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| Subject | Date Asked |
| sponsorship | 9/28/2009 |
| Q: know her a year We have a had a great trusting relationship, She called me from where she was ... A: Greetings to you, Alex. First, please consider this as an overall context: “Assuming we are ... | |
| AA sponsorship | 9/27/2009 |
| Q: I am an alcoholic that is 4 months into my recovery. While I drank off and on since I was 16, the ... A: Greetings to you, Tina! I have never before had a question quite like yours sent to me, but I ... | |
| alcoholism | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: . I'm really hoping to get some guidance here.. My boyfriend (he's 32) and I have been together ... A: Greetings to you, Lara. You have written: >> This is tough, because I'm already finding myself ... | |
| alcoholic boyfriend? | 9/6/2009 |
| Q: i'm writing from far away from us to you with hope of getting some help, i apologize for my grammar ... A: Greetings to you, Cris. You are being very wise, and I encourage you to go no farther in your ... | |
| Alcoholic relationships | 9/3/2009 |
| Q: I am a 49-yr old female that has been in recovery now for 5 yrs. and love it. My significant other, ... A: Greetings to you, Pam. You have written: >> I am a 49-yr old female that has been in recovery now ... | |
| partner of alcoholic | 8/30/2009 |
| Q: I am female, 40 years old, dating an admitted alcoholic. I have dated him on and off for 2 1/2 years ... A: Greetings to you, Deni. You have asked: >> What can or should I do? If you are asking what you ... | |
| Partner's Relaps | 8/28/2009 |
| Q: I've been with "Bill" for 11 years and we have a son together. It's been a very typical ... A: Greetings to you, Marie. Your feeling of having been “completely betrayed” is very understandable, ... | |
| david's question / your answer | 8/28/2009 |
| Q: i have a question about your response to david's question. he had mentioned in his story that he ... A: Greetings to you, H. You have written: >> i am confused about how he can be her "champion" if he ... | |
| GROWN SON ANGRY OUTBURSTS | 8/15/2009 |
| Q: I feel like today I was handed a new 20 y/o son into my life and it is devastating. His name is Joe, ... A: Greetings to you, Sally. Some of the details are different, of course, yet your letter reminds me ... | |
| alcoholic husband | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: I am married to a functioning alcoholic. He drinks every day, anywhere from 5-8 on weeknights after ... A: Greetings to you, Ann. You have asked: >> how long can this go on? It sounds to me like the ... | |
| Dealing with shame and regret | 7/3/2009 |
| Q: Greetings dear spirtual friend. I have read various exerts from you, one in particular that you ... A: Greetings to you, Maria. You have written: >> I wish I had a friend to talk with who could ... | |
| why did I over react when drunk? | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: After consuming alcohol I lied and exaggerated things talking with my best friend. After years of ... A: Greetings to you, Rai. You have asked: >> why did I over react when drunk? In an overall sense, ... | |
| Living with a drunk | 6/24/2009 |
| Q: I am living with a husband, that cares more about the next beer, than me or our children and ... A: Greetings to you, Linda. You have written: >> I am miserable! >> Am I supposed to live the rest of ... | |
| alchoholic partner, leave or stay? what to do? | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: We have lived together 2 yrs.I knew he drank somewhat when we lived apart, I have a drink about once ... A: Greetings again, Lisa. You have written: >> ... in the morning he will not remember a whole ... | |
| alchoholic partner, leave or stay? what to do? | 6/22/2009 |
| Q: We have lived together 2 yrs.I knew he drank somewhat when we lived apart, I have a drink about once ... A: Greetings to you, Lisa. I have a mental picture of your dilemma, and please allow me to comment as ... | |
| Alcohol is ruining my life | 6/19/2009 |
| Q: My name is Nick aged 37 who has been experiencing problems with alcohol abuse since I was 18. This ... A: Greetings to you, Nick. You have written: >> I seem to find that any little hassle in life pushes ... | |
| I broke up with a great guy because I think he is an alcoholic... | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: I was married for 13 years and dated very little before that. I divorced him after years of ... A: Greetings to you, Sarah. First, here is an excerpt from “Alcoholics Anonymous”, the book: “Here is ... | |
| Partner is drinking again | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: My partner of 2 years has been sober for 18 years, His son is reaching 17 and half, he lives with ... A: Greetings to you, Ann, and I advise you to run, run, run! Alcoholics go to A.A. to stop drinking ... | |
| what should i believe | 5/9/2009 |
| Q: I have a friend at work. All of my male coworkers say he is an alcoholic. Ive heard he drinks 10 to ... A: Greetings again, Jamie. It is good to hear you have learned more about your friend, and you ... | |
| Dealing with Alcoholism | 5/8/2009 |
| Q: I'm writing to you, as I'm sure many people do, because I feel completely lost and don't know what ... A: Greetings to you, Lolly. Yes, many like yourself do write because they “feel completely lost and ... | |
| what should i believe | 5/6/2009 |
| Q: I have a friend at work. All of my male coworkers say he is an alcoholic. Ive heard he drinks 10 to ... A: Greetings to you, Jamie. Yes, I would say your friend has a problem, and I would even suspect he ... | |
| Wifw and Mother isssues | 4/26/2009 |
| Q: In regards to the 3/27/06 question with the wife and mother addict. I have a similar wife and 2 ... A: Greetings to you, Schnuelle. You have asked: >> In regards to the 3/27/06 question with the wife ... | |
| How do I approach my father about his drinking? | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: I am 30 years old and have been watching my father deal with severe alcoholism for the past few ... A: Greetings to you, Mary. You have asked (and if I might presume to insert a word): >> How do I ... | |
| Is my behavior "right" | 3/28/2009 |
| Q: My husband has been drinking uncontrollably for 6 years. We have been through bankruptcy, ... A: Greetings to you, Janie. You have asked: >> Is my behavior "right"? Doing what is right and good ... | |
| Is my boyfriend an alcoholic? | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: I was raised with a father who drank every day after work. I never saw him drunk that I can ... A: Greetings to you, Tammy. You have asked: >> Is my boyfriend an alcoholic? You have possibly ... | |
| cant stop crying | 3/8/2009 |
| Q: joe to be honest i didnt even read your profile i just saw that you belong to the same fellowship ... A: Greetings to you, Jeff. Your words make perfect sense to me -- I have lived them. "Sufferingly ... | |
| alcoholism | 2/28/2009 |
| Q: I don't know where to start. I am 45 in a relationship with a man 58.We have been together for 3 ... A: Greetings to you, Michelle. You have written: >> He is European and has drank all his life. ... | |
| My Husband | 2/12/2009 |
| Q: My Husband and I have been married for about 3 years. This is a second marriage for the both of us. ... A: Greetings to you, Michelle. You are likely at least partly correct when you say your husband ... | |
| I'm not sure where to go from here??? | 2/10/2009 |
| Q: I feel like my question is endless! I'll try to make it simple. I am married to a man that I love ... A: Greetings to you, Shannon. First, please understand I do my best to try to help others get down to ... | |
| Our poisoned Trust | 2/7/2009 |
| Q: In writing to you, I am truly breaking one of my "protection barrier" rules. I guess you can say I ... A: Greetings again, Dawn. I can definitely understand your “kind of a pact to stick together and ... | |
| Our poisoned Trust | 2/6/2009 |
| Q: In writing to you, I am truly breaking one of my "protection barrier" rules. I guess you can say I ... A: Greetings to you, Dawn, and I hear your determined endurance You have written: >> I guess you can ... | |
