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SubjectDate Asked
Husband and wife drinking12/28/2011
  Q: What is the percentage of a marriage staying together when one alcoholic stops drinks and the other ...
  A: The percentage depends on many factors so is not a good indcator for success in marriage. Recovery ...
alcoholic boyfriend12/11/2011
  Q: I've wrote to you twice before, asking about how to deal with my boyfriend's alcohol problem and the ...
  A: I can understand your confusion as it can sometimes be very difficult to see what is happening to us ...
alcoholic boyfriend12/10/2011
  Q: I've wrote to you twice before, asking about how to deal with my boyfriend's alcohol problem and the ...
  A: It is the first steps to recovery that are the hardest. By going on with your own life you have ...
son9/15/2011
  Q: On Aug. 17 I posted a question to you concerning my adult son. Your answer helped me not feel as ...
  A: I do not know any words that can soften your loss. It is important to allow your feelings to be ...
Questions about if I have a drinking problem9/10/2011
  Q: I know that this is something I have to answer for myself but I'd like your opinion. My father was ...
  A: Let me just say that if you are concerned about your drinking then it is likely becoming a problem ...
Alcoholic Husband8/31/2011
  Q: married 3yrs to my husband, who is an alcoholic.He has been to AA - then decided he was cured!!!Went ...
  A: It is always every good woman's wish that their man will wake up one day and stop his drinking so ...
tolerance and alcohol8/22/2011
  Q: I am confused about the relationship between one's alcohol "tolerance" and one's BAC. Let's use a ...
  A: Tolerance is generally dependent on the liver's ability to metabolize or break down the alcohol ...
Alcoholic boyfriend8/17/2011
  Q: Me and my boyfriend are both 28, we've been together for a few months and we're very much in love, ...
  A: If your relationship is going okay today then that is what matters most as none of us can predict ...
son relaspe8/17/2011
  Q: This time my adult son has hit bottom and it keeps getting lower. He was sober for almost 2 years ...
  A: There is only so much you can do for a person that is afflicted with alcoholism. Your son is a very ...
Mother's secret drinking8/2/2011
  Q: I am 31years old mother of two, and have recently discovered that my mother(64yrs) is secretly ...
  A: I can understand you being concerned with your mother's health. The thing that does concern me is ...
My 22 yr old son is an alcoholic.6/30/2011
  Q: My son is 22, lives at home, works, and is taking on- line classes. We found out several years ago ...
  A: Where alcoholism is concerned it often does not help much to give the person information. The ...
My 22 yr old son is an alcoholic.6/30/2011
  Q: My son is 22, lives at home, works, and is taking on- line classes. We found out several years ago ...
  A: Let me start by saying that alcoholism is a terminal deadly illness. I say that not so much to shock ...
Alcoholic in recovery6/14/2011
  Q: My boyfriend has been in recovery for 2 years. He is 46 and was a binge alcoholic for years. His ...
  A: It sounds to me like you and he are having relationship problems that are not being resolved because ...
Alcoholic ex BF and our daughter6/13/2011
  Q: My alcoholic/drug addict ex partner has been using since he was 12 years old and is now 37, with ...
  A: You have many questions but I will try to outline what I think is happening here. A man that is ...
Do I drink too much?5/31/2011
  Q: I am 28 and over 6’6” tall and weigh about 200lbs. I did not start drinking until I was 21 and out ...
  A: Jason, Problem drinking is characterized by loss of control. This means not being able to choose ...
Did I kill my husband?5/8/2011
  Q: I took vows to love, honor and obey in sickness and in health, before God. And I married my husband ...
  A: The context of your question seems to indicate you have not addressed your co-dependence in this ...
Alcoholic boyfriend4/19/2011
  Q: Me and my boyfriend are both 28, we've been together for a few months and we're very much in love, ...
  A: Clara, When your boyfriend admits to his drinking being excessive and does not do anything about ...
update4/17/2011
  Q: .you have helped me greatly two other times recently and I promise this will be my last question as ...
  A: Joanie, One of the components of alcoholism is the blindness that the alcoholic experiences. This ...
Alcoholic boyfriend4/11/2011
  Q: Me and my boyfriend are both 28, we've been together for a few months and we're very much in love, ...
  A: Clara, You have many questions here but the real question is can you handle detaching yourself from ...
My Boyfriend4/7/2011
  Q: I have a question regarding my boyfriend. I really want to help him, I am just realizing right now ...
  A: Megan, I know it is a very frustrating thing to watch someone you care about as they self-destruct. ...
Recovered alcoholic and intimate relationships4/5/2011
  Q: I'm 22 and I'm a very active member of AA and NA. I have almost 2 years clean. I am terrified of ...
  A: Relationships, especially the romantic kind can really stir up one's insecurities. We often give up ...
meds3/10/2011
  Q: I am a schizophrenic in recovery. In the past, sponsers have pressured me into stopping my ...
  A: I think the reason your past sponsers are telling you not to use meds is because they are afraid you ...
Addiction to Alcohol3/9/2011
  Q: My wife start heavily drinking in 2006 and since then our life went from wonderful to unbearable. We ...
  A: It may help to know that when a person is addicted to alcohol as it sounds your ex is they cannot ...
How do I help my husband?2/28/2011
  Q: We have been married for almost 23 years, but been together for 25 years. When we fist met my ...
  A: Just to give you an idea of your husband's drinking history and behaviour I am going to copy bits ...
How do I help my husband?2/24/2011
  Q: We have been married for almost 23 years, but been together for 25 years. When we fist met my ...
  A: Let me just say that you are not alone in this type of experience with an Alcoholic. The struggles ...
Is my husband going to get worse???2/20/2011
  Q: My husband and I met when were 18. I knew he liked to drink, but thought he would grow out of it. ...
  A: The pattern you describe in your relationship with your husband is very typical of addictive ...
substance abuse counselor2/9/2011
  Q: I am a former nurse, and I am a recovering addict (opiates). While in rehab I saw that many of the ...
  A: Often people in recovery are enthused about helping others. This comes probably from experiencing ...
withdrawing slowly1/12/2011
  Q: i will try to keep it short. 50yrs old 20+ yrs problems on & off. Have had the willpower from time ...
  A: It is often the feelings we have that tempt us to drink. The effects of drinking can be very ...
husband has an alcohol problem1/8/2011
  Q: My husband has been abusing alcohol since we met 14 years ago. Truthfully, I abused it too, but as ...
  A: Erin, The problem with getting an alcoholic to see what is happening is complex as you have found ...
withdrawing slowly1/7/2011
  Q: i will try to keep it short. 50yrs old 20+ yrs problems on & off. Have had the willpower from time ...
  A: I believe being prepared to drive again is unique to each person. It depends alot on your present ...
withdrawing slowly1/6/2011
  Q: i will try to keep it short. 50yrs old 20+ yrs problems on & off. Have had the willpower from time ...
  A: I think cutting down on alcohol intake is a good plan. If you suspect that you have a drinking ...
moving on quickly1/5/2011
  Q: I was living with an alcoholic for 3 years. Life was very bad - one crisis to the next. I ...
  A: A few things I want you to consider. The first is that true alcoholism is an addictive illness. It ...
Marriage to a Recovering Alcoholic1/1/2011
  Q: Twenty-six months ago I married the man I thought was my soulmate. In the past few months, he ...
  A: The expectations of many people in relationships are dashed after the honeymoon stage is over. The ...
What happens after an intervention?12/31/2010
  Q: I have been married for close to 16 years; during this time, my mother-in-law has been an alcoholic ...
  A: If you are confronting your mother-in-law without an organized intervention involving an alcohol ...
How?12/29/2010
  Q: I'm 25 years old...and my boyfriend is 26. We come from entirely different families and backgrounds. ...
  A: Sam, If you are involved in a relationship with an alcoholic things will progressively get worse ...
Alcohol, Drug Use and Sexual Behavior12/27/2010
  Q: I am involved with a 39 yr old man, Rob (not his real name), who has been a binge-drinker since he ...
  A: Natalie, The behaviours an alcoholic/addict exhibits can vary somewhat depending on the person and ...
Addiction Displacement12/22/2010
  Q: My husband is a recovering alcoholic who has been sober for nearly eleven years. Before we married, ...
