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| Subject | Date Asked |
| need help figuring this out. | 11/28/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend is now 2 years sober. we were together for almost 2 years before he stopped drinking ... A: Melissa, Thank you for your questions. They are very valid ones coming from the other side of ... | |
| Relapse | 10/31/2011 |
| Q: I am writing on behalf of my boyfriend. His story is he was a heavy alcoholic since the age of 18 ... A: Lisa, Thank you for your questions. your boyfriend is discovering that "once an alcoholic, ... | |
| Wife of a Recovered Alcoholic | 10/27/2011 |
| Q: I am a wife of a recovered alcoholic. My husband and I were married in July, 2010, we dated a year ... A: Jessica, Thank you for your story and for the questions. These are, unfortunately, very common ... | |
| alcoholic husband | 10/18/2011 |
| Q: My husband was in outpatient treatment for 2 months, relapsed, drank for another 2 months, detoxed ... A: Mary, Thank you for your question. Firstly, let me say that you are doing everything right. Do ... | |
| Emotional Cutoff in Early Recovery | 9/30/2011 |
| Q: Clyde, Thank you for your wisdom and insight. I met and fell in love with a wonderful guy about 2 ... A: Anna, Thank you for your questions and for the superb narrative on the situation as it developed ... | |
| From Recovery to a New Addiction | 9/22/2011 |
| Q: I have been in a very serious relationship for the past 7 months and it has been wonderful. We have ... A: DLP, Once a person crosses the line in addictive behavior they will have a very difficult time ... | |
| dating an aa old-timer | 9/21/2011 |
| Q: I am an alcoholic woman with 2 yrs in the AA program. I have not been in a relationship for the ... A: Traci, The question of dating a person who has longevity in sobriety is best answered by ... | |
| Alchoholics | 9/9/2011 |
| Q: My husband was an alchoholic and died from cirrosis about 16 years ago. Reading the posts on this ... A: Ann, I feel for you in your questioning. Coming at alcoholism from the side of the alcoholic I ... | |
| Addicted to an addict | 7/19/2011 |
| Q: My ex left me four years ago when he checked into rehab. He relapsed after one year, after that he ... A: Lena, You have given me a very good picture of this situation and I see only one thing you need ... | |
| Alcoholism | 6/22/2011 |
| Q: I was married to an alcoholic and have now since separated living together because of the alcohol, ... A: Lois, Thank you for your question. The simple, yet difficult, answer is, yes, you must walk ... | |
| alcholics | 6/14/2011 |
| Q: what are most the sighns of an alcholic? A: Amy, Thank you for your question. Here are some considerations. You van find much on the internet ... | |
| New Alcoholic | 6/8/2011 |
| Q: I believe my fiance has finally hit rock bottom after spending time in jail recently due to an ... A: Amber, Thank you for your question and praise be to a Higher Power your fiance is ready to ... | |
| follow up on confusing behaviour | 5/5/2011 |
| Q: I wrote to you late last week about my alcoholic boyfriend who left and cut off all communication ... A: Beth, Thank you for your follow up. You gave him a perfect response. It is like talking to a ... | |
| confusing behaviour | 4/29/2011 |
| Q: I had been dating a man for some time and all was hearts and flowers wonderful until suddenly he ... A: Beth, Thank you for your message and questions about confusion. You indicate you love this ... | |
| Alcoholism | 4/6/2011 |
| Q: I have dated a man for a year and a half. We met casually at a farmers market and car show. That ... A: Robin, Thank you for your question. The lengthy info on the relationship is helpful as it gives ... | |
| Codependency alcoholism | 3/21/2011 |
| Q: Learning to live life on lives terms is tough. God works in his own time and recently I faced a hard ... A: Rhonnie, Thank you for your follow-up. Yes, there are happy addicts! The Big Book of AA tells ... | |
| Codependency alcoholism | 3/21/2011 |
| Q: Learning to live life on lives terms is tough. God works in his own time and recently I faced a hard ... A: Rhonnie, Thank you for your message and, absolutely it is OK to pray for him and, no, it does ... | |
| Addiction codependancy | 3/15/2011 |
| Q: I get somethings about my exes addiction.. I know he is allergic to alcohol since he breaks out in ... A: Rhonnie, Thank you for your question. I hear your pain and your frustration and I think you ... | |
| meds | 3/10/2011 |
| Q: I am a schizophrenic in recovery. In the past, sponsers have pressured me into stopping my ... A: Pete, Thank you for your questions. These are good ones. It is my professional opinion as a ... | |
| AA and other addictions | 3/2/2011 |
| Q: I've met and have been dating a 12 year sober AA member for the last month. All was going well. ... A: There are so many possibilities. Yes, it is good that he is seeing his sponsor and going to a ... | |
| AA and other addictions | 3/2/2011 |
| Q: I've met and have been dating a 12 year sober AA member for the last month. All was going well. ... A: Lisa, Thank you for your questions. They are good ones because alcoholism does not just "start" ... | |
| Ex-Alcoholic | 2/15/2011 |
| Q: Please please help me. My ex left me 4 years ago 2 weeks into a rehab program. He relapsed after ... A: Lena, Thank you for your questions and for the explanation of the situation. You know the answer ... | |
| substance abuse counselor | 2/9/2011 |
| Q: I am a former nurse, and I am a recovering addict (opiates). While in rehab I saw that many of the ... A: Tricia, Thank you for your questions. Unfortunately, I do not have any experience or answers for ... | |
| alcoholic brother | 1/30/2011 |
| Q: my brother is an alcoholic. my parents built a house for themselves to retire in, but have been ... A: Tracy, Thank you for your questions. It is a hard place to be in - this place where your mom and ... | |
| what do I do | 1/26/2011 |
| Q: I HAAV A SON WHOIS AN ALOCHOLIC AND I HAVE BEEN THROUGH ALL THE THINGS THAT I CAN WITH HIM I HAVE ... A: Zelma, Thank you for contacting someone about this frustrating and trying situation in which you ... | |
| Cant accept my boyfriend's alcoholism | 1/24/2011 |
| Q: I am currently "on a break" with an alcoholic. I broke up with him after he left me to go drink on ... A: Stephani, Thank you for your follow-up questions. They are good ones. I think the most ... | |
| Cant accept my boyfriend's alcoholism | 1/15/2011 |
| Q: I am currently "on a break" with an alcoholic. I broke up with him after he left me to go drink on ... A: Stephani, Thank you for the questions and for explaining how this makes you feel. That is a key ... | |
| Alcoholic boyfriend | 1/11/2011 |
| Q: Clyde, I am writing because you say you were a former alcoholic and I need your expertise in ... A: The crux of the problem for the still suffering alcoholic is that they have something within them ... | |
| my boyfriend is an alcoholic.. | 1/5/2011 |
| Q: i really hope u can help me. 2 days ago, my boyfriend of almost 5yrs told me he was an alcoholic. i ... A: Danielle, Thank you for your questions. I feel for you in your situation. I know you'd love to ... | |
| retreiving an alcohol related memory loss | 1/4/2011 |
| Q: I am not alcohol dependent, but often when i drink more than two drinks have memory loss. Recently i ... A: Evelyn, Thank you for your question. This is the proverbial "Alcoholic blackout." My ... | |
| Can an Alcoholic love? | 1/4/2011 |
| Q: A friend of mine went to an Al-Anon meeting, her first, and my knowledge is second hand, so this may ... A: Mary, Thank you for the follow-up. I must debunk that one but not 100% as I need to qualify my ... | |
| AA and the addicted person | 1/1/2011 |
| Q: Ok. As someone who doesn't understand alcoholism, I attempted to watch a few movies to get a feel ... A: Mary, Thank you for your questions. They are good ones. Alcoholics need to go to meetings ... | |
| The Work? | 12/26/2010 |
| Q: Ok.. I've heard this phrase. An alcoholic needs to 'do the work'. I understand that I can't "do" ... A: Mary, Thank you for the follow up and the questions about "the work." I apologize for not ... | |
| Responsible behavior | 12/24/2010 |
| Q: Clyde- I'm asking again about a man who has a problem with addiction. Has had DUIs and has had ... A: Mary, Thank you for your follow up questions. They are very good ones. It has been my ... | |
| Non Alcoholic and Recovered Alcoholic Relationship | 12/22/2010 |
| Q: I don't have much experience with the realm of alcoholism. Even though I'm in my 50's. I had a ... A: Mary, Thank you for your question and for explaining some of the behavior and situation. The ... | |
| I think my husband might have a problem with alcohol | 11/23/2010 |
| Q: I believe my husband has a drinking problem, I will try my best to explain my situation to you and ... A: Anna, Thank you for your questions and the lengthy explanation of how things are in the family. ... | |
| alcoholisim | 11/14/2010 |
| Q: He is 7 years sober this January. He is the father of my two children and we only back together a ... A: Maria, Without some understanding of his own program, it is difficult to say what he may be ... | |
| My Husband and his Alcoholism and Denial | 10/21/2010 |
