| Subject | Date Asked |
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| Husband & Beer | 10/10/2008 |
Q: I have emailed Rebos a few times, but I see he is on vacation. In summary, I noticed a big change in ...
A: Debbie, Alcoholism is an illness of denial, this denial affects the drinker and everyone around ...
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| Alcohol abuse by a loved one | 10/7/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend has a problem with being able to stop drinking before she becomes belligerent and at ...
A: Good day Nathan, Relationships can be strained by alcohol abuse and it's resulting behaviours. ...
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| Husband Relapsed | 10/6/2008 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for 6 years.When we married, he was finishing his AA program.He ...
A: Good day Amanda, I hear you saying your husbands drinking doesn't bother you and then again that it ...
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| symptoms | 10/1/2008 |
Q: I think that my father is an alcoholic, but I am not sure. Can you tell me which are the symptoms of ...
A: Good day, the symptoms of alcoholism are many. One primary symptom is denial that there is any ...
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| :( I need help | 9/29/2008 |
Q: I am in love with an alcoholic , I was raised by an alcoholic , and statistically I am an alcoholic ...
A: Good day, I know that drinking alcohol especially to an alcoholic is in the beginning at least a ...
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| The guilty feeling | 9/27/2008 |
Q: Every morning I wake up saying this will be the day. Then by the afternoon I need a drink. Can ...
A: Dave, the guilt that you have failed personally can combine with other factors of this illness to ...
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| Post Acute-Withdrawl Syndrome | 9/24/2008 |
Q: I think I might be experiencing some of the symptoms of PAWS and am in the care of a doctor. I was ...
A: Good day, there are many feelings of ups and downs in recovery as our brain chemicals and our ...
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| sad | 9/20/2008 |
Q: My soon to be husband has not been ship out yet but he think it is o,k to drink and he gets really ...
A: Jessica, the first thing you should do is get to a safe place like a relative or friend or a ...
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| father alocoholic | 9/19/2008 |
Q: I have a problem with my father who has become an alcoholic since past 8 months. Not a single day ...
A: Dileep, he will just buy more alcohol if you give him money. If he needs things like food, get him ...
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| father alocoholic | 9/18/2008 |
Q: I have a problem with my father who has become an alcoholic since past 8 months. Not a single day ...
A: Dileep, I know it is distressing to watch your father in this condition. It is difficult to deal ...
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| Am I the one with a problem? | 9/17/2008 |
Q: Please help me understand what the heck is going on. I was in a relationship with an alcoholic for ...
A: Lena, you basically pegged the problem when you said you feel addicted to him. This guy has living ...
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| help with alcoholic boyfriend | 9/15/2008 |
Q: I am having issues with my current boyfriend. We have been together for 18 months, and he is a ...
A: Jodi, many of the things you mentioned are classic behaviours of an alcoholic. Hiding drinks, ...
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| Husband Drinking | 9/12/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 18 years. We have been through some major financial downfalls over the past ...
A: Robin, I understand how difficult it is to care for someone that is making choices that are ...
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| Alcoholic girlfriend, unstable boyfriend | 9/11/2008 |
Q: I think I am here to try to talk myself out of carrying on the relationship with my girlfriend. She ...
A: Scott, you have a long troubled history with this relationship. As I see it you have to decide what ...
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| children | 9/6/2008 |
Q: He has supposedly stopped drinking since last November but I actually doubt it.Normally I keep ...
A: Carol, I know it very sad to see a father that doesn't seem to care but your husband is wrapped up ...
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| post breakup with alcoholicex, confusion | 8/22/2008 |
Q: My ex and I broke up after 8 years off and on. We broke up when realized he was still doing coke (i ...
A: Gena, It is always difficult when relationships end whatever the reasons. Alcohol and/or drug use ...
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| Drunken rages | 8/20/2008 |
Q: I was wondering if you could help me or at least give me an idea of what is going on. I am twenty ...
A: Shea, there is something wrong if you blackout during drinking. This is a sign of problem drinking ...
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| Inside and Outside the Circle of an Alchoholic | 8/13/2008 |
Q: Amazing, and well worth celebrating, is that my partner and myself have some how avoided becoming ...
A: Brenda, I congratulate you on making choices that promote your individuality. It is difficult to ...
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| My husband is an alcoholic | 8/7/2008 |
Q: My husband is an alcoholic, a bad one. We lost our home in 2006 because he started drinking after 4 ...
A: Debbie, I know it is hard to be torn between wanting a relationship and the reality that it is ...
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| rules for driving | 8/1/2008 |
Q: We are about to have to tell my dad that he cannot drive our 15 month old anywhere because of his ...
A: Good day, I can understand your concern and I agree with keeping your child safe with or without ...