| beer | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: about 5 years ago I started having trouble relaxing and sleeping.I started drinking a quart almost ... A: Greetings to you. Our human anxieties are quite natural, normal and even necessary, and so are our ... | |
| Extremely confused by recovering alcoholic | 1/23/2009 |
| Q: O, I am writing you, because your responses are so clear; and, I really appreciate clarity in the ... A: Greetings again, Laurie. You have asked: >> How am I shown the way [to and through a very narrow ... | |
| Extremely confused by recovering alcoholic | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: O, I am writing you, because your responses are so clear; and, I really appreciate clarity in the ... A: Greetings to you, Laurie. You have asked: >> Should I believe him when he says he wants to make it ... | |
| Christian wife seeks advice for husband | 12/31/2008 |
| Q: Because I am a Christian and have several children with my husband I have chosen to stay with him ... A: Greetings to you, Chrwife. You have written: >> I do realize there is a genetic propensity ... >> ... | |
| what if ??? | 12/17/2008 |
| Q: Are all people only a hostage to an alcholic that they love? I don't live with this guy only date ... A: Greetings again, Jessy. You might consider leaving a copy of "Alcoholics Anonymous", the book, ... | |
| what if ??? | 12/17/2008 |
| Q: Are all people only a hostage to an alcholic that they love? I don't live with this guy only date ... A: Greetings to you, Jessy. You have asked: >> Are all people only a hostage to an alcoholic they ... | |
| Is my husband a alcoholic | 12/15/2008 |
| Q: My husband likes to have a few drinks every evening after work. This has been going on for years. ... A: Greetings to you, Sonu. You have written: >> Is my husband an alcoholic >> ... likes to have a few ... | |
| My son is killing himself with alcohol | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: My son drinks 1/2 gallon of vodka every couple days. I want him to get help. He has been to AA ... A: Greetings to you, Tracie. It sounds to me like your son has you dancing around quite a bit, and the ... | |
| used, hurt and confused | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: I have written you 2 times in the past year and love your reply to my questions. Here goes again, I ... A: Greetings again, Lena. You have written: >> In the last month I did not hear from him ... >> ... ... | |
| Not supportive wife? | 11/14/2008 |
| Q: My husband is an alcoholic and attended AA meetings 5 days a weeks for several months. He recently ... A: Greetings to you, Tracy. First and overall, please read the chapter “To Wives”, in “Alcoholics ... | |
| I think my family has a problem | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: My husband was home on two weeks leave from a dry working environment. he was allowed two beer per ... A: Greetings to you, Amanda. First, please forgive me for taking so long to respond to you. I had to ... | |
| Emotionally fragile of late | 10/26/2008 |
| Q: I have been sober for 13 months and I am very active in AA. In recent weeks, the slightest little ... A: Greetings to you, Dave. In an overall sense, sadness stems from the area of expectations in ... | |
| which way to go | 10/19/2008 |
| Q: Here is my issue in a nutshell. After I moved in with my boyfriend, I discovered him to be an ... A: Greetings to you, Paula. You have written: >> I got fed up and moved out in with some family ... ... | |
| Alcolwithdrawl | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: My story is typical. Had a job, then another job. One child on the way then another. A beautiful ... A: Greetings to you, Beeg. In my own experience and as you have written, taking away the alcohol does ... | |
| Where Do I Go From Here? | 10/12/2008 |
| Q: I am in sad place right now...I do not know what do. My husband is an alcoholic, and is from a long ... A: Greetings to you, Ashley. You have written: >> [My husband] says he wants help and wants to ... | |
| Seeking help | 10/3/2008 |
| Q: I am a 30 year old female who has been drinking 1-2 bottles of wine per day for the last 2 years. ... A: Greetings to you, Jane. You have written: >> I have pain in my liver ... do you think my liver ... | |
| Stressed out | 10/1/2008 |
| Q: .I need help. My husband is an alcoholic. He drinks every day. When he comes home from work at ... A: Greetings to you, Shelley. You have written: >> I need help ... >> I've been to therapy ... >> I'm ... | |
| Support for my boyfriend in recovery | 9/29/2008 |
| Q: Please forgive me, if I sound ignorant. I have never done this before. My boyfriend of 5 months is ... A: Greetings to you, Susan. I believe your dilemma is one that is rather simple to understand, but one ... | |
| break up with fiance | 9/29/2008 |
| Q: I originally wrote to Derek and he replied, but now I have further questions and he's no longer ... A: Greetings to you, Shelley. You have written, and you asked: >> Derek indicated that [my fiancé’s] ... | |
| my husband is an alcoholic | 9/28/2008 |
| Q: My husband is an admitted alcholic. He has told me over and over again that he is not going to quit ... A: Greetings to you, Billie. You have written: >> I don't know how much more I can take. >> I am ... | |
| My new husband has returned to addictions | 9/26/2008 |
| Q: I married a wonderful and thoughtful man 5 weeks ago. It was the happiest day of my life. My husband ... A: Greetings to you, Tracia. You have asked: >> Where is the man I dated for a year? >> How did I not ... | |
| Emotional Maturity | 8/13/2008 |
| Q: my boyfriend is a recovering alcohol & drug addict. He has been in rehab now for about 2mths and ... A: Greetings to you, Chantel. You have asked: >> How long does it take for [a recovering alcohol & ... | |
| alcoholic roommate/boyfriend | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: I, in February, took it upon myself to help a man I had become friendly with because he needed a ... A: Greetings to you, Donna. You have written: >> I, in February, took it upon myself to help a man I ... | |
| dating a recovering alcoholic | 7/21/2008 |
| Q: I was dating a recovering alcoholic for 7 months. He had been sober for 3 years and drank for 20. ... A: Greetings to you, Lisa. You have asked: >> Can you speak to the emotional maturity of a recovering ... | |
| Is it possible to have arelationship with a recovering alcoholic? | 7/19/2008 |
| Q: My situation is this. I have been with my boyfriend, and now father of our almost 3 year old son, ... A: Greetings again, Karen. You have asked: >> ... so it looks like what you are saying is if he isn't ... | |
| Is it possible to have arelationship with a recovering alcoholic? | 7/16/2008 |
| Q: My situation is this. I have been with my boyfriend, and now father of our almost 3 year old son, ... A: Greetings to you, Karen. You have asked: Is it possible to have a relationship with a recovering ... | |
| Just left my alcoholic boyfriend | 7/12/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating this man for over a year and have loved him with all my heart. Long before he met ... A: Greetings to you, Sue. You have written: >> I discovered an empty vodka bottle ... he completely ... | |
| Consfused | 7/10/2008 |
| Q: I wrote you a few months ago and loved the feedback you gave me, so here I go again with another ... A: Here is my e-mail address, Lena, and you are certainly welcomed to write any time: ... | |
| alcoholic husband | 7/8/2008 |
| Q: I started al-anon and reading your site. Thanks for the help. I don't understand how to show love ... A: Greetings to you, Nessa. I believe I hear your struggles, and I will gladly do whatever I can to ... | |
| Alcohol Drinking | 7/7/2008 |
| Q: Is it possible for a person to drink every night for 30 years and not be an alcoholic? If yes, how ... A: Greetings again, Brenda. Your husband’s drinking certainly sounds alcoholic, and I will try to ... | |