| Q: I have only been married less than 2 yrs. Worked with my husband though for 22 yrs. Only knew him ... A: Cheryl, Thank you for sharing your story and for all the detail of things that are happening ... | |
| husband 3yrs sober no sex drive | 10/11/2010 |
| Q: He has made many life changes which have improved our relationship immensely. We have been married ... A: Robin, Thank you for your question. You do not say anything about the "quality" of his recovery ... | |
| alcoholic husband has left and in new relationship | 9/29/2010 |
| Q: I told my husband of 25 years i wanted out as I would not watch him destroy himself any longer. He ... A: Marrie, Thank you for your questions and I am sorry that this has been such an ordeal for you. ... | |
| Abrupt end of relationship | 9/11/2010 |
| Q: I have been trying to understand why someone who goes into detox/rehab abruptly ends a relationship. ... A: RN, Thank you for your questions. There are many reasons why a person who is in detox/recovery ... | |
| alot of beer | 9/6/2010 |
| Q: how can someone drink a 30 pack case of beer everyday for 40 years. I have just started to notice ... A: Louise, There are all sorts of drinking habits. His is one that calls for tremendous consumption ... | |
| husband in very early sobriety and I need advise... | 8/4/2010 |
| Q: .. My husband is just a few weeks into his AA program...he goes to meetings and I am so proud of ... A: Abby, Thank you for your questions. I want you to consider getting on the internet and going to ... | |
| husband in very early sobriety and I need advise... | 8/4/2010 |
| Q: .. My husband is just a few weeks into his AA program...he goes to meetings and I am so proud of ... A: Abby, Thank you for your story and for your questions. I can sense your fear and your deep ... | |
| Alcoholic blackouts | 8/3/2010 |
| Q: My wife is currently in a rehab facility. She told me this weekend, that after we had come home ... A: Scott, Thank you for your questions and for giving me some detail about the situation. Do not ... | |
| my32 son is an alcoholic | 8/1/2010 |
| Q: I have tried to be there for him picking him up when he is in trouble at the bars and he cant drive ... A: Diana, Thank you for your questions and I feel your pain and frustration. It is an insidious ... | |
| Drinking partner | 7/27/2010 |
| Q: i wrote to you back in 2008, regarding my partner who was drinking, i am still going through battles ... A: Emma, Thank you for your question. You asked your question on 7/26/08 and it can be found in my ... | |
| How do I deal with my boyfriend being an alcoholic? | 7/24/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, and he has always drank. We were apart for a ... A: Sue, Thank you for your questions. Your story includes pill addiction. I am so glad to hear ... | |
| Will he feel guilty for his drinking if he thinks I don't know? | 7/16/2010 |
| Q: My husband, of 25 years, has in the last 18 months become a weekend binge drinker. If he isn't ... A: Kerry, Thank you for the question and I am sorry that he can't seem to figure out he is addicted ... | |
| alcoholic boyfriend | 6/25/2010 |
| Q: I began dating my fiancee about nine months ago. I did not know that he was an alcoholic and drug ... A: Emily, Thank you for your questions and for the brief explanation of his behavior. It all boils ... | |
| boyfriend pushes me away when trying to get sober | 4/8/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years. I know that his drinking will be a live long ... A: Karen, Thank you for your e-mail and questions. I know it is hard to watch as someone tries to ... | |
| alchol | 3/18/2010 |
| Q: i think my boyfreind may be a binge drinker or alchoholic.when i met him he had been split up from ... A: Emma, Thank you for your question. Alcoholism is cunning baffling and powerful. It is too much ... | |
| need some help | 3/12/2010 |
| Q: Please help shed some light on this. I have been with my man, andrew, for 4 years now. we are not ... A: Mary, Thank you for your story and for the questions of desperation. It is well understood by ... | |
| My bf is in denial regarding being an alcoholic | 3/4/2010 |
| Q: My 33 year old boyfriend of close to 4 months likes to get drunk 2-3 times a week. I on the other ... A: Courtney, Thank you for your questions and for the details. I have some real distressing news ... | |
| Care of Seniors with Alcohol Addiction | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: My mom is an alcoholic who is 75 years old. She lives alone with her dog close to family members. ... A: Cathy, Thank you for your questions and for the details. I know it is hard to take all this in ... | |
| Alcholic Wife | 2/19/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to my wife for 13 years. We have two kids 11 and 6. I have been dealing with ... A: Tom, Thank you for the follow up information and your question. I am glad to hear that she ... | |
| Alcholic Wife | 2/18/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to my wife for 13 years. We have two kids 11 and 6. I have been dealing with ... A: Tom, Thank you for your message. I feel your pain knowing that she has a problem that she ... | |
| URL Problem | 2/11/2010 |
| Q: Hi I asked a question her yesterday n got my response but when I attempt 2 read it it says bad ... A: Dawn, I do not know what to do But I would suggest sending an e-mail to the website ... | |
| ? | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating my a for 2 years now. Had our ups n downs. All of our problems have been caused ... A: Dawn, Thank you for your questions and for the lengthy information. You are seeing the ... | |
| Twelve Steps | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: Clyde. I am studying to be certified as an addictions counselor. So far, I am doing very well in ... A: Michael, Sorry for the delay in answering your questions. I hope this is not a problem for ... | |
| Testosterone Gel-Triggering | 2/5/2010 |
| Q: I am a recovering alcoholic/addict coming up on two years of sobriety actively involved in 12 step ... A: Michael, Thank you for your questions. This is an interesting one. You mention you are ... | |
| Recovery | 1/9/2010 |
| Q: After 17 years of marriage and many fights over alcohol and marijuana use, I divorced my husband for ... A: Debbie, Thank you for your questions and for some explanation of the past history with your ... | |
| whats going on with my brain | 1/1/2010 |
| Q: .. ok when I drink,I drink to feel lose and it takes the part of my personality that makes me very ... A: Wendell, Thank you for your story. You have hit the nail on the head - alcohol does shutdown ... | |
| Alcoholic husband | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: Clyde, My husband told me this week that he new that he had a "problem" with alcohol but he was ... A: Pam, Thank you for the additional insight into the situation. I can sympathize with you on the ... | |
| Alcoholic husband | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: Clyde, My husband told me this week that he new that he had a "problem" with alcohol but he was ... A: Pam, Thank you for your questions and for the explanation. This is an interesting one - a man ... | |
| Heartbroken | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: "Hi, I recently separated from my alcoholic husband and I am having a really hard time dealing with ... A: Karen, Thank you for your message and for the questions. I can feel and hear your pain in all ... | |
| Alcoholic husband | 12/22/2009 |
| Q: My husband has admitted to me that he is a alcoholic but refuses to seek formal treatment. He tells ... A: Pam, Thank you for your questions and for explaining some of the issues with your husband's ... | |
| partners drinking | 12/19/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my partner for 8 years he was a alcoholic for 6 of those years .there was violence ... A: Karen, Thank you for your questions. We alcoholics are sly as the devil and we can get just ... | |
| Alcoholic boyfriend | 12/14/2009 |
| Q: I need help, i want to know how i dare the rain of finishin with my boyfriend, been with him on and ... A: Teri, Thank you for your question. The only thing I can say is that loss is never easy - divorce ... | |
| legal drinking age | 12/10/2009 |
| Q: a student at University of Canterbury.Im doing a research about legal drinking age. Could you please ... A: Mazin, Thank you for your question and, yes, I will be happy to respond to it. First, let me ... | |
| Dating someone in AA | 12/6/2009 |
| Q: I just read a question quite similar to mine regarding dating a man currently in AA. I had been ... A: Courtney, Thank you for your question and for the details. It is a sad fact, but often times a ... | |
| husband who binge drinks | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: i really hope i can get some advice as to what to do with my current situation.. i am here on a ... A: Stephanie, Thank you for your detailed explanation of your situation. I can only suggest that ... | |
| Alcoholic brother threatening suicide | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: My name is Katrina and I am 21 years old. I have a brother who is 26 and has been suffering ... A: Katrina, Thank you for your questions and for the explanation of the behaviors. In answer to ... | |
