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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Alcoholism | 11/19/2011 |
| Q: I have a boyfriend whom says he is an alcoholic. I am not sure if he is or not. I know he drinks a ... A: Only the drinker knows whether they are an alcoholic or not. An alcoholic is someone that can't stop ... | |
| How Long Alcohol Stays in One's System | 10/1/2011 |
| Q: James, I read an answer you wrote that said alcohol stays in the system up to a year. That shocked ... A: Physically, it takes the body an average of one hour per oz of alcohol to metabolize alcohol. This ... | |
| health improvements | 9/22/2011 |
| Q: I am 52. I have recently found the motivation to quit drinking, and have begun a healthier lifestyle ... A: I am told that alcohol stays in your system for as long as a year. Most people start to see ... | |
| Relationship with Alcoholic | 7/31/2011 |
| Q: I have dated a man for over a year. He is an alcoholic and gets very violent and mean when he is ... A: You have to decide which is more important, your health and safety or your need to be with an ... | |
| my best friend is an alchololic | 4/30/2011 |
| Q: My best friend has recently enrolled herself in AA. We have been best friends the past 16 years, ... A: Time heals all wounds. There is nothing wrong with your doubt and fear, it is natural to feel that ... | |
| Alcoholisim/codependancy | 3/15/2011 |
| Q: I finally got the courage to get out of the way of my live in boyfriends addiction. I attend alanon ... A: Compassion with detachment is the key to serenity. "Being collateral damage" sounds a little like ... | |
| meds | 3/10/2011 |
| Q: I am a schizophrenic in recovery. In the past, sponsers have pressured me into stopping my ... A: Under no circumstances should you disregard what your physician advises you to do. Sobriety only ... | |
| drunken wife. pls help me sir | 3/8/2011 |
| Q: james, my wife is habituated to drinking. her husband died whom she loved too much and then we both ... A: Tensed You first have to get all of the alcohol out of the house. Second you have to quit being ... | |
| substance abuse counselor | 2/9/2011 |
| Q: IF THIS IS DUPLICATE QUESTION I APOLOGIZE...I am a former nurse, and I am a recovering addict ... A: Most state regulate this type of counseling and require certain standards. I am sure that your ... | |
| Please help. | 9/30/2010 |
| Q: she is a cutter and comes out of a very difficult childhood! She is drinking was in jail before ... A: I would suggest you contemplate why you would be attracted to someone that has all of these ... | |
| personality change | 8/22/2010 |
| Q: A very special person has been drinking since a very young age. He now consumes about a 30 pack of ... A: There are many resources available to him but until he wants to stop drinking there is nothing that ... | |
| vodka and anger/personality change | 8/1/2010 |
| Q: My husband is a very kind, humorous, and caring man until he drinks vodka. He drinks between 10:30am ... A: Anyone that drinks before lunch on a regular basis might be considered to have a drinking problem. ... | |
| Thinking about Drinking again | 7/28/2010 |
| Q: Been sober for 26 years. Having many different problems lately, I want to drink so bad but I don't ... A: Planning a relapse makes it seem less serious but we both know a relapse is a relapse. I have been ... | |
| De addiction from alcohol | 5/17/2010 |
| Q: I have been having alcohol for about 8 years now and the quantity has increased significantly over ... A: Alcoholics Anonymous is a good way to quit drinking. They are a group of recovering alcoholics who ... | |
| Manipulating Alcoholic Boyfriend | 4/20/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year. Within the past few months I have come to the ... A: He is not your responsibility. The real question is why you feel obligated to stay with him when he ... | |
| Dry drunk | 3/7/2010 |
| Q: What are the signs of a dry drunk? I too know someone who has long term sobriety, but doesn't seem ... A: You have asked some very deep and penetrating questions, and the only way I can answer them is to ... | |
| its so hard | 3/1/2010 |
| Q: my partner is in the early stages of rehab and i am so proud of him for making the choice to get ... A: My experience is that you have to let him stay as long as the professionals recommend and trust that ... | |
