| Subject | Date Asked |
|
| Alcoholic brother threatening suicide | 11/20/2009 |
Q: My name is Katrina and I am 21 years old. I have a brother who is 26 and has been suffering ...
A: Katrina, Thank you for your questions and for the explanation of the behaviors. In answer to ...
|
| characterics exhibited in an alcoholic | 11/19/2009 |
Q: My husband of 2 years is a recovering alcoholic with 22 years of continuing sobriety. We have ...
A: Lisa, Thank you for the questions and for the lengthy explanation. These kind of questions are ...
|
| Living with an alcoholic | 11/17/2009 |
Q: I have been married to my alcoholic wife for over 29 years now. Through out the last 15 years I ...
A: Jack, Thank you for your questions. I can empathize with you as I have been on the other end ...
|
| Periodic Drinking | 11/13/2009 |
Q: When I was younger I drank a lot and also used other drugs. I went through a phase where I would ...
A: Chris, Thank you for your follow up comments. It helps to know a little more about your ...
|
| Periodic Drinking | 11/13/2009 |
Q: When I was younger I drank a lot and also used other drugs. I went through a phase where I would ...
A: Chris, Thank you for your question. It is an important one to seriously contemplate as you move ...
|
| Start drinking again? | 11/3/2009 |
Q: I have 25 years of sobriety. Would really like to start drinking in social situations, or having a ...
A: Barry, Thank you for the question. In the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous there is a story ...
|
| Is boyfriend an alcoholic? | 10/28/2009 |
Q: . I'll try to keep this brief, but I feel it's important to get as many details as possible into ...
A: Lara, Thank you for the lengthy explanation and for your questions. It is perhaps hard to ...
|
| Fed up with Alcoholic Husband | 10/28/2009 |
Q: I have been married to my alcoholic husband for over 15 years now. Through out the 15 years I have ...
A: Jaime, Thank you for your question and for some idea of his behaviors. He certainly exhibits ...
|
| Alcoholic Girlfriend? | 10/27/2009 |
Q: I've been dating a girl for 2 years now and I'm thinking that she could be an alcoholic. First off ...
A: R. H. Thank you for your description of your girlfriends' behaviors and for the questions. I ...
|
| transferrence of addiction | 10/24/2009 |
Q: I've been married to my husband for 9 years and have been with him for a total of 20 years. I found ...
A: Linda, Thank you for the follow up to your earlier question. Yes, it could be useful but keep ...
|
| transferrence of addiction | 10/23/2009 |
Q: I've been married to my husband for 9 years and have been with him for a total of 20 years. I found ...
A: Linda, Thank you for the message and questions and for explaining something of the situation. ...
|
| alcoholic-depressive boyfriend | 10/22/2009 |
Q: I'd really appreciate your opinion. I'm 37 and dating my 39-year old boyfriend for the past 5 ...
A: Kleo, I thank you for your questions and for the explanation of the situation. You have ...
|
| Leaving my Alcholic Boyfriend | 10/19/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for the last year and 1/2. He is an Alcoholic and Substance abuser. ...
A: Nicole, Thank you for your questions and some information about the situation. It sounds as if ...
|
| Please help me, my son is an alcholoc! | 10/8/2009 |
Q: I have a 27 year old son who left home when he graduated from High School to go to college. We ...
A: Mary, Thank you for your questions and for the honest sharing of your feelings and angst. This ...
|
| dating an alcoholic | 10/6/2009 |
Q: I have recently started dating an alcoholic. He is in recovery but unfortunately the "alcoholic" ...
A: Concerned, Thank you for your questions and, yes, they make perfect sense. You do not say how ...
|
| Alcoholic Husband | 10/3/2009 |
Q: My husband is an alcoholic. He wants to stop drinking. Said he would stop before our daughter was ...
A: Lacey, Thank you for your questions. The answer is "yes" he can get better. He can discover ...
|
| Relationship with an Alcoholic? | 9/21/2009 |
Q: I am new to this site but I wanted to ask about a problem I am having with my current boyfriend of ...
A: K, Thank you for your questions and for giving me some understanding of his behaviors. ...
|
| Divorce after sobriety | 9/20/2009 |
Q: I have stuck by my husband for nearly 25 years of marriage and through the various ups, downs, pain, ...
A: Robin, Thank you for your questions and for the explanation of the issue you face. It is true ...
|
| When children are involved? | 9/18/2009 |
Q: Please advise me if possible To cut a long story short my hubby of 10 years who is an alcoholic was ...
A: Maggie, Thank you for your questions. I know it is not easy to detach from the bad behavior he ...
|
| oh, the insanity | 9/17/2009 |
Q: So much...will try to be quick and clear... *I fell in love at 27 with who i thought was the man i ...
A: Deborah, Thank you for your story and for your questions. They are informative of your present ...
|
| Sister needs help | 9/16/2009 |
Q: My sister and I have been best friends for about 3 years now. We talk about anything and everything. ...
A: Allison, Thank you for your questions and for contacting Allexperts.com on this serious ...
|
| alcohol | 9/14/2009 |
Q: If you are in a relationship with someone who is dependant to alcohol are you supposed to ignore ...
A: Tara, Thank you for your question. It is difficult to give you a straight and direct answer ...
|
| At a loss! | 9/12/2009 |
Q: I am currently dating a guy of 23 for over a year now. We have talked about getting married but the ...
A: Zhara, Thank you for your message and the questions. I feel for you in this abusive ...
|
| alcoholism | 9/10/2009 |
Q: Are there any studies showing that if an alcoholic's spouse stops drinking entirely, it helps the ...
A: Richard, Thank you for your question. I do not know of any studies concerning this issue. I do ...
|
| what should i do | 9/8/2009 |
Q: I met this guy 3 years ago while my husband at the time was cheating on me with another girl. He ...
A: Barb, Thank you for your questions. It is a tough situation when we become involved with ...
|
| Alcoholic relationships | 9/3/2009 |
Q: I am a 49-yr old female that has been in recovery now for 5 yrs. and love it. My significant other, ...
A: Pam, Thank you for your questions and the information on the drinking habits. When you ...
|
| alcoholic couples | 8/23/2009 |
Q: My partner and I have been together for 6 years and both of us have struggled with alcoholism all 6 ...
