man who i love very much and tells me i am his life, but he has gone from ...
A: You're right! Your boyfriend is very much in denial. There is a perception that changing from ...
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| I think my girlfriend is an alcholoic | 6/4/2009 |
Q: First let me say thank you for reading my question and being available to help people like me, I ...
A: It sounds to me that your girlfriend has a drinking problem and she needs help, but first she has to ...
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| Husband drinks too much | 6/1/2009 |
Q: I have been married to my high school sweetheart for going on 12 years now. I am a stay at home mom ...
A: Your husband drinks too much, but right now he's in denial that there's a serious problem. He views ...
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| suboxone | 5/30/2009 |
Q: My 20 year old son has been taking 24 mg of suboxone for 5 months. He was into oxycotone for about ...
A: Your son is to be congratulated for turning his life around and of course he'd like to be completely ...
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| My sister seems to have a serious problem | 5/26/2009 |
Q: My sister is 13 years older than me and with no children. She is a very closed private person but ...
A: The lying and the manipulation that you're experiencing is all part of your sister's alcoholism. And ...
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| alcohol? cont. | 5/26/2009 |
Q: I took the questionnaire and it said stage 2 alcoholism. I do want to drink more after my friends ...
A: I don't know what your professor would ask, but I know how I've been trained and she'd probably do ...
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| alcohol? cont. | 5/25/2009 |
Q: I took the questionnaire and it said stage 2 alcoholism. I do want to drink more after my friends ...
A: The assessment that's on the web is simply for you to see that this is a serious problem, but it's ...
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| I need help. | 5/24/2009 |
Q: I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. We have so many plans together for the future. Getting ...
A: When he's sober, your boyfriend makes plans for spending the future together, but once he's with his ...
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| alcohol? | 5/23/2009 |
Q: I am a 22 year old female. I have always had a hard time making and keeping friends, so when I went ...
A: Alcohol suppresses many emotions as well as emotional pain and there are many issues that you have ...
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| alcoholic employer | 5/21/2009 |
Q: I worked in a household as a caregiver for two elderly individuals wife and husband. They been ...
A: I'm sure that this is very difficult for you to watch but as you said, she does not function as a ...
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| Scared | 5/20/2009 |
Q: I really dont know where to begin. I have been married for 25 years.When we first got together my ...
A: Your husband has a long history of drug/alcohol abuse and 2 years ago he relapsed. Because he was ...
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| Homeless Nephew | 5/19/2009 |
Q: I have a nephew, age 22, who is homeless/ currently living in an abandoned house in Michigan. His ...
A: Your nephew has many behavioral problems and he's got to straighten out, and he's the only one who ...
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| Advice needed | 5/17/2009 |
Q: I need some advice on helping a friend become sober. He admits he has a problem and refuses all help ...
A: It's obvious that your friend has mixed feelings about getting clean ex. asking you to take his ...
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| SUBOXONE | 5/13/2009 |
Q: HOW LONG SHOULD A PERSON BE ON SUBOXONE?I am 29 y/o who was addicted to opiates,benzos,& weed for 10 ...
A: I don't know the laws in CA, and every state is different, but there should be a help line for ...
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| SUBOXONE | 5/12/2009 |
Q: HOW LONG SHOULD A PERSON BE ON SUBOXONE?I am 29 y/o who was addicted to opiates,benzos,& weed for 10 ...
A: It sounds like you're really doing well and I'm sure it wasn't easy. Don't worry about the ...
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| alcohol addiction | 5/9/2009 |
Q: why does my boyfriend always get mad and mean when hes drinking
A: I have no idea why your boyfriend in particular, always gets mad and mean when he's drinking, but ...
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| Alcoholism and relationships | 4/29/2009 |
Q: My husband is an alcoholic; he has been sober for a year but started to drink again two weeks ago. ...
A: Unfortunately you can do nothing to help your husband with his alcoholism, but you must be more ...
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| alcohol | 4/27/2009 |
Q: We are sorry, but Todd wasn't able to answer youri am a mother of 4 children,my husband drinks ...
A: Being a mother of 4 is more than enough stress, without having to deal with an alcoholic. Your ...
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| alcohol; | 4/27/2009 |
Q: i am a mother of 4 children,my husband drinks nearly every day stoppin at the pub for 1 0r 2 lagers ...
A: I answered this question yesterday but it's still sitting in the question pool so you may not have ...
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| my husband is an alcoholic | 4/25/2009 |
Q: I have been married for 25 years to an alcoholic. I am also an alcoholic, but not in denial and have ...