| characterics exhibited in an alcoholic | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: My husband of 2 years is a recovering alcoholic with 22 years of continuing sobriety. We have ... A: Lisa, Thank you for the questions and for the lengthy explanation. These kind of questions are ... | |
| Living with an alcoholic | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to my alcoholic wife for over 29 years now. Through out the last 15 years I ... A: Jack, Thank you for your questions. I can empathize with you as I have been on the other end ... | |
| Periodic Drinking | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: When I was younger I drank a lot and also used other drugs. I went through a phase where I would ... A: Chris, Thank you for your follow up comments. It helps to know a little more about your ... | |
| Periodic Drinking | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: When I was younger I drank a lot and also used other drugs. I went through a phase where I would ... A: Chris, Thank you for your question. It is an important one to seriously contemplate as you move ... | |
| Start drinking again? | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: I have 25 years of sobriety. Would really like to start drinking in social situations, or having a ... A: Barry, Thank you for the question. In the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous there is a story ... | |
| Is boyfriend an alcoholic? | 10/28/2009 |
| Q: . I'll try to keep this brief, but I feel it's important to get as many details as possible into ... A: Lara, Thank you for the lengthy explanation and for your questions. It is perhaps hard to ... | |
| Fed up with Alcoholic Husband | 10/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to my alcoholic husband for over 15 years now. Through out the 15 years I have ... A: Jaime, Thank you for your question and for some idea of his behaviors. He certainly exhibits ... | |
| Alcoholic Girlfriend? | 10/27/2009 |
| Q: I've been dating a girl for 2 years now and I'm thinking that she could be an alcoholic. First off ... A: R. H. Thank you for your description of your girlfriends' behaviors and for the questions. I ... | |
| transferrence of addiction | 10/24/2009 |
| Q: I've been married to my husband for 9 years and have been with him for a total of 20 years. I found ... A: Linda, Thank you for the follow up to your earlier question. Yes, it could be useful but keep ... | |
| transferrence of addiction | 10/23/2009 |
| Q: I've been married to my husband for 9 years and have been with him for a total of 20 years. I found ... A: Linda, Thank you for the message and questions and for explaining something of the situation. ... | |
| alcoholic-depressive boyfriend | 10/22/2009 |
| Q: I'd really appreciate your opinion. I'm 37 and dating my 39-year old boyfriend for the past 5 ... A: Kleo, I thank you for your questions and for the explanation of the situation. You have ... | |
| Leaving my Alcholic Boyfriend | 10/19/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for the last year and 1/2. He is an Alcoholic and Substance abuser. ... A: Nicole, Thank you for your questions and some information about the situation. It sounds as if ... | |
| Please help me, my son is an alcholoc! | 10/8/2009 |
| Q: I have a 27 year old son who left home when he graduated from High School to go to college. We ... A: Mary, Thank you for your questions and for the honest sharing of your feelings and angst. This ... | |
| dating an alcoholic | 10/6/2009 |
| Q: I have recently started dating an alcoholic. He is in recovery but unfortunately the "alcoholic" ... A: Concerned, Thank you for your questions and, yes, they make perfect sense. You do not say how ... | |
| Alcoholic Husband | 10/3/2009 |
| Q: My husband is an alcoholic. He wants to stop drinking. Said he would stop before our daughter was ... A: Lacey, Thank you for your questions. The answer is "yes" he can get better. He can discover ... | |
| Relationship with an Alcoholic? | 9/21/2009 |
| Q: I am new to this site but I wanted to ask about a problem I am having with my current boyfriend of ... A: K, Thank you for your questions and for giving me some understanding of his behaviors. ... | |
| Divorce after sobriety | 9/20/2009 |
| Q: I have stuck by my husband for nearly 25 years of marriage and through the various ups, downs, pain, ... A: Robin, Thank you for your questions and for the explanation of the issue you face. It is true ... | |
| When children are involved? | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: Please advise me if possible To cut a long story short my hubby of 10 years who is an alcoholic was ... A: Maggie, Thank you for your questions. I know it is not easy to detach from the bad behavior he ... | |
| oh, the insanity | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: So much...will try to be quick and clear... *I fell in love at 27 with who i thought was the man i ... A: Deborah, Thank you for your story and for your questions. They are informative of your present ... | |
| Sister needs help | 9/16/2009 |
| Q: My sister and I have been best friends for about 3 years now. We talk about anything and everything. ... A: Allison, Thank you for your questions and for contacting Allexperts.com on this serious ... | |
| alcohol | 9/14/2009 |
| Q: If you are in a relationship with someone who is dependant to alcohol are you supposed to ignore ... A: Tara, Thank you for your question. It is difficult to give you a straight and direct answer ... | |
| At a loss! | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: I am currently dating a guy of 23 for over a year now. We have talked about getting married but the ... A: Zhara, Thank you for your message and the questions. I feel for you in this abusive ... | |
| alcoholism | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: Are there any studies showing that if an alcoholic's spouse stops drinking entirely, it helps the ... A: Richard, Thank you for your question. I do not know of any studies concerning this issue. I do ... | |
| what should i do | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: I met this guy 3 years ago while my husband at the time was cheating on me with another girl. He ... A: Barb, Thank you for your questions. It is a tough situation when we become involved with ... | |
| Alcoholic relationships | 9/3/2009 |
| Q: I am a 49-yr old female that has been in recovery now for 5 yrs. and love it. My significant other, ... A: Pam, Thank you for your questions and the information on the drinking habits. When you ... | |
| alcoholic couples | 8/23/2009 |
| Q: My partner and I have been together for 6 years and both of us have struggled with alcoholism all 6 ... A: Sharon, Thank you for your question. You do not say, but I assume that you may still be ... | |
| hurt by failed amends | 8/16/2009 |
| Q: I am a happily married 37-year old woman with children. About a year ago I was contacted by email ... A: Liora, Thank you for your question and for the excellent description of the events leading up ... | |
| is my girlfriend an alcoholic | 8/12/2009 |
| Q: ok im confused and really need help. I dont know if shes got a problem or if it bothers me so much ... A: Mike, Thank you for your question. It is difficult to assess this behavior since it is so ... | |
| Trying to finally let go of Alcoholic husband | 8/10/2009 |
| Q: this is actually the third time I am writing you. It is hard to believe that I stayed in my ... A: Laurel, Thank you for the follow-up and I am sorry that things are not getting any better for ... | |
| alcoholic breaking up a family | 8/5/2009 |
| Q: I am writing because I am confused as to what to do in a what seems to be a helpless situation. My ... A: Jennifer, Thank you for your message. What you describe is the "proverbial" mid-life crisis ... | |
| No change in recovering alcoholic husband | 7/31/2009 |
| Q: My husband has been sober for 9 months. He is in AA and claims to have gone through the steps. He ... A: Sarah, Thank you for your question and for giving me some idea of his sobriety thus far. ... | |
| Alcoholic Spouse | 7/27/2009 |
| Q: How do I continue to live with an alcoholic spouse that blames me at every turn for his problems and ... A: Pam, Thank you for the follow up e-mail. If he indeed said something to the doctor, then he is ... | |
| Alcoholic Spouse | 7/27/2009 |
| Q: How do I continue to live with an alcoholic spouse that blames me at every turn for his problems and ... A: Pam, Thank you for your questions and for sharing your pain with all this going on. I can ... | |
| alcoholic female partner | 7/26/2009 |
| Q: I’ve been with my partner for 7 years. I’m now 33 she’s 30. We’ve always had a pretty good time ... A: Dave, Thank you for your questions and for the excellent write-up on the situation. I feel that ... | |
| re: boyfriend trouble | 7/26/2009 |
| Q: No, I am not an alcoholic, I rarely drink, it's like 2 times a week tops. To give you a little bit ... A: Andrea, Thank you for the followup. It is always good to hear back on what was suggested and ... | |
| boyfriend trouble | 7/25/2009 |