A: Sharon, Thank you for your question. You do not say, but I assume that you may still be ...
|
| hurt by failed amends | 8/16/2009 |
Q: I am a happily married 37-year old woman with children. About a year ago I was contacted by email ...
A: Liora, Thank you for your question and for the excellent description of the events leading up ...
|
| is my girlfriend an alcoholic | 8/12/2009 |
Q: ok im confused and really need help. I dont know if shes got a problem or if it bothers me so much ...
A: Mike, Thank you for your question. It is difficult to assess this behavior since it is so ...
|
| Trying to finally let go of Alcoholic husband | 8/10/2009 |
Q: this is actually the third time I am writing you. It is hard to believe that I stayed in my ...
A: Laurel, Thank you for the follow-up and I am sorry that things are not getting any better for ...
|
| alcoholic breaking up a family | 8/5/2009 |
Q: I am writing because I am confused as to what to do in a what seems to be a helpless situation. My ...
A: Jennifer, Thank you for your message. What you describe is the "proverbial" mid-life crisis ...
|
| No change in recovering alcoholic husband | 7/31/2009 |
Q: My husband has been sober for 9 months. He is in AA and claims to have gone through the steps. He ...
A: Sarah, Thank you for your question and for giving me some idea of his sobriety thus far. ...
|
| Alcoholic Spouse | 7/27/2009 |
Q: How do I continue to live with an alcoholic spouse that blames me at every turn for his problems and ...
A: Pam, Thank you for the follow up e-mail. If he indeed said something to the doctor, then he is ...
|
| Alcoholic Spouse | 7/27/2009 |
Q: How do I continue to live with an alcoholic spouse that blames me at every turn for his problems and ...
A: Pam, Thank you for your questions and for sharing your pain with all this going on. I can ...
|
| alcoholic female partner | 7/26/2009 |
Q: I’ve been with my partner for 7 years. I’m now 33 she’s 30. We’ve always had a pretty good time ...
A: Dave, Thank you for your questions and for the excellent write-up on the situation. I feel that ...
|
| re: boyfriend trouble | 7/26/2009 |
Q: No, I am not an alcoholic, I rarely drink, it's like 2 times a week tops. To give you a little bit ...
A: Andrea, Thank you for the followup. It is always good to hear back on what was suggested and ...
|
| boyfriend trouble | 7/25/2009 |
Q: First of all I don't believe my boyfriend is an alcoholic right now, but I'm worried it could ...
A: Andrea, Thank you for your questions and for giving some idea of the way alcohol plays a role ...
|
| alchohol vs depression | 7/14/2009 |
Q: Okay - I know it's a toughie, but does one cause the other? Is one an excuse for the other? Where ...
A: Ann, Thank you for your question and it is a good one. I can only speak from my own personal ...
|
| alcohol and marijuana | 7/13/2009 |
Q: my name is Hannah Woodward. I am a student at Canterbury University in New Zealand. I am trying to ...
A: Hannah, Thank you for your question. I wish you well in your research on this subject as it is ...
|
| My b/fs drinking is affecting my life.... | 7/4/2009 |
Q: We have only been together for a year and a half. I am 8 in half months pregnant. Before I was ...
A: Candace, Thank you for your questions and for explaining the behaviors you are seeing in the ...
|
| alcoholism | 6/30/2009 |
Q: My brother has a problem with alcohol, he managed to stay sobber for almost a year-attending ...
A: Eleina, Thank you for your questions. I suggest that you offer support and not condemnation or ...
|
| girlfriend | 6/29/2009 |
Q: i have had a relationship with this woman for nine month. We drank together and have been friends ...
A: Ory, Thank you for your questions and the details of the situation. The answer the the ...
|
| Trapped in drug rehab | 6/23/2009 |
Q: I was wondering if you can help me with this situation. About a year and a half ago I met a very ...
A: Will, Thank you for your questions and for the explanation of the situation. I can only ...
|
| maitain soberity and avoid relapse | 6/22/2009 |
Q: i have under gone treatment twice. again iam drinking regularly.i maintained soberity only for four ...
A: Shivashankaran, Thank you for your message and for reaching out for some help and assistance at ...
|
| Dating someone in AA | 6/17/2009 |
Q: I have been dating someone in AA for about 4 months now. He was very up front about it from the ...
A: Amanda. Thank you for the honest and frank questions about the devout nature of an AA'ers walk ...
|
| Quitting Cold Turkey | 6/16/2009 |
Q: I am 28 years old, female and am 5'5 weighing in at 116 pounds. I have been dealing with anxiety ...
A: Ashley, Thank you for your questions and for giving me some idea of the situation in which you ...
|
| Want to do the right thing for my family,...wife is a secret drinker | 6/13/2009 |
Q: On the face of it, my wife and I have a great relationship and great lives. But there is a dark ...
A: Steve, Thank you for the questions and the explanation of the drinking habits of your wife. ...
|
| He pawned my wedding ring | 6/11/2009 |
Q: I am engaged to a 38-year-old alcoholic who was 3 years sober when we met. About a year ago, after ...
A: Darcy, Thank you for the kind words and the follow-up clarifications. That is helpful. ...
|
| He pawned my wedding ring | 6/11/2009 |
Q: I am engaged to a 38-year-old alcoholic who was 3 years sober when we met. About a year ago, after ...
A: Darcy, Thank you for contacting me about this serious and sad situation. I feel your pain and I ...
|
| alcoholism | 5/25/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend has moved out in order to work on his sobriety. I told him that he needed professional ...
A: Carolyn, No need to apologize, I am glad to offer my experience, strength, and hope to you. ...
|
| So Confused | 5/25/2009 |
Q: I have been dating a guy for five years. He has had some out of control drinking episodes. Currently ...
A: Ray, Thank you for the questions and for some general background on the situation. What ...
|
| What to do next? | 5/13/2009 |
Q: My husband is an alcoholic who has been in recovery for 1 year with medicines an a doctor. In this ...
A: Isabelle, Thank you for your questions and for sharing some of the story of the relationship. ...
|
| recovering alcoholic | 5/7/2009 |
Q: Can someone in recovery from alcohol have recurring days when they "appear" to be under the ...
A: Ann, Thank you for the question and for being concerned for your friend. It is good to have some ...
|
| MY BOYFRIEND LEFT ME AFTER REHAB | 5/6/2009 |
Q: i am not sure if you can answer this question or just may be some advice me and my boyfriend were ...