| restore marraige to alcoholic ex | 7/5/2008 |
| Q: Mr. Lee, I wrote you back in December about my husband who had gone through terrible DT's and was ... A: Greetings again, Pat. It is impossible to know precisely what will happen in the days ahead, but ... | |
| Alcohol Drinking | 7/2/2008 |
| Q: Is it possible for a person to drink every night for 30 years and not be an alcoholic? If yes, how ... A: Greetings to you, Brenda. You have asked: >> Is it possible for a person to drink every night for ... | |
| A friend of Bill W. | 6/22/2008 |
| Q: I was wondering if you had more to add to pg. 21 of the Big Book where the real alcoholic is ... A: Greetings again, Keith. Yes, I have heard of the acetaldehyde THIQ factor, and I believe you and I ... | |
| A friend of Bill W. | 6/22/2008 |
| Q: I was wondering if you had more to add to pg. 21 of the Big Book where the real alcoholic is ... A: Greetings again, Keith. Yes, that is my sobriety date, and yes, you are welcomed to write using my ... | |
| A friend of Bill W. has a question | 6/21/2008 |
| Q: I was wondering if you had more to add to pg. 21 of the Big Book where the real alcoholic is ... A: Greetings to you, Keith. Even still after these past twenty-five-plus years of being a diligent ... | |
| Alchoholic Wife | 6/19/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married 24 years, we both work fulltime, and have a son 23 who still lives ... A: Greetings to you, Mark. You have asked: >> What do I do? First, please understand (or remember) ... | |
| recovering alcoholic | 6/19/2008 |
| Q: My husband has been sober for 6 months and attending AA with a sponsor. He has a 15 yo stepson, my ... A: Greetings to you, Patsy. First, and if you can find a quiet moment to do so, suggest to your ... | |
| Help a Mom | 6/12/2008 |
| Q: Sandy is 39. Left her husband and 4 young kids 3 years ago while in rehab for another alcoholic.Has ... A: Greetings to you, Barb. You have written: >> She always says I cant do this anymore and goes ... | |
| follow up to question: is husband "a drinker" or alcoholic | 5/30/2008 |
| Q: How can I know if my husband's drinking is "reasonable" or crossing over into alcoholism? Am I ... A: Greetings again, Dawn, and I thank you for your continued candor. That really helps here. You have ... | |
| is husband "a drinker" or an alcoholic? | 5/29/2008 |
| Q: How can I know if my husband's drinking is "reasonable" or crossing over into alcoholism? Am I ... A: Greetings to you, Dawn. I might be the only one who ever does this, but I sometimes like to ... | |
| drinking partner | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: My partner who I have been together with since I was 17 were are now 40 insists that he wishes to ... A: Greetings to you, EmmaKatlin. As you might already know, people drink for all kinds of reasons. ... | |
| relationship with a recovering alcoholic | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: I am a recently divorce woman in my 40's. My ex was emotionally abusive and I am an ACOA ... A: Greetings to you, Catherine. You have asked: >> Can you shed any light on his behavior? In its ... | |
| memory loss | 5/24/2008 |
| Q: my question is regarding memory loss during drinking. There have been occasions when I awake from a ... A: Greetings to you, Kristen. Excessive drinking can cause alcohol-induced amnesia, where memory gets ... | |
| Setting boudaries with problem-drinking husband | 5/13/2008 |
| Q: I've been married to my husband for almost one year, but we've been together for 8. We've always ... A: Greetings to you, Leah. Offering advice or suggestions as to “setting boundaries” is something I ... | |
| RECOVERED PREGNANT WOMAN BACKING OUT! | 5/9/2008 |
| Q: I came across this page out of desperation. I a, in a very intense relationship with a woman that ... A: Greetings again, Jason. For me to get to the bottom of why the woman in question has taken her ... | |
| RECOVERED PREGNANT WOMAN BACKING OUT! | 5/8/2008 |
| Q: I came across this page out of desperation. I a, in a very intense relationship with a woman that ... A: Greetings to you, Jason. You have written: >> Now she is saying we went to fast and couldn't be ... | |
| I have recently found out that my best friend of 24 years is an alcoholic | 5/6/2008 |
| Q: I am heartsick right now. I have a friend, Cathy - my best friend - who told me about a year ago ... A: Greetings to you, Annette. I commend your concern for your friend, and I empathize with her in her ... | |
| Blue book | 5/4/2008 |
| Q: I have a copy of Alcoholics Anonymous 4th edition...just want to ask if there are any editions that ... A: Greetings again, TJ. Here is an excerpt from the Preface to the third edition: "... the first ... | |
| Hi again | 5/1/2008 |
| Q: I've been chewing a lot of much of your response to my first question, and I have an overwhelming ... A: Greetings again, TJ. You have written: >> I've been chewing a lot ... and I have an overwhelming ... | |
| insight please! | 4/29/2008 |
| Q: I stumbled upon this website accidentally...or probably by divine appointment. Anyway, I'm ... A: Greetings to you, TJ. You have written: >> I struggle with intense feelings of anger towards my ... | |
| not sure what to do | 4/29/2008 |
| Q: I am Nichole, I have been with ths same guy for almost 6 years now, we have two beautiful children, ... A: Greetings to you, Nichole. It is nearly impossible to give very much specific advice from a ... | |
| restore marraige to alcoholic ex | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: Mr. Lee, I wrote you back in December about my husband who had gone through terrible DT's and was ... A: Greetings again, Pat. Your update is certainly encouraging ... yet please go slowly and cautiously. ... | |
| Trying to understand my friends behavior | 4/27/2008 |
| Q: I have been close friends with an alcoholic for 2 years, since we met in graduate school. My ... A: Greetings again, Laura. You have written: >> He is aware that I have feelings for him ... >> He ... | |
| Trying to understand my friends behavior | 4/26/2008 |
| Q: I have been close friends with an alcoholic for 2 years, since we met in graduate school. My ... A: Greetings to you, Laura. A bit of seeming schizophrenia or psychosis comes to mind as one ... | |
| burning off alcohol | 4/25/2008 |
| Q: Can the body burn off alcohol with exercise? Some say no and some say yes.Those who say no claim ... A: Greetings to you, rj. You have asked: >> Can the body burn off alcohol with exercise? No, not in ... | |
| Advice-I'm newly sober | 4/21/2008 |
| Q: I have been involved with a recovered alcoholic for a year and a half. He has been sober for 24 ... A: Greetings again, Kris. You have written: >> I've taken a long, hard look at myself and my ... | |
| Advice-I'm newly sober | 4/21/2008 |
| Q: I have been involved with a recovered alcoholic for a year and a half. He has been sober for 24 ... A: Greetings to you, Kris. You have asked: >> Can a person that has been through aa and has been ... | |
| son and alcohol abuse | 4/9/2008 |
| Q: The article about the parent writing about their 24 year old son could have been written by me. My ... A: Greetings to you, Chris. As a recovered-alcoholic father of two daughters with alcoholic pasts of ... | |
| emotional and verbal abuse | 4/6/2008 |
| Q: I am married to a sociopath who has emotionally and verbally abused me for 20 years. I eventually ... A: Greetings to you, Lorinda. You have written: >> I need to turn my life around for my own well being ... | |
| Alcoholic partner | 4/3/2008 |
| Q: Well ,how do I start, me and my partner of 12 years been together for a long time. We both are 29 ... A: Greetings to you, Samantha. I do hear what you are saying, and I do understand. You love this man ... | |
| alcoholic wife | 4/1/2008 |
| Q: My wife is an alcoholic. She is currently in rehab for the second time in 6 months. She entered ... A: Greetings to you, Dave. First to answer at least part of a specific question you have asked: >> ... | |
| Do I have to bury my husband | 3/27/2008 |