A: First let me congratulate you on 4 months of sobriety - not easy. What you're going through right ...
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| my daughters grandma is an alcoholic | 4/24/2009 |
Q: She takes my daughter on the weekends and i just found out she has been taking pills and drinking a ...
A: There is no easy way to confront your daughter's grandma, but for the sake of your daughter you have ...
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| Verbal support | 4/20/2009 |
Q: I have a good friend who has suffered with depression for years and believes that she is an ...
A: Alcohol is a depressant, so since she's an alcoholic, it's too late to tell which came first, the ...
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| Dealing with Alcoholism | 4/15/2009 |
Q: My husband has been drinking for perhaps almost 30 years. When he drinks we've agreed that I am to ...
A: Your husband doesn't seem to want to change. He's just trying to keep the peace for the sake of the ...
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| Is my daughter an alcoholic? | 4/13/2009 |
Q: I suspect that my daughter has a drinking problem, she is 21 and has lived back in our household for ...
A: I believe that your daughter may have a drinking problem, and she may or may not be an alcoholic. ...
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| My boyfriend just started AA | 4/13/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend just started AA for the 2nd time. He started going before but was doing it for the ...
A: This will be really hard for you, because as you know, only your boyfriend can do something about ...
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| My boyfriend could be and alcoholic | 4/12/2009 |
Q: ok well i have this boyfriend and i am afraid that he is an alcoholic, we been together for about an ...
A: It sounds like your boyfriend may be developing a gambling and/or drinking problem but he's in ...
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| Social Drinking Problems. | 4/10/2009 |
Q: So, I have a problem when it comes to being out and social drinking and don't know how to quite deal ...
A: Your fiancee may be right. You control yourself when you and your fiancee are together, but when ...
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| Social Drinking Problems. | 4/10/2009 |
Q: So, I have a problem when it comes to being out and social drinking and don't know how to quite deal ...
A: (this was sent to you yesterday but it's still in the question pool, so just in case you didn't get ...
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| Dealing with Alcoholism | 4/7/2009 |
Q: My husband has been drinking for perhaps almost 30 years. When he drinks we've agreed that I am to ...
A: Beverley here-- You're husband is using the night shift as an excuse not to get help and to ...
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| i think my husband is an alcoholic! | 4/4/2009 |
Q: i have always thought my husband has drunk alot. he has a drink every day, sometimes only 1 can of ...
A: It's very common for an alcoholic to hide bottles all around the house, so don't be surprised if you ...
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| parent of an alcoholic | 4/2/2009 |
Q: My son is a practicing alcoholic. He has been through rehab 3 or 4 times and actually had about 9 ...
A: Unfortunately there is nothing you can do to stop him from drinking - even with all the rehabs, he's ...
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| i do not know what to do! | 3/31/2009 |
Q: I dont even know where to start. So this might be a little lengthy. But my boyfriend and i broke up ...
A: Your boyfriend is an alcoholic/addict and there's nothing that you can do about it. He's in denial ...
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| alcoholics | 3/28/2009 |
Q: I am 23 years old and I am engaged to a 31 year old he has a major problem with drinking and it ...
A: I think you realize that your fiancee is an alcoholic, and his drinking has caused problems in his ...
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| Can't deal with my boyfriend being an alcoholic | 3/27/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. I don't know if I should feel hypocritical ...
A: It sounds like your boyfriend is in denial, but he has a drinking problem. The first thing you have ...
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| Alcoholism | 3/27/2009 |
Q: After being with my husband for the last 6 years I have now come to the conclusion that I am at the ...
A: Your husband is stuck in his addiction and also in depression (alcohol is also a depressant). But ...
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| My sons recovery | 3/26/2009 |
Q: My 25 yr old son is coming home today from a 7 day detox center for alcohol. I didn't know it was ...
A: Unfortunately there is nothing that you can do to help your son. He's 25. He got into drinking by ...
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| My boyfriend is an alcoholic | 3/24/2009 |
Q: I have been researching on the internet but haven't found much information that pertains to my ...
A: The twisted thinking of an addict tells them that, if coke is the problem, they'll stop coke - ...
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| Opinion please, how bad is my Husbands drink problem, is this an alcholic??, | 3/23/2009 |
Q: I would be grateful for your opinion, My Husband is a binge drinker & its affecting myself & our ...
A: Your husband drinks way too much and has developed tolerance. He's what we call a binge drinker. ...
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| leave tobbaco | 3/17/2009 |
Q: i leave abuse tobbaco pan paragh manik chand etc etc so i m very depressed i feelings of guilt and ...
