| Subject | Date Asked |
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| My boyfriend is an alcoholic | 11/5/2009 |
Q: I am at a complete loss of what to do. I feel like an idiot because I have been through a close ...
A: I can hear the pain you feel realizing that you have replicated in your relationship with your ...
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| my husband is an alcoholic | 11/1/2009 |
Q: I have been married to a great man(when he's sober) for 8 years and have 3 beautiful girls and a ...
A: I am so sorry that you have to experience the pain of living with a man whom you love but who is an ...
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| alcoholism and control | 10/31/2009 |
Q: I've been with my fiance for 6 years, and I always thought he was just a social drinker until about ...
A: I must condition these comments by saying that they are based on the assumption that your fiance is ...
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| Guilt | 10/28/2009 |
Q: I hope my question is quick. I am in my early 40's and have had a rocky relationship with a girl in ...
A: It is indeed very painful to end a relationship with someone you love, even though you know it is ...
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| Recovery and Mental/physical issues | 10/24/2009 |
Q: I quit drinking three weeks ago with the aide of my doctor and have slowly started to feel ...
A: Please excuse the delay in responding to your question. Chronic excessive alcohol use adversely ...
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| Do I reach out to help | 10/19/2009 |
Q: My sister was released from prison a few months ago vehicular manslaughter. She had asked if she ...
A: I understand, and approve of, your caution in reaching out to your sister. My vocation as an ...
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| Addiction to Alcohol | 10/17/2009 |
Q: Here is my question. In july i broke-up with my boyfriend he is an alcoholic, who is in deniel, ...
A: First of all, I congratulate you on your strength and obvious sound mental health that allowed you ...
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| Alcoholic Husband | 10/16/2009 |
Q: I am an Indian, my husband drinks alcohol because I work in an office where there are men around. He ...
A: You don't give much information in your question, but it sounds as if you are in a frightening and ...
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| Alcoholic relapse | 10/14/2009 |
Q: We are just two of them. Here is the deal: I live with a man who has been sober for two years now. ...
A: I can certainly hear the pain and frustration you feel trying to help this man you love to stop ...
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| to stay or go? | 10/8/2009 |
Q: My husband is an alcoholic. I have considered leaving him several times in the past but his remorse ...
A: Your situation is indeed difficult and painful. Here are some ideas to perhaps help you with your ...
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| object of hatred | 10/7/2009 |
Q: my 41 year old son has been drunk since he was 17 he's had pancreatic, only tried sobriety for a ...
A: What a painful situation for you! I regret you have to experience your son's anger. It is difficult ...
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| Alcoholic husband | 10/5/2009 |
Q: My husband has been an alcoholic in denial for many years and is a heavy drinker from 5pm until he ...
A: First of all, I understand the pain and consequences you experience from living with an active ...
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| Alcoholism | 9/30/2009 |
Q: My husband ended a long term affair about 2 years ago, during the affair he drank all the time ...
A: I regret that you are in this difficult situation. It is very painful to watch a loved one's ...
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| husbands addicitions | 9/24/2009 |
Q: what can u legally do for someone who constantly drinks and goes to the hospital just to come out ...
A: I am truly sorry you have to watch someone you care about drinking himself to death. In most states ...
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| Daughter's love for parents lost. | 9/19/2009 |
Q: I have an alcoholic daughter who is completely in denial about her problem. We've always been very ...
A: I am so sorry you have to experiemce the pain of alcoholism in your child. For me, it's been 3 out ...
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| boyfriend and drinking | 9/14/2009 |
Q: i have been with my boyfriend for four years. he has always liked a drink and it has always caused ...
A: I am sorry for the delay in answering you. Self-centeredness. negative personality change, damage to ...
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| Alcohol at Party | 9/11/2009 |
Q: My husband is a recovering alcoholic, who still struggles with his addiction. My parents are having ...
A: Your question is an excellent one that comes up frequently for persons in recovery. The best answer ...
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| Brother's continued drinking after treatment | 9/8/2009 |
Q: My brother is an alcoholic, he has been in detox many times, in a treatment program, goes to AA ...
A: I regret the pain that you and your family are experiencing with your brother. I have a 44 year old ...
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| Alcoholic relationships | 9/4/2009 |
Q: I am a 49-yr old female that has been in recovery now for 5 yrs. and love it. My significant other, ...
A: I can't answer your question more specifically than to say this: I would condition his moving back ...
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| Alcoholic relationships | 9/3/2009 |
Q: I am a 49-yr old female that has been in recovery now for 5 yrs. and love it. My significant other, ...
A: Congratulations on your 5 years of recovery. I know how painful it is to love an alcoholic which is ...
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| former party girl does 180 | 8/26/2009 |
Q: My drinking days have been over for four years now. My husband, after much pleading by me, quit a ...
A: First of all, congratulations on your four years of abstinence from alcohol. That's wonderful. As ...