| Q: I got married one year ago to a 53 year old manchild. He is a binge drinker and quite fond of ... A: Greetings to you, Karla. You might have to talk with an attorney to get a sure answer to your ... | |
| X-Boyfriend Alcholic | 3/25/2008 |
| Q: I am writing to explain my situation to you, hopefully you can help me. I was in a 4 year ... A: Greetings to you, Lena. I must admit I have never before heard a story quite like yours, and I have ... | |
| MY SON --- IN JAIL---DUI | 3/24/2008 |
| Q: I know NOTHING about AA other than it exists and has helped many people. My son, 41 is currently in ... A: Greetings to you, Rileen. It is going to take a few days for me to begin trying to help you compose ... | |
| alcoholic wife | 3/15/2008 |
| Q: My wife is an alcoholic. She is currently in rehab for the second time in 6 months. She entered ... A: Greetings again, Dave, and yes, your focus should be on your children. You have written: >> my ... | |
| alcoholic wife | 3/15/2008 |
| Q: My wife is an alcoholic. She is currently in rehab for the second time in 6 months. She entered ... A: Greetings to you, Dave. You have written: >> My wife is an alcoholic. If that is so, that means ... | |
| follow up | 3/2/2008 |
| Q: I am writing again for follow up. After telling my partner that i can no longer stay if he keeps ... A: Greetings again, Heather. You have asked: >> Am i being a bad partner for leaving him with our ... | |
| my husband's drinking | 2/29/2008 |
| Q: i recently confronted my husband about his alcoholism. it wasn't in the way that the online advisors ... A: Greetings again, Pamela. Yes, you can probably get a copy of “Alcoholics Anonymous”, the book, just ... | |
| my husband's drinking | 2/27/2008 |
| Q: i recently confronted my husband about his alcoholism. it wasn't in the way that the online advisors ... A: Greetings to you, Pamela. I hear your situation, and you have done the right thing. And if you are ... | |
| Husband runs away from marriage | 2/26/2008 |
| Q: My husband left Dec. 19. He said it didn't feel like his house. We married three years ago. I ... A: Greetings to you, Gwen. You have asked: >> Who is this man? I would have to know more about him ... | |
| Is my husband near rock bottom | 2/25/2008 |
| Q: So much has happened in last few days. Iv just found out that 1 of the women he living with has just ... A: Greetings again, Heidi. You have written: >> I think iv hit my own rock bottom. Yes, in a sense, ... | |
| Is my husband near rock bottom | 2/24/2008 |
| Q: My AH Drinks all day every day has been doing so for 9-10 yrs. he is currently living between 2 diff ... A: Greetings to you, Heidi. You have asked and reported: >> Is my husband near rock bottom? >> He ... | |
| leaving | 2/23/2008 |
| Q: I told him i would stay if he gave it up but of course he said no way - he doesnt need to he says. ... A: Greetings to you, Heather. If your partner truly is alcoholic, and I do not suggest he is not, his ... | |
| Both Parents are alcoholics | 2/22/2008 |
| Q: I am only 15 years old, my parents been alcoholics since before i was even born, i was born with ... A: Greetings to you, Jenna, and please let me try to be helpful to you. I am almost old enough to be ... | |
| my boyfriend. plz help | 2/21/2008 |
| Q: i have been living with my boyfriend for about 2 years now. i am 21 and he is turning 30 this year. ... A: Greetings to you, Kitty. You have asked: >> am i wasting my life, or can he acctually ever be a ... | |
| My boyfriend is an alcoholic | 2/18/2008 |
| Q: Good morning, Ok. This is not my first relationship where alcohol plays a part. I have been ... A: Greetings to you, Angela. I commend your definition of a “perfect person”, and I share your grief ... | |
| Girlfriend in AA Recovery | 2/11/2008 |
| Q: About 4 months ago my girlfriend entered a month long, medically supervised program for depression ... A: Greetings to you, John, and I will do my very best to be helpful here. Overall, it sounds to me ... | |
| ex | 2/5/2008 |
| Q: I wanted to send this email for two reasons first to thank you for your advice. I wrote to you ... A: Greetings again, Michele. I do not know enough details to put everything in an absolutely-clear ... | |
| ALCOHOLISM | 2/4/2008 |
| Q: WHAT IS HAPPENING TO THE BODY DURING TERMINAL STAGES OF ALCOHOLISM ? HOLDING WATER, SWOLLEN BELLY ... A: Greetings to you, Tom. I would certainly try to answer your question if I could, but I can only ... | |
| Newlyweds need a change! | 1/17/2008 |
| Q: I'm at a crossroads. In July, I married a guy I had dated on and off for 6 years. I met him when I ... A: Greetings to you, Evonne. I have been pondering your letter for a couple of days now, and I have ... | |
| First time drinker | 1/12/2008 |
| Q: I'm very new to alcohol and I was wondering if you could help me understand the subject better. Last ... A: Greetings to you, Micahel(sp?). You have written: >> I'm very new to alcohol and I was wondering ... | |
| My husband IS an alcoholic | 1/11/2008 |
| Q: I am lost right now. My husband is an alcoholic. I grew up with alcoholics, so it is only natural ... A: Greetings to you, Julie. You have written: >> It's ... hard to determine what is normal when ... | |
| alcoholic husband | 1/6/2008 |
| Q: I need change but don't know what to do. I dated a man for 7 years and then married him. We used ... A: Greetings to you, Jade. I have heard you, and you have my full attention. I do not have specific ... | |
| ex husband | 1/3/2008 |
| Q: i lived with my ex for 15 years we have one child of our own and he helped me raise my daughter ... A: Greetings to you, Michele. You have written: >> he claims now that he is able to drink but doesn’t ... | |
| What to do with an alcoholic friend? | 1/3/2008 |
| Q: First and foremost, thank you for taking the time to read this. My fiancee's dear friend, G, is a ... A: Greetings to you, Jonas. I believe I hear your heart, and you are welcome to my time. You have ... | |
| Alcohol | 12/30/2007 |
| Q: When your drunk does your true feelings come out?? My ex and i went out for 5 months and he broke up ... A: Greetings to you, Theresa. You have asked: >> When your drunk does your true feelings come out?? ... | |
| divorce & alcoholism | 12/30/2007 |
| Q: I remarried about 4 yrs. ago. I am now 60 and my husband is 67. My children are all grown and so ... A: You are welcome. It does not sound like your husband has any serious brain damage, but keep in mind ... | |
| divorce & alcoholism | 12/28/2007 |
| Q: I remarried about 4 yrs. ago. I am now 60 and my husband is 67. My children are all grown and so ... A: Greetings to you, Patricia. You have not mentioned any period(s) of sobriety, yet your apparent ... | |
| feelings of guilt over having left an alcoholic | 12/23/2007 |
| Q: I was dating a girl for just about a year. When we met, she had just gotten a DUI and her drinking ... A: Greetings to you, David. If I might begin at the end of your letter, you have asked: >> i guess my ... | |
| Commiting to marriage when in AA | 12/21/2007 |
| Q: Will you marry me???? A Question from my Girl friend. How do I respond? I am trying to reach my ... A: Greetings to you, Kevin. You have asked: >> I love her, I had 26 months, relapsed, I am back in ... | |
| what can be done? | 12/21/2007 |
| Q: I met my boyfriend when i was 12 and he was 16. He used to get badly drunk every weekend ie. being ... A: Greetings to you, Lianne. You have written: >> Shock tactics seem to have the best type of ... | |
| why can't I let him go... | 12/19/2007 |
| Q: I'm sorry if this is long winded, I will keep it as brief as possible. My boyfriend and I (he lives ... A: Greetings to you, Janet. You have asked: >> ... why can't I follow through on knowing what is ... | |
| alcoholic husband files for divorce | 12/17/2007 |
| Q: My second marriage is ending. I married my husband 3 years ago and his drinking as escalated to an ... A: Greetings again, JoMarie. You have written: >> I want so badly for him to change his mind. ... | |
| alcoholic husband files for divorce | 12/14/2007 |
| Q: My second marriage is ending. I married my husband 3 years ago and his drinking as escalated to an ... A: Greetings to you, JoMarie. You have written: >> He says he is not in love with me ... >> He says ... | |