| Q: First of all I don't believe my boyfriend is an alcoholic right now, but I'm worried it could ... A: Andrea, Thank you for your questions and for giving some idea of the way alcohol plays a role ... | |
| alchohol vs depression | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: Okay - I know it's a toughie, but does one cause the other? Is one an excuse for the other? Where ... A: Ann, Thank you for your question and it is a good one. I can only speak from my own personal ... | |
| alcohol and marijuana | 7/13/2009 |
| Q: my name is Hannah Woodward. I am a student at Canterbury University in New Zealand. I am trying to ... A: Hannah, Thank you for your question. I wish you well in your research on this subject as it is ... | |
| My b/fs drinking is affecting my life.... | 7/4/2009 |
| Q: We have only been together for a year and a half. I am 8 in half months pregnant. Before I was ... A: Candace, Thank you for your questions and for explaining the behaviors you are seeing in the ... | |
| alcoholism | 6/30/2009 |
| Q: My brother has a problem with alcohol, he managed to stay sobber for almost a year-attending ... A: Eleina, Thank you for your questions. I suggest that you offer support and not condemnation or ... | |
| girlfriend | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: i have had a relationship with this woman for nine month. We drank together and have been friends ... A: Ory, Thank you for your questions and the details of the situation. The answer the the ... | |
| Trapped in drug rehab | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering if you can help me with this situation. About a year and a half ago I met a very ... A: Will, Thank you for your questions and for the explanation of the situation. I can only ... | |
| maitain soberity and avoid relapse | 6/22/2009 |
| Q: i have under gone treatment twice. again iam drinking regularly.i maintained soberity only for four ... A: Shivashankaran, Thank you for your message and for reaching out for some help and assistance at ... | |
| Dating someone in AA | 6/17/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating someone in AA for about 4 months now. He was very up front about it from the ... A: Amanda. Thank you for the honest and frank questions about the devout nature of an AA'ers walk ... | |
| Quitting Cold Turkey | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: I am 28 years old, female and am 5'5 weighing in at 116 pounds. I have been dealing with anxiety ... A: Ashley, Thank you for your questions and for giving me some idea of the situation in which you ... | |
| Want to do the right thing for my family,...wife is a secret drinker | 6/13/2009 |
| Q: On the face of it, my wife and I have a great relationship and great lives. But there is a dark ... A: Steve, Thank you for the questions and the explanation of the drinking habits of your wife. ... | |
| He pawned my wedding ring | 6/11/2009 |
| Q: I am engaged to a 38-year-old alcoholic who was 3 years sober when we met. About a year ago, after ... A: Darcy, Thank you for the kind words and the follow-up clarifications. That is helpful. ... | |
| He pawned my wedding ring | 6/11/2009 |
| Q: I am engaged to a 38-year-old alcoholic who was 3 years sober when we met. About a year ago, after ... A: Darcy, Thank you for contacting me about this serious and sad situation. I feel your pain and I ... | |
| alcoholism | 5/25/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend has moved out in order to work on his sobriety. I told him that he needed professional ... A: Carolyn, No need to apologize, I am glad to offer my experience, strength, and hope to you. ... | |
| So Confused | 5/25/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating a guy for five years. He has had some out of control drinking episodes. Currently ... A: Ray, Thank you for the questions and for some general background on the situation. What ... | |
| What to do next? | 5/13/2009 |
| Q: My husband is an alcoholic who has been in recovery for 1 year with medicines an a doctor. In this ... A: Isabelle, Thank you for your questions and for sharing some of the story of the relationship. ... | |
| recovering alcoholic | 5/7/2009 |
| Q: Can someone in recovery from alcohol have recurring days when they "appear" to be under the ... A: Ann, Thank you for the question and for being concerned for your friend. It is good to have some ... | |
| MY BOYFRIEND LEFT ME AFTER REHAB | 5/6/2009 |
| Q: i am not sure if you can answer this question or just may be some advice me and my boyfriend were ... A: T, Thank you for your story and for the question regarding blaming yourself. Don't do it! ... | |
| alcoholism and my ex boyfriend | 4/26/2009 |
| Q: I am going through a very difficult time in my life right now. To begin with, I started dating a ... A: Leah, Thank you for the explanation and for the questions. Alcoholism is a disease. It is ... | |
| alcoholism | 4/25/2009 |
| Q: I'm a alcoholic going on 13 years my husband is talking about divorcing me. I love him very much. I ... A: Melissa, Thank you for your question. It is not clear from your first sentence whether you ... | |
| How/When to walk away from an alcoholic | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: ..I'm 24 years old and I live with my boyfriend who is complete alcoholic. He's had a problem with ... A: AJ, Thank you for your questions and for the detailed explanation of the current situation. ... | |
| just need a little help | 4/8/2009 |
| Q: My husband use to be very active in sports. He is now 57yrs old 6'5" 245lbs takes blood presure ... A: Deb, Thank your for your questions and for the information on the drinking habits, etc. I ... | |
| Alcohol Abuse? | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: I might drink 2-3 beers 3 times during the week after work at home and about a 6 pack on Saturdays ... A: Joe, Thanks for the questions and for explaining something of your drinking habits. Only you ... | |
| husband has turned to Mouthwash | 4/2/2009 |
| Q: Its Debra here- My dear husband can afford booze however he has begun to drink mouthwash- 1/2 bottle ... A: Debra, Thank you for the followup questions. I have not participated in an intervention but I ... | |
| husband has turned to Mouthwash | 4/2/2009 |
| Q: Its Debra here- My dear husband can afford booze however he has begun to drink mouthwash- 1/2 bottle ... A: Debra, Thank you for the follow-up and the questions. Drinking of other substances other than ... | |
| alcoholism | 3/31/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend has moved out in order to work on his sobriety. I told him that he needed professional ... A: Carolyn, Thank you for the follow-up information.. I am glad to see that you have placed ... | |
| IS there somehting besides addiction going on here? | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: My 50ish husband has been sober for 26 years which was prior to our marriage. He has always had an ... A: Yvette, Thank you for your questions and for explaining the behaviors you are seeing in him. ... | |
| alcoholism | 3/21/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend has moved out in order to work on his sobriety. I told him that he needed professional ... A: Carolyn, Thank you for your questions and for the infromation on the behavior you are seeing in ... | |
| How do I know my boyfriend is an alcoholic? | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I were dating for about a year in a half, but now I'm in the process of leaving ... A: D, Thank you for your questions and for explaining some of the behaviors. There are a ... | |
| follow up | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: I've written you before about my situation. My husband was sober for 2 years but didn't work the ... A: Debbie, Thank you for the follow-up and for the added information about the situation. I ... | |
| Husband a severe alcoholic | 3/1/2009 |
| Q: My husband of 7 years. has been drinking since the age of 17.He's now 37. He has memory lapse,deep ... A: Tara, Thank you for your question and for reaching out with your fears about his health. I ... | |
| Trying to Understand | 2/20/2009 |
| Q: I have looked all over the web for information on the behavior patterns of an alcoholic in recovery. ... A: Jen, Thank you for your questions and for the explanation of the situation. I am no ... | |
| driving drunk | 2/16/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend lives about 40 miles from work, he keeps a cooler in his car and drinks while he is ... A: Sherriel, Thank you for your question. Let me suggest this: we must always be willing to live ... | |
| want to save my marriage | 2/13/2009 |
| Q: I type this with tears in my eyes. I so love my wife and children so much. They are my life. But ... A: Paul, Thanks for writing and for the explanation of the situation. What you are describing is ... | |
| Dad stops drinking cold turkey and ends up in Hosptial...Help | 2/12/2009 |
| Q: My dad has been an alcoholic for years. He recently divorced, stopped eating, and drank around the ... A: Lori, I generally would not answer this question because it out of my expertise from the medical ... | |
| Alcoholic Denial | 2/8/2009 |
| Q: My husband has been drinking very heavily for a number of years(8 or so) It is now to the point ... A: Carolyn, Thank you for the follow-up and for the added information. It is a great thing that ... | |