  A: The behaviour you are describing is related to an obscessive-compulsive disorder which is somewhat ...
Alcoholic Spouse12/13/2010
  Q: I will try not to make this too long. My husband has been an Alcoholic for 20+ years. Had a period ...
  A: Caitlin, Thank you for the good feedback. As to your follow up questions: Should you contact him? ...
Alcoholic Spouse12/12/2010
  Q: I will try not to make this too long. My husband has been an Alcoholic for 20+ years. Had a period ...
  A: Caitlin, It is hard to understand raging alcoholics but usually they are projecting their anger ...
Staying in a relationship with an alcoholic11/21/2010
  Q: I have been in a relationship with my partner for two and a half years, in the beginning we would ...
  A: Marie, It sounds like you are being pulled two ways at once in this relationship which is actually ...
Husband who is cancer free wants to drink and divorce me11/7/2010
  Q: I have an alcohol husband that was diagnosed, operated on and went thru chemo and radiation for head ...
  A: Jamie, Sometimes people change as recovery or no recovery progresses. This causes them to grow ...
wet brain11/1/2010
  Q: i think i have it iv been a heavy drinker off an on for 10years an have tried many times to stop ...
  A: Melissa, I hope you will not let your fears or embarrassment stop you from getting help and proper ...
Spouse of a recoving Alcoholic10/25/2010
  Q: My wife is in her fist year of recovery. I found out that she is have a relationship with her ...
  A: Steve, I am glad to hear you are willing to sort this problem out in a mature way. There are many ...
My husband is slowly becoming a prisoner of alcohol10/22/2010
  Q: My Husband started drinking four months ago. He hangs out with people he barley knows because they ...
  A: Carolina, I understand your concern but wonder where your fears come from. If your husband has had ...
My Son10/18/2010
  Q: My son is 29 Year old and has a problem with drinking he has been in jail for 4 years I think do to ...
  A: Linda, It is hard to feel so powerless over our children. Even though your son is at an age when ...
How to move on from the hell hurt and pain10/14/2010
  Q: I have only been married a year but living with my husband for the last 5 years we have 2 very young ...
  A: Kerrie, Things can get very complicated in relationships when addiction is present. It is also much ...
Acoholism And Father-In-Law10/8/2010
  Q: I know a lot of people have this same dilemma, but i have a household consisting of myself, my 5 ...
  A: Scott, I know it is difficult to be caught in the middle of a problem with inlaws. Any choice you ...
Is my boyfriend an alcoholic?10/2/2010
  Q: I think my boyfriend might be an alcoholic. We've been dating for almost a year and a half, he's 21 ...
  A: Eva, Generally alcoholism is characterized by loss of control. It sounds like your boyfriend is ...
Boyfriend's road to sobriety9/30/2010
  Q: My question is, is it wrong of me to continue drinking in a normal/controlled manor, even though my ...
  A: Jennifer, It is not a moral question to drink or not to drink. If a person experiences problems due ...
personality types of men who become alcoholics because of their controlling wives9/22/2010
  Q: I would like to get as much info as possible on Men who become alcoholics because of their ...
  A: Laura, I have been an addictions counsellor for 25 years and have never seen a case of someone ...
How to explain a fathers Alcoholic behavior9/15/2010
  Q: I'll try not to make this too long, but I really need some help. Below is some background. My ...
  A: Theresa, I think you are doing great. It is important to set boundaries as your ex is just testing ...
dealing with friends who are alocholics9/7/2010
  Q: I am in a choir at a University and I have 2 friends that have really attached themselves to me. ...
  A: Andrea, I sense your desire to be "nice" to these people but sometimes it is nicer to set healthy ...
Drinking alcohol9/6/2010
  Q: I have a friend that has been drinking a 30 pack case of beer for about 40 years. He is 60 and ...
  A: Louise, Long term drinking can have many effects on a person. One is just the physical health ...
wife throwing all away8/30/2010
  Q: Dru, My wife of 11 yrs has finally served me with divorce papers. She has transformed before my ...
  A: Brian, I know it is difficult when a relationship ends for whatever reasons. It is a time of many ...
Alcoholic Ex8/25/2010
  Q: I'll try not to make this too long, but I really need some help. Below is some background. My ...
  A: Theresa, Hi, I will just point out some things for you to consider. Alcoholism is a chronic ...
People who stand by the alcoholic8/23/2010
  Q: A friend has been involved with an alcoholic for over two years, decides enough is enough, breaks ...
  A: Michelle, It is one of the mysteries of being involved with alcoholics that is hard to comprehend, ...
4 Alcoholic Brothers-Help!8/9/2010
  Q: I have an odd problem I was hoping you could help me out with. I'm happily married to a girl who ...
  A: Kerry, I admire your interest in changing the alcoholic brothers but of course we can't really do ...
Relapsed8/8/2010
  Q: My boyfriend of 3 years has been sober for 13 months. It has been tough and very much a roller ...
  A: Stef, Often relapse happens because of two things. One is he has not deeply accepted the fact that ...
Alchoholic husband7/30/2010
  Q: I have been with my husband for ten years,he has recently quit, drinking and is going to na.he isnt ...
  A: Drinking, drugs and their resulting behaviours can really strain a relationship. Recovery can also ...
Mother's alcoholism7/20/2010
  Q: First, thank you for taking the time to read my question. My sister, brother and I are all very ...
  A: Erin, When approaching a person you suspect is addicted to alcohol it is important not to talk down ...
guilt7/18/2010
  Q: How to cope with the guilt of knowing I have to leave my husband for the sake of self preservation
  A: Ginny, Hi, I know it is hard to leave a person even though it is sometimes necessary for the good ...
how can I fix this ?7/14/2010
  Q: I am 30 years old living abroad from my parents but we have always been a close family. My mothers ...
  A: Ann, being the oldest sibling often makes one feel super-responsible for others. You seem to ...
How much is too much7/6/2010
  Q: I am a 27 years old male and a regular drinker. I drink daily with in a range of 180ml to 270 ml of ...
  A: Sathish, About 120ml per day is considered safe for men's health. This is if they are healthy ...
Does my wife drink too much?6/9/2010
  Q: First off I would like to thank you for taking the time to read my question. My wife and I have ...
  A: Sam. In my experience I would say your wife has an alcohol dependency. The amount is excessive for ...
Recovering spouse delaying divorce5/31/2010
  Q: I have several questions, but let me first describe my situation. I have been married to my ...
  A: Lauren, I will give you my take on your questions but am not qualified to give you official legal ...
My boyfriend is a binge drinker alcoholic.5/15/2010
  Q: I'm 27, my boyfriend is 28. We have been together for just over a year. I knew of him before as we ...
  A: where to begin with you is really a problem for me as I know you have been lectured by others about ...
Is my boyfriend an alcoholic5/11/2010
  Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for 7months, he's 25, in school and has a job. When we first started ...
  A: Nicole, It is good to be aware of how minimizing and denial set in when someone has a drinking ...
Is my boyfriend an alcoholic5/10/2010
  Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for 7months, he's 25, in school and has a job. When we first started ...
  A: Nicole, your boyfriend is showing some warning signs of a developing dependence on alcohol. Hiding ...
Alcoholism and Anti-Depressants4/30/2010
  Q: My husband is an alcoholic. He's been in AA and sober for 18 months now. I am a member of our local ...
  A: Natalie, I can understand your concern with your husband's health. I would certainly encourage him ...
i think my friend is an alcoholic4/18/2010
  Q: I've known my friend for an year and a half now. We used to do the same lessons in alevels but I ...
  A: the best thing for your friend to do is have an assessment done to check where her drinking may be ...
my sister4/10/2010
  Q: My sister is 19 years old, I'm 24 years old (we are about 5 1/2 years apart). My sister's alcohol ...
  A: the struggle to understand alcoholism is very difficult for families or anyone on the outside of the ...
My husband won't quit drinking3/24/2010
  Q: My husband and I are both 26, We met in a party atmosphere, and both loved to drink. Up until ...
  A: No person likes to believe they have a drinking problem or alcoholism. It is natural for him to make ...
How can I help my Fiance stop drinking3/18/2010
  Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year and half, and he is a alcholic. I grew up with my ...