| alcohol | 2/28/2010 |
| Q: I recently found out that my son, 22, has been drinking alcohol. He has been hiding empty beer ... A: I definitely would contact his counselors. You may want to consider an intervention, where the ... | |
| Desperate newlywed | 2/11/2010 |
| Q: I'm newly married I husband is an recovering alcholic for 3weeks due to health reasons. He's 39. He ... A: You might want to try Alanon which is a national support group for people in your position. You are ... | |
| Don't know how to deal with my recovering alcoholic dad | 2/3/2010 |
| Q: Ever since my parents divorce, which is since I can remember, my dad has had a serious drinking ... A: I assume you are under 18 if you are still in the house. There is a group called "Alateen" that ... | |
| Bloating/IBS | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: I am a former problem drinker that has managed to reduce my binges to once a month or less. I am in ... A: The body reacts in various ways to alcohol overdoses. Because alcohol is toxic to the body, the body ... | |
| alcohol, addiction, & rage | 12/9/2009 |
| Q: My husband started abusing drugs and alcohol around age 15- his dad even bought him beer, although ... A: You need some counseling. I would tell you to leave him, you don't have to get divorced, but you say ... | |
| concern for my wife | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: Her father was incredibly abusive, then became semi absent into her teen years (he passed away 3 ... A: I can appreciate your desire for your wife to be happy and well adjusted, but sometimes it is a slow ... | |
| Alcoholic Parent | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: I hope you can help us out. My mom is 63 years old and has been a wicked heavy drinker for at least ... A: What your mother is experiencing is the extreme acidosis created by consuming large amounts of ... | |
| Alcoholic brother threatening suicide | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: My name is Katrina and I am 21 years old. I have a brother who is 26 and has been suffering ... A: If you are "taking care of him" then you are an enabler as well. You have to let go of him and let ... | |
| Detachment with alcholic when children are involved | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: Please advise me if possible To cut a long story short my hubby of 10 years who is an alcoholic was ... A: Alanon is a support group that helps people who have been hurt by alcoholics. There is also a ... | |
| Alcoholic relationship | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: I am a 49-yr old female that has been sober now for 5 yrs. and love it. My significant other, who ... A: It is up to you to decide whether being around alcohol all of the time is a threat to your sobriety. ... | |
| guilt over ending relationship with an alcoholic | 8/30/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with a man for 12 months, and made the mistake of allowing him to move ... A: Why do you want to be miserable. From what you describe, he is not going to change and he makes you ... | |
| My fiancee... | 8/3/2009 |
| Q: I don't know what to do... we've been together for a year - at first it was occassional drinking and ... A: There are support groups such as Alanon which you could attend to find out how to cope with his ... | |
| alcohol abuse | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: i am trying to seek help for my problem. the problem is i am not an alcoholic so to speak. i do ... A: Alcohol is one of those substances that we have to control or it will control us. The only way to ... | |
| Homeless Nephew | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: I have a nephew, age 22, who is homeless/ currently living in an abandoned house in Michigan. His ... A: This is a tricky one. Most experts agree that no one addicted to drugs or alcohol will quit until ... | |
| my boyfriend | 5/4/2009 |
| Q: 18 years of sobriety and approximately 3 years ago he started drinking in small amounts. we moved ... A: I think it is time for you to leave. If that sobers him up, good. If not, you will have saved ... | |
| 30 yr friendship | 4/26/2009 |
| Q: My friend Janet and I are 44 years old and we have been friends for over 30 years. We used to tell ... A: Alcohol is not a truth serum. Alcoholics are pathological liars. What is happening is the alcohol is ... | |