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| alcoholics in the family | 7/27/2008 |
Q: We have a cousin who has been in AA and Celegrate Recovery for a year and doing well. The problem is ...
A: Charlotte, As you probably know from this alcoholic girl's behaviour she is a very ill person in ...
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| Dry Drunk | 7/22/2008 |
Q: I currently broke up w/ my bfriend of 3 years, I have found that although he has been sober for 10 ...
A: Dori, there are many alcoholics that after initially recovering do not follow any form of ...
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| to believe or no to believe | 7/17/2008 |
Q: My question is about what an alcoholic is capable of. My sister (the alcoholic) has almost ...
A: Angy, Alcoholics become very ill during the progression of their alcoholism. They start going ...
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| Question | 7/16/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend of five years won't admit he's an alcoholic or go to an AA meeting. I have finally ...
A: Paula, I know how much relationships can hurt and it is hard to accept that sometimes they fail for ...
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| can I forgive? | 7/8/2008 |
Q: My experience of living and then leaving my alcoholic wife was shocking and leaves unresolved ...
A: Robert, sorry, I only received this short message of yours so I can not respond well to your ...
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| Friend of Bill W. | 7/6/2008 |
Q: "but at some stage of his drinking career he begins to lose all control of his liquor consumption, ...
A: Good day, what it means to me is losing the ability to start and stop drinking when you choose ...
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| Reuniting | 7/3/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 21 years. My husband, an alcoholic has been in treatment centers 5 times. ...
A: Michelle, be very cautious here as you and I both know how manipulating alcoholics can be drunk or ...
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| anxiety about future | 6/25/2008 |
Q: The last 5 years I have been through the mill with my husbands drinking and despite him trying to ...
A: Good day, Alcoholics are often irresponsible and the family learns to stop depending on them. The ...
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| my wife went in loving me and came out not | 6/23/2008 |
Q: my wife and i have been together for eleven years we have had lots of problems but when we are ...
A: Jayme. there is no easy answer as to why she wants to end the relationship. I would imagine it has ...
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| Behaviour | 6/19/2008 |
Q: Why is it they can hold down a job and go out of their way to please and keep in with fellow workers ...
A: Good day, Alcoholics can sometimes be great people pleasers when it comes to outsiders. They seem ...
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| Our baby will be here soon, and he won't quit drinking. | 6/9/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend, let's call him Sam, and I have been to together for 4 years. I should probably mention ...
A: Stephanie, just look at what you wrote to me, do you see the pattern that repeats itself over and ...
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| My Husband | 6/7/2008 |
Q: After almost thirty years of marriage my husband has started to drink. I am really upset. Both my ...
A: Good day, this is unfortunate but he is an adult so he can decide to drink or not drink. I think ...
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| Drinking friend | 5/23/2008 |
Q: my question is my friend and I have been friends since we were kids and now we are 40 well I am 40 ...
A: Anna, I see this happen to so many people like your friend. They don't even know life without ...
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| my husband is a alcoholic | 5/22/2008 |
Q: Hay I just don't know what to do, I'm not from here so my English writing is terrible. But I'm ...
A: I am a recovered alcoholic for over 22 years. He can recover without professional help as I did. ...
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| Far away brother has a problem | 5/14/2008 |
Q: this is one of the toughest letters I am sure I have ever written. My brother lives in PA. My Mother ...
A: Erin, what makes these situations so difficult is the drinkers denial of their problem. ...
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| Setting boudaries with problem-drinking husband | 5/13/2008 |
Q: I've been married to my husband for almost one year, but we've been together for 8. We've always ...
A: Leah, your behaviours are all in reaction to what might be an addictive process in your husband. ...
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| no happy ending | 5/6/2008 |
Q: My wife and I have been estranged for about a month now as I had to ask her to leave because of her ...
A: Scott, if a crime was committed he should certainly be charged but as you say it depends on what ...
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| What now??? | 5/2/2008 |
Q: I just broke up with my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. After a month of uneasiness, I confronted her ...
A: Brian, the nature of alcoholism is strong denial. This eventually affects the people that live with ...
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| no happy ending | 5/2/2008 |
Q: My wife and I have been estranged for about a month now as I had to ask her to leave because of her ...
A: Scott, the nature of alcoholism is that it requires the almost decimation of a person for them to ...
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| Trying to understand my friends behavior | 4/26/2008 |
Q: I have been close friends with an alcoholic for 2 years, since we met in graduate school. My ...
A: Laura, this guy needs to work on his sobriety and his honesty and his fear of closeness or ...
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| burning off alcohol | 4/25/2008 |
Q: Can the body burn off alcohol with exercise? Some say no and some say yes.Those who say no claim ...
A: RJ, alcohol is metabolized through the liver but how fast it gets there is an issue. The level of ...