| Alcoholic Denial | 2/8/2009 |
| Q: My husband has been drinking very heavily for a number of years(8 or so) It is now to the point ... A: Carolyn, Thank you for your question and for giving me some details of this situation. ... | |
| want to stop drinking!!!!! | 2/8/2009 |
| Q: i'm 23 yo and i think i have a problem. ever since i turned 21 i haven't gone more than a 2 week ... A: Richard, Thank you for your message and for telling me some of the situation. I sense that you ... | |
| alcoholic father driving child | 2/6/2009 |
| Q: My ex-husband is an alcoholic, with 3 DUI's (maybe only 2 stuck, due to his attorney). He gained ... A: Colette, Thank you for your question and for explaining some of the issues. My suggestion is ... | |
| Staying married to an alcoholic | 2/2/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to my spouse for 23 years. I love him and he is a person with great depth and ... A: Gloria, Thank you for your questions and I am inspired by your words of devotion and commitment ... | |
| alcoholic boyfriend/father | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: i want to leave my b/f his drinking is to much it is in his family starting at his father to both of ... A: Kara, Thank you for your questions and for explaining some of the situation. Let me first ... | |
| Who you are when sober | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: My husband is now in his 8th month of sobriety and working a program. We divorced a week ago, at ... A: Laurie, Thank you for your question and request for some clarification on my comment. I ... | |
| Follow up question on alcholism and marriage | 1/18/2009 |
| Q: My husband was out of the house for a while but then told me that he was back in his program and ... A: Laurel, Thank you for your follow-up note. His words to you are disconcerting and I would ... | |
| Scared | 1/15/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for two years. He joined AA in November last year and has been ... A: Natalie, Thank you for your questions and for giving me such good detail on the situation. ... | |
| Follow up question on alcholism and marriage | 1/11/2009 |
| Q: My husband was out of the house for a while but then told me that he was back in his program and ... A: Laurel, Thank you for your follow-up on where things stand right now with you and your husband. ... | |
| Alcoholism & Prayer | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: I have been separated from my husband for two years and have been living in another state. We are ... A: Tracy, Thank you for making my day! What a story of the "state of grace" God provides. That ... | |
| Not following through with recovery | 12/18/2008 |
| Q: My husband is 2 weeks out of rehab. I think that I am dealing with a dry drunk, however, it seems ... A: Trish, Thank you for your questions. I am glad to see that he is so enthused about his new ... | |
| Am I helping or making things worse? | 12/13/2008 |
| Q: I live with woman who is, from my best judgement, a terrible alcoholic. A few years ago, we moved a ... A: John, Thank you for the follow-up and don't hesitate to continue our conversation if it ... | |
| Am I helping or making things worse? | 12/13/2008 |
| Q: I live with woman who is, from my best judgement, a terrible alcoholic. A few years ago, we moved a ... A: John, Thank you for your questions and for some explanation of the situation. It is always ... | |
| Are they really "the best" sober? | 12/10/2008 |
| Q: I've been reading some of the questions others ask. I notice that throughout most of them the person ... A: Debbie, Thank you for your observation and for your questions. I have often heard people in the ... | |
| helping my husband with his soberity | 12/8/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 3 years to my alcoholic husband. It is a second marriage for both of us and ... A: Laurel, Thank you for the follow up. You are right to keep him out of the home, at least for ... | |
| Is my bf an alcoholic, if so what should I do? | 12/8/2008 |
| Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for 7 years and I'm not sure if he is an alcoholic or not. He has 2 ... A: Michelle, Thank you for your questions and for sharing the background of your situation. It ... | |
| helping my husband with his soberity | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 3 years to my alcoholic husband. It is a second marriage for both of us and ... A: Laurel, Thank you for your questions and for explaining something about the situation. ... | |
| recovery | 12/3/2008 |
| Q: I am in a relationship with an alcoholic that recently moved out of our home. He claimed it was to ... A: Carolyn, Thank your for the explanation of the behaviors and for the questions. Sobriety ... | |
| Letting go and moving on | 12/1/2008 |
| Q: Please offer some soothing thoughts on just how I can let go of my ex-husband. I divorced him 3 ... A: Theresa, Thank you for the follow-up. It is good to know that the breakthrough you have ... | |
| Update | 11/25/2008 |
| Q: Just wanted to give you an update. I been doing very well i have been working out everyday. I missed ... A: Jose, I am glad to hear that you are being supported by friends. I am also glad that you have ... | |
| Letting go and moving on | 11/24/2008 |
| Q: Please offer some soothing thoughts on just how I can let go of my ex-husband. I divorced him 3 ... A: Theresa, Thank you for the follow-up. It is inspiring to hear that you've evidently broken ... | |
| Abusive | 11/22/2008 |
| Q: When my boyfriend was drinking, he would call me profane names and sometimes become violent. It was ... A: Shaiyna, Thank you for your questions. There is a phenomena known as "blackouts" in an ... | |
| Confused | 11/22/2008 |
| Q: I will try to make this as to the point as possible. I have a brother that is an alcholic but does ... A: Terry, Thank you for your question and it is a good one. Let me first say that I commend your ... | |
| Alcohol is a truth serum- true for alcoholics? | 11/21/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend is what I'd consider an alcoholic. He has had 3 DUI's and been to rehab. He has become ... A: Danielle, Thank you for your questions. The truth of the matter, as I see it and have ... | |
| I slipped | 11/19/2008 |
| Q: I am 25 years old i started drinking when i was 18 years old. I always been the life of the party ... A: Jose, Thank you for the insight into your situation. I commend you for wanting to do this for ... | |
| Letting go and moving on | 11/19/2008 |
| Q: Please offer some soothing thoughts on just how I can let go of my ex-husband. I divorced him 3 ... A: Theresa, Thank you for your questions and your story. What you are describing is the active ... | |
| a different addiction | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: This question will be a different and perhaps you cannot give an answer. I understand. My boyfriend ... A: Kristi, Thank you for your contacting Allexperts.com regarding this situation. Addictive ... | |
| My husband denies that he has a problem with drink and drugs | 11/17/2008 |
| Q: I do not know where to turn. I feel like running away. I have been with my husband for 22 years. ... A: Kathryn, Thank you for your story and letting me know some of the situation. I can feel your ... | |
| ADD, neglect and alcoholism | 11/16/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend is a sweet, loving man. But he is immature, reliant on his family for ... A: Ann, Thank you for your question and for explaining some of the situation. What you ... | |
| total denial | 11/10/2008 |
| Q: Hey Clyde, Thanks for your advice last time. If u remember, last time, I was living and working ... A: Paula, Thank you for the follow-up to your situation. Yes, it does sound like a pickle but ... | |
| alcohol is killing our marriage | 11/10/2008 |
| Q: my husband is an alcohol, i have left him several times and keep going back due to financial ... A: Pam, Thank you for contacting me about this situation. I feel your pain and your frustration ... | |
| Alcoholism | 11/9/2008 |
| Q: my brother is an alcoholic and like for so many others his drinking has caused a lot of distress and ... A: John, Thank you for your question. It is a very valid one for those facing such an occasion. ... | |
| Should I be his friend? | 11/2/2008 |
| Q: I have told my alcoholic partner that I can no longer be in a relationship with him until he gets ... A: Tracey, Thank you for your question regarding the future with the partner. It could very ... | |
| Husbands over use of alcohol | 10/31/2008 |
| Q: my husbaqnd frequently drinks a 2 litre cask of port on the weekends it will generally last him 2 ... A: Karen, Thank you for the follow-up. It is evident that your husband is not willing to look ... | |
| Husbands over use of alcohol | 10/31/2008 |
| Q: my husbaqnd frequently drinks a 2 litre cask of port on the weekends it will generally last him 2 ... A: Karen, Thank you for your question and the background information. You are doing the right ... | |
| dating a recovered alcholic | 10/29/2008 |
| Q: I am a 38 yr old professional woman with various degrees and a decent head on my shoulder. I am very ... A: Lori, Thank you for the follow-up and added information. Here are some thoughts, and use them ... | |