| My alcoholic mother has been stealing my money... | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: my mom has been stealing my birthday money that my gramma has given me. I sent her an email with the ... A: I would agree with you. I would recommend that you set up a new bank acccount that your grandmother ... | |
| Coming OFF of Alchol | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: While someone is detoxifing himself, is it common for them to get VERY edgy and say things that they ... A: Detox from alcohol can be very painful. A spouse should be very grateful their spouse cares enough ... | |
| husband | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: when he drinks he gets verbal abusive,in the beginning i took it all to heart,now i think here we go ... A: Well, the first thing you are going to have to do is to decide which is it, does he make you sick or ... | |
| Living with a recovering alcoholic | 1/11/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years. He has been sober now for almost 6 months. We ... A: I imagine there are several things going on. First, he is probably still in withdrawal, it takes at ... | |
| alcoholic husband | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: When I met my husband he was 23 years old and drank with his friends every night, often until he ... A: I would strongly recommend that you start going to Alanon, a support group for people that are ... | |
| Dry drunk? | 12/31/2008 |
| Q: my husband has been a recovering alcoholic for 6 1/2 years. He goes to AA meetings at least daily. ... A: There is a saying in AA, "If you sober up a horse thief, you still have a horse thief." I would ... | |
| Alcoholic spouse | 11/17/2008 |
| Q: My husband is an aloholic and has been for the last 7 to 8 years or so. We have been married for ... A: You need to find an alanon meeting for yourself. Sometimes if you gather family and friends to talk ... | |
| alcoholic boyfriend? | 8/5/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years. When I first met him he drunk every day and ... A: Yes, you are attracted to people like your Dad. You can't always tell an alcoholic when they walk up ... | |
| violent drunk husband | 8/3/2008 |
| Q: My husband has a drinking problem and i really don't know how to handle it. He wasn't violent until ... A: Well, the first suggestion is to go talk to an attorney. You can get a domestic violence restraining ... | |
| burning off alcohol | 4/25/2008 |
| Q: Can the body burn off alcohol with exercise? Some say no and some say yes.Those who say no claim ... A: Alcohol is a carbohydrate and when it is metabolized by the liver it turns into sugar. So ... | |
| my partner | 4/21/2008 |
| Q: i am very concerned about my partner, he has always liked a drink on a social basis but over the ... A: Living with addiction is not pleasant and the likelihood of healing is nonexistent if he does not ... | |
| how to prevent abuse before it starts | 4/7/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend, who's never touched any drug or alcohol in his whole life, is suddenly compelled to ... A: Sounds like a lot of worry about something that may or may not happen. If he worries about it, it ... | |
| ALCOHOL AND SICKLECELL | 2/11/2008 |
| Q: HOW DO DRANKING ALCOHOL AND HAVING SICKLECELL EFFECT YOUR BODY AND BLOOD. A: Well, alcohol would not directly effect sickle cell anemia. Alcohol will impair your immune system ... | |
| My spouse | 12/4/2007 |
| Q: about almost a year ago I got with my spouse. She has been clean from drugs and alcohol for a ... A: It depends on her behavior. If she is acting in an addictive manner, no it is not okay for her to ... | |
| My dad | 11/27/2007 |
| Q: I'm sorry for bothering you. I know you probably get a lot of questions everyday but I was hoping ... A: Your father sounds like he is an alcoholic. If he doesn't want to change, there is nothing you can ... | |
| alcohol and xanax combination | 11/3/2007 |
| Q: In my very frustrated state I came to my computer this morning and typed in what to tell an ... A: Even though he may have good qualities that outweigh the bad, you have to know that alcoholism is a ... | |
| why me ? | 10/17/2007 |
| Q: well heres the story i suffer from apnick attacks i used alcohol to blank out my day to day phobias ... A: Most people either become alcoholics because they drink so much that their bodies become ... | |