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| my sister | 8/25/2009 |
Q: why do alcoholics keep the empty bottles. it it a cry for help. even if they say they arnt drinking ...
A: Lisa, All of what you describe can be explained by the effects of long term alcohol addiction, or ...
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| my sister | 8/24/2009 |
Q: why do alcoholics keep the empty bottles. it it a cry for help. even if they say they arnt drinking ...
A: The situation you describe is most upsetting, especially because of the abusive impact of your ...
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| my sister | 8/23/2009 |
Q: why do alcoholics keep the empty bottles. it it a cry for help. even if they say they arnt drinking
A: I am sory that your sister has a problem with alcohol. Alcoholism is a powerful disease that causes ...
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| alcohol and emotional abuse | 8/22/2009 |
Q: i had been seeing a man for 9 months. for the first 1-2 months i did not realize, at all, that he ...
A: Sorry for the delay in responding. You sound as if you have handled the situation quite well, I do ...
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| alcoholic husband in denial | 8/21/2009 |
Q: I will try to make this as short as possible without leaving anything out. I have been married for ...
A: It is indeed painful and frustrating watching a loved one's drinking destroy himself and emotionally ...
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| 23 year old son | 8/14/2009 |
Q: First let me say that I feel blessed to come across your name on the internet because I have no one ...
A: I empathize with what you're going through because I have three children with this problem two in ...
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| Alcohol poisoned blackout emergency must know? | 8/12/2009 |
Q: My husband (33yrs old) is an alcoholic and we both understand that “One day an Alcoholic always an ...
A: I regret that you have to experience alcoholism again in your loved one after some years of ...
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| removal of husband from home | 7/31/2009 |
Q: How can I get my husband to leave the home - just for a short period? I cannot stand him here any ...
A: It is certainly painful and frustrating, and very exhausting emotionally for a woman in your ...
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| Consistantly drinking husband | 7/27/2009 |
Q: I have been married to a man for 2 years. My husband who is 48 will come home every day after work ...
A: It is so painful to watch a loved one's drinking destroy himself and emotionally damage those who ...
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| how do i relate to my recovering friend? | 7/26/2009 |
Q: i have recently reconnected to a friend that i knew many, many yrs ago. we lost touch after he moved ...
A: You are indeed a caring friend seeking to be sure to not inadvertently endanger your friend's ...
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| alcohol abuse | 7/21/2009 |
Q: i am trying to seek help for my problem. the problem is i am not an alcoholic so to speak. i do ...
A: First of all, I commend you for making the decision to address your alcohol problem. By ...
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| Soon to be Ex Husband's Drinking Problem | 7/21/2009 |
Q: My soon to be ex husband believes that he is not an alcoholic. Our marriage was put under so much ...
A: I am so sorry that you have to go through so much pain watching someone you care about killing ...
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| Alcoholics last binge | 7/20/2009 |
Q: My best friend and i have been social drinkers for 10 years. A few months ago we had a particularly ...
A: You certainly are entitled to your pain and anger at your friend's behavior. I often say that the ...
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| husband in denial about drinking problem | 7/15/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 14 years and have been together for 18 years. He drank and ...
A: It is indeed painful and frustrating watching a loved one's drinking destroy himself and emotionally ...
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| Alchohol vs depression | 7/14/2009 |
Q: Okay - I know it's a toughie, but does one cause the other? Is one an excuse for the other? Where ...
A: It IS a tough question, but here are my ideas on dual diagnosis, also called comorbidity. 85 to 90 ...
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| Husband & Wife drinking together | 7/13/2009 |
Q: Jan - I've written to you before about my recently divorced daughter, but now she's given me more ...
A: It's such a difficult and painful situation; I am sorry you have to experience it, Ann. If there is ...
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| Ex still contacting after relapse | 7/13/2009 |
Q: Please help me. My ex of 4 years broke up with me while in treatment 2 years ago. Since then, he ...
A: Sadly, an alcoholic who is not in recovery, is manipulative, often cruel, and incapable of an honest ...
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| Husband & Wife drinking together | 7/12/2009 |
Q: Jan - I've written to you before about my recently divorced daughter, but now she's given me more ...
A: I don't remember the details of your daughter's situation. If she's an alcoholic, my question is: Is ...
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| Daughter Binge Drinking | 7/10/2009 |
Q: I feel so utterly helpless. I have a 31yr old divorced daughter of two years who is now living with ...
A: What a difficult situation for you! Three out of five of my children have had addiction problems; ...
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| Should I talk to the enablers? | 6/29/2009 |
Q: I had a friend who I dated off and on for 3 years. I recently had to call everything off with her ...
A: Yes, I suggest meeting with them and bringing all of your former friend's behaviors out in the open. ...
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| xanax and vodka | 6/21/2009 |
Q: Once I saw a site on aol that was titled "how to kill yourself with xanax and alcohol" I didn't pay ...