| dating a recovered alcholic | 10/29/2008 |
| Q: I am a 38 yr old professional woman with various degrees and a decent head on my shoulder. I am very ... A: Lori, Thank your for your question. It is a very good one and needs to be asked more frequently ... | |
| PNEUMONIA AND ALCOHOLISM | 10/28/2008 |
| Q: My husband is in intensive care for pneumonia. All family members know hs is an alcoholic. I have ... A: Mary, Thank you for your question. Normally I would not answer this type question because it ... | |
| silence ? | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: my boyfriend is about 60 days into sobriety, this will be his second try, he was sober for 17 ... A: jeanmarie, Thank you for your questions and for your honesty. The truth of the matter is that ... | |
| Insights on an Alcoholic Mother | 10/22/2008 |
| Q: My Mother is an Alcoholic; she almost killed herself 3 years when she was so drunk she fell down a ... A: Jodi, Thank you for your question. There is little that you can do other than the things you ... | |
| I don't know if my BF drinks too much, is an alcoholic, or it is none of my business | 10/21/2008 |
| Q: I started dating a wonderful man 6 months ago. When we go to dinner we have a glass of wine, when ... A: Shannon, Thank you for your sharing the situation and for your questions. The significant ... | |
| aftermath | 10/18/2008 |
| Q: I finally put my foot down and moved out of my boyfriends house due to his consistant ability to ... A: Paula, Thank you for your follow up and I commend you for moving out. I know how much you must ... | |
| emotional shutdown | 10/16/2008 |
| Q: CLyde, YOu give such insightful advise- My husband is in and out of AA- trying hard to get and stay ... A: Debra, Thank you for your questions and for explaining some of the details of the relationship. ... | |
| Addiction | 10/15/2008 |
| Q: I am so lost..I think. About 4 months ago I received a phone call from my x-"recovering" alcoholic ... A: Lena, Thank you for your question and sharing the story about how all this has come about. ... | |
| Dating Recovering Alcoholic | 10/15/2008 |
| Q: For the past 15 months I have been dating a recovering alcoholic who has been sober for over eight ... A: Laurel, Thank you for your question and for sharing something about the situation. You are ... | |
| alcoholic???? | 10/7/2008 |
| Q: .. i am 21 years old.... and have been a binge drinker since the age of 17... i can feel the toll ... A: Melanie, Thank you for your questions and for sharing your drinking escapades. Very simply - ... | |
| Should I Date A Newly Sober Alcoholic | 9/15/2008 |
| Q: I dated an alcoholic for a year in a half about a year ago, after which time we broke up. We ... A: Nik, Thank you for your questions and explaining something about the situation. I take it ... | |
| unpredictable boyfriend | 9/13/2008 |
| Q: i am currently in a relationship with an alcoholic. we were social acquaintances 4 years back. now ... A: Sara, Thank you for your questions and I apologize for the delay in answering. The long ... | |
| ? | 9/10/2008 |
| Q: Where do you get help without joining support groups,I have spent the last ten no probably twenty ... A: Sam, Thank you for your question. I would strongly suggest that you mention this to your ... | |
| newly recovering spouse | 9/2/2008 |
| Q: My husband is newly recovering alcoholic-60 days- has a sponsor, doing 90 in 90- I am in Alanon, w/ ... A: Debra, Thank you for the follow-up and "bingo!!" we have a winner! His question to you is ... | |
| newly recovering spouse | 8/29/2008 |
| Q: My husband is newly recovering alcoholic-60 days- has a sponsor, doing 90 in 90- I am in Alanon, w/ ... A: Debra, Thank you for your follow-up and thanks for sharing more details of the behaviors. ... | |
| newly recovering spouse | 8/26/2008 |
| Q: My husband is newly recovering alcoholic-60 days- has a sponsor, doing 90 in 90- I am in Alanon, w/ ... A: Debra, Thank you for the questions and sorry for the delay in getting back to you. Mood ... | |
| alcoholic boyfriend | 8/5/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years. When I first met him he drunk every day and ... A: Caroline, Thank you for your questions. Alcohol is a sinister little devil the way it ... | |
| driving contract for alcoholic grandpa | 8/1/2008 |
| Q: We are about to have to tell my dad that he cannot drive our 15 month old anywhere because of his ... A: Amy, Thank you for your question and for your creative ways to make this contract happen. ... | |
| married to a recovering alcoholic | 7/30/2008 |
| Q: I just got married to a recovering alcoholic (8 months sober) 1 month ago. He quit his job 2 days ... A: Stephanie, Thank you for your follow with additional information. I am so glad to see ... | |
| married to a recovering alcoholic | 7/30/2008 |
| Q: I just got married to a recovering alcoholic (8 months sober) 1 month ago. He quit his job 2 days ... A: Stephanie, Thank you for your question about the behavior you are witnessing in your husband. ... | |
| spousal fear of relapse | 7/27/2008 |
| Q: As of today,July 27,08 I will be 4 years sober.Prior to a relapse in 04 I was sober for a little ... A: Rick, Thank you for your questions. And congratulations on the four years! That is 1,460 days ... | |
| Drinking Partner | 7/26/2008 |
| Q: I met my partner when I was 15 and we lived together from the age of 21. in our 30's we both split ... A: emmakatlin, Thank you for sharing your story with me. I do appreciate your willingness to give ... | |
| Alcoholic Son | 7/10/2008 |
| Q: I have a son who is an alcoholic and drug addict who is 37 years old. We have been living with this ... A: Brenda, Thank you for your story and for your ultimateIt is really OK to just give up on him ... | |
| Friend of Bill W. | 7/6/2008 |
| Q: "but at some stage of his drinking career he begins to lose all control of his liquor consumption, ... A: Keith, Thank you for your question. Liquor begins to do something for me which I need but can ... | |
| dealing with the emotions of a recovering alcoholic | 7/5/2008 |
| Q: I started dating a wonderful man 2 years ago. I was not aware he was an alcoholic. We discovered ... A: Carolyn, Thank you for your question and for sharing a little of the situation. First of ... | |
| Severe Alcholism | 7/2/2008 |
| Q: Clyde, First I must thank you from the bottom of my heart, you helped me so much by answering my ... A: Toni, Thank you for your follow-up questions and for your kind words. I hope that my ... | |
| rehab | 6/29/2008 |
| Q: You answered my question several weeks ago about my husband who doesn't believe in "treatment." I ... A: Rebecca, Thank you for your follow-up. I can feel for your situation because I know what it is ... | |
| my boyfriend relapsed | 6/26/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend got out of rehab about two and a half weeks ago.About a week ago he relapsed.Since he ... A: Katherine, Thank you for your follow-up and I am sorry I have been delayed in answering your ... | |
| my boyfriend relapsed | 6/24/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend got out of rehab about two and a half weeks ago.About a week ago he relapsed.Since he ... A: Katherine, Thank you for your impassioned questions regarding your boyfriend's actions. ... | |
| my boyfriend after rehab | 6/15/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend got out of rehab about a week ago.I know it hasn't been that long,but hes really ... A: Katherine, Thank you for your question. It is a remarkable change in a person's life to give ... | |
| my new life | 6/2/2008 |
| Q: I have just recently came to the final conclusion in a fighting battle that my marriage is over and ... A: Amanda, Thank you for sharing this situation with me. I feel for you in this time of distress ... | |
| Extreme Alcoholism | 6/1/2008 |
| Q: Does a person's personality change drastically when he drinks? If so is it a lot? Would they do ... A: Toni, Thank you for your questions. They are very good ones. The fact of the matter is ... | |
| alcohol treatment | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: I have been abusing alcohol for several years. Recently I got a DUI, which I always told myself ... A: Rebecca, Thank you for contacting AllExperts.com about your situation and your candor. ... | |
| boundaries in relationships | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have a dear friend who we are concerned about. We first suspected he was an ... A: Rebecca, Thank you for the follow-up and thank you for doing the tough work of confronting him ... | |
| boundaries in relationships | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have a dear friend who we are concerned about. We first suspected he was an ... A: Rebecca, Thank you for the questions and for explaining some of the situation. Boundaries ... | |
| boyfriend is a recovery alcohol | 5/26/2008 |
| Q: dating a man for 6 months, he has been sober for 11 years.He seems to have an addictive ... A: Lorraine, Thank you for your comments about your boyfriend's behavior. Many alcoholics ... | |
| My boy friend is Alcoholic | 5/24/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my boy friend about 2 years, I knew him when he was already a alcoholic, he used to ... A: Sandy, Thank you for continuing this conversation and your sharing has helped me understand ... | |