| Husband Left | 7/27/2007 |
| Q: My husband has 6 months clean from cocaine. About 5 months ago he started distancing himself from ... A: He is obviously blaming you for his addiction. That isn't unusual, considering the toxicity of ... | |
| my grandfather is an alcoholic | 7/23/2007 |
| Q: ... the thing is that when he wakes up in the morning he has 2 take a drink of rum....which he is ... A: I would need to know where you live to find if there is an intervention specialist in your area. If ... | |
| Is my husband in denial | 7/23/2007 |
| Q: My husband is what I call a binge drinker. He drinks maybe once or twice a week with friends but ... A: The hard reality is that if he is drinking at all he will continue to get drunk. You need to set a ... | |
| my grandfather is an alcoholic | 7/23/2007 |
| Q: ... the thing is that when he wakes up in the morning he has 2 take a drink of rum....which he is ... A: If he won't stop drinking, there isn't much you can do. There are people known as interventionists ... | |
| confused | 6/21/2007 |
| Q: I was dating an alcholic for 4 years. He finally got into recovery (not by his own choice). 2 weeks ... A: The saying is that if you sober up a horse thief you will have a sober horse thief. It sounds like ... | |
| alcoholic | 6/14/2007 |
| Q: my girlfriend is an alcoholic in recovery, when i met her she was drinking i was not. i have been ... A: Only you can decide if you are alcoholic or not. I would recommend that you take a break from ... | |
| aa | 5/10/2007 |
| Q: I am an alcoholic who is attending AA. I dont have a long history of drinking, but in the last year ... A: AA is not the only path to recovery and a lot of those AA Nazis are really dry drunks in disguise. ... | |
| simulating an alcoholic state | 2/16/2007 |
| Q: I need to simulate an alcoholic state for a observation project. I don't know how much alcohol must ... A: I do not understand exactly what you mean by "simulate an alcoholic state". I you mean get ... | |
| does he remember? | 2/13/2007 |
| Q: sir The other night, I was working out at a gym and I noticed my friend who works there and I ... A: It is entirely possible for someone to drink enough to medicate any inibitions about lying and then ... | |
| Alcoholic spouse | 1/10/2007 |
| Q: I've been married to an alcoholic for almost 17 years. He has been in rehab several times but ... A: Well, most states allow a spouse to get a divorce on the grounds of alcohol abuse. I would ... | |
| question | 1/7/2007 |
| Q: I met my boyfriend 5 years ago, he was working with me, he was on job release for a DUI, I did not ... A: First, NEVER buy alcohol for an alcoholic. You become an enabler, and you seal his doom. He will die ... | |
| Alcoholic in Recovery | 1/3/2007 |
| Q: My husband has been in recovery for 4 mos and sober for one year. We were trying to keep our ... A: You pretty much said it when you said that his thoughts are distorted and he seems confused. Keep ... | |
| Drinking to get drunk | 1/1/2007 |
| Q: My problem is this. I am married to a 20 year old woman and her philosophy of drinking is drinking ... A: Two things are always true. First, you can't keep anyone from drinking unless you lock them up and ... | |
| Fiancee sober for 2 yrs now casual drinking | 12/28/2006 |
| Q: Here is a little backgound before the question. We have been together for almost 5 years. After ... A: You can ask some of his AA friends to talk to him. You definitely need to go to Alanon, a support ... | |
| What To Do With Them All? | 12/23/2006 |
| Q: I wonder why I dream of taking every alcoholic and putting them all in a big rocket and sending them ... A: I would have to smile and agree that you are angry. Alcohol has been a tragedy in many people's ... | |
| implant treatment for alcoholics | 12/21/2006 |
| Q: I have a 43 year old alcoholic son who has been in 3 rehab facilities over a 2 year period. In each ... A: I am so sorry you have to go through this. Some people recover from this disease when their lives ... | |
| Alcoholic sister , bad mother | 12/20/2006 |
| Q: My 49 yr. old sister is an alcoholic and has been for at least 10 to 15 years. She has 3 children, ... A: The best advice I can give you is to start attending alanon. I know that some of the best help I ... | |