A: Accidental overdose and suicide can occur when combining alcohol with another sedative. It is the ...
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| Homeless Nephew | 5/19/2009 |
Q: I have a nephew, age 22, who is homeless/ currently living in an abandoned house in Michigan. His ...
A: I never give up on trying to get an individual into treatment. You never know if this treatment ...
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| Husband won't quit drinking | 5/18/2009 |
Q: I have been married for 18 years and we have a 10 year old child. I am almost 40 My husband is an ...
A: Your situation is indeed overwhelming and painful and is one that is difficult to handle on your ...
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| Abuseive husband | 5/15/2009 |
Q: I have been with my partner for 11 years and married for over 2 years. He drinks every day without ...
A: I assume from the lnguage you use that you are in Australia. I gather that a "stubby" is about 12 ...
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| Drinking Behavior | 4/24/2009 |
Q: 20 years ago I divorced my husband because of his excessive use of alcohol. 20 years later, he lost ...
A: It can be incredibly difficult to have a healthy relationship with an alcoholic with a long history ...
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| Is this an alcoholic? | 4/13/2009 |
Q: and thank you for your time. I think my mother has an alcohol problem, but she is not falling into ...
A: Yes, unfortunately, I think your mother has a problem. Here are the indicators: a pattern of ...
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| acloholic and recovered drug addict | 4/11/2009 |
Q: I have been dating a man for about 9 months. About 4 mos into the relationship he started acting ...
A: I applaud you for putting your life and wellbeing first. Alcoholics and addicts can be decent loving ...
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| my sister is an alchoholic | 4/10/2009 |
Q: My sister has been an alcoholic for a few years. She went through a 30 day rehab program, got a job ...
A: It is so difficult to know what is the correct thing to do when a person you love is an alcoholic. ...
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| A friend has an alcoholic mother with two younger siblings at the mother's home. | 4/7/2009 |
Q: I'm looking for some straight forward advice with how to handle a situation that isn't directly ...
A: Individuals from an alcoholic home who are adults and out of the home, but concerned about their ...
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| drinking | 4/6/2009 |
Q: is my brother dying form drinking to much. he has been drinking from age 16 has become a alcoholic ...
A: I am not a physician and so cannot advise about medical matters. However, clearly your brother needs ...
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| husband alcoholic, now drogadict? how can i protect my daughter | 4/4/2009 |
Q: we meet at job 6 years ago, he moved to my apartment and we start dating. we were drinking 2 beers ...
A: My heart goes out to you for your situation. Some of the questions you ask I cannot answer: those ...
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| Alchol Addiction | 3/28/2009 |
Q: My family is totally distraught over my sisters ever growing addiction to alchol. She has been in ...
A: It is so difficult to watch someone you love being destroyed by alcoholism, and I sure hear that in ...
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| Functional Alcoholic? | 3/27/2009 |
Q: My dad (age 62) has had a series of events (work demotion, death of his little sister, wife started ...
A: I think it would be helpful to have an objective individual with some knowledge of interventions to ...
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| Functional Alcoholic? | 3/26/2009 |
Q: My dad (age 62) has had a series of events (work demotion, death of his little sister, wife started ...
A: First of all, I congratulate you on your knowledge of alcoholism and your determination to not try ...
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| advice pleeeease | 3/20/2009 |
Q: This question is asking if my ex boyfriend has a mental disorder or has an alcohol/gampbling problem ...
A: I definitely agree with your psychologist that continuing in a relationship with this man would be ...
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| My husband drinks too much and just got laid-off | 3/17/2009 |
Q: My husband drinks about 4-6 beers every day and doesn't seem to think this is a problem. I know ...
A: As the daughter of a recovering alcoholic you DO seem to be clear about the fact that you cannot ...
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| Mother-in-lwa | 3/7/2009 |
Q: I recently called my Mother-in-law on the carpet for her drinking problem. It has started affecting ...
A: I regret that you have to face the pain of alcoholism again, after your experience with your Dad. It ...
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| addiction | 3/2/2009 |
Q: what causes people who drink to get addicted to their first drink?
A: Your question is not an easy one to answer. Strictly speaking, no one becomes addicted after the ...
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| Behaviours | 2/17/2009 |
Q: Can you mull over three questions please? 1.I can go for weeks without booze, or just having a ...
A: It is difficult to answer your questions without more information. You don't say what happens when ...
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| Recovering A's Contradictory Actions | 1/25/2009 |
Q: My husband and I just divorced after 10 years of marriage -he left me after 8 yrs, and we lived 2 ...
A: I regret that I cannot give you a definitive answer to your question about husband's behaviors. I ...
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| Recovering A's Contradictory Actions | 1/25/2009 |
Q: My husband and I just divorced after 10 years of marriage -he left me after 8 yrs, and we lived 2 ...
A: I hear lound and clear your anguish and pain over the situation you have described. I also hear very ...