A: Certainly drugs ( and tobacco is a drug) don't help, but you may have been depressed in the first ...
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| Alchoholic partner. | 3/17/2009 |
Q: I wonder Beverley if you would please take the time to help me as I am in a really bad place and ...
A: It sounds like your partner of 8 yrs has a severe alcohol problem. Not only was he hiding alcohol, ...
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| X Girlfriend is an alcohoic | 3/17/2009 |
Q: I have read several questions and I know all the answers but i need someone professional to tell me ...
A: I think you realize that your girlfriend has an alcohol problem and although all areas of her life ...
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| Oh no...I married an alcoholic! | 3/16/2009 |
Q: My husband and I got married on October 10th, 2008 so we have only been married for about 5 months. ...
A: You're right. Your husband's drinking problem is bigger than you thought, but no one can get an ...
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| my son | 3/15/2009 |
Q: My son is 25 years old, a really smart young man, married for 5 yrs to a beautiful girl who is ...
A: It sounds like your son is a great guy but with school and family expectations, he's under a lot of ...
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| 4 days sober | 3/11/2009 |
Q: My name is Amanda and I have decided to stop drinking. I took an evaluation at a recovery center and ...
A: Beverley here - Congratulations on your decision to change your life by going to meetings and ...
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| Blacking out | 3/11/2009 |
Q: I am a young female that drinks about every weekend. I black out 9 out of 10 times that I drink. ...
A: It sounds like you are a binge drinker, and binge drinkers are often in denial longer than daily ...
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| my co-worker | 3/11/2009 |
Q: My problem is my co-worker. She and I are both in our 40's and work together. I work internally ...
A: For some reason, your co-worker has issues, however, you're allowing her behavior to upset you. The ...
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| How do I help my son? | 3/9/2009 |
Q: Good Morning, I will apologize for the length this in advance. I cannot think of any way of asking ...
A: First let me tell you that letting your son come back to the house was the right thing to do. He's ...
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| emotionless? | 3/7/2009 |
Q: I am in an on again/off again relationship with a recovering alcoholic(5 yrs sober,religiously ...
A: It's very common for an alcoholic in recovery, not to to be in touch with his emotions. You're ...
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| Alcoholic aunt, unwilling to admit alcoholism. | 3/6/2009 |
Q: My aunt, 42 this year, is a severe alcoholic. She's been living with my grandparents for many years, ...
A: This is a very difficult situation and you're right to be concerned about your grandfather's health. ...
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| What is the type 5 questions | 3/5/2009 |
Q: What is the type questions i need to ask a drug , alcohol addict or recover addict?
A: I'm not sure what you mean by the 5 questions to ask an alcoholic/addict. Here's a link to a test ...
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| 21 yr old daughter & binge drinking | 3/4/2009 |
Q: My daughter is just a few days away from turning 21. She's still living at home with me and my ...
A: The problem with binge drinkers is that they don't believe that they have a problem because they ...
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| My wife thinks I have a drinking problem. | 3/2/2009 |
Q: and not finding it, I'll go ahead and ask. I'm 33, my wife is 29. We met at a bar ten years ago, ...
A: The thing about alcoholism is that you develop tolerance to it and you're able to consume a lot ...
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| post-treatment behaviour | 3/2/2009 |
Q: I need help... I met a man in a 28 day treatment program and we have become good friends. I was ...
A: Although both of you were in treatment together, there's no guarantee of recovery. To recover, you ...
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| 9 days... | 2/28/2009 |
Q: So, I have a question for you. A little background first: I'm a 27 year old female professional ...
A: It's not Todd, it's Bev here. I'm glad you've been detoxed and that you're on the road to recovery. ...
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| husband in denial about his drinking | 2/24/2009 |
Q: I have been married to my husband 9 yrs. I knew that he drank when we got married but not to what ...
A: I think it's great that you made all those changes. According to the law, he has to give you money ...
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| husband in denial about his drinking | 2/23/2009 |
Q: I have been married to my husband 9 yrs. I knew that he drank when we got married but not to what ...
A: It seems that you're doing all the right things. Continue going to Al Anon meetings, but this is ...
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| Alcohol Addiction | 2/20/2009 |
Q: Every evening i have thus urge to drink - i somehow cannot seem to stop it - i feel uneasy if i ...
A: Seems you know that you have a problem and you feel out of control. Try this self test: ...
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| binge drinking | 2/17/2009 |
Q: how do i cope and prevent my spouse from binge drinking
A: Unfortunately no one can prevent anyone from drinking. An alcoholic will always find a way. Binge ...