| alcoholic boyfriend....need help!! | 12/12/2007 |
| Q: I need lots of help and your advise....please please !! My boyfriend is an alcoholic and admits to ... A: Greetings to you, Nova. You have written and asked: >> When we talk about this problem he agrees ... | |
| how to lead a step one share meeting | 12/11/2007 |
| Q: i will be leading a meeting where a member will be sharing his first step with our group, which is ... A: Greetings to you, Roger. Without knowing how your group’s meetings are usually conducted, it is ... | |
| Psychological/Mental causes of addiction | 12/10/2007 |
| Q: For a school project I'm doing research to the mental/psychological causes of addiction, and I was ... A: Greetings to you, Joël. You have asked: >> What are the proven mental/psychological causes of ... | |
| I need help!!! | 12/7/2007 |
| Q: I am in desperate need of some help. I am 33 years old and have fallen in love with someone who is ... A: Greetings again, Elizabeth. You have written: >> I am 33 years old and have fallen in love with ... | |
| My spouse | 12/4/2007 |
| Q: about almost a year ago I got with my spouse. She has been clean from drugs and alcohol for a ... A: Greetings again, Kim. You had written: >> ... she is saying she is her own person and shouldn’t be ... | |
| Should i stay with my boyfriend who is an alcoholic | 11/12/2007 |
| Q: My Boyfriend of 2 years has finally admitted, sober, to me that he is an alcoholic. He is 28 and I ... A: Greetings to you, Claire. You have written: >> I want to do the right thing for my boyfriend and ... | |
| Alcoholism/addiction | 11/11/2007 |
| Q: I understand alocholism/addiction is a disease and that it affects the brain, what I don't ... A: Greetings to you, Terry. You have written: >> I understand alcoholism/addiction is a disease ... ... | |
| Hope and Trepidation | 10/29/2007 |
| Q: My father died of alcoholism. Because of this tragedy I never drank - I was (am) too afraid of it. ... A: Greetings to you, Merideth. First, please allow me to commend your consciousness-of-self and your ... | |
| Boyfriend possibly an alcholic | 10/15/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriends' parents are regular drinkers (everyday) they seem to have all their priorties in ... A: Greetings to you. You have written: >> ... when he drinks ... he becomes irrational ... somewhat ... | |
| I need to leave my alcoholic boyfriend! | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. We have been living together for ... A: Greetings to you, Stephanie. You have asked: >> What do I do if he threatens to commit suicide? ... | |
| My boyfriend goes to AA meetings with an ex girlfriend | 9/6/2007 |
| Q: my boyfriend of four years recently started attending AA. He has 30 days, which is great. However, ... A: Greetings to you, Samantha. Most people do not realize "dating" is a setup and practice for the ... | |
| alcoholism | 8/29/2007 |
| Q: i am 33 years old and recently quit drinking.i have been suffering from insomnia,depression,mood ... A: Greetings to you, Jimmy. You have written: >> I am 33 years old and recently quit drinking. I ... | |
| My husband has a problem! | 8/23/2007 |
| Q: Ok, when my husband and I first got together 6 years ago. He would hit me and push me and pull my ... A: Greetings to you, Jeri. You have written: >> I don't know what to do. First, tell your husband ... | |
| what do i do? | 8/22/2007 |
| Q: I have a boyfriend who is 23 years old. It seems the normal that young people get drunk all the ... A: Greetings to you, Maria. You have written: >> I have a boyfriend who is 23 years old. It is well ... | |
| Is my husband an alcoholic? | 8/14/2007 |
| Q: My husband drinks a lot of beer (6/day at least and more on the weekends) Everyday. Does this alone ... A: Greetings to you, Sherry. You have written: >> My husband drinks a lot of beer ... Does this ... | |
| My brother's alcoholism | 8/13/2007 |
| Q: My 50-year old brother, who I love deeply, is in the hospital for what was initially a ... A: Greetings to you, Suzie. Here is the so-called “bottom line” for any alcoholic: --- “If, when you ... | |
| Getting back to track | 8/13/2007 |
| Q: I used to be a regular drinker since last 4 years. First, it was once or twice a week. But it kept ... A: Greetings to you, Marvi. You have written: >> ... yesterday, I finally decided to quit and through ... | |
| what defines an alcholic | 8/13/2007 |
| Q: My husband drinks almost everyday yet he says he does not have a problem, about a year ago it was ... A: Greetings to you, Kay. It would be difficult for me to believe someone who drinks a daily beer has ... | |
| Help with how to handle partner's relapse | 8/7/2007 |
| Q: I am a 36 year old male and I am writing about a 37 year old woman. I started dating a woman in ... A: Greetings to you, Vince. You have written: >> I don't know what to do. I care for her, but my ... | |
| can my husband drinkless? | 8/6/2007 |
| Q: my husband drink beers a lot and he verbally abuse me, what can i do to stop this abuse. A: Greetings to you, Kelly. I do not know enough about you, your husband or your situation to say very ... | |
| alcoholism and betrayal | 8/4/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend is an alcoholic and has blackouts. We are beginning councelling today. During his ... A: Greetings to you, Jacqueline. You have written: >> My boyfriend ... Some people become upset on ... | |
| My partner is an alcoholic | 8/4/2007 |
| Q: My partner is an alcoholic. As I write out this question, she is currently MIA. She was supposed ... A: Greetings to you, Traci. You have written: >> I chose to discuss this situation with you because ... | |
| What to do | 8/2/2007 |
| Q: My husband insists he is not an Alcoholic, Although he can go about 2 days without it, I always know ... A: Greetings to you, Colleen. Even for someone who is *not* being directly affected by the actions of ... | |
| I don't need aa meetings | 8/1/2007 |
| Q: Sometimes I feel like I don't need aa meetings, I can admit right now I'm an alcoholic. Every day ... A: Greetings to you, Nicki. You have written: >> Sometimes I feel like I don't need aa meetings ... ... | |
| alcholic husband has left me | 7/17/2007 |
| Q: I have read your story and hoped you may be able to help me understand what is going on in my ... A: Greetings again, Angela. You have written: >> I just wanted to ask what advice you could give me ... | |
| alcholic husband has left me | 7/16/2007 |
| Q: I have read your story and hoped you may be able to help me understand what is going on in my ... A: Greetings to you, Angela. You have written: >> I have read your story and hoped you may be able to ... | |
| achoholic boyfriend | 7/7/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been through hell the last year. The last episode he revealed he was ... A: Greetings to you, Michelle. In my own experience-based opinion, you were thinking clearly here: >> ... | |
| How to apologize for things said when drinking | 7/5/2007 |
| Q: A few days ago I got out of work at 3 and met up with friends for happy hour. I had 3-4 drinks and ... A: Greetings to you, Claudia. First, I do not know any way to “take back” something already done or ... | |
| Partners priority for alcohol over me | 6/28/2007 |
| Q: My partner has always been secretive about much of his life and will not live with me and I love him ... A: Greetings to you, Dave. You have asked: >> Can you give me sources or discuss the self-involvement ... | |
| brother's alcoholism | 6/27/2007 |
| Q: My brother is 50 years old. Alcoholism has cost him his job, his driver's license, his wife & 3 ... A: Greetings again, Delores. You have asked, “How do I cope?” That question is nearly impossible for ... | |
| going-to-be alcoholic? | 6/24/2007 |
| Q: I'm 18 years old, female. I'm not an alcoholic yet. I'm not sure about how bad alcohol will affect a ... A: Greetings to you, Jo. My own beginning experiences with alcohol and drinking were identical to ... | |