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| my brothers an alcoholic | 1/10/2009 |
Q: I am torn this time in helping my brother. He is an alcoholic and has been in and out of sleep for ...
A: Lucy, I regret to say that your question is a medical one and I am not qualified to answer it. If ...
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| illness with alcoholism | 1/5/2009 |
Q: My partner of 6 years has slowly deteriorated, he has always liked a drink he grew up around pubs & ...
A: I regret that you have you face such a difficult situation. It seems clear that your partner has ...
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| Girlfriend's Alcoholic Son | 12/28/2008 |
Q: I recently started dating a woman that has an alcoholic son. He is 24, lives at home with her and ...
A: Your observations are astute: your lady friend is enabling her son and has become enmeshed in his ...
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| my husband has 3 addictions | 12/23/2008 |
Q: How do I deal with my husbands addictions he has 3 addictions, alcohol, grambling, and smoking. We ...
A: You have the right to feel lonely and sad; it is so difficult to watch the person you love being ...
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| my boyfriend's an alcoholic | 12/19/2008 |
Q: My I've known my boyfriend for a little over 2years. Hes 23. Im 19. Now that I think about it he has ...
A: Alcoholics hurt the persons they love, and I can "hear" the pain you are in. Your boyfriend's ...
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| Health | 12/14/2008 |
Q: My husband was in Liver Failure seven years ago He gave up driving for three moths but since then ...
A: You don't really give me enough information to comment very specifically on your situation. I can ...
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| what to do? | 12/9/2008 |
Q: my father is in a hospital for treatment for alcoholics. He was never a drunk, but over the last ...
A: It is certainly a healthy reaction to abusive behaviors to be hesitant to trust even your father. ...
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| Girlfriend in AA relationship struggle | 12/4/2008 |
Q: I'm 28 years old and my girlfriend is 31 years old. We been together for two years. A pretty strong ...
A: It's often very challenging to be in a relationship with a recovering alcoholic. Often the last area ...
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| Should I be concerned? | 12/3/2008 |
Q: My husband's father is an alcoholic (heavy alcoholic). Although I've not seen the behaviors one ...
A: I think you are correct in being concerned. Although I do not have enough information to ...
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| alcoholism | 12/2/2008 |
Q: I am a recovering alcoholic (5yrs) and there seems to be a debate over how many drinks a person can ...
A: I agree he is at high risk to become an alcoholic, with his family history (there is a high ...
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| alcoholism | 12/1/2008 |
Q: I am a recovering alcoholic (5yrs) and there seems to be a debate over how many drinks a person can ...
A: Congratulations on your 5 years of recovery! There are several issues raised by your question. ...
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| Does my husband have a problem with alcohol? | 11/16/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for a year and a half but together for five years. Over this ...
A: It's great that you are asking for help with this issue; I know that is hard to do. Although I ...
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| Has my Boyfriend got a problem? | 11/13/2008 |
Q: I have been reading a few questions and answers on the same topic, however the reason why I'm asking ...
A: I love your name by the way. Yes that sounds OK, but not when he is drunk or high. The paranoia may ...
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| Has my Boyfriend got a problem? | 11/13/2008 |
Q: I have been reading a few questions and answers on the same topic, however the reason why I'm asking ...
A: It is truly a struggle to know what to do when someone you love has an alcohol or drug problem. The ...
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| Is my husband an alcholic? | 11/10/2008 |
Q: I've been married for three months to a wonderful caring man. We dated for 3 months before we got ...
A: It is a healthy sign that you are seeking help rather than avoiding the issue of your husband's ...
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| My boyfriend of 2 yrs. is an alcoholic | 11/8/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend was already an alcoholic when i met him but i didn't know much about it being a real ...
A: It is terribly painful, I know, to watch someone you love killing himself with alcoholic drinking, ...
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| Signs of Alcoholism and how family history contributes | 11/6/2008 |
Q: all this is very new to me. I think its great you answer so many questions for people. I am ...
A: Your description certainly does raise red flags. A person whose parent is alcoholic and who has a ...
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| alcoholism | 10/23/2008 |
Q: what is poor primary socialization?
A: I am not sure how to answer this question because it is so broad. I am not an expert in sociology; ...
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| My brother is alcoholic living with my parents | 10/21/2008 |
Q: I have an alcoholic brother who is 38 years old and he lives with my parents. He started to drink 10 ...
A: The situation you describe is a difficult one to address. Your parents, through no fault of their ...
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| alcoholism | 10/19/2008 |
Q: my husband is an addict. he gets abusive after drinking. he hits me and doesnt know what he talks. ...
A: There are no easy answers for your situation. It sounds as if you have talked to your husband ...
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| Alcohol dependence | 10/18/2008 |
Q: I wanted to know how I can make my boyfriend see he has a problem. He is only 19 but he loves to ...
A: First of all, it is a very healthy sign for you that you are seeking help to directly address your ...