A: T, Thank you for your story and for the question regarding blaming yourself. Don't do it! ...
|
| alcoholism and my ex boyfriend | 4/26/2009 |
Q: I am going through a very difficult time in my life right now. To begin with, I started dating a ...
A: Leah, Thank you for the explanation and for the questions. Alcoholism is a disease. It is ...
|
| alcoholism | 4/25/2009 |
Q: I'm a alcoholic going on 13 years my husband is talking about divorcing me. I love him very much. I ...
A: Melissa, Thank you for your question. It is not clear from your first sentence whether you ...
|
| How/When to walk away from an alcoholic | 4/23/2009 |
Q: ..I'm 24 years old and I live with my boyfriend who is complete alcoholic. He's had a problem with ...
A: AJ, Thank you for your questions and for the detailed explanation of the current situation. ...
|
| just need a little help | 4/8/2009 |
Q: My husband use to be very active in sports. He is now 57yrs old 6'5" 245lbs takes blood presure ...
A: Deb, Thank your for your questions and for the information on the drinking habits, etc. I ...
|
| Alcohol Abuse? | 4/6/2009 |
Q: I might drink 2-3 beers 3 times during the week after work at home and about a 6 pack on Saturdays ...
A: Joe, Thanks for the questions and for explaining something of your drinking habits. Only you ...
|
| husband has turned to Mouthwash | 4/2/2009 |
Q: Its Debra here- My dear husband can afford booze however he has begun to drink mouthwash- 1/2 bottle ...
A: Debra, Thank you for the followup questions. I have not participated in an intervention but I ...
|
| husband has turned to Mouthwash | 4/2/2009 |
Q: Its Debra here- My dear husband can afford booze however he has begun to drink mouthwash- 1/2 bottle ...
A: Debra, Thank you for the follow-up and the questions. Drinking of other substances other than ...
|
| alcoholism | 3/31/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend has moved out in order to work on his sobriety. I told him that he needed professional ...
A: Carolyn, Thank you for the follow-up information.. I am glad to see that you have placed ...
|
| IS there somehting besides addiction going on here? | 3/26/2009 |
Q: My 50ish husband has been sober for 26 years which was prior to our marriage. He has always had an ...
A: Yvette, Thank you for your questions and for explaining the behaviors you are seeing in him. ...
|
| alcoholism | 3/21/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend has moved out in order to work on his sobriety. I told him that he needed professional ...
A: Carolyn, Thank you for your questions and for the infromation on the behavior you are seeing in ...
|
| How do I know my boyfriend is an alcoholic? | 3/18/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend and I were dating for about a year in a half, but now I'm in the process of leaving ...
A: D, Thank you for your questions and for explaining some of the behaviors. There are a ...
|
| follow up | 3/12/2009 |
Q: I've written you before about my situation. My husband was sober for 2 years but didn't work the ...
A: Debbie, Thank you for the follow-up and for the added information about the situation. I ...
|
| Husband a severe alcoholic | 3/1/2009 |
Q: My husband of 7 years. has been drinking since the age of 17.He's now 37. He has memory lapse,deep ...
A: Tara, Thank you for your question and for reaching out with your fears about his health. I ...
|
| Trying to Understand | 2/20/2009 |
Q: I have looked all over the web for information on the behavior patterns of an alcoholic in recovery. ...
A: Jen, Thank you for your questions and for the explanation of the situation. I am no ...
|
| driving drunk | 2/16/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend lives about 40 miles from work, he keeps a cooler in his car and drinks while he is ...
A: Sherriel, Thank you for your question. Let me suggest this: we must always be willing to live ...
|
| want to save my marriage | 2/13/2009 |
Q: I type this with tears in my eyes. I so love my wife and children so much. They are my life. But ...
A: Paul, Thanks for writing and for the explanation of the situation. What you are describing is ...
|
| Dad stops drinking cold turkey and ends up in Hosptial...Help | 2/12/2009 |
Q: My dad has been an alcoholic for years. He recently divorced, stopped eating, and drank around the ...
A: Lori, I generally would not answer this question because it out of my expertise from the medical ...
|
| Alcoholic Denial | 2/8/2009 |
Q: My husband has been drinking very heavily for a number of years(8 or so) It is now to the point ...
A: Carolyn, Thank you for the follow-up and for the added information. It is a great thing that ...
|
| Alcoholic Denial | 2/8/2009 |
Q: My husband has been drinking very heavily for a number of years(8 or so) It is now to the point ...
A: Carolyn, Thank you for your question and for giving me some details of this situation. ...
|
| want to stop drinking!!!!! | 2/8/2009 |
Q: i'm 23 yo and i think i have a problem. ever since i turned 21 i haven't gone more than a 2 week ...
A: Richard, Thank you for your message and for telling me some of the situation. I sense that you ...
|
| alcoholic father driving child | 2/6/2009 |
Q: My ex-husband is an alcoholic, with 3 DUI's (maybe only 2 stuck, due to his attorney). He gained ...
A: Colette, Thank you for your question and for explaining some of the issues. My suggestion is ...
|
| Staying married to an alcoholic | 2/2/2009 |
Q: I have been married to my spouse for 23 years. I love him and he is a person with great depth and ...
A: Gloria, Thank you for your questions and I am inspired by your words of devotion and commitment ...
|
| alcoholic boyfriend/father | 1/31/2009 |
Q: i want to leave my b/f his drinking is to much it is in his family starting at his father to both of ...
A: Kara, Thank you for your questions and for explaining some of the situation. Let me first ...
|
| Who you are when sober | 1/22/2009 |
Q: My husband is now in his 8th month of sobriety and working a program. We divorced a week ago, at ...
A: Laurie, Thank you for your question and request for some clarification on my comment. I ...
|
| Follow up question on alcholism and marriage | 1/18/2009 |
Q: My husband was out of the house for a while but then told me that he was back in his program and ...
A: Laurel, Thank you for your follow-up note. His words to you are disconcerting and I would ...
|
| Scared | 1/15/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for two years. He joined AA in November last year and has been ...
A: Natalie, Thank you for your questions and for giving me such good detail on the situation. ...
|
| Follow up question on alcholism and marriage | 1/11/2009 |
Q: My husband was out of the house for a while but then told me that he was back in his program and ...