| How to stand my ground with an alcoholic | 6/24/2007 |
| Q: I have been living with an alcoholic man for over 2 years. This is not the first alcoholic ... A: Greetings to you, Anna. One of my own past relationships immediately came to mind as I read about ... | |
| brother's alcoholism | 6/22/2007 |
| Q: My brother is 50 years old. Alcoholism has cost him his job, his driver's license, his wife & 3 ... A: Greetings to you, Delores. Having described your and your brother’s very-different lives, you have ... | |
| my x left me 2 weeks into recovery | 6/14/2007 |
| Q: I am so lost. Back in April my x went to rehab after me telling a judge to put him there instead of ... A: Greetings to you, Lena. Of all the letters I get from people, especially women, either involved ... | |
| My Fiancee | 6/13/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my fiancee for 6 years. He is an alcoholic. He is on his 3rd DWI and is facing a ... A: Greetings again, Bethany. I had written: "Get out while you can and stay out, completely, until you ... | |
| My Fiancee | 6/13/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my fiancee for 6 years. He is an alcoholic. He is on his 3rd DWI and is facing a ... A: Greetings to you, Bethany. The first thing you need to know is whether your fiancé wants to stop ... | |
| Relapse | 6/11/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend who had been sober for 5 years through rehab and AA has started drinking again. As far ... A: Greetings to you, Heather. It is because “rehab” and today’s AA do *not* offer permanent recovery ... | |
| Getting ready for rehab in a couple days | 6/7/2007 |
| Q: I have made the decision to stop drinking. I am in a relationship where I finally feel I can be ... A: Greetings to you, April. Since you have not actually asked a question, I am not sure of the best ... | |
| My alcoholic husband just left | 6/5/2007 |
| Q: My husband returned from a fishing trip last Monday and told me he wanted a divorce. We have been ... A: Greetings to you, Anne. This one line from “Alcoholics Anonymous”, the book, first comes to mind ... | |
| bender | 6/1/2007 |
| Q: My friend is a lesbian and her partner has gone off at the moment as she is on a bender. This time ... A: Greetings again, Sue. I might not be clearly understanding just who is doing what in this ... | |
| bender | 5/31/2007 |
| Q: My friend is a lesbian and her partner has gone off at the moment as she is on a bender. This time ... A: Greetings to you, Sue. You have asked, "Do you think the only solution now is to not have her back ... | |
| daugher's alcoholic boyfriend | 5/29/2007 |
| Q: when she asks for advice. She is engaged to an alcoholic boyfriend. He is 38 yrs old, and has had ... A: Greetings to you, Jane. One thing you might tell your daughter is that there is absolutely nothing ... | |
| married to an alcoholic | 5/28/2007 |
| Q: I am married to a wonderful man when he is sober, but when he drinks it is another story all ... A: Greetings to you, Patty. Yours is a most difficult situation, and you should do whatever is best ... | |
| ex's addiction to alcohol and sudden proposal | 5/24/2007 |
| Q: my ex and I dated for 6-8 months. The whole time we dated I knew he was addicted to alcohol and ... A: Greetings to you, Lerin. You have written, >> my ex and I dated for 6-8 months ... he would ... | |
| friend married to an alcoholic | 5/22/2007 |
| Q: My best friend has been married to an alcoholic for 7 years now. For the entire time I've been the ... A: Greetings to you, Tracy. First, please try to understand there is nothing your friend can do about ... | |
| can alcoholics drink | 5/18/2007 |
| Q: my husband is an alcoholic. He has been in outpatient rehab. He drinks sometimes now but does seem ... A: Greetings again, Karon. You have asked, “How should I talk to [my husband] or get through to him ... | |
| memory loss | 5/17/2007 |
| Q: I am 22 and when i drink i dont remember parts of the night at all. Pretty much all of it i foret- ... A: Greetings to you, Jolie. My suspicion would be that your tolerance level for alcohol has decreased ... | |
| can alcoholics drink | 5/11/2007 |
| Q: my husband is an alcoholic. He has been in outpatient rehab. He drinks sometimes now but does seem ... A: Greetings to you, Karon. I certainly have no idea whether this truly fits your husband’s case, but ... | |
| selective memory and getting involved too soon | 5/10/2007 |
| Q: my husband is a long time alcholic and after promising me for the last time that he would not drink ... A: Greetings to you, Marie. You have asked, “Where can I get a good understanding of alcoholic ... | |
| Finding the path | 5/8/2007 |
| Q: , It's been a while, and sorry I never got back to your last email. I was headed further down the ... A: Hey, John. Certainly, we can talk about anything you want to talk about. At the meeting you are ... | |
| Boyfriend binge drinks weekends then smokes crack | 4/27/2007 |
| Q: We live together,For one year now. He moved into my place from being in a halfway house. I didn't ... A: Greetings to you. Letters such as yours are not uncommon, and they always cause me to again ponder ... | |
| boyfriends rage from no alcohol? | 4/24/2007 |
| Q: so, yesterday we went to the park to fly kites ... my boyfriend, myself, his son and my two kids. as ... A: Greetings to you, mrembro. I would first comment on some bits and pieces you have reported: > ... ... | |
| Family and Relationships | 4/5/2007 |
| Q: My mother has been drinking heavily for about 10 years now, after 10 years of sobriety after ... A: Greetings to you, Katie. You have written, “I am so uncomfortable with ditching someone and giving ... | |
| Recovery | 4/1/2007 |
| Q: My AH has been sober going on 6 months during this period of time he attends AA meeting, Mass two ... A: Greetings to you, Lynn. First, and in an overall sense, it is important to know and understand that ... | |
| How can I tell if my boyfriend has been drinking? | 3/28/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. When we first met, he told me that he was an alcoholic. ... A: Greetings to you, Callie. You have asked, “... how can I be sure that he really is drinking and ... | |
| Family needs help with alcoholic | 3/1/2007 |
| Q: Before I began, I would to apologize for the length of my story. I have a 35-year old female cousin ... A: Greetings to you, Mayra. It is important here to first know and understand, and maybe you already ... | |
| does he remember? | 2/13/2007 |
| Q: sir The other night, I was working out at a gym and I noticed my friend who works there and I ... A: Greetings to you, Yan. It is certainly possible your friend cannot recall details after drinking, ... | |
| Quality of Life and Self-Perception | 1/31/2007 |
| Q: My mother has been a highly volatile alcoholic for almost as long as I can remember, but I came to ... A: Greetings to you, Lynz. If you can look past the material nature of this analogy and substitute ... | |
| MY HUSBAND IS AN ALCHOLIC MY CHILDREN ARE BEGINNING TO SUFFER | 1/14/2007 |
| Q: WHAT DO YOU DO WITH A HUSBAND THAT REFUSES HELP? AND SAYS HE HAS NO PROBLEM? HE IS 56 AND I AM 40. ... A: Greetings to you, Alicia. The first think you should do that will be helpful to you is to read ... | |
| My fiancee wets the bed every night after drinking | 1/9/2007 |
| Q: Is this a common effect for most alcoholics. Did this ever happen to you, if you dont mind me ... A: Greetings to you, Michelle. If you have a father or uncle or brother or just about anyone else you ... | |
| curing alcoholism | 1/6/2007 |
| Q: I am doing a project in biology about how alcohol effects the brain and body. I would really ... A: Greetings to you, Patricia! Thank you so much for writing, and I do believe I can offer some ... | |
| son drinking problem | 12/30/2006 |
| Q: My son is 24 years old. He has been arrested at least a dozen times for public drunkenness, DUI's ... A: Greetings to you, Amy. You seem to be well aware and certainly gaining in wisdom on many issues. ... | |
| alcoholic husband | 12/18/2006 |