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| Lost | 10/14/2008 |
Q: I am so lost..I think. About 4 months ago I received a phone call from my x-"recovering" alcoholic ...
A: I don't think you are lost. I think you understand quite well what's going on with you and your ...
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| help me! | 10/13/2008 |
Q: please help me out with my dad. he drinks way to much. and i have/had to grow up with my dad always ...
A: I am sorry you have so much pain over your Dad's drinking problem, but it is a good thing that you ...
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| Is my on/off bf alcoholic? Am i right to leave him now? | 10/6/2008 |
Q: I have been involved with Mark for 5 years,I quickly realised he was a heavy drinking but as ...
A: I regret the delay in responding to your question. I am not sure why I didn't get the question and ...
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| husband's increasing drinking and effect upon family | 10/6/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married almost 20 years and have a pre-teen son. My husband is running ...
A: What a difficult situation for you and your son! Although I do not like diagnosing alcoholism from ...
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| alcohol/divorce | 10/2/2008 |
Q: My husband has recently filed for a divorce. He is an alcoholic, although he doesn't admit it. I ...
A: First of all I respect your position about the divorce and wanting to make your marriage work. ...
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| Wife is alcoholic | 9/23/2008 |
Q: I need advice. Wife is alcoholic. She is good when not drinking, but totally different when ...
A: I am sorry for the pain you are obviously in. The first priority is, as you suggest, the safety of ...
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| How do I talk to my husband about his increasingly alarming drinking? | 9/15/2008 |
Q: I am so nervouse to put this sentence down, it means this is really an issue. I have been married ...
A: This is such a difficult situation for you, as a newlywed and a person in recovery, to have a ...
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| Alcoholism | 9/14/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend wants to stop drinkng. She says it will be easier for her to stop if i stop with her. ...
A: That's a really good question. I am not sure that "fairness" is the issue here. Let me give some ...
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| advice regarding alcoholic friend | 9/10/2008 |
Q: Jan, My best friend is an alcoholic. She got a DUI 8 years ago and went to AA. As a result she quit ...
A: You sounde like a good, caring friend. As such, I consider the most loving thing to do is to be ...
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| My 32 Year old Daughter | 9/10/2008 |
Q: I have a 32 year old daughter who became an alcoholic a couple of years ago during a short abusive ...
A: I sure empathize with your feelings of anger and pain. Persons with addiction are totally ...
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| child&alcoholic parent | 9/9/2008 |
Q: I am the girlfriend of a man who is battling alcoholism. He is in his fifties and has tried on and ...
A: I truly regret that you are in this very difficult situation. Your boyfriend's alcoholism is at a ...
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| My boyfriend is in rehab for alcohol | 9/8/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend just went into a 28 day program for alcohol. This is the first time. We plan on being ...
A: Congratulations to you and your boyfriend on his agreeing to get help for his alcohol problem; that ...
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| Alcohol Rehab | 8/23/2008 |
Q: Williams: My son committed himself to a 30 day Alcohol Detox-Treatment inpatient facility and will ...
A: Congratulations on your son's agreeing to go to treatment. It sounds as if you have already educated ...
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| my boyfriend is an alcoholic | 8/22/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend recently moved out into his own appartement with his older brother. Having this new ...
A: You don't give me much information to go on, but if your boyfriend is an alcoholic, your best ...
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| what to do... | 8/9/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend of going on a year and a half admits to being an alcoholic, and until recently I'll ...
A: There are no simple solutions for your situation. I like the fact that you are being honest with ...
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| my boyfriend wants to stop drinking how can I help him? | 8/8/2008 |
Q: He comes home late and drunk he's been like this for the past I'd say 5 or 6 years. He used to smoke ...
A: Marlene, As I said before, if your boyfriend is having trouble controlling his drinking or stopping ...
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| my boyfriend wants to stop drinking how can I help him? | 8/7/2008 |
Q: He comes home late and drunk he's been like this for the past I'd say 5 or 6 years. He used to smoke ...
A: Your boyfriend is fortunate to have someone like you who is concerned about him and takes steps to ...
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| Husband | 8/6/2008 |
Q: My husband of 18 years has not had a drink in 5 days. He has not gone to AA nor wants to. We have ...
A: It is difficult to answer a question with so few facts. I'll assume for the sake of this answer that ...
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| rules for alcoholic grandpa | 8/3/2008 |
Q: We are about to have to tell my dad that he cannot drive our 15 month old anywhere because of his ...
A: Well, at least someone close to your Dad is being honest and appropriate with him. I am sure you ...
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| rules for alcoholic grandpa | 8/1/2008 |
Q: We are about to have to tell my dad that he cannot drive our 15 month old anywhere because of his ...
A: That's well done. I do not think that your conditions are too lenient. The power of alcoholism is ...
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| Husband & Beer | 7/30/2008 |
Q: Rebos has responded to two of my emails, but I see he is no longer among the experts list. Anyway, ...