A: Laurel, Thank you for your follow-up on where things stand right now with you and your husband. ...
|
| Alcoholism & Prayer | 12/29/2008 |
Q: I have been separated from my husband for two years and have been living in another state. We are ...
A: Tracy, Thank you for making my day! What a story of the "state of grace" God provides. That ...
|
| Not following through with recovery | 12/18/2008 |
Q: My husband is 2 weeks out of rehab. I think that I am dealing with a dry drunk, however, it seems ...
A: Trish, Thank you for your questions. I am glad to see that he is so enthused about his new ...
|
| Am I helping or making things worse? | 12/13/2008 |
Q: I live with woman who is, from my best judgement, a terrible alcoholic. A few years ago, we moved a ...
A: John, Thank you for the follow-up and don't hesitate to continue our conversation if it ...
|
| Am I helping or making things worse? | 12/13/2008 |
Q: I live with woman who is, from my best judgement, a terrible alcoholic. A few years ago, we moved a ...
A: John, Thank you for your questions and for some explanation of the situation. It is always ...
|
| Are they really "the best" sober? | 12/10/2008 |
Q: I've been reading some of the questions others ask. I notice that throughout most of them the person ...
A: Debbie, Thank you for your observation and for your questions. I have often heard people in the ...
|
| helping my husband with his soberity | 12/8/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 3 years to my alcoholic husband. It is a second marriage for both of us and ...
A: Laurel, Thank you for the follow up. You are right to keep him out of the home, at least for ...
|
| Is my bf an alcoholic, if so what should I do? | 12/8/2008 |
Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for 7 years and I'm not sure if he is an alcoholic or not. He has 2 ...
A: Michelle, Thank you for your questions and for sharing the background of your situation. It ...
|
| helping my husband with his soberity | 12/7/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 3 years to my alcoholic husband. It is a second marriage for both of us and ...
A: Laurel, Thank you for your questions and for explaining something about the situation. ...
|
| recovery | 12/3/2008 |
Q: I am in a relationship with an alcoholic that recently moved out of our home. He claimed it was to ...
A: Carolyn, Thank your for the explanation of the behaviors and for the questions. Sobriety ...
|
| Letting go and moving on | 12/1/2008 |
Q: Please offer some soothing thoughts on just how I can let go of my ex-husband. I divorced him 3 ...
A: Theresa, Thank you for the follow-up. It is good to know that the breakthrough you have ...
|
| Update | 11/25/2008 |
Q: Just wanted to give you an update. I been doing very well i have been working out everyday. I missed ...
A: Jose, I am glad to hear that you are being supported by friends. I am also glad that you have ...
|
| Letting go and moving on | 11/24/2008 |
Q: Please offer some soothing thoughts on just how I can let go of my ex-husband. I divorced him 3 ...
A: Theresa, Thank you for the follow-up. It is inspiring to hear that you've evidently broken ...
|
| Abusive | 11/22/2008 |
Q: When my boyfriend was drinking, he would call me profane names and sometimes become violent. It was ...
A: Shaiyna, Thank you for your questions. There is a phenomena known as "blackouts" in an ...
|
| Confused | 11/22/2008 |
Q: I will try to make this as to the point as possible. I have a brother that is an alcholic but does ...
A: Terry, Thank you for your question and it is a good one. Let me first say that I commend your ...
|
| Alcohol is a truth serum- true for alcoholics? | 11/21/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend is what I'd consider an alcoholic. He has had 3 DUI's and been to rehab. He has become ...
A: Danielle, Thank you for your questions. The truth of the matter, as I see it and have ...
|
| I slipped | 11/19/2008 |
Q: I am 25 years old i started drinking when i was 18 years old. I always been the life of the party ...
A: Jose, Thank you for the insight into your situation. I commend you for wanting to do this for ...
|
| Letting go and moving on | 11/19/2008 |
Q: Please offer some soothing thoughts on just how I can let go of my ex-husband. I divorced him 3 ...
A: Theresa, Thank you for your questions and your story. What you are describing is the active ...
|
| a different addiction | 11/18/2008 |
Q: This question will be a different and perhaps you cannot give an answer. I understand. My boyfriend ...
A: Kristi, Thank you for your contacting Allexperts.com regarding this situation. Addictive ...
|
| My husband denies that he has a problem with drink and drugs | 11/17/2008 |
Q: I do not know where to turn. I feel like running away. I have been with my husband for 22 years. ...
A: Kathryn, Thank you for your story and letting me know some of the situation. I can feel your ...
|
| ADD, neglect and alcoholism | 11/16/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend is a sweet, loving man. But he is immature, reliant on his family for ...
A: Ann, Thank you for your question and for explaining some of the situation. What you ...
|
| total denial | 11/10/2008 |
Q: Hey Clyde, Thanks for your advice last time. If u remember, last time, I was living and working ...
A: Paula, Thank you for the follow-up to your situation. Yes, it does sound like a pickle but ...
|
| alcohol is killing our marriage | 11/10/2008 |
Q: my husband is an alcohol, i have left him several times and keep going back due to financial ...
A: Pam, Thank you for contacting me about this situation. I feel your pain and your frustration ...
|
| Alcoholism | 11/9/2008 |
Q: my brother is an alcoholic and like for so many others his drinking has caused a lot of distress and ...
A: John, Thank you for your question. It is a very valid one for those facing such an occasion. ...
|
| Should I be his friend? | 11/2/2008 |
Q: I have told my alcoholic partner that I can no longer be in a relationship with him until he gets ...
A: Tracey, Thank you for your question regarding the future with the partner. It could very ...
|
| Husbands over use of alcohol | 10/31/2008 |
Q: my husbaqnd frequently drinks a 2 litre cask of port on the weekends it will generally last him 2 ...
A: Karen, Thank you for the follow-up. It is evident that your husband is not willing to look ...
|
| Husbands over use of alcohol | 10/31/2008 |
Q: my husbaqnd frequently drinks a 2 litre cask of port on the weekends it will generally last him 2 ...
A: Karen, Thank you for your question and the background information. You are doing the right ...
|
| dating a recovered alcholic | 10/29/2008 |
Q: I am a 38 yr old professional woman with various degrees and a decent head on my shoulder. I am very ...