  A: Hannah, it is good to be concerned with your boyfriends problem as long as you understand that he ...
EX alcoholic boyfriend3/16/2010
  Q: Please help me!! Exactly 3 years ago my ex alcoholic of 4 years broke-up with me after a week into a ...
  A: Lena, As you seem to have realized this relationship is very destructive to you both. The reason he ...
i've just about had enough3/12/2010
  Q: Please help shed some light on this. I have been with my man, andrew, for 4 years now. we are not ...
  A: Mary, I can save you some time by saying that from all you have told me your boyfriend is ...
Is my girlfriend an alchoholic3/6/2010
  Q: my girlfriend is 17 turning 18 soon, she drinks quite often with her friends or every week or so ...
  A: Liam, it is common for people with a drinking problem to deny it and believe they can quit anytime. ...
How to approach my father about his drinking...3/3/2010
  Q: I am 25 years old, my sister is 21, my dad is almost 52. A little history before I get to my ...
  A: Brittany, I am concerned about you confronting your father without an intenvention counsellor ...
i dont know what to do!!!2/22/2010
  Q: im in a relation ship with a man that has a really bad drinking problem!! im 6 months pregnant with ...
  A: Catia, it sounds like you are living with someone that has many behaviour problems and probably a ...
I broke a promise and my husband left me2/18/2010
  Q: I'm so heart broken right now and filled with guilt and shame. On Dec. 13 I had been drinking wine ...
  A: Elaine, I know you want to make amends but I believe your focus should be on your own sobriety as ...
memory blackouts and crazy behaviour when drunk2/16/2010
  Q: I am writing as I suspect I may have a problem with alcohol, and am really at loss. Whilst I do not ...
  A: Alex, if you do a search online there are many self-assesments for problem drinking. I have listed ...
memory blackouts and crazy behaviour when drunk2/15/2010
  Q: I am writing as I suspect I may have a problem with alcohol, and am really at loss. Whilst I do not ...
  A: Alex, it is very commendable that you recognize a possible problem with alcohol. The illness that ...
Father in Law,an addict2/14/2010
  Q: My father in law has been into drinking since many ages,i personally have spoken to him about ...
  A: Sherin, Hi, I know it must very difficult to watch your father-in-law continue to harm himself by ...
Recovering Alcoholic Boyfriend2/11/2010
  Q: Druideck, I'm pretty confused by what's happened over the past month and just not sure how to ...
  A: Susan, It is unfortunate that he felt the need to be dishonest with you in the beginning. Many ...
In a realtionship with a recoverying alcholic2/3/2010
  Q: I have been in a realtionship with an AA, its a great wonderful one , i understand to a degree ...
  A: Margaret, there may be some reason he is not open with his feelings. I would suspect he is feeling ...
living with an alcoholic2/2/2010
  Q: I currently have my nephew (age 28) living with me. He was recently discharged from hospital with ...
  A: Diane, The unfortunate thing about life is that we can only do so much to help or change others. ...
Stopped drinking2/1/2010
  Q: My boyfriend who is 44 has stopped drinking for 8 months. I thought our relationship would improve ...
  A: Bren, The twelve step programs do encourage working on our own reactions and behaviours as these ...
recovery1/29/2010
  Q: After a 2 yr drinking problem that came to a head when my sister moved in w/ me- and after grave ...
  A: Ginny, I would say communication with her is desirable so she knows you support her in her attempt ...
am I a drunk?1/28/2010
  Q: My mother insists I am, but I tell her that I only have a problem with drinking when I do it without ...
  A: Jeanie, there is no doubt that drinking starts out as fun even for alcoholics. It feels good and we ...
Leaving Husband1/13/2010
  Q: I have been married to my husband for a little over 2 years. He is 41 and I am 44. He has been ...
  A: Jill, I hope you are well. It is normal to feel some regret or even grief when things change. You ...
Leaving Husband1/11/2010
  Q: I have been married to my husband for a little over 2 years. He is 41 and I am 44. He has been ...
  A: Jill, Hello, it is never easy to leave someone even when things have become mostly bad in the ...
Husband who gets drunk and doesnt come home1/3/2010
  Q: I have been married to my husband for 20 years, around the 17yr mark I divorced him because of his ...
  A: Melissa, Your husband's behaviour is a hard thing to understand but I will try to explain to you ...
ex partner12/30/2009
  Q: it as now been 1 year since i seperated from my partner things are still no better his behaviour has ...
  A: Kelly, if you are no longer with this man and he is abusive I would suggest you advise him to stop ...
Hep C and drinking12/29/2009
  Q: My husband has Hep C. Also in the past he has had pancreas problems, being sent to the hospital. He ...
  A: Louise, Alcohol is very bad for the pancreas and doctors recommend that a person abstain from ...
alcoholic wife in recovery, facing divorce12/18/2009
  Q: I have been married to my alcoholic wife for 15 years. She is in recovery working the 12 steps of AA ...
  A: Jon, I know that the changes recovery often brings can be upsetting as well as life changing. The ...
My roomates alcoholic boyfriend12/11/2009
  Q: Good After noon Druideck, My question is actually for my roommate Her name is Amy. Amy is 21 years ...
  A: Yes there are reasons for Amy's behaviour. One reason is that people are sometime attracted to ...
legal drinking age12/10/2009
  Q: a student at University of Caterbury.Im doing a research about legal drinking age. Could you please ...
  A: Mazin, In my opinion the legal age is fine if set at the age a person is considered an adult. My ...
alcholic ex12/8/2009
  Q: I was involved with an alcoholic for 3 years. For the first 6 months he was in and out of hospital ...
  A: Going from your description of this guy's drinking I would say he may have good intentions but I do ...
my partner of 5 years is an alchoholic12/1/2009
  Q: My partner drinks heavily every night and I believe he drinks more on his way home, he can have more ...
  A: Maria, Often when someone has a drinking problem they also have low self-esteem and it is hard for ...
I've left my alcoholic boyfriend but now what do i do?11/25/2009
  Q: My ex-boyfriend and i were together for 3 years and lived together for two.we are both 32yrs old. ...
  A: Shannon, it is natural to feel down when you break up with someone. We always dream of things being ...
is my dad an alcoholic?11/22/2009
  Q: at first the word alcoholic scared me, but now i just want to no if he is one. 2 years ago he got a ...
  A: It does sound like your dad has a drinking problem. Most people don't need to drink that often ...
Alcoholic brother over for Thanksgiving11/20/2009
  Q: My name is Katrina and I am 21 years old. I have a brother who is 26 and has been suffering ...
  A: I know it is hard to watch someone you care about going downhill with alcoholism. It is important ...
Concerned Sister Far Away11/12/2009
  Q: I am writting in regards to being a concerned sister who is living far from a serious problem in my ...
  A: Merrie-Beth, I can see how frutrating it is to sense a problem and not be able to do much about it. ...
Alcoholism11/8/2009
  Q: I'm sure that my husband is an alcoholic. He doesn't get drunk but he drinks everyday a six pack or ...
  A: Ashley, I know how frustrating this is for you, I have been there personally. The first thing to ...
alcoholism11/7/2009
  Q: I'm not to sure how this goes but i have a few questions. I am with a great man but he's only great ...
  A: Mandy, it is not so complex as you may think. He is an ill person and addicted to alcohol, this is ...
alcohol poisoning11/5/2009
  Q: and thank you for being so generous with your expertise! My son says his high school friends claim ...
  A: Elizabeth, the odd thing about the answers your son's friends are giving him is that vomiting is ...
Is boyfriend an alcoholic?11/3/2009
  Q: . I'll try to keep this brief, but I feel it's important to get as many details as possible into ...
  A: Lara, often people that grow up in alcoholic homes have poor communication skills. They have to ...
Beer belly10/30/2009
  Q: I am worried about my husband. He used to be a heavy drinker, getting pissed at least once a week. ...
  A: Vanessa, There are many causes for the "Beer belly" and most of them are not beer. However, liver ...
Is boyfriend an alcoholic?10/28/2009
  Q: . I'll try to keep this brief, but I feel it's important to get as many details as possible into ...
  A: Lara, it is common to have some doubts when living with a problem drinker. The denial of the person ...
dealing withan alcoholic parent10/27/2009
  Q: I've read a few questions that have been posted, but nothing is every the same as your own issues. ...