A: While I do not have the benefit of the background information from your earlier questions, I will ...
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| scapegoat for drinking | 7/29/2008 |
Q: my daughter in law is blaming my son for her drinking. She ran up 90,000$ in debt without telling ...
A: Leonard, I'm not sure how helpful I can be to you with such limited information. Reading between the ...
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| Dating outside of recovery | 7/28/2008 |
Q: I have been clean & sober for the better part of 5 years. Within these five years I have always ...
A: Your concerns seem normal ones for a recovering person. I have several comments, and will assume ...
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| my boyfiend is an alcoholic and a bad dad | 7/13/2008 |
Q: my boyfriend of 5 years has recently had an accident at work and then as a result was sacked. he is ...
A: You are right to be upset, and to ask for help. The most important issue that I see in your question ...
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| realationship Q | 7/10/2008 |
Q: jan, until a few weeks ago i was drinking way to much. i would classify my self as a heavy/problem ...
A: Congratulations on recognizing you have a drinking problem and being willing to do something about ...
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| Losing It Completly | 7/8/2008 |
Q: Do not know where to begin as never used this type of help before but here goes. I have a serious ...
A: I applaud your deciding you have a problem and being willing to get help. Staying sober and ...
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| Friend of Bill W. | 7/6/2008 |
Q: "but at some stage of his drinking career he begins to lose all control of his liquor consumption, ...
A: You are referring to loss of control or powerlessness in terms of the first Step of AA; this means: ...
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| worried about a friend | 6/25/2008 |
Q: I am hoping to get some advice on how to deal with a dear friend of mine that has been lying to me ...
A: Your friend has a number of indicators suggesting alcoholism: a DUI (many who drive with a blood ...
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| Anxiety and Alcohol don't mix | 6/11/2008 |
Q: I currently have been diagnosed with GAD (generalized anxiety disorder). I have been taking Zoloft ...
A: As currently used, the term "binge drinker" usually means someone who drinks to the point of causing ...
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| Alcohol | 6/3/2008 |
Q: I have been married for about 8 months and I think my husband has a problem with drinking. He use to ...
A: Your situation is a difficult one, but it is a healthy sign that you are asking for help. Often ...
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| alcoholism | 5/29/2008 |
Q: My dad and me live alone in a flat in London. He was an alcoholic about 15 years ago when i was ...
A: You are in a tough situation. You don't say how old you are, but at any age it is difficult to deal ...
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| Is husband an alcoholic or "a drinker" | 5/29/2008 |
Q: How can I know if my husband's drinking is "reasonable" or crossing over into alcoholism? Am I ...
A: It is difficult for me to diagnose a person an alcoholic long distance like this. However,the ...
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| anger resentment | 5/27/2008 |
Q: my mothers leg was broken by the amblancemen who did not strap her in the seat propley then the ...
A: Feelings of anger in response to your mother's situation would be normal no matter how long you've ...
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| setting boundaries with alcoholic friend | 5/27/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have a dear friend who we are concerned about. We first suspected he was an ...
A: Your instincts are good; as you suggest, you cannot fix your friend, but you can try to not ...
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| My wifes alcoholism | 5/14/2008 |
Q: I am currently attending Al Anon as I believe/know from the core of my soul my wife is an alcoholic. ...
A: I can tell you have learned a lot from your Al-Anon program, and hope that you can continue to ...
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| ended relationship from alcohol and prior abuse | 5/13/2008 |
Q: my fiancé ended our relationship after she had entered rehab. She told me that our relationship was ...
A: Sean, I think that you and your fiancé are in as about a good a place as you can be for now. You ...
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| Setting boudaries with problem-drinking husband | 5/13/2008 |
Q: I've been married to my husband for almost one year, but we've been together for 8. We've always ...
A: Your question is a difficult one to answer. From an addiction diagnosis standpoint, we usually look ...
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| wife drinking | 5/12/2008 |
Q: . how can i get her to stop she wont go to meetings its like she just dosent care about anything ...
A: If your wife is an alcoholic, then you are in a situation that is profoundly upsetting, watching ...
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| ended relationship from alcohol and prior abuse | 5/9/2008 |
Q: my fiancé ended our relationship after she had entered rehab. She told me that our relationship was ...
A: Sean, As I said in my first response to you, I suggest that you attend Al-Anon, not AA, unless you ...
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| ended relationship from alcohol and prior abuse | 5/8/2008 |
Q: my fiancé ended our relationship after she had entered rehab. She told me that our relationship was ...
A: Sean, That's a tough situation for you to deal with. Your fiancé not only is apparently an alcoholic ...
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| Alchoholic brother | 5/2/2008 |
Q: My brother is, I think less than a year from being dead from alcohol. Is there any situation that ...
A: Unfortunately, even though drinking does kill and in a real sense your brother may be drinking ...