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| trust | 4/25/2008 |
Q: The last few years my husband has been drinking more and more heavily and walked out on the family ...
A: Carol, It is very hard to trust someone that has hurt us in the past. We have good reason to be ...
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| no happy ending | 4/23/2008 |
Q: My wife and I have been estranged for about a month now as I had to ask her to leave because of her ...
A: Scott, I know it is a terrible feeling to see your wife in this condition. It is very hard for ...
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| WIFE IS AN ACHOHOLIC | 4/21/2008 |
Q: MY wife has been drinking heavily for years. Over the past 12 months it really became a problem. I ...
A: Dave, I can sense all the frustration you have with your wife and in-laws. Alcoholism is not ...
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| is my ex-girlfriend an alcoholic | 4/20/2008 |
Q: I have just broken up with my girlfriend of four years. She was the love of my life. When we first ...
A: Jason, when you met this girl you were both active drinkers. It is not surprising that she has a ...
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| Son's Alcoholism and Drugs | 4/20/2008 |
Q: My son is 27 and is in a serious situation. He has used drugs and alcohol for years, and will quit ...
A: Jennifer, alcoholics are blind to how severe their problem is. The illness creates a strong sense ...
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| Son's Alcoholism and Drugs | 4/18/2008 |
Q: My son is 27 and is in a serious situation. He has used drugs and alcohol for years, and will quit ...
A: Jennifer, this a difficult question because the answers are few. Your son has drank himself into ...
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| Husband alcohol... | 4/16/2008 |
Q: I was wondering if you could help me figure if my husband is an alcoholic or not? I think he is but ...
A: Sue, drinking every day is a sure sign of alcohol dependence. Whether he can quit without help at ...
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| alcoholic wife | 4/15/2008 |
Q: Two weeks ago I finally got my wife to leave. in the last year she has been kicked out of rehab ...
A: Dave, your wife has a mental, emotional and spiritual illness. This is not something you or I or ...
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| My Ex Husband | 4/9/2008 |
Q: I am writing to you regarding my ex-husband who is an alcoholic. We have been divorced for about 2 ...
A: Carol, late stage alcoholism can mimic alot of mental problems. Some people damage their brain ...
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| Mood Swings | 4/5/2008 |
Q: My husband is a heavy drinker. He will drink everyday for three weeks and only stops when he starts ...
A: Marsha, this situation is not the same as living with a person in alcoholic recovery. If your ...
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| Partner | 4/3/2008 |
Q: We have spoken before..and now I feel like I need your advice again..My partner is drinking more now ...
A: Pauline, I do not think it will matter to him how you feel as he can not control his behaviour ...
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| Partner | 4/3/2008 |
Q: We have spoken before..and now I feel like I need your advice again..My partner is drinking more now ...
A: Pauline, when a man treats you badly and you keep trying he knows he can treat you badly over and ...
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| Bringing wine to a party | 3/25/2008 |
Q: My husband is an alcoholic (binger), has been sober for 8 months. Hooray! We socialize w my family ...
A: Barb, your husband is doing well by the sounds of it. I believe guests that come to your home ...
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| Living with an recovering alcoholic | 3/20/2008 |
Q: I am living with a man who has almost 2 years sobriety - this time and is a survivor the the ...
A: Yvonne, alcoholics are very impulsive and have little patience. Your friend is right about sober ...
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| Living with an recovering alcoholic | 3/20/2008 |
Q: I am living with a man who has almost 2 years sobriety - this time and is a survivor the the ...
A: Yvonne, I know it must be difficult to live with a struggling alcoholic. The problem with some ...
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| My partner is an alcoholic | 3/17/2008 |
Q: Iam at a lost and don't know what to do. My partner and I have a great relationship..we been ...
A: Pauline, it may not be so easy to move on. Often getting involved with a man like this can be ...
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| My partner is an alcoholic | 3/16/2008 |
Q: Iam at a lost and don't know what to do. My partner and I have a great relationship..we been ...
A: Pauline, I know it is human nature to help someone that seems to need help. It is also wise to know ...
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| Alcholism | 3/15/2008 |
Q: My Husband doesn't drink until Friday after work. We used to drink a couple of drinks (bourbon & ...
A: Shirley, When drinking has negative consequences and a person keeps drinking there is usually a ...
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| shame | 3/2/2008 |
Q: I feel totally ashamed of myself for marrying a person with a drink problem,he walked out on me 2 ...
A: Carol, An alcoholic is a person addicted to alcohol. The addiction is an illness that affects the ...
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| How to deal with an alcoholic spouse. | 2/28/2008 |
Q: Please help: I am currently pregnant, with two other children, and i do not work right now. Back ...
A: Carmen, what kind of alternatives are there for you where you live? Violence is not something to ...