  A: Caughleigh, I know these situations that involve parents or other family members are difficult. It ...
Alcoholic boyfriend10/22/2009
  Q: I'd really appreciate your opinion. I'm 37 and dating my 39-year old boyfriend for the past 5 ...
  A: Kleo, your friend is an alcoholic and by the sounds of it he has not recovered very much as he ...
Special occasions...10/19/2009
  Q: Okay, so I'm not sure whether I would call myself an alcoholic or not...I guess it depends on your ...
  A: Ryan, Often, switching drinks to control your drinking is not a good sign. What if eventually you ...
Alcoholic Boyfriend10/17/2009
  Q: I hope I'm posting this in the right section. I am having a problem talking to my boyfriend about ...
  A: Tonya, You have more than ample evidence that your boyfriend has serious alcoholism problems. It ...
drinking10/16/2009
  Q: My boyfriend wouldn't technically be considered an alcoholic, drinking is recreational and usually ...
  A: Ashley, it sounds like he is having some bad reactions to excess drinking. Alcoholism is not always ...
boyfriend in denial10/15/2009
  Q: I recently moved in with my boyfriend of just over a year. When we met, we both drank a few times a ...
  A: Trish, It sounds very much like your boyfriend is addicted to alcohol or at least he is not ready ...
alcoholic husband in recovery10/9/2009
  Q: my husband has been sober for nearly 2 mos. he was attending many aa meetings but has cut back to 2 ...
  A: I know it may seem strange but your husband is likely to be somewhat unbalanced in his values at ...
Personality of alcoholics10/7/2009
  Q: In August of 2008, we had a family intervention and my husband chose to go into a 28 day rehab ...
  A: Rae Anne, First off I believe you did the right thing with the intervention. Secondly, the choice ...
alcoholism, or other issues?10/5/2009
  Q: I had my first drink when I was 12 but didn't develop much of a habit until about 17. I smoked ...
  A: Alicia, perhaps the first thing to mention and you have probably heard it before is how hard it is ...
Help Me10/3/2009
  Q: I am a forty year old female alcoholic. Alcoholism has stolen everything from me and just recently ...
  A: Marla, You can get better but to stop drinking you need to go to AA meetings even if you dislike ...
is it a recovery or is he faking?9/21/2009
  Q: my husband stopped drinking about 6 month ago due to problems with law. he did very well in the ...
  A: Tasha, Alcoholism is an illness that requires a recovery program to overcome. It sounds as if your ...
Forced AA9/20/2009
  Q: Can you force someone to attend AA meetings when you know they need them? If so, can this ever ...
  A: Ann, AA is voluntary and accepts people back anytime with no problem. Sometimes the criminal ...
alcoholism?9/18/2009
  Q: My husband and I have been married for two years. He drinks 2-4 times a week. He says it's not a ...
  A: Sabrina, In my experience the growing paranoia, jealousy, sneaking/lies are definitly signs of a ...
Sons drinking and depression/anxiety9/13/2009
  Q: My son is 27 and was in hospital for depression and anxiety. I know he drank a lot while in ...
  A: Good day, It is common for problem drinkers to develop some emotional difficulties due to the ...
Alcoholic relationships9/3/2009
  Q: I am a 49-yr old female that has been in recovery now for 5 yrs. and love it. My significant other, ...
  A: Pam, as you are probably aware alcoholism is a progressive illness and without abstinence it ...
How do i help my fiance?8/29/2009
  Q: My fiance and I love each other and it is very obvious to everyone we have a 2 hour long distance ...
  A: Alyssa, this is a tough situation for you both. He has to deal with parents that refuse to take ...
alcoholics & relationships8/25/2009
  Q: I have a good friend who is an alcoholic. From the outside, you'd never know. He's a professional, ...
  A: Joanna, part of the answer you are seeking lies in your own desire to maintain contact with a man ...
alcoholics & relationships8/24/2009
  Q: I have a good friend who is an alcoholic. From the outside, you'd never know. He's a professional, ...
  A: Joanna, alcoholism can amplify a persons shortcomings or problems but the dishonesty is a behaviour ...
Friend has drinking problem8/21/2009
  Q: My boyfriend's sister has been having problems with alcohol in the past few months, and it has ...
  A: Glennis, Alcohol problems are tough to deal with especially if the person is in denial or not ...
alcholic8/20/2009
  Q: i left him 6 mths ago which was a really difficult decision to make he had been drinking every day ...
  A: Alcoholics that are still ill and not actively seeking and practising a recovery program are prone ...
could my husband be a alcoholic?8/17/2009
  Q: I was trying to find something on the internet and came across this sight, I hope you may be able to ...
  A: Cheryl, Even though it is possible your husband has drinking issues it is also possible he just has ...
Beer Belly?8/10/2009
  Q: I am not an alcoholic but I do drink to much, especially beer and plan on cutting way back. I hope ...
  A: Van, it is true that beer causes weight gain. Beer is about 140 calories per bottle. The way the ...
Recovery in Rehab8/6/2009
  Q: My sister currently is in a Rehab facility my parents put her in. She wanted to go but now after a ...
  A: Rebekah, her struggle will be in coming to terms with the denial which is part of alcoholic ...
Recovery in Rehab8/5/2009
  Q: My sister currently is in a Rehab facility my parents put her in. She wanted to go but now after a ...
  A: Rebekah, Making a change in her lifestyle is going to be a big challenge for your sister. I would ...
Effects of Alcohol8/1/2009
  Q: I am not a regular drinker. I haven't drank in several months. I decided to go out with some ...
  A: Kirsten, It is true that alcohol can reduce our inhibitions. Some of the feelings we have ...
Narcissism7/28/2009
  Q: A friend of mine is a recovering alcoholic. He stopped about two years ago and relapsed once, but ...
  A: Moni, many of the unfavorable traits exhibited by alcoholics develop while they are drinking or at ...
sober for 6yrs.7/27/2009
  Q: MY husband stopped drinking himself for 6 yrs.If someone stops drinking but does not deal with any ...
  A: Terrie, it won't take long for him to resume where he left off drinking. Without any recovery ...
alcohol7/21/2009
  Q: well hello my name is Jessica and well this Saturday my boyfriend was drinking with his friends and ...
  A: Jessica, Alcohol dialates blood vessels and some people will show "flushing" that can also enhance ...
How to handle a husbands increasing alcohol abuse7/14/2009
  Q: I have been married to a man that has always been a drinker. We have been married for 27 years and ...
  A: Jaque, are you still trying to influence him? My advice was to focus on yourself. You can now see ...
How to handle a husbands increasing alcohol abuse7/13/2009
  Q: I have been married to a man that has always been a drinker. We have been married for 27 years and ...
  A: Jaque, most certainly anyone on the outside would tell you it's easy, just pack up and leave. Of ...
Moderate Drinking7/9/2009
  Q: I've been doing a great deal of research on the health benefits of beer recently, and I am very ...
  A: David, Alcoholism is characterized more by the loss of control when drinking than how much a person ...
alcohol7/6/2009
  Q: what is the effect of 2/3 drinks on a person who takes them daily or if he reduces to 2 days in a ...
  A: Rajnish, light or moderate drinking is not always harmful to your health. However there are signs ...
DATING A RECOVERING ALCOHOLIC7/5/2009
  Q: I HAVE BEEN DATING MY BOYFRIEND FOR 6 MONTHS. IM COMPLETELY IN LOVE WITH HIM. HE HASNT DRANK IN 2 ...
  A: Leanne, It can be tough for a recovering alcoholic in the first year or more depending on the ...
alcoholic relationships6/30/2009
  Q: i have had a relationship with this woman for nine month. We drank together and have been friends ...
  A: Good day, I will start by saying you are doing well as far as being aware of her drinking problem ...
why I am emotional when drunk?6/29/2009
  Q: After consuming alcohol I lied and exaggerated things talking with my best friend. After years of ...
  A: Shashi, alcohol is a chemical that can influence our minds and our emotions either good or ...
Alcoholism6/23/2009
  Q: I am the only girl sibling and from a family of genetic alcoholics. This disease has haunted my ...