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| My Father is a chronic Alchoholic | 2/16/2009 |
Q: My Father aged 53 is a Chronic Alchoholic. At the age of 15 he bacame a drug addict. Then my ...
A: It sounds like both you and your Mom have your hands full. Rehab is good but there's no guarantee ...
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| Alcoholism? | 2/12/2009 |
Q: I am 60 years old, divorced and living alone for the past 11 years, I have no work or social life, ...
A: I think you realize that you're drinking much too much. And when you're lonely, the drink fills the ...
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| family member relapse - bail out of jail? | 2/10/2009 |
Q: My brother we just found is incarerated out of town. He called me today collect and I hung up. I ...
A: However painful it is, it's a good thing that you hung up on your brother. If he doesn't get out of ...
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| should i believe him? | 2/9/2009 |
Q: I was a widow with 2 boys ages 4 and 7 when I met my boyfriend. He was a single father (mother is ...
A: It seems that this guy is functioning right now, but he's playing with fire and it's only a matter ...
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| my husband drinks | 2/9/2009 |
Q: I'm fustrded with my husband who drinks every weekend. Usually a 12pk ea.day sometimes more. I ask ...
A: Your husband probably doesn't believe that he has a drinking problem because he only drinks on the ...
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| i think i drink because i'm bored. | 2/8/2009 |
Q: recently i have to realize that most times i succomb to the urge has been times that i have been ...
A: I think that you got it. For you, boredom is a trigger for drinking and those video games are also a ...
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| My brother's alcoholism | 2/7/2009 |
Q: My name is Steve and I am a recovering alcoholic. It will be 4 years for me in June. I am writing ...
A: You are perfectly right. Your Mom is enabling your brother, however, at this point she's ...
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| What are "DT's" | 2/7/2009 |
Q: My fiance drinks 2-3 bottles of wine every day. If he does not have "a glass" every 6-8 hours he ...
A: You're right to be concerned. DT stands of delirium tremens, which happens when a chronic alcoholic ...
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| Alcohol is ruining our family | 2/3/2009 |
Q: I have so many questions I don't know where to start. I just recently broke up with my alcoholic ...
A: Right now, there's nothing that you can do to help this man. He's an alcoholic and his first love is ...
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| Alcohol, poker and medicines.. | 2/2/2009 |
Q: As pretty much everyone here, i am also dealing with an alcoholic husband. We have been married for ...
A: It sounds like you've done just about everything to get this man to change. He's an alcoholic - and ...
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| being a sober alcoholic | 1/31/2009 |
Q: thank you justin
A: Congratulations! Being sober for 8 1/2 months was not easy. But one of the hardest parts is what ...
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| husbands possible drinking problem | 1/29/2009 |
Q: I am worried my husband may have a drinking or even a drug problem. In October I found several ...
A: The strange thing about alcoholism is that when the alcoholic is in denial he/she will lie to ...
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| Alcoholic Mother | 1/28/2009 |
Q: My mother has been an alcoholic since right after I was born and I am now 28yrs old. Before that ...
A: I noticed your letter has been sitting in the question pool for quite some time and no one has ...
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| Could I be addicted to an alcoholic? | 1/22/2009 |
Q: Please help me. About 2 years ago my x alcoholic boyfriend called it quits when he went to rehab. ...
A: To answer your question, yes, as strange as it seems, you ARE addicted to an alcoholic. This is not ...
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| addictive personalitly - alcohol drugs | 1/18/2009 |
Q: I have been married 7 years, with him 15, we have 2 small kids. My husband tends to binge drink and ...
A: Your husband is in denial of his drinking problem as well as the grief that he's causing you. What ...
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| Coping with my 'normal' boyfriend | 1/2/2009 |
Q: I have had a problem with alcohol for about the past 18 months , I was binging heavily sometimes for ...
A: You've been doing very well on the drinking side of the problem, but there is also a social/cultural ...
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| Christmas dinner with grandson in Rehab | 12/19/2008 |
Q: What is advisable when having a family Christmas dinner with a grandson who is allowed out of Rehab ...
A: Just got back from vacation - but the response to your question can also serve to help you with your ...
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| alcohol addiction | 12/18/2008 |
Q: My husband has a drinking problem. He is not as bad as others that I have heard. He doesn't HAVE to ...
A: As you know, your husband is in denial. When you confront him, he will only argue with you and this ...
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| obsessing | 12/15/2008 |
Q: what are three examples of for obsessing or fantasizing over alcohol
A: Obsessing about alcohol is when the thought pops into your mind and it keeps coming back. ...