| My boy friend is Alcoholic | 5/24/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my boy friend about 2 years, I knew him when he was already a alcoholic, he used to ... A: Sandy, Thank you for the follow-up and the additional information. Your friend evidently ... | |
| My boy friend is Alcoholic | 5/24/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my boy friend about 2 years, I knew him when he was already a alcoholic, he used to ... A: Sandy, Thank you for your questions. They are very valid and I can understand the fear you ... | |
| alcohlic mother | 5/22/2008 |
| Q: ... my mother has always been a heavy drinker, and particularly through my childhood and teenage ... A: Bec, Thank you for your story and for your questions. You are dead on with the assessment of ... | |
| Setting boudaries with problem-drinking husband | 5/13/2008 |
| Q: I've been married to my husband for almost one year, but we've been together for 8. We've always ... A: Leah, Thank you for your question and some explanation of your concerns. I can understand ... | |
| A new approach? | 5/11/2008 |
| Q: o son). I read TJ letter who responded to my letter and you may not like the question im about to ... A: Heather, Thank you for the follow-up to your situation. The answer to all your questions ... | |
| Heather | 5/10/2008 |
| Q: I was reading your answers to Heather's questions and felt an overwhelming need to stand in ... A: TJ, Thank you for your kind words and for the explanation of where you are in regards to the ... | |
| 3 months later since I wrote | 5/9/2008 |
| Q: Well, I did leave, but in the weeks before setting the date to go I did give him every opportunity ... A: Heather, Thank you for the follow-up and congratulations on making the tough choices for you ... | |
| Alcoholic Ex-Husband | 5/6/2008 |
| Q: I have 2 children, with my ex-husband, who is an alcoholic. My daughter, who is 13, suffers the ... A: Michelle, Thank you for your contacting AllExperts.com and for your questions. I take it ... | |
| 19 year old son | 4/9/2008 |
| Q: I would like to have help with my 19 year old son. He has his own place, he has a great job, and he ... A: Terry, Thank you for the follow-up to your son's drinking problem. It is quite helpful when ... | |
| 19 year old son | 4/8/2008 |
| Q: I would like to have help with my 19 year old son. He has his own place, he has a great job, and he ... A: Terry, Thank you for your story and thehow do I get my son back? You are absolutely ... | |
| when to walk | 4/3/2008 |
| Q: I have been with an acholic for 5 yrs. He has been through several relapses. He has been sober for ... A: LA, Thank you for your question. I can not tell you what to do with this relationship but I ... | |
| How bad is it? | 3/25/2008 |
| Q: I grew up in a family without alcohol, and did not have my first drink till I met my husband. We've ... A: Julie, Thank you for your questions and for sharing some of the details of your situation. ... | |
| X-Boyfriend Alcholic | 3/24/2008 |
| Q: I am writing to explain my situation to you, hopefully you can help me. I was in a 4 year ... A: Lena, Thank you for your question. I can feel your pain in loving this man but knowing that the ... | |
| please help | 3/20/2008 |
| Q: i am only 15 years old and i have had a really hard life..i used to drinlk all the time but lately i ... A: Natalie, Thank you for your question and I feel your distress. I am going to suggest that ... | |
| drinking husband | 3/3/2008 |
| Q: i have been married to my husband for 3 years, and he has always been a drinker. i know that i knew ... A: Lisa, Thank you for the follow-up and more information. I am sorry that this relationship is ... | |
| drinking husband | 3/3/2008 |
| Q: i have been married to my husband for 3 years, and he has always been a drinker. i know that i knew ... A: Lisa, Thank you for your question and for the details of your situation. I am glad that you ... | |
| post detox/rehap | 3/2/2008 |
| Q: My husband has a serious drinking problem, over 20 yrs and was a highly functional alcoholic. He ... A: Donna, Thank you for your question. I have a suggestion immediately and then would ask that ... | |
| Follow-up | 2/28/2008 |
| Q: Clyde, I promised you that I would keep in touch, So he went to he's 1st AA meeting yesterday by ... A: Ivy, I am so glad to hear that he has attended his first meeting. Yes, he does has much work ... | |
| he accepted! | 2/25/2008 |
| Q: Like I said before I thank our lord for people like you who offer their time to help others! many ... A: Ivy, I am so glad that he has accepted the intervention. I hope he will take it very seriously ... | |
| how to approach an alcoholic? | 2/24/2008 |
| Q: My husband has been drinking for along time but this last 2 yrs he has done it too hard. We have ... A: Ivy, Thank you for your follow-up. I take it that you have perhaps put forward an ultimatum ... | |
| how to approach an alcoholic? | 2/24/2008 |
| Q: My husband has been drinking for along time but this last 2 yrs he has done it too hard. We have ... A: Ivy, Thank you for sharing your heart about your desperate situation. My heart goes out to you ... | |
| Alcoholic Friends and Familiy | 2/24/2008 |
| Q: We have friends that think it is normal to get together at least 3 times a week and drink heavily. ... A: David, Thank you for the kind words regarding my helping out on this forum. And thanks for ... | |
| Alcoholic Friends and Familiy | 2/23/2008 |
| Q: We have friends that think it is normal to get together at least 3 times a week and drink heavily. ... A: David, Thank you for your question regarding this behavior. It is good that you are taking ... | |
| Do i need to justify leaving | 2/22/2008 |
| Q: I am in a 5 year relationship where my boyfriend has drunk every day/365 days a year. He drinks alot ... A: Heather, Thank you for your story and your questions. It is a pretty good bet that your ... | |
| Friend who is ACOA | 2/14/2008 |
| Q: My friend is an ACOA and a former alcoholic herself. She has been sober for 4 1/2 years and has done ... A: R.T. Thank you for the contact and for the detailed information on the situation. It does sound ... | |
| sponship | 2/5/2008 |
| Q: I HAVE BEEN IN AA ABOUT 3 MONTHS.......I AM A GRATEFUL RECOVERING ALCOHOLIC.....EVERYONE STRESS A ... A: Evelyn, Thank you for your question. It is a good one. I do not believe that there is a ... | |
| Newlyweds need a change! | 1/17/2008 |
| Q: I'm at a crossroads. In July, I married a guy I had dated on and off for 6 years. I met him when I ... A: Leah, Thank you for your story. I can empathize with you and I can empathize with him - I was ... | |
| ex husband | 1/7/2008 |
| Q: well i am writting about my ex husband. i left my ex about 3 years ago after being togather for 15 ... A: Michele, Thank you for your story and for sharing so deeply the pain you feel having this ... | |
| Alcohlic bpyfriend | 1/3/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my guy for almost 5 yrs. He is em. and phy abusive. We share one child, 6 months ... A: Tiffany, Thank you for your question. I am sorry that you have been in such situation for so ... | |
| alcholoic boyfriend | 12/30/2007 |
| Q: .I have been dating a guy for eight months. He is a functional alcholoic. He drinks beer from the ... A: Angela, Thank you for your questions and the brief explanation of the situation. ... | |
| Trying to save my marriage while I try to recover from alcoholism | 12/27/2007 |
| Q: I recently admitted I have a drinking problem to my husband. I havestarted AA meetings for the last ... A: Christine, Thank you for your contacting me with your questions. I commend you for ... | |
| Only when his lips are moving | 12/26/2007 |
| Q: I have asked you a question before, Clyde and you were very helpful and I thank you. Here's a new ... A: Irene, The extra information is helpful. The fact that he does have a place to eat and clean ... | |
| Only when his lips are moving | 12/26/2007 |
| Q: I have asked you a question before, Clyde and you were very helpful and I thank you. Here's a new ... A: Irene, Thank you for your questions and for the explanation of the situation. ... | |
| Your perspective again... | 12/4/2007 |
| Q: I picked you to ask my question because your bio said you have been in recovery for a long time. I ... A: Michelle, Thank you for your follow-up question and the honesty of how you feel about all ... | |
| My spouse | 12/4/2007 |
| Q: about almost a year ago I got with my spouse. She has been clean from drugs and alcohol for a ... A: Kim, Thank you for your question and for the background information. What should you do ... | |
| White knuckle soberiy | 12/3/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend recently quit drinking becasue of an attack of pancreatitis(from Drinking) anyway he ... A: Jeanette, Thank you for your question. I can not answer the medical question - I know it is ... | |
| Husband-drinking problem | 12/1/2007 |
| Q: My husband drinks everyday, he goes through a 5th of vodka in 5 or 6 days, along with a daily beer ... A: Samantha, Thank you for your question. The description of his drinking may indicate ... | |