  A: Gail, Sorry to hear about your brother. Many of the problems alcoholics have can be helped if they ...
hello where do i go for more info?6/19/2009
  Q: my sister may finally take my advise and move interstate to be with me during her advance stages of ...
  A: Emma, the best resource for recovering alcoholics is to attend alcoholics anonymous meetings on a ...
alcoholic brother6/16/2009
  Q: my brother lives with my mom and i in my mothers house his drinking is horrible. any money he makes ...
  A: Deborah, this is becoming a problem for many parents these days. My best suggestions is to draw a ...
alcoholic boyfriend6/15/2009
  Q: I have learned a lot about alcoholism because of a long-term relationship I was in with my boyfriend ...
  A: Donna, as I mentioned above he may try to tell you things he thinks you want to hear or things that ...
alcoholic boyfriend6/14/2009
  Q: I have learned a lot about alcoholism because of a long-term relationship I was in with my boyfriend ...
  A: Donna, If you have a problem with your boyfriend related to alcohol abuse then that is a negative ...
She doesn't remember6/12/2009
  Q: I dated this woman for three years and always suspected she was an alcoholic. Every time I ...
  A: Brian, I can understand your feelings toward this incident with your ex. If you both have no ...
Alcoholism6/5/2009
  Q: My boyfriend died 2 weeks ago from complications of alcoholism. Why do people with this problem push ...
  A: Annette, I am sorry to hear about your loss. It is hard to understand the power of alcoholism, how ...
Is this my problem or his?6/4/2009
  Q: I am mostly a nondrinker. When I met my husband, 34 years ago, he openly said that he had had a ...
  A: Judy, you say he admitted he had a drinking problem when you met, this would indicate that your ...
Can't deal with husbands drinking6/2/2009
  Q: I have been married to my high school sweetheart for going on 12 years now. I am a stay at home mom ...
  A: I know how hard it is to feel more or less powerless over a person or situation. Alcoholism is a ...
My son drank last night!6/1/2009
  Q: My 30 year old son is an alcoholic, He moved in with us in March of 2009 and after 2 months of CHAOS ...
  A: Antonietta, the only part of the question that makes it difficult is the sincerity of your son's ...
My Husband, the Alcoholic5/26/2009
  Q: When he met, he straight up told me he was an alcoholic and that if I were going to be with him, it ...
  A: Good day, I am sorry to say that he has no excuse for staying an alcoholic when there are plenty of ...
husband drinks everyday5/24/2009
  Q: To Start, This is really important to my marriage. I met my husband 8 yrs ago. He was young and ...
  A: Josee, I know these problems seem to sneak up on people. We always think the drinking will taper ...
Homeless Nephew5/19/2009
  Q: I have a nephew, age 22, who is homeless/ currently living in an abandoned house in Michigan. His ...
  A: Jeff, it may be difficult to see your nephew in this condition. Unfortunately drug and alcohol ...
ups and downs5/7/2009
  Q: My BF has been sober for 9 months now. Our relationship has been off and on for three years now, and ...
  A: Kaira, It is normal for a person in recovery to go through many changes in their thinking and ...
drinking!5/5/2009
  Q: Hey! I wasn't quite sure were to put this, i'm not an addict but its a question on alcohol. I'm 16 ...
  A: Neela, There is bio-chemical basis for depression. Three major neurotransmitters in the brain ...
Hard to get drunk?4/22/2009
  Q: I was never an alcoholic but I was a heavy drinker, and I used to get drunk pretty fast-just a few ...
  A: Good day, The way it works is after a period of heavy alcohol use the liver develops more of the ...
Blackout4/21/2009
  Q: As a college-aged male, I have had my experience with alcohol. Recently, however, I experienced my ...
  A: Josh, fragmentary blackouts are usually caused by a rapid increase in the blood/alcohol level. ...
Ex Alcoholic Boyfriend4/4/2009
  Q: I was in a relationship with my Ex for 4 yrs. He drank a 6pack of Budlight everyday. Is he an ...
  A: Eileen, I would say your Ex was very likely an alcoholic although it depends more on how it ...
how to talk to my dad about his alcoholism3/31/2009
  Q: My father was only with me until I was three and wasn't a part of my life for 13 years. since he ...
  A: Hannah, sometimes people do have relationships out of guilt rather than clear choice. I think the ...
My husband and our marriage needs help.3/29/2009
  Q: I have been married for 4 years. My husbands family has all be to AA. This has been an on going ...
  A: sam, the way you and he behave has become a pattern. He is like a bad child and you feel ...
alcoholics3/28/2009
  Q: I am 23 yrs old and am engaged to a 31 year old he is a drinker and will go 7 days drinking pure ...
  A: Katie, it sounds like a bad situation to be in. Many drinkers need to go through alot before they ...
alcoholism3/27/2009
  Q: i was just wandering,im not an alcoholic,but i like to have maybe 3 or 4 beers a night. ive been ...
  A: Katherine, I can't see any problem with quitting fast or slow but you may experience some minor ...
Anger from liquor3/25/2009
  Q: over the past several months my boyfriend and I have noticed that when I drink I tend to become very ...
  A: Sara, it is not a good sign when alcohol starts to affect you emotionally, mentally and/or ...
Leave or be supportive and Stay?3/24/2009
  Q: My fiance and I got together just over a year ago and got pregnant just after we got together. When ...
  A: Heather, if your fiance is an alcoholic and it sounds like he is this will likely go on much ...
aa-divorse3/23/2009
  Q: I am a 30 year old wife and mother of a six year old boy. My husband and I have been married for 6 ...
  A: Olivia, your feelings are undertandable under these adverse circumstances. Your husband is a very ...
19 year old son3/22/2009
  Q: My 19 year old son is always drunk or drinking. He has moved back home after his apartment complex ...
  A: Good day, It is hard to do what needs to be done when it is your own son. We want to be kind and ...
leave tobbaco3/17/2009
  Q: i leave abuse tobbaco pan paragh manik chand etc etc so i m very depressed i feelings of guilt and ...
  A: Good day, all these feeling are quite normal for a person with addictions. The substances we use ...
How do I approach the drinking?3/16/2009
  Q: My husband and I have been married 15 months now. When we met the first couple of months he didnt ...
  A: Jen, it helps a bit to understand how alcoholism works on a person. He may never have intended or ...
My boyfriends brother is destroying everyone!!3/15/2009
  Q: I don't even know where to start! my boyfriend is 23 and has a 28 year old brother, they both live ...
  A: Jessica, It is very upsetting to see how people help alcoholics to their doom unknowingly. Of ...
best friend at a dangerous level3/11/2009
  Q: her drinking is now starting to turn into violent fits. tearing up her home, throwing her loving ...
  A: Jo, She has a treatable problem but it has to be her that decides to help herself. When others ...
coworker's drinking3/7/2009
  Q: I have recently become aware that a coworker of mine may have a problem with alchohol. As a ...
  A: Michelle, I can understand your concern about your coworker's drinking and behaviour. The bottom ...
9 days...2/28/2009
  Q: So, I have a question for you. A little background first: I'm a 27 year old female professional ...
  A: Niki, hi, how are you doing today? As you can see alcohol has very powerful presence to it, enough ...
boyfriend gets drunk for 2 days every couple of months2/24/2009
  Q: Ive been with my boyfriend for almost a year and hes been trying to not drink as much as when we ...
  A: Good day, there is not much you can do other than refuse to take part in providing money or alcohol ...
Behaviours2/17/2009
  Q: Can you mull over some questions please? 1.I can go for weeks without booze, or just having a ...
  A: Good day, it does sound like you are possibly developing a harmful dependence on the booze. The ...
AA and religion2/16/2009
  Q: I am forty years old, married for nearly 17 years and have drank on and off since I was fourteen. I ...
  A: Good day, I can understand your reluctance to attend AA meetings. There is often some talk by some ...
I Can't Let Go2/13/2009
  Q: I have been dating an alcoholic for 6 years. Things have been up and down. I have kicked him out. He ...
  A: Laura, Being a codependent is a bit like being an alcoholic in that the patterns of behaviour are ...
How to tell if husband is serious about making a change?1/30/2009
  Q: I have been married for 8 years and have two children, ages 6 and 4. My husband has always been a ...
  A: Heather, I will try to give you some points to understand his alcoholism better. This is an illness ...