| Q: I feel like my kids and my life is complete madness. My husband is a functional alcoholic. He has ... A: Greetings to you, L. I believe there is no greater “madness”, as you have called it, than that of ... | |
| girlfriend in treatment | 12/15/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend of 6 months, after hiding her disease very well, has recently hit rock bottom and ... A: Greetings to you, John. The first thing I would suggest here is that you get a copy of “Alcoholics ... | |
| Brother with depression and alcoholism | 12/9/2006 |
| Q: I am 32 years old with a 30 year old brother with whom I share a duplex. He has been drinking hard ... A: Greetings to you, Nik. Although this might not be the best advice you might receive from someone ... | |
| I think my husband is an alcoholic | 12/8/2006 |
| Q: I think my marriage is in trouble. I believe my husband is an alcoholic. We have been married for 10 ... A: Greetings to you, Rose. You might already know many husbands and wives find themselves in ... | |
| i'm an alcoholic | 11/28/2006 |
| Q: how did you manage to stay alcohol free. it is so hard for me to do. please help A: Greetings to you, Gawain. You have written, “how did you manage to stay alcohol free. it is so hard ... | |
| Need advice.... | 11/25/2006 |
| Q: My 60 year old boyfriend is addicted to narcotic drugs and washes them down with bourbon. I have ... A: Greetings to you, Claire. Your situation could be a touchy one. Maybe none of his family knows and ... | |
| alocholic | 11/25/2006 |
| Q: Iam an regular and compulsive alcoholic for the past 4 years, smoker for the past 10 years. last 4 ... A: Greetings to you, Ani. Because I am not a medical doctor, I do not know what medical tests you ... | |
| another fall | 11/17/2006 |
| Q: I recently asked your advice on my friend who is an alcoholic. As I told you in my previous message ... A: Greetings again, Mary. The one thing you might be able to convey to your friend is that he does not ... | |
| alcohol | 11/17/2006 |
| Q: why did you start it? how hard was it to stop? how old were you when you started drinking? did it ... A: Greetings to you, Cody. You have asked: >> how old were you when you started drinking? >> why did ... | |
| my friend is an alcoholic | 11/13/2006 |
| Q: Two years ago I met a man who impacted my life so severely, that not a day goes by without me ... A: Greetings to you, Mary. Some of the things you may have learned about alcoholism might ultimately ... | |
| Husband's alcoholism responsible for his words? | 10/24/2006 |
| Q: I am distraught, because my husband of three years, who I've recently figured out is an alcoholic ... A: Greetings to you, Grace. Yes, I would say your husband certainly seems alcoholic, and I grieve for ... | |
| wife has drinking problem | 10/18/2006 |
| Q: Yes, I am willing to be an active participant in my wife's recovery. However, I would like to keep ... A: Greetings again, Art, and I thank you for bearing with me as I try to think many things through “on ... | |
| wife has drinking problem | 10/16/2006 |
| Q: I have heard that alcoholics have to hit "rock bottom" before they decide to quit for good. Is this ... A: If near the end of my drinking you had asked me for a definition of "life", I could/would have said ... | |
| Hope of being normal | 10/2/2006 |
| Q: Joe, Thanks for the quick reply. I took a little time to ponder the question you had asked about ... A: Greetings again, John. Sorting all the facts, feelings and what-abouts can be tedious, but a little ... | |
| Hope of being normal | 10/1/2006 |
| Q: Joe, You really do a great service being here for people when they don’t know where to turn next. ... A: Greetings again, John! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note ... | |
| How to help my Alcoholic Boyfriend? | 9/28/2006 |
| Q: I have been dating/seeing my boyfriend for 3 years off and on. I knew he drank way before I started ... A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| Answer | 9/25/2006 |
| Q: Is there help online A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| i am partner of alcoholic | 9/24/2006 |
| Q: i am partner of alcoholic.he is lovely man with big heart.not violent.i dont know what to do to help ... A: Greetings again, Donna! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note ... | |
| help me please | 9/15/2006 |
| Q: Followup To Question -Hi Lee At the moment i am at a pretty low point in life. My boyfriend just ... A: Natalie. No, I am not from Australia, but I did once at least think about moving there. When the ... | |
| help me please | 9/14/2006 |
| Q: Followup To Question - Hi Lee At the moment i am at a pretty low point in life. My boyfriend just ... A: Natalie. I had suspected you are about half my age, but you are not yet actually quite there ... ... | |
| help me please | 9/13/2006 |
| Q: At the moment i am at a pretty low point in life. My boyfriend just broke up with me because of the ... A: Greetings again, Natalie, and please know your candor and your willing open-mindedness are ... | |
| help me please | 9/11/2006 |
| Q: At the moment i am at a pretty low point in life. My boyfriend just broke up with me because of the ... A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| Weight | 8/14/2006 |
| Q: Lee Have you noticed improvements in your physical condition since you quit drinking? I watch my ... A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| Marriage and a alcoholic husband | 8/3/2006 |
| Q: I have such good days and moving forward and then he calls or comes and picks uphis mail and I am ... A: >> What I need to know is there still any hope that if I just continue to be nice that some day he ... | |
| Marriage and a alcoholic husband | 7/25/2006 |
| Q: It is me again. I appreciate your help and it has helped out alot. I am feeling better more of ... A: Greetings again, Barb. The mind of an alcoholic can be incomprehensible at times, and that state is ... | |
| relapses/blackout | 7/19/2006 |
| Q: I need some help. I'm an alcoholic. I been having relapse after relapse since I left rehab in ... A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| Marriage and a alcoholic husband | 7/16/2006 |
| Q: At this point all I am doing is giving him his mail and talking about small things. He does not ... A: Greetings again, Barb, and please pardon me for not responding sooner. I had not checked my mail as ... | |
| Marriage and a alcoholic husband | 7/14/2006 |
| Q: I knew my husband wouldn't talk to you because he thinks he is fine. I am going to alanon now and ... A: Greetings again, Barb, and thank you for another opportunity to try to be helpful. You have written ... | |
| Marriage and a alcoholic husband | 6/30/2006 |
| Q: I am really confused and I hope you can help. I have been married to a alcoholic for 5 years. He ... A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| Is there any hope | 3/23/2006 |
| Q: He started to drink when he was about 14. He has gone to many alcoholic treatment centers and some ... A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| pains | 2/4/2006 |
| Q: just wondering if drinking too much beer can give you gastric problems which lead to pains in the ... A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| crutch | 1/11/2006 |
| Q: I apologize for being so defensive. I am beginning to lose hope that my marriage will ever be ... A: Greetings again, Arthur. Thank you for your patience with me ... as I now have a far better ... | |
| crutch | 1/11/2006 |
| Q: but your advice is way off. I am probably one of the best husbands out there. I have helped her ... A: Greetings once again, Arthur. You have written ... >> Thank you, but your advice is way off. No, ... | |
| crutch | 1/10/2006 |
| Q: I could use some advice. My wife uses alcohol as a "crutch". She drinks whenever something makes her ... A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| How addiction affected your life | 12/2/2005 |
| Q: I am writing an article about addiction and I was hoping you could help me to bring a more human ... A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| I have a problem... | 10/28/2005 |