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| trying to heal | 12/11/2008 |
Q: I left my boyfriend 2 months ago due to his chronic alcoholism. He would down 1/2 pint of jack a ...
A: Sounds like you were in an abusive relationship with that guy. An alcoholic will always blame the ...
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| My mom needs help!!! | 12/9/2008 |
Q: I am sixteen years old. My mom has, for the past two years, been trying to deal with an alcoholic ...
A: It sounds like your mom is codependent. She knows she shouldn't be in this relationship, but it's ...
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| Alcoholic Wife Relapse | 12/8/2008 |
Q: My wife is back to drinking after 2 stays in rehab this year, the latest being August, and she is on ...
A: Yes, in your wife's twisted thinking, the vanilla extract is not drinking. Same as drinking 'non ...
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| Alcoholic brother | 12/7/2008 |
Q: My brother has recently got divorced and he is so in love with this women to where he is literally ...
A: Now you're on to the next step. Check out rehabs. Find out all the particulars and if they have ...
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| Alcoholic brother | 12/6/2008 |
Q: My brother has recently got divorced and he is so in love with this women to where he is literally ...
A: Any emotional upheaval will send an alcoholic to the bottle. And your brother can't cope with all ...
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| Alcoholic | 12/3/2008 |
Q: My husband's father is an alcoholic (heavy alcoholic). Although I've not seen the behaviors one ...
A: You're husband's father probably has a very high tolerance for alcohol and so you won't see his ...
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| boyfriend is an alcoholic | 11/25/2008 |
Q: my friend has been dating her boyfriend for 2 months, he was a recovering alcoholic when they met ...
A: There are a few questions that need to be answered. The first one: how did your friend's boyfriend ...
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| fiance an alcoholic? | 11/24/2008 |
Q: Ok, i am about to get married in 5 days and the guy i am with has been drinking since we met about 7 ...
A: Yes it sounds like your fiance is an alcoholic, but if you want further evidence, these tests on my ...
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| I think my father is an Alcoholic | 11/23/2008 |
Q: I am twelve. My father likes to Drink, anD that was fine at first. It was never a problem before, ...
A: I think you're right. Your Dad is an alcoholic. He can't simply take one drink. This is very ...
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| alcoholic husband | 11/22/2008 |
Q: I AM DESPERATE TO FIND SOME DIRECTION IN MY LIFE. I FEEL LIKE I AM MARRIED TO TWO DIFFERENT ...
A: Be assured that you are married to only one person, but when he's wrapped up in the 'disease' he has ...
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| enabling | 11/21/2008 |
Q: I will try to make this as to the point as possible. I have a brother that is an alcholic but does ...
A: There are two theories on enabling and I'm sure you've heard the 1st one: Don't do anything unless ...
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| Partner returning from Rehab soon how do i respond in future | 11/13/2008 |
Q: I wonder if you can help by telling me where on the net i can get information on how to hadle my ...
A: There is no general answer to your individual problem, so it's doubtful if you'll find your answer ...
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| Alcohol Blackouts | 11/10/2008 |
Q: I drink probably once every month or 2, sometimes I go longer without drinking, but when I do, many ...
A: What you're describing is binge drinking. As you've discovered, binge drinking is very confusing ...
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| marriage | 11/8/2008 |
Q: My husband(11 months sober) and I got married about 4 months ago. We are already having problems. ...
A: It sounds like you have your hands full. In AA language, your husband may be 'clean but not sober'. ...
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| marriage problems | 11/8/2008 |
Q: My husband and I got married about 4 months ago. We are already having problems. All we do lately ...
A: It might be beneficial if you and your husband had a 'date night' once a week to go out for dinner, ...
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| Is my boyfriend an alcoholic? | 11/6/2008 |
Q: I think I know the answer to that question, but I want to be sure before I make any decisions that ...
A: It sounds like your boyfriend has numerous problems and copes with stress by using alcohol and pot. ...
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| Alcoholism | 11/3/2008 |
Q: My husband drinks 2- 3 glasses of wine (sometimes the whole bottle) at home about every other night. ...
A: A closet alcoholic is someone who hides alcohol and denies his drinking. I don't think that your ...
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| leting go of an alocholic son | 10/27/2008 |
Q: I have a son age 23 and his common law wife age 21, both are alcoholics and admit to being so. My ...
A: Your son and his wife are both young and have to get their lives on track. Are you in a position to ...
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| so confused | 10/23/2008 |
Q: I once dated a violent alcoholic til 3 years ago. I met a man 3 months ago who had killed a 22 year ...
A: Yes Kelly, you are right to leave this man. Think about it. He has to serve time for killing a 22 ...
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