When do I know?1/29/2009
  Q: I am sure you have a lot of people asking this. But even if I did my research, I am still unsure. ...
  A: Karo, one of the signs of alcoholism is loss of control of when a person drinks and no control over ...
How to end relationship with alcoholic1/28/2009
  Q: I have been living with my alcoholic boyfriend for 4 years. He has gone through treatment in the ...
  A: Leah, Breaking up with someone is never easy, there are too many emotions involved. He may be aware ...
Alcoholizm1/27/2009
  Q: My boyfriend of seven years is a functioning alcoholic. He drinks 2-4 nights a week depending on ...
  A: Jacqueline, It sounds like he is heading for self-destruction and no one can stop him but himself. ...
childrens wellbeing1/10/2009
  Q: i have written to you before but my problems just seem to be ongoing,my husband walked out due what ...
  A: Carol, I know how it is to have a dream or idea of how things should be in a family or a ...
Would responding hash up too much?1/9/2009
  Q: I left home when I was 16 due to an extremely abusive and alcoholic mother. (I have never really ...
  A: Jane, You can not minimize the pain you have because of the issues with your mother. I can ...
Would responding hash up too much?1/8/2009
  Q: I left home when I was 16 due to an extremely abusive and alcoholic mother. (I have never really ...
  A: Jane, this is a difficult question because it is so deeply personal to you. We are often torn with ...
Am I an alcoholic?1/6/2009
  Q: I guess I want to know when or how you decide that you're an alcoholic versus you just need to cut ...
  A: Natalie, there isn't anything inherently wrong with drinking until it has adverse effects on your ...
alcoholic grandparents1/4/2009
  Q: It is well known having alcoholic parents can affect a child's health. Neither of my parents are ...
  A: Kay, if your parent's fathers were alcoholics then your parents, siblings and you could be affected ...
should I bail out my brother with his 3rd DUI1/2/2009
  Q: My 50 year old brother is a sever alcoholic with cirrhosis of the liver and is in poor health. He ...
  A: T, I am not sure what your intentions are toward your brother at this point as he sounds like he ...
In shock12/30/2008
  Q: Six months ago my husband started reducing his OCD medication and using Facebook. One woman in ...
  A: Shilo, you owe him nothing from the way he has treated you. Whether you have contact or break it ...
friend who is a alcoholic12/28/2008
  Q: Please Help I have a best friend who a consider as close as a sister I have known her for over 10 ...
  A: Melissa, Alcoholism can happen to anyone but the strong addiction and the denial keep people ...
My Fathers many Addictions...12/27/2008
  Q: My parents had me when they were only teenagers, but gave me everything. They were both around ...
  A: Nestle, this whole situation with your family has been building up since you were born. The living ...
Alcoholic12/24/2008
  Q: My husband and I have been married for 8 1/2 years and he is an alcoholic. We are both in our ...
  A: Kristi, Often living with an alcoholic results in building a dependence similar to his addiction to ...
Alcoholic12/23/2008
  Q: My husband and I have been married for 8 1/2 years and he is an alcoholic. We are both in our ...
  A: Kristi, it sounds like your husband is very much in denial and at present has not reached a point ...
partner who binges,12/19/2008
  Q: I've been involved with my partner for 2 years. When I first met her she would binge drink every ...
  A: Liza, I know it is difficult to end relationships even when they are becoming quite toxic to us. ...
emotionally distant12/13/2008
  Q: I am married to a recovering alcoholic. He has been sober for 4 months now. I have supported him ...
  A: Lulu, Alcoholics recover according to their own timetable and how well they adjust to a sober life. ...
In shock12/10/2008
  Q: Six months ago my husband started reducing his OCD medication and using Facebook. One woman in ...
  A: Shilo, It is never wrong to take care of yourself. Go ahead and write down whatever you decide to ...
Dating a recovering alcoholic12/8/2008
  Q: Are there emotional and behavioral patterns individuals can have even if they are recovering ...
  A: Good day, As alcoholics recover they do gain some emotional strength but it depends on the ...
In shock12/6/2008
  Q: Six months ago my husband started reducing his OCD medication and using Facebook. One woman in ...
  A: Shilo, I can understand you must feel very confused but a person with drinking problems or ...
odor12/1/2008
  Q: I am currently with an alcoholic in recovery for six weeks. Is it possible to still smell alcohol ...
  A: Maria, The answer is no as far as alcohol goes but there can be other health conditions that can ...
My alcoholic ex partner sayes he no longer loves me. How do I get over it.11/28/2008
  Q: I have been in a 5 year relationship with a man whom I believe to be an alcoholic, I will give you a ...
  A: Kerry, the first thing I want to say is that when things are going badly it is easy to feel like it ...
Is this typical? I feel like my world is upside down!11/27/2008
  Q: My husband (soon to be ex) has been a "functioning" heavy drinker for a long time. He doesn't fall ...
  A: Erin, I am not sure where to start but as far as underlying problems go you have enough "over"lying ...
My husband just won't stop....11/17/2008
  Q: I am in love with my husband and it is so hard for me to walk away from our relationship. I've ...
  A: April, it is hard to have a relationship under "normal" conditions. By normal I mean two mentally ...
drinking again11/10/2008
  Q: My husband has been sober for almost 9 years, In may (our sons college graduation) he had a few ...
  A: Joleen, the questions to ask are "does his drinking cause family problems, financial problems, ...
My fiance is an alcoholic11/5/2008
  Q: I have read many of the articles online and have just left my partner for a second time in eight ...
  A: Therese, I understand how confusing it is to be torn in different directions at the same time. It ...
Alcholic Father10/29/2008
  Q: My dad has been an Alcoholic since before i was, and i never really noticed how bad it was until he ...
  A: Marie, of course his drinking is not your fault it is a problem he has developed over time. ...
is he alcoholic?10/27/2008
  Q: My husband drank every night of his life since before I met him. I knew he had a problem, but I ...
  A: Amanda, the illness of alcoholism affects the family over time as well as the alcoholic. It is ...
What to do10/23/2008
  Q: my dads been an alcoholic for 10 years. I try talking to him, but he takes no advice from me or my ...
  A: the first step in helping your Dad is in getting help for yourself by attending some Al-Anon ...
recovery10/22/2008
  Q: I am a recovering alcoholic 40 year old single male uk national.I have been 18 months in a ...
  A: Good day Daniel, it sounds like you have a great start on recovery, good work! When living sober ...
Worried about husband/father over drinking10/21/2008
  Q: I have been married to my husband for 18 years. He has always had a drinking problem since he was ...
  A: Pina, once a person passes a certain point which varies depending on the person, it is no longer ...
addicted to an alcoholic10/14/2008
  Q: I am so lost..I think. About 4 months ago I received a phone call from my x-"recovering" alcoholic ...
  A: Lena, I noticed that you wrote in about a month ago and it sounds like things are going about the ...
Husband & Beer10/10/2008
  Q: I have emailed Rebos a few times, but I see he is on vacation. In summary, I noticed a big change in ...
  A: Debbie, Alcoholism is an illness of denial, this denial affects the drinker and everyone around ...
Alcohol abuse by a loved one10/7/2008
  Q: My girlfriend has a problem with being able to stop drinking before she becomes belligerent and at ...
  A: Good day Nathan, Relationships can be strained by alcohol abuse and it's resulting behaviours. ...
Husband Relapsed10/6/2008
  Q: I have been married to my husband for 6 years.When we married, he was finishing his AA program.He ...
  A: Good day Amanda, I hear you saying your husbands drinking doesn't bother you and then again that it ...
symptoms10/1/2008
  Q: I think that my father is an alcoholic, but I am not sure. Can you tell me which are the symptoms of ...
  A: Good day, the symptoms of alcoholism are many. One primary symptom is denial that there is any ...
:( I need help9/29/2008
  Q: I am in love with an alcoholic , I was raised by an alcoholic , and statistically I am an alcoholic ...
  A: Good day, I know that drinking alcohol especially to an alcoholic is in the beginning at least a ...
The guilty feeling9/27/2008
  Q: Every morning I wake up saying this will be the day. Then by the afternoon I need a drink. Can ...
  A: Dave, the guilt that you have failed personally can combine with other factors of this illness to ...