A: Lori, Thank you for the follow-up and added information. Here are some thoughts, and use them ...
|
| dating a recovered alcholic | 10/29/2008 |
Q: I am a 38 yr old professional woman with various degrees and a decent head on my shoulder. I am very ...
A: Lori, Thank your for your question. It is a very good one and needs to be asked more frequently ...
|
| PNEUMONIA AND ALCOHOLISM | 10/28/2008 |
Q: My husband is in intensive care for pneumonia. All family members know hs is an alcoholic. I have ...
A: Mary, Thank you for your question. Normally I would not answer this type question because it ...
|
| silence ? | 10/27/2008 |
Q: my boyfriend is about 60 days into sobriety, this will be his second try, he was sober for 17 ...
A: jeanmarie, Thank you for your questions and for your honesty. The truth of the matter is that ...
|
| Insights on an Alcoholic Mother | 10/22/2008 |
Q: My Mother is an Alcoholic; she almost killed herself 3 years when she was so drunk she fell down a ...
A: Jodi, Thank you for your question. There is little that you can do other than the things you ...
|
| I don't know if my BF drinks too much, is an alcoholic, or it is none of my business | 10/21/2008 |
Q: I started dating a wonderful man 6 months ago. When we go to dinner we have a glass of wine, when ...
A: Shannon, Thank you for your sharing the situation and for your questions. The significant ...
|
| aftermath | 10/18/2008 |
Q: I finally put my foot down and moved out of my boyfriends house due to his consistant ability to ...
A: Paula, Thank you for your follow up and I commend you for moving out. I know how much you must ...
|
| emotional shutdown | 10/16/2008 |
Q: CLyde, YOu give such insightful advise- My husband is in and out of AA- trying hard to get and stay ...
A: Debra, Thank you for your questions and for explaining some of the details of the relationship. ...
|
| Addiction | 10/15/2008 |
Q: I am so lost..I think. About 4 months ago I received a phone call from my x-"recovering" alcoholic ...
A: Lena, Thank you for your question and sharing the story about how all this has come about. ...
|
| Dating Recovering Alcoholic | 10/15/2008 |
Q: For the past 15 months I have been dating a recovering alcoholic who has been sober for over eight ...
A: Laurel, Thank you for your question and for sharing something about the situation. You are ...
|
| alcoholic???? | 10/7/2008 |
Q: .. i am 21 years old.... and have been a binge drinker since the age of 17... i can feel the toll ...
A: Melanie, Thank you for your questions and for sharing your drinking escapades. Very simply - ...
|
| Should I Date A Newly Sober Alcoholic | 9/15/2008 |
Q: I dated an alcoholic for a year in a half about a year ago, after which time we broke up. We ...
A: Nik, Thank you for your questions and explaining something about the situation. I take it ...
|
| unpredictable boyfriend | 9/13/2008 |
Q: i am currently in a relationship with an alcoholic. we were social acquaintances 4 years back. now ...
A: Sara, Thank you for your questions and I apologize for the delay in answering. The long ...
|
| ? | 9/10/2008 |
Q: Where do you get help without joining support groups,I have spent the last ten no probably twenty ...
A: Sam, Thank you for your question. I would strongly suggest that you mention this to your ...
|
| newly recovering spouse | 9/2/2008 |
Q: My husband is newly recovering alcoholic-60 days- has a sponsor, doing 90 in 90- I am in Alanon, w/ ...
A: Debra, Thank you for the follow-up and "bingo!!" we have a winner! His question to you is ...
|
| newly recovering spouse | 8/29/2008 |
Q: My husband is newly recovering alcoholic-60 days- has a sponsor, doing 90 in 90- I am in Alanon, w/ ...
A: Debra, Thank you for your follow-up and thanks for sharing more details of the behaviors. ...
|
| newly recovering spouse | 8/26/2008 |
Q: My husband is newly recovering alcoholic-60 days- has a sponsor, doing 90 in 90- I am in Alanon, w/ ...
A: Debra, Thank you for the questions and sorry for the delay in getting back to you. Mood ...
|
| alcoholic boyfriend | 8/5/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years. When I first met him he drunk every day and ...
A: Caroline, Thank you for your questions. Alcohol is a sinister little devil the way it ...
|
| driving contract for alcoholic grandpa | 8/1/2008 |
Q: We are about to have to tell my dad that he cannot drive our 15 month old anywhere because of his ...
A: Amy, Thank you for your question and for your creative ways to make this contract happen. ...
|
| married to a recovering alcoholic | 7/30/2008 |
Q: I just got married to a recovering alcoholic (8 months sober) 1 month ago. He quit his job 2 days ...
A: Stephanie, Thank you for your follow with additional information. I am so glad to see ...
|
| married to a recovering alcoholic | 7/30/2008 |
Q: I just got married to a recovering alcoholic (8 months sober) 1 month ago. He quit his job 2 days ...
A: Stephanie, Thank you for your question about the behavior you are witnessing in your husband. ...
|
| spousal fear of relapse | 7/27/2008 |
Q: As of today,July 27,08 I will be 4 years sober.Prior to a relapse in 04 I was sober for a little ...
A: Rick, Thank you for your questions. And congratulations on the four years! That is 1,460 days ...
|
| Drinking Partner | 7/26/2008 |
Q: I met my partner when I was 15 and we lived together from the age of 21. in our 30's we both split ...
A: emmakatlin, Thank you for sharing your story with me. I do appreciate your willingness to give ...
|
| Alcoholic Son | 7/10/2008 |
Q: I have a son who is an alcoholic and drug addict who is 37 years old. We have been living with this ...
A: Brenda, Thank you for your story and for your ultimateIt is really OK to just give up on him ...
|
| Friend of Bill W. | 7/6/2008 |
Q: "but at some stage of his drinking career he begins to lose all control of his liquor consumption, ...
A: Keith, Thank you for your question. Liquor begins to do something for me which I need but can ...
|
| dealing with the emotions of a recovering alcoholic | 7/5/2008 |
Q: I started dating a wonderful man 2 years ago. I was not aware he was an alcoholic. We discovered ...
A: Carolyn, Thank you for your question and for sharing a little of the situation. First of ...
|
| Severe Alcholism | 7/2/2008 |
Q: Clyde, First I must thank you from the bottom of my heart, you helped me so much by answering my ...