| Q: I have a problem. What will it take for me to finally want to quit drinking? Beer, everyday, from ... A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| 2nd occurance? | 10/10/2005 |
| Q: so yea you said you'd try to help me out...not sure what to do exactly...So i've been with this ... A: Greetings again, Shaun. Are you at all familiar with Scripture? Here is an excerpt I have learned ... | |
| 2nd occurance? | 10/9/2005 |
| Q: This isn't an addicted to alcohol question because i'm not but I couldn't find a better place to ask ... A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| Alcoholism | 7/24/2005 |
| Q: I was told as a child that alcoholics are bad. However, I have come to relize that they are sick ... A: Greetings to you, Michael. Here breaking your question into its two parts that are not an absolute ... | |
| 5 alcoholic sons | 5/29/2005 |
| Q: I have 5 sons who are all alcoholic, some worse than others but still alcoholic. My husband, nor ... A: Greetings to you, Mary. Your sons and I have much in common ... >> ... it's not like they were ... | |
| i think my husband is an alcoholic | 5/11/2005 |
| Q: when we are in social settings, he doesn't stop drinking...recently we were at an auction for our ... A: Greetings again, dear Anne. In my own case, it was the awareness that my two, young daughters (who ... | |
| i think my husband is an alcoholic | 5/10/2005 |
| Q: My husband sneaks alcohol...typically he will drink wine and hide it...then when it's all gone i'll ... A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| Friend Throwing Up, Please Help | 4/14/2005 |
| Q: Hey, How are you? I am not sure if you are the best person to pose this question to, but I can't ... A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| Friend in need | 4/1/2005 |
| Q: Hey there i have a friend that is really down in the pits with alcohol. As a friend what should i do ... A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| afraid | 3/25/2005 |
| Q: ------------------------- Followup To HELLO AGAIN I THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME AND ALL OF YOUR ... A: Greetings again, Elle. You have written, "IS IT JUST ME OR DOES HE NEED A BRAIN FREEZE ALL THE TIME ... | |
| afraid | 3/23/2005 |
| Q: my question is not for me though its my husband. well i am 23 he is 21 and comes from a family of ... A: Greetings again! Along with others who have written to me in the past, I have sent this note to you ... | |
| consumption | 2/2/2005 |
| Q: On average, how much liquor drunken daily and how much time doing this routine is enough to cause ... A: Greetings, Augusto. Honestly, I do not know the answer to your question. I have know people who ... | |
| types of alcoholics | 1/18/2005 |
| Q: I am sorry that I didn't call over the weekend. I didn't know using AllExperts would lead to actual ... A: Hey, Art. Everyone once in a while the AllExperts system does not send a notice that a question is ... | |
| types of alcoholics | 1/12/2005 |
| Q: So, tell me, what should I do? You had said to not push her too much, so, should I just keep quiet, ... A: Hey, Art. First, I apologize for not getting back to you this morning, as promised. My youngest ... | |
| types of alcoholics | 1/10/2005 |
| Q: I have more questions, if that's OK. Do all alcoholics have to hit "rock bottom" before they finally ... A: >> I have more questions, if that's OK. Absolutely! >> Do all alcoholics have to hit "rock bottom" ... | |
| types of alcoholics | 1/10/2005 |
| Q: Let me fill you in with details. Yes, my wife has tried many times to cut-down on her drinking. She ... A: Hey, Art, and thank you for the insightful details. >> Yes, my wife has tried many times to ... | |
| types of alcoholics | 1/5/2005 |
| Q: Yes, I'd like to ask another question. My wife drinks whenever she is sad/depressed, or ... A: Greetings again, Art. > My wife drinks whenever she is sad/depressed, or upset/nervous. > When she ... | |
| types of alcoholics | 1/4/2005 |
| Q: Do you know the difference between Type A and Type B alcoholics? Thanks. ~Art A: Greetings to you, Art! You have asked, "Do you know the difference between Type A and Type B ... | |
| alcohol issues | 11/16/2004 |
| Q: Yes, I am trying to determine if my wife has a drinking problem, or is indeed an alcoholic. ... A: Greetings again, Art. As already shared, an alcoholic ultimately finds himself or herself ... | |
| alcohol issues | 11/11/2004 |
| Q: What are the signs that a person is an alcoholic? Also, is there a difference between someone who is ... A: Warm greetings to you, Art! You have asked: >> What are the signs that a person is an alcoholic? ... | |
| recoverED?? | 5/30/2004 |
| Q: past tense? i am a chemical dependency counselor and a recovering alcoholic. in my 12 years in the ... A: Greetings, Wendy, and thank you for your rhetorical: recoverED -- past tense?! Absolutely! And, ... | |
| 12 step completion | 10/15/2003 |
| Q: How long does it take to complete a 12 step program, and how do you know that you are ready to take ... A: Greetings to you, Vincent! You have asked, “How long does it take to complete a 12-Step program”? ... | |
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Greetings to you! Amidst the insufficiency of all the philosophical, religious and “self-help” approaches to relief from chronic alcoholism, I have personally experienced the content of “Alcoholics Anonymous”, the book. Thus, I can now explain at least the essence of the physical, mental and emotional aspects of an alcoholic's inherent condition and plight, and I can show why a spiritual solution is required and how it works and how to attain one.
The oldest of four boys, I grew up in a religious, Midwestern-USA family. Unable to decline a friendly offer in a social setting, I had "no effective mental defense against the first drink" ("Alcoholics Anonymous", the book, page 43), and took my very first drink ever at age 24 ... and within minutes I had become obsessed with getting more of the effect that glass of homemade wine had given me. Alcohol had just done something *for* me that nothing else had ever done; it had seemingly "fixed" something inside me I had not even known was broken.
Over the next seven years of my life, I "drank up" just about everything and everyone ever meaning much to me at all, and I eventually abandoned my young family so I could drink and smoke pot at will. For, you see, alcohol was giving me a good-to-go feeling about life and a sense of control I had never before had, and at least in the early days of my drinking it could kill just about any pain that came along.
At age 31, however, circumstances and consequences had piled up all around me in ways that were making it obvious I could not continue on much longer. Life had become too tough, my pains had grown too great and the dangers of continuing to drink had become too undeniable for me to be able to continue believing I might ultimately survive an inescapable drop to the bottom of the pit. I still wanted to be able to drink safely as in days past, but something had seemingly "taken over" my drinking and was dragging me completely out-of-control after just one drink. So, and even while completely overwhelmed by the thought of facing life alcohol-free, I decided to stop drinking altogether ... and I quickly discovered I could not. No matter what I said, thought or did even just "one day at a time", I always ended up drinking once again. Where I wanted to drink safely, I could not, and neither could I remain abstinent for very long at all ... and such is the physical "allergy" (where one drink takes another) coupled with alcoholism’s mental-emotional obsession for the effect of alcohol ...
... but then I met a small group of people who personally understood my deadly dilemma - my complete personal powerlessness - and those same folks were quite able to propose a permanent solution. I accepted, of course, and today it is as if I "could not drink even if [I] would" ("Alcoholics Anonymous", the book, page 57), and for that I now remain unendingly grateful.

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