| how can i get help | 11/29/2006 |
| Q: Its how do i get help for my type of problem. I will try to make it short. I dont have the urge to ... A: It sounds like you are a binge drinker, which means if you start, you can't stop. If you did it with ... | |
| How can i help my boyfriend? | 11/23/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend has a problem with drink. I love him to bits and he is a great person, he will do ... A: He can to meetings of Alcoholics Anonymous. I recommend that you read "Codependent No More", which ... | |
| Alcohol poisoning | 11/11/2006 |
| Q: Was it a same hour that she drank and it killed her or was it for a long time as months, that she ... A: Basically, alcohol is a poison that attacks our brain cells, which results in the euphoric feeling ... | |
| alcoholism | 11/3/2006 |
| Q: my mum has had an alcoholic for most if not all of my life. im 22 now and pregnant with my second ... A: I would suggest that you start going to alanon meetings. You have to let go of your mother. You are ... | |
| alcohol | 10/20/2006 |
| Q: well my family has asked everyone for help but nobody will help so maybe you can help. my uncle is ... A: I have not heard of a "Beggar's Act". If you complain to the police, that is all you can do. If they ... | |
| alcohol and husband | 10/11/2006 |
| Q: I am married to a man that drinks at least 4 times a week. He leaves work early around 3pm and ... A: These are the classic signs of alcoholism. I suggest that you talk to a lawyer about locking him out ... | |
| Death symptoms | 10/6/2006 |
| Q: I'm still having trouble finding out what I think I need to know. My mother has also informed me ... A: My mother is terminally ill with lung cancer, and everyone in the family (but me) is asking the ... | |
| alcoholic drinking again | 9/24/2006 |
| Q: My husband has been sober for 2 years. 6 months ago he started dabling in drinking again. He said ... A: It is not up to me to judge whether he is an alcoholic. That is a decision that each person has to ... | |
| why do i feel so guilty? | 9/20/2006 |
| Q: I have been with my partner for 12 years and for 8 of those years his drinking has rapidly ... A: Ah, the secondary emotions that kick our asses. Apparently one of your responses to taking care of ... | |
| alcoholism and relationships | 9/19/2006 |
| Q: My councelor once told me that a person can not have a good relationship with an alcoholic. Why is ... A: I assume you mean an active alcoholic. It is possible to have a good relationship with a recovering ... | |
| Alcohol addiction vs. other drugs | 9/17/2006 |
| Q: I have read time and time again that alcohol is more addicting to more people than marijuana, ... A: I do not have any survey information, but the workshops I have attended all agree that cocaine is ... | |
| please help me | 9/11/2006 |
| Q: At the moment i am at a pretty low point in life. My boyfriend just broke up with me because of the ... A: Alcohol is a natural depressant which can cause all of the problems you describe. I quit drinking 15 ... | |
| I am currently going to be... | 5/16/2006 |
| Q: I am currently going to be tested for alcohol consumption. I understand there is a test (EBT ? ) ... A: Alcohol is metabolized at the rate of about 1 ounce per hour, in a healthy individual. I am not ... | |
| marajuana | 5/14/2006 |
| Q: I am not allowed to smoke pot or drink alcohol. i was recently at a club where someone lit up a ... A: There are two tests that I know of to detect marijuana, a urine test which shows drug use within 48 ... | |
| alcohol poisening | 5/2/2006 |
| Q: Tell me about alcohol poisening, please. A: Basically, the human body breaks down alcohol in the liver. Alcohol is basically poisonous to the ... | |
Addiction to Alcohol
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james52144@earthlink.net
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Expertise
I can answer any question about addiction, alcoholism, or recovery.
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I am a recovering alcoholic and a member of AA since 1980. I have been the COB and member of the Board of two recovery/rehab facilities.
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AA
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North Carolina State Bar Journal and Georgia State Bar Journal
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