A: Toni, Thank you for your follow-up questions and for your kind words. I hope that my ...
|
| rehab | 6/29/2008 |
Q: You answered my question several weeks ago about my husband who doesn't believe in "treatment." I ...
A: Rebecca, Thank you for your follow-up. I can feel for your situation because I know what it is ...
|
| my boyfriend relapsed | 6/26/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend got out of rehab about two and a half weeks ago.About a week ago he relapsed.Since he ...
A: Katherine, Thank you for your follow-up and I am sorry I have been delayed in answering your ...
|
| my boyfriend relapsed | 6/24/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend got out of rehab about two and a half weeks ago.About a week ago he relapsed.Since he ...
A: Katherine, Thank you for your impassioned questions regarding your boyfriend's actions. ...
|
| my boyfriend after rehab | 6/15/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend got out of rehab about a week ago.I know it hasn't been that long,but hes really ...
A: Katherine, Thank you for your question. It is a remarkable change in a person's life to give ...
|
| my new life | 6/2/2008 |
Q: I have just recently came to the final conclusion in a fighting battle that my marriage is over and ...
A: Amanda, Thank you for sharing this situation with me. I feel for you in this time of distress ...
|
| Extreme Alcoholism | 6/1/2008 |
Q: Does a person's personality change drastically when he drinks? If so is it a lot? Would they do ...
A: Toni, Thank you for your questions. They are very good ones. The fact of the matter is ...
|
| alcohol treatment | 5/28/2008 |
Q: I have been abusing alcohol for several years. Recently I got a DUI, which I always told myself ...
A: Rebecca, Thank you for contacting AllExperts.com about your situation and your candor. ...
|
| boundaries in relationships | 5/28/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have a dear friend who we are concerned about. We first suspected he was an ...
A: Rebecca, Thank you for the follow-up and thank you for doing the tough work of confronting him ...
|
| boundaries in relationships | 5/27/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have a dear friend who we are concerned about. We first suspected he was an ...
A: Rebecca, Thank you for the questions and for explaining some of the situation. Boundaries ...
|
| boyfriend is a recovery alcohol | 5/26/2008 |
Q: dating a man for 6 months, he has been sober for 11 years.He seems to have an addictive ...
A: Lorraine, Thank you for your comments about your boyfriend's behavior. Many alcoholics ...
|
| My boy friend is Alcoholic | 5/24/2008 |
Q: I have been with my boy friend about 2 years, I knew him when he was already a alcoholic, he used to ...
A: Sandy, Thank you for continuing this conversation and your sharing has helped me understand ...
|
| My boy friend is Alcoholic | 5/24/2008 |
Q: I have been with my boy friend about 2 years, I knew him when he was already a alcoholic, he used to ...
A: Sandy, Thank you for the follow-up and the additional information. Your friend evidently ...
|
| My boy friend is Alcoholic | 5/24/2008 |
Q: I have been with my boy friend about 2 years, I knew him when he was already a alcoholic, he used to ...
A: Sandy, Thank you for your questions. They are very valid and I can understand the fear you ...
|
| alcohlic mother | 5/22/2008 |
Q: ... my mother has always been a heavy drinker, and particularly through my childhood and teenage ...
A: Bec, Thank you for your story and for your questions. You are dead on with the assessment of ...
|
| Setting boudaries with problem-drinking husband | 5/13/2008 |
Q: I've been married to my husband for almost one year, but we've been together for 8. We've always ...
A: Leah, Thank you for your question and some explanation of your concerns. I can understand ...
|
| A new approach? | 5/11/2008 |
Q: o son). I read TJ letter who responded to my letter and you may not like the question im about to ...
A: Heather, Thank you for the follow-up to your situation. The answer to all your questions ...
|
| Heather | 5/10/2008 |
Q: I was reading your answers to Heather's questions and felt an overwhelming need to stand in ...
A: TJ, Thank you for your kind words and for the explanation of where you are in regards to the ...
|
| 3 months later since I wrote | 5/9/2008 |
Q: Well, I did leave, but in the weeks before setting the date to go I did give him every opportunity ...
A: Heather, Thank you for the follow-up and congratulations on making the tough choices for you ...
|
| Alcoholic Ex-Husband | 5/6/2008 |
Q: I have 2 children, with my ex-husband, who is an alcoholic. My daughter, who is 13, suffers the ...
A: Michelle, Thank you for your contacting AllExperts.com and for your questions. I take it ...
|
| 19 year old son | 4/9/2008 |
Q: I would like to have help with my 19 year old son. He has his own place, he has a great job, and he ...
A: Terry, Thank you for the follow-up to your son's drinking problem. It is quite helpful when ...
|
| 19 year old son | 4/8/2008 |
Q: I would like to have help with my 19 year old son. He has his own place, he has a great job, and he ...
A: Terry, Thank you for your story and thehow do I get my son back? You are absolutely ...
|
| when to walk | 4/3/2008 |
Q: I have been with an acholic for 5 yrs. He has been through several relapses. He has been sober for ...
A: LA, Thank you for your question. I can not tell you what to do with this relationship but I ...
|
| How bad is it? | 3/25/2008 |
Q: I grew up in a family without alcohol, and did not have my first drink till I met my husband. We've ...
A: Julie, Thank you for your questions and for sharing some of the details of your situation. ...
|
| X-Boyfriend Alcholic | 3/24/2008 |
Q: I am writing to explain my situation to you, hopefully you can help me. I was in a 4 year ...
A: Lena, Thank you for your question. I can feel your pain in loving this man but knowing that the ...
|
| please help | 3/20/2008 |
Q: i am only 15 years old and i have had a really hard life..i used to drinlk all the time but lately i ...
A: Natalie, Thank you for your question and I feel your distress. I am going to suggest that ...
|
| drinking husband | 3/3/2008 |
Q: i have been married to my husband for 3 years, and he has always been a drinker. i know that i knew ...
A: Lisa, Thank you for the follow-up and more information. I am sorry that this relationship is ...
|
| drinking husband | 3/3/2008 |
Q: i have been married to my husband for 3 years, and he has always been a drinker. i know that i knew ...
A: Lisa, Thank you for your question and for the details of your situation. I am glad that you ...
|
| post detox/rehap | 3/2/2008 |
Q: My husband has a serious drinking problem, over 20 yrs and was a highly functional alcoholic. He ...