| Your perspective | 11/27/2007 |
| Q: I picked you to ask my question because your bio said you have been in recovery for a long time. I ... A: Michelle, Thank you for your question and the lengthy explanation. I do appreciate that ... | |
| relationship with a long time alcoholic | 11/17/2007 |
| Q: ok, try to make it short,I met a guy app 6 years ago, about a month into the relationship was told ... A: Merilee, Thank you for your question and for filling me in so completely about your past ... | |
| husband an alcoholic | 11/13/2007 |
| Q: I recently got married a couple of years ago and didnt know my husband was and alcoholic until ... A: Melinda, Thanks for your question and I am sorry that the marriage has not been a delight ... | |
| alcohol | 11/12/2007 |
| Q: How do I know if it is alcohol that makes my relationship the unbelieveable disaster that it is? the ... A: Sharron, Thank you for your question and letting me know the sense of despair this has caused ... | |
| Sober for 4 yrs, now healing & no time for relationship? | 11/10/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 6.5 years has been sober for 4 years now. His family and I did an intervention with ... A: Karen, Thank you for your question and the explanation of the relationship history. ... | |
| Alcoholic Boyfriend | 11/8/2007 |
| Q: I am an alcoholic sober since December 2006. I sobered for my now 3 1/2 year old son. Not to ... A: Irene, Thank you for your question and for some explanation of the situation you face. ... | |
| Met a recovering Alchoholic | 11/8/2007 |
| Q: I recently met a man who seems to be a great guy and have everything together except the fact that ... A: Kinnik, Thank you for the immediate response. It is very encouraging that he still attends AA ... | |
| Met a recovering Alchoholic | 11/8/2007 |
| Q: I recently met a man who seems to be a great guy and have everything together except the fact that ... A: Kinnik, Thank you for your question and wow! you met one of us sober! That is great. ... | |
| what have I done to deserve this? | 10/31/2007 |
| Q: I've written to you before. My husband and I have been married 11 years. The past 3 has been very ... A: Debbie, Thank you for your follow-up with additional information and question. I remembered ... | |
| what have I done to deserve this? | 10/30/2007 |
| Q: I've written to you before. My husband and I have been married 11 years. The past 3 has been very ... A: Debbie, Thank you for your questions and the follow up about your situation. The answer to ... | |
| Husband's Alcoholism | 10/24/2007 |
| Q: Recently, my husband entered into an alcohol detox facility where he was educated on the "triggers" ... A: Mandy, Thank you for your question. Without knowing the particulars of the "trigger" effect you ... | |
| health | 10/21/2007 |
| Q: I am 53,and have been drinking heavy since I was 17, Usually to get drunk,at least twice a month. I ... A: Brent, Thank you for your question. Although I can claim no expertise in the health issues you ... | |
| Ex recovering calling again | 10/16/2007 |
| Q: You are my last hope. I have tried everything and read everything that I can on alcoholic..etc. Here ... A: Lena, Thank you for your questions and thank you for filling me in on some of the details of your ... | |
| helping my mom recover from alcohol | 10/8/2007 |
| Q: My mother has been a full blow alcoholic for about four years now. I am only 19 and don't know very ... A: Brooke, Thank you for your question regarding your mom's alcoholism. The question of ... | |
| My husband is an alcoholic | 9/28/2007 |
| Q: Where can I find professional counseling for alcoholism? My husband is a alcoholic. We have been ... A: Lisa, Thank you for your questions and for sharing some of the details of your situation. As ... | |
| alcoholic boyfriend | 9/27/2007 |
| Q: so this is a long story but i'm desperate. I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year and he is ... A: Anne-Marie, Thank you for your question and sharing your story. It is a reminder to me the ... | |
| living w/ a recovering alcoholic | 9/14/2007 |
| Q: My husband is a recovering alcoholic. He has one year sober. Our marriage has been struggling for a ... A: Debbie, Thanks for your feedback and your comments. And thank you for the follow-up questions. ... | |
| living w/ a recovering alcoholic | 9/12/2007 |
| Q: My husband is a recovering alcoholic. He has one year sober. Our marriage has been struggling for a ... A: It is an important one and I am glad that you are reaching out for some experience, strength and ... | |
| My boyfriend goes to AA meetings with an ex girlfriend | 9/6/2007 |
| Q: my boyfriend of four years recently started attending AA. He has 30 days, which is great. However, ... A: Samantha, Thank you for your question and for sharing some of the details of this situation. I ... | |
| why do alcoholics withdraw from reality | 8/29/2007 |
| Q: I was in a relationship with an alcoholic for 3 years. I do not live with him anymore but he still ... A: Esther, Thank you for your questions and some idea of how you have perceived the alcoholic in ... | |
| Getting back to track | 8/13/2007 |
| Q: I used to be a regular drinker since last 4 years. First, it was once or twice a week. But it kept ... A: Marvi, Thank you for your questions and congratulations on the decision to stop drinking! I ... | |
| alcoholism and relationships | 8/4/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend is an alcoholic and has blackouts. We are beginning councelling today. During his ... A: Jacqueline, Thank you for your questions and sharing your personal story with me. First of ... | |
| got your reply | 8/2/2007 |
| Q: you say that I have a life but I am 47 have 6 children the youngest 2 who are 9 and 3 I look ugly I ... A: Carol, Thank you for your feedback and your continued story. I know it is hard to see ... | |
| No point going on | 8/2/2007 |
| Q: My husband has drunk intermittently throughout the years and when he does he gets verbally aggresive ... A: Carol, Thank you for your questions and sharing you story with me. It is tragic what alcohol ... | |
| Question | 7/30/2007 |
| Q: and thanks for being there to help in this area. I have been in a relationship, going on 20 yrs with ... A: Jason, Thank you for your question. First of all, let me commend you on your decision to attend ... | |
| Addicted Fiance | 7/24/2007 |
| Q: Clyde, I read your response to a question posted on the 22nd and hope you can help me. I had a ... A: Shelly, Thank you for your question and for sharing the details with me regarding the situation ... | |
| Brother in denial | 7/23/2007 |
| Q: My brother is 25 years old and has been an avid drinker since about 17. Though he will drink several ... A: Clarissa, Thank you for your question and sharing your hurt, pain, and frustration with me ... | |
| My husband | 7/21/2007 |
| Q: I am so torn. I am 43 and have been a Christian since age 12. I have just completed a 12-step ... A: Lisa, Thank you for your story and for letting me know of the pain you are feeling. It is very ... | |
| My boyfriend is a recovering alcoholic | 6/23/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend is a recovering alcoholic and has not had a drink in only one year (which i am very ... A: Laura, Thank you for your question and your story. It is a confusing thing to deal with an ... | |
| Help I don't know what to do? | 6/23/2007 |
| Q: My husband drinks way to much.He wants to pick small stupid fights.He keeps telling me how he is the ... A: Keri, Thank you for sending me your question. I can hear your pain and your frustration in your ... | |
| recovery and relapse | 5/27/2007 |
| Q: I have lived with my boyfriend for one year. He drank away his job and apartment and living with me ... A: Star, Thank you for your question. I cannot emphasize enough, and you need to seriously listen ... | |
| Best friend married to an alcoholic for 7 years | 5/22/2007 |
| Q: My best friend has been married to an alcoholic for 7 years now. For the entire time I've been the ... A: Tracy, It hurts to lose someone whom we love and for whom we care so much. The situation of ... | |
| Best friend married to an alcoholic for 7 years | 5/22/2007 |
| Q: My best friend has been married to an alcoholic for 7 years now. For the entire time I've been the ... A: Tracy, Thank you for your question. Seven years is a very long time to have been so ... | |
Addiction to Alcohol
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Clyde
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Expertise
I can answer questions on the recovery from alcohol addiction as I am a recovering alcoholic with 17+ years of sobriety. I can also address the spiritual aspects of the 12-Step program as I have a Master of Divinity degree; serve as a pastor for the Quaker church; and, serve as a hospice chaplain. I have also served as a prison chaplain for one year and currently volunteer as a mentor once a week, working with two inmates one-on-one as they work towards reentry into society as free persons.
Experience
I am a recovering alcoholic with 17+ years of continuous sobriety.
Education/Credentials
Master of Divinity awarded in 2000 from Garrett-Evangelical Theological Seminary
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