Post Acute-Withdrawl Syndrome9/24/2008
  Q: I think I might be experiencing some of the symptoms of PAWS and am in the care of a doctor. I was ...
  A: Good day, there are many feelings of ups and downs in recovery as our brain chemicals and our ...
sad9/20/2008
  Q: My soon to be husband has not been ship out yet but he think it is o,k to drink and he gets really ...
  A: Jessica, the first thing you should do is get to a safe place like a relative or friend or a ...
father alocoholic9/19/2008
  Q: I have a problem with my father who has become an alcoholic since past 8 months. Not a single day ...
  A: Dileep, he will just buy more alcohol if you give him money. If he needs things like food, get him ...
father alocoholic9/18/2008
  Q: I have a problem with my father who has become an alcoholic since past 8 months. Not a single day ...
  A: Dileep, I know it is distressing to watch your father in this condition. It is difficult to deal ...
Am I the one with a problem?9/17/2008
  Q: Please help me understand what the heck is going on. I was in a relationship with an alcoholic for ...
  A: Lena, you basically pegged the problem when you said you feel addicted to him. This guy has living ...
help with alcoholic boyfriend9/15/2008
  Q: I am having issues with my current boyfriend. We have been together for 18 months, and he is a ...
  A: Jodi, many of the things you mentioned are classic behaviours of an alcoholic. Hiding drinks, ...
Husband Drinking9/12/2008
  Q: I have been married for 18 years. We have been through some major financial downfalls over the past ...
  A: Robin, I understand how difficult it is to care for someone that is making choices that are ...
Alcoholic girlfriend, unstable boyfriend9/11/2008
  Q: I think I am here to try to talk myself out of carrying on the relationship with my girlfriend. She ...
  A: Scott, you have a long troubled history with this relationship. As I see it you have to decide what ...
children9/6/2008
  Q: He has supposedly stopped drinking since last November but I actually doubt it.Normally I keep ...
  A: Carol, I know it very sad to see a father that doesn't seem to care but your husband is wrapped up ...
post breakup with alcoholicex, confusion8/22/2008
  Q: My ex and I broke up after 8 years off and on. We broke up when realized he was still doing coke (i ...
  A: Gena, It is always difficult when relationships end whatever the reasons. Alcohol and/or drug use ...
Drunken rages8/20/2008
  Q: I was wondering if you could help me or at least give me an idea of what is going on. I am twenty ...
  A: Shea, there is something wrong if you blackout during drinking. This is a sign of problem drinking ...
Inside and Outside the Circle of an Alchoholic8/13/2008
  Q: Amazing, and well worth celebrating, is that my partner and myself have some how avoided becoming ...
  A: Brenda, I congratulate you on making choices that promote your individuality. It is difficult to ...
My husband is an alcoholic8/7/2008
  Q: My husband is an alcoholic, a bad one. We lost our home in 2006 because he started drinking after 4 ...
  A: Debbie, I know it is hard to be torn between wanting a relationship and the reality that it is ...
rules for driving8/1/2008
  Q: We are about to have to tell my dad that he cannot drive our 15 month old anywhere because of his ...
  A: Good day, I can understand your concern and I agree with keeping your child safe with or without ...
alcoholics in the family7/27/2008
  Q: We have a cousin who has been in AA and Celegrate Recovery for a year and doing well. The problem is ...
  A: Charlotte, As you probably know from this alcoholic girl's behaviour she is a very ill person in ...
Dry Drunk7/22/2008
  Q: I currently broke up w/ my bfriend of 3 years, I have found that although he has been sober for 10 ...
  A: Dori, there are many alcoholics that after initially recovering do not follow any form of ...
to believe or no to believe7/17/2008
  Q: My question is about what an alcoholic is capable of. My sister (the alcoholic) has almost ...
  A: Angy, Alcoholics become very ill during the progression of their alcoholism. They start going ...
Question7/16/2008
  Q: My boyfriend of five years won't admit he's an alcoholic or go to an AA meeting. I have finally ...
  A: Paula, I know how much relationships can hurt and it is hard to accept that sometimes they fail for ...
can I forgive?7/8/2008
  Q: My experience of living and then leaving my alcoholic wife was shocking and leaves unresolved ...
  A: Robert, sorry, I only received this short message of yours so I can not respond well to your ...
Friend of Bill W.7/6/2008
  Q: "but at some stage of his drinking career he begins to lose all control of his liquor consumption, ...
  A: Good day, what it means to me is losing the ability to start and stop drinking when you choose ...
Reuniting7/3/2008
  Q: I have been married for 21 years. My husband, an alcoholic has been in treatment centers 5 times. ...
  A: Michelle, be very cautious here as you and I both know how manipulating alcoholics can be drunk or ...
anxiety about future6/25/2008
  Q: The last 5 years I have been through the mill with my husbands drinking and despite him trying to ...
  A: Good day, Alcoholics are often irresponsible and the family learns to stop depending on them. The ...
my wife went in loving me and came out not6/23/2008
  Q: my wife and i have been together for eleven years we have had lots of problems but when we are ...
  A: Jayme. there is no easy answer as to why she wants to end the relationship. I would imagine it has ...
Behaviour6/19/2008
  Q: Why is it they can hold down a job and go out of their way to please and keep in with fellow workers ...
  A: Good day, Alcoholics can sometimes be great people pleasers when it comes to outsiders. They seem ...
Our baby will be here soon, and he won't quit drinking.6/9/2008
  Q: My boyfriend, let's call him Sam, and I have been to together for 4 years. I should probably mention ...
  A: Stephanie, just look at what you wrote to me, do you see the pattern that repeats itself over and ...
My Husband6/7/2008
  Q: After almost thirty years of marriage my husband has started to drink. I am really upset. Both my ...
  A: Good day, this is unfortunate but he is an adult so he can decide to drink or not drink. I think ...
Drinking friend5/23/2008
  Q: my question is my friend and I have been friends since we were kids and now we are 40 well I am 40 ...
  A: Anna, I see this happen to so many people like your friend. They don't even know life without ...
my husband is a alcoholic5/22/2008
  Q: Hay I just don't know what to do, I'm not from here so my English writing is terrible. But I'm ...
  A: I am a recovered alcoholic for over 22 years. He can recover without professional help as I did. ...
Far away brother has a problem5/14/2008
  Q: this is one of the toughest letters I am sure I have ever written. My brother lives in PA. My Mother ...
  A: Erin, what makes these situations so difficult is the drinkers denial of their problem. ...
Setting boudaries with problem-drinking husband5/13/2008
  Q: I've been married to my husband for almost one year, but we've been together for 8. We've always ...
  A: Leah, your behaviours are all in reaction to what might be an addictive process in your husband. ...
no happy ending5/6/2008
  Q: My wife and I have been estranged for about a month now as I had to ask her to leave because of her ...
  A: Scott, if a crime was committed he should certainly be charged but as you say it depends on what ...
What now???5/2/2008
  Q: I just broke up with my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. After a month of uneasiness, I confronted her ...
  A: Brian, the nature of alcoholism is strong denial. This eventually affects the people that live with ...
no happy ending5/2/2008
  Q: My wife and I have been estranged for about a month now as I had to ask her to leave because of her ...
  A: Scott, the nature of alcoholism is that it requires the almost decimation of a person for them to ...
Trying to understand my friends behavior4/26/2008
  Q: I have been close friends with an alcoholic for 2 years, since we met in graduate school. My ...
  A: Laura, this guy needs to work on his sobriety and his honesty and his fear of closeness or ...
burning off alcohol4/25/2008
  Q: Can the body burn off alcohol with exercise? Some say no and some say yes.Those who say no claim ...
  A: RJ, alcohol is metabolized through the liver but how fast it gets there is an issue. The level of ...
trust4/25/2008
  Q: The last few years my husband has been drinking more and more heavily and walked out on the family ...
  A: Carol, It is very hard to trust someone that has hurt us in the past. We have good reason to be ...
no happy ending4/23/2008
  Q: My wife and I have been estranged for about a month now as I had to ask her to leave because of her ...
  A: Scott, I know it is a terrible feeling to see your wife in this condition. It is very hard for ...