A: Donna, Thank you for your question. I have a suggestion immediately and then would ask that ...
|
| Follow-up | 2/28/2008 |
Q: Clyde, I promised you that I would keep in touch, So he went to he's 1st AA meeting yesterday by ...
A: Ivy, I am so glad to hear that he has attended his first meeting. Yes, he does has much work ...
|
| he accepted! | 2/25/2008 |
Q: Like I said before I thank our lord for people like you who offer their time to help others! many ...
A: Ivy, I am so glad that he has accepted the intervention. I hope he will take it very seriously ...
|
| how to approach an alcoholic? | 2/24/2008 |
Q: My husband has been drinking for along time but this last 2 yrs he has done it too hard. We have ...
A: Ivy, Thank you for your follow-up. I take it that you have perhaps put forward an ultimatum ...
|
| how to approach an alcoholic? | 2/24/2008 |
Q: My husband has been drinking for along time but this last 2 yrs he has done it too hard. We have ...
A: Ivy, Thank you for sharing your heart about your desperate situation. My heart goes out to you ...
|
| Alcoholic Friends and Familiy | 2/24/2008 |
Q: We have friends that think it is normal to get together at least 3 times a week and drink heavily. ...
A: David, Thank you for the kind words regarding my helping out on this forum. And thanks for ...
|
| Alcoholic Friends and Familiy | 2/23/2008 |
Q: We have friends that think it is normal to get together at least 3 times a week and drink heavily. ...
A: David, Thank you for your question regarding this behavior. It is good that you are taking ...
|
| Do i need to justify leaving | 2/22/2008 |
Q: I am in a 5 year relationship where my boyfriend has drunk every day/365 days a year. He drinks alot ...
A: Heather, Thank you for your story and your questions. It is a pretty good bet that your ...
|
| Friend who is ACOA | 2/14/2008 |
Q: My friend is an ACOA and a former alcoholic herself. She has been sober for 4 1/2 years and has done ...
A: R.T. Thank you for the contact and for the detailed information on the situation. It does sound ...
|
| sponship | 2/5/2008 |
Q: I HAVE BEEN IN AA ABOUT 3 MONTHS.......I AM A GRATEFUL RECOVERING ALCOHOLIC.....EVERYONE STRESS A ...
A: Evelyn, Thank you for your question. It is a good one. I do not believe that there is a ...
|
| Newlyweds need a change! | 1/17/2008 |
Q: I'm at a crossroads. In July, I married a guy I had dated on and off for 6 years. I met him when I ...
A: Leah, Thank you for your story. I can empathize with you and I can empathize with him - I was ...
|
| ex husband | 1/7/2008 |
Q: well i am writting about my ex husband. i left my ex about 3 years ago after being togather for 15 ...
A: Michele, Thank you for your story and for sharing so deeply the pain you feel having this ...
|
| Alcohlic bpyfriend | 1/3/2008 |
Q: I've been with my guy for almost 5 yrs. He is em. and phy abusive. We share one child, 6 months ...
A: Tiffany, Thank you for your question. I am sorry that you have been in such situation for so ...
|
| alcholoic boyfriend | 12/30/2007 |
Q: .I have been dating a guy for eight months. He is a functional alcholoic. He drinks beer from the ...
A: Angela, Thank you for your questions and the brief explanation of the situation. ...
|
| Trying to save my marriage while I try to recover from alcoholism | 12/27/2007 |
Q: I recently admitted I have a drinking problem to my husband. I havestarted AA meetings for the last ...
A: Christine, Thank you for your contacting me with your questions. I commend you for ...
|
| Only when his lips are moving | 12/26/2007 |
Q: I have asked you a question before, Clyde and you were very helpful and I thank you. Here's a new ...
A: Irene, The extra information is helpful. The fact that he does have a place to eat and clean ...
|
| Only when his lips are moving | 12/26/2007 |
Q: I have asked you a question before, Clyde and you were very helpful and I thank you. Here's a new ...
A: Irene, Thank you for your questions and for the explanation of the situation. ...
|
| Your perspective again... | 12/4/2007 |
Q: I picked you to ask my question because your bio said you have been in recovery for a long time. I ...
A: Michelle, Thank you for your follow-up question and the honesty of how you feel about all ...
|
| My spouse | 12/4/2007 |
Q: about almost a year ago I got with my spouse. She has been clean from drugs and alcohol for a ...
A: Kim, Thank you for your question and for the background information. What should you do ...
|
| White knuckle soberiy | 12/3/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend recently quit drinking becasue of an attack of pancreatitis(from Drinking) anyway he ...
A: Jeanette, Thank you for your question. I can not answer the medical question - I know it is ...
|
| Husband-drinking problem | 12/1/2007 |
Q: My husband drinks everyday, he goes through a 5th of vodka in 5 or 6 days, along with a daily beer ...
A: Samantha, Thank you for your question. The description of his drinking may indicate ...
|
| Your perspective | 11/27/2007 |
Q: I picked you to ask my question because your bio said you have been in recovery for a long time. I ...
A: Michelle, Thank you for your question and the lengthy explanation. I do appreciate that ...
|
| relationship with a long time alcoholic | 11/17/2007 |
Q: ok, try to make it short,I met a guy app 6 years ago, about a month into the relationship was told ...
A: Merilee, Thank you for your question and for filling me in so completely about your past ...
|
| husband an alcoholic | 11/13/2007 |
Q: I recently got married a couple of years ago and didnt know my husband was and alcoholic until ...
A: Melinda, Thanks for your question and I am sorry that the marriage has not been a delight ...
|
| alcohol | 11/12/2007 |
Q: How do I know if it is alcohol that makes my relationship the unbelieveable disaster that it is? the ...
A: Sharron, Thank you for your question and letting me know the sense of despair this has caused ...
|
| Sober for 4 yrs, now healing & no time for relationship? | 11/10/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend of 6.5 years has been sober for 4 years now. His family and I did an intervention with ...
A: Karen, Thank you for your question and the explanation of the relationship history. ...
|
| Alcoholic Boyfriend | 11/8/2007 |
Q: I am an alcoholic sober since December 2006. I sobered for my now 3 1/2 year old son. Not to ...