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| burning off alcohol | 4/25/2008 |
Q: Can the body burn off alcohol with exercise? Some say no and some say yes.Those who say no claim ...
A: Alcohol is metabolized at a constant rate by the liver (assuming it is sound and healthy), not by ...
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| I have a very dear friend | 4/18/2008 |
Q: I have a very dear friend of mine that has a severe drinking issue. I have known her for about 8 ...
A: First of all, it is clear from what you say that you care about your friend a great deal. It is also ...
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| Dating a recovering alcoholic | 4/7/2008 |
Q: I began dating a terrific guy last December. We met in an online dating community and hit it off ...
A: I think you have the situation figured out pretty well. You do not specify the length of time this ...
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| What do I need to do? | 4/7/2008 |
Q: I have abused alcohol for the past year. I do not feel that I am addicted to it, but I can tell that ...
A: Matty, It sounds as if over a substantial period of time that you cannot limit your drinking, and ...
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| What do I need to do? | 4/6/2008 |
Q: I have abused alcohol for the past year. I do not feel that I am addicted to it, but I can tell that ...
A: Congratulations on your willingmess to seek some help; that can be a first step toward resolution of ...
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| i think i am dying | 4/5/2008 |
Q: relapsed two years ago after 10 years sober. kids now through college.divorced living alone and ...
A: As a recovering person I can say that I know how you feel. There is always hope, and the answer is ...
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| undesrtanding a friend | 3/16/2008 |
Q: I have known my friend for approx. 6 years, we have been kind of dating for about 3 months. Last ...
A: The best way to help your friend is to consistently support his stopping drinking and returning to ...
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| alcohic b/f | 3/13/2008 |
Q: My b/f and i have been together better then 10 years. And he has been drinking most of that time. ...
A: I am pleased you are seeking help for your b/f's drinking. I know that it's hard to ask for help for ...
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| will my husbands drinking get worse? | 3/10/2008 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for 3 years and we have a 2 year old son together. in the time ...
A: I always congratulate a person such as you who decides to seek help for an alcohol problem that is ...
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| my fiance | 2/15/2008 |
Q: well we have been dating for 6 months known each other 4 2 yrs, &&& been engaged for 3 months!! ...
A: I'm sorry, but I don't have enough information to make specific suggestions to you. Has your fiance ...
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| my father becomes drunk almost everyday... | 2/12/2008 |
Q: nice to meet you ! i live in vietnam, 22 my father is 56, he drinks beer and wine 45C, when he ...
A: It's nice to meet you too. Your situation is difficult. The first thing to try to do is to not let ...
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| my alcoholic ex husband | 2/7/2008 |
Q: I never thought I would one day find myself in a site like this, yet here i am. This is my story. ...
A: I know it must have been difficult to write. Your description of your ex-husband's behavior is ...
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| Partner is in Recovery | 1/31/2008 |
Q: My partner got into AA and is 6 mos. sober. Her focus is totally on her self as I know it should ...
A: Your reactions are those of almost any person who loves an alcoholic in early recovery, and are very ...
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| alcoholic parent | 1/28/2008 |
Q: My father has been an alcoholic as long as I can remember (I am 34) my mom finally divorced him she ...
A: Your situation is so difficult to handle because of the conflict between what is correct behavior in ...
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| recovering alcoholic in new relationship | 1/27/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend has been sober for 17 months. I did not know him when he was drinking. He is an amazing ...
A: This is the type of question I deal with all the time in my addictions counseling practice online. ...
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| recovering alcoholic in new relationship | 1/26/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend has been sober for 17 months. I did not know him when he was drinking. He is an amazing ...
A: Yes, fear of intimacy and confusion about feelings are common in recovering alcoholics. It sounds as ...
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| Daughter addiction to alcohol | 1/19/2008 |
Q: Our daugher is addicted to alcohol. She is in jail now for another dui and this is her 5th one she ...
A: Wanda, I know how difficult it is to have a child with alcoholism no matter how old she is; I have ...
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| Best Friend in trouble with Alcohol | 1/14/2008 |
Q: My best friend of 35 years called me the other night and confessed she has a drinking problem. I am ...
A: Alcoholism is often a silent disorder except for those living with the individual, as indicated in ...
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| First Time drinker | 1/12/2008 |
Q: I'm very new to alcohol and I was wondering if you could help me understand the subject better. Last ...
A: It's great that you are asking for information about drinking. I wish more young people would do so ...
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| Effect of alcohol on consolidation of memories & new skills | 1/5/2008 |
Q: The day-to-day life of many students, certainly here in the UK, is to spend all day working very ...
A: I do not have the time to research this question, but can say that I know of no research ...
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| alcoholism | 12/19/2007 |
Q: My partner binge drinks occasionally and gets absolutely drunk thens gets very aggressive where he ...
A: You don't really give enough information for me to diagnose your partner an alcoholic, but I'll ...