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| Alcoholic Friends and Familiy | 2/23/2008 |
Q: We have friends that think it is normal to get together at least 3 times a week and drink heavily. ...
A: David, when living with or around alcoholics people often develop responses that are unhealthy. It ...
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| Adjusting to life with my sober husband | 2/19/2008 |
Q: My husband is currently in recovery for 3 months. He is half way home and I am in search of ...
A: I admire your willingness to learn about the recovery process. There are many books about ...
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| Further to your answer to my earlier question | 2/12/2008 |
Q: two years ago, my brother had met with an accident (hit and run where he was hit) and as a result of ...
A: RO, It is a very helpless feeling to know your brother needs help but seems to be refusing your ...
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| ex | 2/9/2008 |
Q: i guess i have to start from the start. I left my common law husband of 15 years a little over 3 ...
A: just wanted to give you a comment on your question. It sounds like you are having a hard time ...
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| alcoholism with my daughters boyfriend | 2/8/2008 |
Q: They have been together 2 years... he dosen't drink every nite but has finally admitted that he does ...
A: Mary, this is an odd situation but typical for people involved with an active alcoholic, by that I ...
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| I want to help my brother | 2/2/2008 |
Q: I have a 38 year old brother with some serious issues. He began drinking in his teens and has been ...
A: Ro, it is admirable to care for your brother's welfare even though you are separated by so much ...
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| adult child of alcoholic | 2/2/2008 |
Q: My father has been an alcoholic as long as I can remember (I am 34) my mom finally divorced him ...
A: Lori, there is no easy answer to deal with the problem of alcoholism in a family member. Has your ...
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| need help | 1/28/2008 |
Q: My son is 24 and an alcoholic. He is currently living with me. I tried to help with his finances, ...
A: Heather, I know this is a hard situation to be in as your feelings get pulled one way and the ...
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| Alcoholic Relationships | 1/27/2008 |
Q: I started dating a girl from a different town about 8 months ago when I first started recovery in ...
A: Adam, I know all this seems very confusing but things do get better with time and sobriety. I ...
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| alcohol addiction | 1/20/2008 |
Q: Why do alcoholic continue to ruin your life after you finally get enough nerves to leave. After 28 ...
A: Gwen, -anger does not feel very good but is a natural response to being in a situation like yours. ...
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| bamboozled | 1/14/2008 |
Q: I have written a couple of times before but always seem to have a lot of unanswered questions in my ...
A: Carol, when a person is in the throes of active alcoholism his behaviour is often most bizarre to ...
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| Divorcing the alcoholic | 1/13/2008 |
Q: I'm divorcing my alcoholic husband of 17 years due to abuse, then dependence on alcohol that ...
A: hope things are getting better for you. I recovered over 22 years ago and know most of the games ...
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| Keeping sane | 1/10/2008 |
Q: I took my partne back when he had reach rock bottom and needed help, I took him back on the ...
A: Linzi, I know how difficult this situation is since I have been there too. Your partner may or may ...
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| My husband.... | 1/8/2008 |
Q: I come to you with an issue. I come from a background with an Alcoholic father and alcohlic ...
A: Liza, this man is fighting physically with you, irresponsible and endangering his career, his ...
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| ex | 1/8/2008 |
Q: i guess i will start off saying that i have asked this question before to others but want more feed ...
A: Michele, if he is still drinking and has not had any alcoholic treatment, I suspect the problem is ...
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| I'm trying to recover - spouse is not | 1/5/2008 |
Q: I've recently been diagnosed as bipolar and I've discovered that I've been using alcohol to ...
A: A, it may be difficult to be around drinkers this early in your recovery. He is not the one making ...
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| How A Recovering Alcoholic Feels | 1/4/2008 |
Q: I love a man who quit drinking October 27. He had one relapse one week later where he drank what ...
A: Merideth, I am amazed at your positive attitude towards what must be a very difficult situation to ...
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| Mum | 12/31/2007 |
Q: My question is about my mum. She has been a heavy drinker for a while but visiting her this ...
A: Rebecca, this is a difficult situation for your Mum and your family. It is not healthy to drink so ...
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| relapse | 12/21/2007 |
Q: I have a son who was about 80 days sober and living in a sober living house. He just had his 28th ...
A: Mary Jo, after a relapse it is normal to feel like a failure. Feelings like this can just make the ...
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| After Rehab | 12/18/2007 |
Q: so that he has something to drink. He wants a fruit juice that is also fizzy.
A: Shannon, wanting fizzy non-alcohol drinks is just a sign that he is having trouble letting go of ...
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| help | 12/16/2007 |
Q: My husband is an alcoholic. He of course denies this completely. It is wrecking our life. We have ...
A: I am very familiar with your situation as it is repeated so many times in alcoholic centered ...
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