A: Irene, Thank you for your question and for some explanation of the situation you face. ...
|
| Met a recovering Alchoholic | 11/8/2007 |
Q: I recently met a man who seems to be a great guy and have everything together except the fact that ...
A: Kinnik, Thank you for the immediate response. It is very encouraging that he still attends AA ...
|
| Met a recovering Alchoholic | 11/8/2007 |
Q: I recently met a man who seems to be a great guy and have everything together except the fact that ...
A: Kinnik, Thank you for your question and wow! you met one of us sober! That is great. ...
|
| what have I done to deserve this? | 10/31/2007 |
Q: I've written to you before. My husband and I have been married 11 years. The past 3 has been very ...
A: Debbie, Thank you for your follow-up with additional information and question. I remembered ...
|
| what have I done to deserve this? | 10/30/2007 |
Q: I've written to you before. My husband and I have been married 11 years. The past 3 has been very ...
A: Debbie, Thank you for your questions and the follow up about your situation. The answer to ...
|
| Husband's Alcoholism | 10/24/2007 |
Q: Recently, my husband entered into an alcohol detox facility where he was educated on the "triggers" ...
A: Mandy, Thank you for your question. Without knowing the particulars of the "trigger" effect you ...
|
| health | 10/21/2007 |
Q: I am 53,and have been drinking heavy since I was 17, Usually to get drunk,at least twice a month. I ...
A: Brent, Thank you for your question. Although I can claim no expertise in the health issues you ...
|
| Ex recovering calling again | 10/16/2007 |
Q: You are my last hope. I have tried everything and read everything that I can on alcoholic..etc. Here ...
A: Lena, Thank you for your questions and thank you for filling me in on some of the details of your ...
|
| helping my mom recover from alcohol | 10/8/2007 |
Q: My mother has been a full blow alcoholic for about four years now. I am only 19 and don't know very ...
A: Brooke, Thank you for your question regarding your mom's alcoholism. The question of ...
|
| My husband is an alcoholic | 9/28/2007 |
Q: Where can I find professional counseling for alcoholism? My husband is a alcoholic. We have been ...
A: Lisa, Thank you for your questions and for sharing some of the details of your situation. As ...
|
| alcoholic boyfriend | 9/27/2007 |
Q: so this is a long story but i'm desperate. I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year and he is ...
A: Anne-Marie, Thank you for your question and sharing your story. It is a reminder to me the ...
|
| living w/ a recovering alcoholic | 9/14/2007 |
Q: My husband is a recovering alcoholic. He has one year sober. Our marriage has been struggling for a ...
A: Debbie, Thanks for your feedback and your comments. And thank you for the follow-up questions. ...
|
| living w/ a recovering alcoholic | 9/12/2007 |
Q: My husband is a recovering alcoholic. He has one year sober. Our marriage has been struggling for a ...
A: It is an important one and I am glad that you are reaching out for some experience, strength and ...
|
| My boyfriend goes to AA meetings with an ex girlfriend | 9/6/2007 |
Q: my boyfriend of four years recently started attending AA. He has 30 days, which is great. However, ...
A: Samantha, Thank you for your question and for sharing some of the details of this situation. I ...
|
| why do alcoholics withdraw from reality | 8/29/2007 |
Q: I was in a relationship with an alcoholic for 3 years. I do not live with him anymore but he still ...
A: Esther, Thank you for your questions and some idea of how you have perceived the alcoholic in ...
|
| Getting back to track | 8/13/2007 |
Q: I used to be a regular drinker since last 4 years. First, it was once or twice a week. But it kept ...
A: Marvi, Thank you for your questions and congratulations on the decision to stop drinking! I ...
|
| alcoholism and relationships | 8/4/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend is an alcoholic and has blackouts. We are beginning councelling today. During his ...
A: Jacqueline, Thank you for your questions and sharing your personal story with me. First of ...
|
| got your reply | 8/2/2007 |
Q: you say that I have a life but I am 47 have 6 children the youngest 2 who are 9 and 3 I look ugly I ...
A: Carol, Thank you for your feedback and your continued story. I know it is hard to see ...
|
| No point going on | 8/2/2007 |
Q: My husband has drunk intermittently throughout the years and when he does he gets verbally aggresive ...
A: Carol, Thank you for your questions and sharing you story with me. It is tragic what alcohol ...
|
| Question | 7/30/2007 |
Q: and thanks for being there to help in this area. I have been in a relationship, going on 20 yrs with ...
A: Jason, Thank you for your question. First of all, let me commend you on your decision to attend ...
|
| Addicted Fiance | 7/24/2007 |
Q: Clyde, I read your response to a question posted on the 22nd and hope you can help me. I had a ...
A: Shelly, Thank you for your question and for sharing the details with me regarding the situation ...
|
| Brother in denial | 7/23/2007 |
Q: My brother is 25 years old and has been an avid drinker since about 17. Though he will drink several ...
A: Clarissa, Thank you for your question and sharing your hurt, pain, and frustration with me ...
|
| My husband | 7/21/2007 |
Q: I am so torn. I am 43 and have been a Christian since age 12. I have just completed a 12-step ...
A: Lisa, Thank you for your story and for letting me know of the pain you are feeling. It is very ...
|
| My boyfriend is a recovering alcoholic | 6/23/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend is a recovering alcoholic and has not had a drink in only one year (which i am very ...
A: Laura, Thank you for your question and your story. It is a confusing thing to deal with an ...
|
| Help I don't know what to do? | 6/23/2007 |
Q: My husband drinks way to much.He wants to pick small stupid fights.He keeps telling me how he is the ...
A: Keri, Thank you for sending me your question. I can hear your pain and your frustration in your ...
|
| recovery and relapse | 5/27/2007 |
Q: I have lived with my boyfriend for one year. He drank away his job and apartment and living with me ...
A: Star, Thank you for your question. I cannot emphasize enough, and you need to seriously listen ...
|
| Best friend married to an alcoholic for 7 years | 5/22/2007 |
Q: My best friend has been married to an alcoholic for 7 years now. For the entire time I've been the ...
A: Tracy, It hurts to lose someone whom we love and for whom we care so much. The situation of ...
|
| Best friend married to an alcoholic for 7 years | 5/22/2007 |
Q: My best friend has been married to an alcoholic for 7 years now. For the entire time I've been the ...
A: Tracy, Thank you for your question. Seven years is a very long time to have been so ...
|