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| help | 12/18/2007 |
Q: My husband and me get married just one year ago, and now i know he is a alcoholic, i'm very strong ...
A: I'm sorry, but you didn't give me much information or even ask a question. I'll try to give you some ...
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| mood changes/personality | 12/13/2007 |
Q: My husband is an alcoholic. A few months ago he stopped drinking (he was drinking daily for several ...
A: Sorry for the delay in answering your question; I have been incredibly busy. The answer is probably ...
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| husband drinking | 12/4/2007 |
Q: i have been saved recenlty and my husband who is younger then me we have been married for two years ...
A: Bless you for seeking help for your husband's drinking problem. A sign of a drinking problem is use ...
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| My spouse | 12/4/2007 |
Q: about almost a year ago I got with my spouse. She has been clean from drugs and alcohol for a ...
A: It's not how often a person drinks but the result of drinking, that is, loss of control, negative ...
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| My spouse | 12/4/2007 |
Q: about almost a year ago I got with my spouse. She has been clean from drugs and alcohol for a ...
A: It is a healthy sign that you are seeking help to deal with your spouse's drinking problem. I don't ...
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| Is he an alcoholic? | 12/1/2007 |
Q: My partner of 7 years does not drink every day. I am with him 3 nights a week (we both have children ...
A: It's a positive sign of your mental health that you are asking for help; too often a person in your ...
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| Evict 17 yr. live-in alcoholic bf | 11/28/2007 |
Q: I've been living a roller coaster ride of happiness to misery for the last 17 years. I have become ...
A: You have beautifully detailed your situation, your role in it, and what you need to do. Your basic ...
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| should i stop drinking? | 11/25/2007 |
Q: I am 25 and have just moved in with my long-distance boyfriend of 3 years. A night of drinking for ...
A: First of all give yourself a pat on the back for asking for help. Recognition of a problem and ...
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| I think my friend is an alcoholic and I don't know what to do | 11/21/2007 |
Q: I have known M for six years, and he is one of my closest friends. He just graduated college and I ...
A: I congratulate you on acting on your concern about your friend's drinking; often people just stand ...
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| what to do | 11/15/2007 |
Q: I recently married and I didn't know that my husband was an frequent drinker and it really bothers ...
A: Negative personality change and tension in a relationship caused by alcohol consumption are ...
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| Alcoholic Wife and Mother-inLaw | 11/5/2007 |
Q: I have been married to my wife for 2yrs and we now have a 3months old child. With my 2years ...
A: There are no simple answers to the situation you have described. Your wife's alcoholism and the ...
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| How much is too much?? | 10/25/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 24 years. He became legally blind (10 yrs ago) and is on ...
A: I don't really have enough information to place a firm diagnosis of alcoholism on your husband's ...
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| health | 10/16/2007 |
Q: how do you know when you have a problem with alcohol?
A: A good rule of thumb to figure out whether your alcohol use may be a problem that needs to be ...
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| alcoholic wife | 10/13/2007 |
Q: As many people in my particular predicament, I am not exactly sure what my question is.... My ...
A: Alcoholism is a disease that hurts everyone, including the alcoholic and her loved ones. First of ...
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| Alcohol/Gilfriend/Quitting | 10/7/2007 |
Q: I am a freshman in college. I have been going out with my girlfriend for almost a year now. We go to ...
A: The first thing to recognize is that your reactions and feelings are normal for an individual who ...
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| alcohol and marriage | 9/13/2007 |
Q: My husband came to me on Thurs and said he is not sexually attracted to me anymore. Then through out ...
A: I really don't have enough information to determine whether or not your husband has alcoholism, but ...
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| drinking problem? | 8/19/2007 |
Q: my husband makes terrible irrisponsible decisions when he is drunk and i think he has a drinking ...
A: Your husband's drinking IS a problem. Going to work drunk, driving drunk, negative personality ...
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| Is recovery/sobriety an option here? | 8/14/2007 |
Q: Greetings Jan, My tale is woefully long but for me it's been a ride filled with wild ups and downs ...
A: Don, Forgive me, but I am going to be very direct here. Bottom line, L needs to do a thorough Step ...
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| fiance's lifetime alcoholism | 8/6/2007 |
Q: my fiance has been ann alcoholic all of his life trying may times to stop this time he has been ...
A: A person who is an alcoholic ahould, ideally, not use any drug that affect the central nervous ...
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| Wife Drinking Problem? | 7/9/2007 |
Q: My wife of 13 years has a drinking problem. What I am trying to assess is whether she is an ...
A: A pattern of alcohol related behaviors such as those stated, tension in relationships with spouse ...
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| Is my boyfriend a alcoholic? | 6/28/2007 |
Q: rite i bin with my boyfriend for over a year now and he drinks every day as soon as he comes home ...
A: I still do not have enough information to diagnose your boyfriend as an alcoholic. A pattern of ...
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