WIFE IS AN ACHOHOLIC4/21/2008
  Q: MY wife has been drinking heavily for years. Over the past 12 months it really became a problem. I ...
  A: Dave, I can sense all the frustration you have with your wife and in-laws. Alcoholism is not ...
is my ex-girlfriend an alcoholic4/20/2008
  Q: I have just broken up with my girlfriend of four years. She was the love of my life. When we first ...
  A: Jason, when you met this girl you were both active drinkers. It is not surprising that she has a ...
Son's Alcoholism and Drugs4/20/2008
  Q: My son is 27 and is in a serious situation. He has used drugs and alcohol for years, and will quit ...
  A: Jennifer, alcoholics are blind to how severe their problem is. The illness creates a strong sense ...
Son's Alcoholism and Drugs4/18/2008
  Q: My son is 27 and is in a serious situation. He has used drugs and alcohol for years, and will quit ...
  A: Jennifer, this a difficult question because the answers are few. Your son has drank himself into ...
Husband alcohol...4/16/2008
  Q: I was wondering if you could help me figure if my husband is an alcoholic or not? I think he is but ...
  A: Sue, drinking every day is a sure sign of alcohol dependence. Whether he can quit without help at ...
alcoholic wife4/15/2008
  Q: Two weeks ago I finally got my wife to leave. in the last year she has been kicked out of rehab ...
  A: Dave, your wife has a mental, emotional and spiritual illness. This is not something you or I or ...
My Ex Husband4/9/2008
  Q: I am writing to you regarding my ex-husband who is an alcoholic. We have been divorced for about 2 ...
  A: Carol, late stage alcoholism can mimic alot of mental problems. Some people damage their brain ...
Mood Swings4/5/2008
  Q: My husband is a heavy drinker. He will drink everyday for three weeks and only stops when he starts ...
  A: Marsha, this situation is not the same as living with a person in alcoholic recovery. If your ...
Partner4/3/2008
  Q: We have spoken before..and now I feel like I need your advice again..My partner is drinking more now ...
  A: Pauline, I do not think it will matter to him how you feel as he can not control his behaviour ...
Partner4/3/2008
  Q: We have spoken before..and now I feel like I need your advice again..My partner is drinking more now ...
  A: Pauline, when a man treats you badly and you keep trying he knows he can treat you badly over and ...
Bringing wine to a party3/25/2008
  Q: My husband is an alcoholic (binger), has been sober for 8 months. Hooray! We socialize w my family ...
  A: Barb, your husband is doing well by the sounds of it. I believe guests that come to your home ...
Living with an recovering alcoholic3/20/2008
  Q: I am living with a man who has almost 2 years sobriety - this time and is a survivor the the ...
  A: Yvonne, alcoholics are very impulsive and have little patience. Your friend is right about sober ...
Living with an recovering alcoholic3/20/2008
  Q: I am living with a man who has almost 2 years sobriety - this time and is a survivor the the ...
  A: Yvonne, I know it must be difficult to live with a struggling alcoholic. The problem with some ...
My partner is an alcoholic3/17/2008
  Q: Iam at a lost and don't know what to do. My partner and I have a great relationship..we been ...
  A: Pauline, it may not be so easy to move on. Often getting involved with a man like this can be ...
My partner is an alcoholic3/16/2008
  Q: Iam at a lost and don't know what to do. My partner and I have a great relationship..we been ...
  A: Pauline, I know it is human nature to help someone that seems to need help. It is also wise to know ...
Alcholism3/15/2008
  Q: My Husband doesn't drink until Friday after work. We used to drink a couple of drinks (bourbon & ...
  A: Shirley, When drinking has negative consequences and a person keeps drinking there is usually a ...
shame3/2/2008
  Q: I feel totally ashamed of myself for marrying a person with a drink problem,he walked out on me 2 ...
  A: Carol, An alcoholic is a person addicted to alcohol. The addiction is an illness that affects the ...
How to deal with an alcoholic spouse.2/28/2008
  Q: Please help: I am currently pregnant, with two other children, and i do not work right now. Back ...
  A: Carmen, what kind of alternatives are there for you where you live? Violence is not something to ...
Alcoholic Friends and Familiy2/23/2008
  Q: We have friends that think it is normal to get together at least 3 times a week and drink heavily. ...
  A: David, when living with or around alcoholics people often develop responses that are unhealthy. It ...
Adjusting to life with my sober husband2/19/2008
  Q: My husband is currently in recovery for 3 months. He is half way home and I am in search of ...
  A: I admire your willingness to learn about the recovery process. There are many books about ...
Further to your answer to my earlier question2/12/2008
  Q: two years ago, my brother had met with an accident (hit and run where he was hit) and as a result of ...
  A: RO, It is a very helpless feeling to know your brother needs help but seems to be refusing your ...
ex2/9/2008
  Q: i guess i have to start from the start. I left my common law husband of 15 years a little over 3 ...
  A: just wanted to give you a comment on your question. It sounds like you are having a hard time ...
alcoholism with my daughters boyfriend2/8/2008
  Q: They have been together 2 years... he dosen't drink every nite but has finally admitted that he does ...
  A: Mary, this is an odd situation but typical for people involved with an active alcoholic, by that I ...
I want to help my brother2/2/2008
  Q: I have a 38 year old brother with some serious issues. He began drinking in his teens and has been ...
  A: Ro, it is admirable to care for your brother's welfare even though you are separated by so much ...
adult child of alcoholic2/2/2008
  Q: My father has been an alcoholic as long as I can remember (I am 34) my mom finally divorced him ...
  A: Lori, there is no easy answer to deal with the problem of alcoholism in a family member. Has your ...
need help1/28/2008
  Q: My son is 24 and an alcoholic. He is currently living with me. I tried to help with his finances, ...
  A: Heather, I know this is a hard situation to be in as your feelings get pulled one way and the ...
Alcoholic Relationships1/27/2008
  Q: I started dating a girl from a different town about 8 months ago when I first started recovery in ...
  A: Adam, I know all this seems very confusing but things do get better with time and sobriety. I ...
alcohol addiction1/20/2008
  Q: Why do alcoholic continue to ruin your life after you finally get enough nerves to leave. After 28 ...
  A: Gwen, -anger does not feel very good but is a natural response to being in a situation like yours. ...
bamboozled1/14/2008
  Q: I have written a couple of times before but always seem to have a lot of unanswered questions in my ...
  A: Carol, when a person is in the throes of active alcoholism his behaviour is often most bizarre to ...
Divorcing the alcoholic1/13/2008
  Q: I'm divorcing my alcoholic husband of 17 years due to abuse, then dependence on alcohol that ...
  A: hope things are getting better for you. I recovered over 22 years ago and know most of the games ...
Keeping sane1/10/2008
  Q: I took my partne back when he had reach rock bottom and needed help, I took him back on the ...
  A: Linzi, I know how difficult this situation is since I have been there too. Your partner may or may ...
My husband....1/8/2008
  Q: I come to you with an issue. I come from a background with an Alcoholic father and alcohlic ...
  A: Liza, this man is fighting physically with you, irresponsible and endangering his career, his ...
ex1/8/2008
  Q: i guess i will start off saying that i have asked this question before to others but want more feed ...
  A: Michele, if he is still drinking and has not had any alcoholic treatment, I suspect the problem is ...
I'm trying to recover - spouse is not1/5/2008
  Q: I've recently been diagnosed as bipolar and I've discovered that I've been using alcohol to ...
  A: A, it may be difficult to be around drinkers this early in your recovery. He is not the one making ...
How A Recovering Alcoholic Feels1/4/2008
  Q: I love a man who quit drinking October 27. He had one relapse one week later where he drank what ...
  A: Merideth, I am amazed at your positive attitude towards what must be a very difficult situation to ...
Mum12/31/2007
  Q: My question is about my mum. She has been a heavy drinker for a while but visiting her this ...
  A: Rebecca, this is a difficult situation for your Mum and your family. It is not healthy to drink so ...
relapse12/21/2007
  Q: I have a son who was about 80 days sober and living in a sober living house. He just had his 28th ...
  A: Mary Jo, after a relapse it is normal to feel like a failure. Feelings like this can just make the ...
After Rehab12/18/2007
  Q: so that he has something to drink. He wants a fruit juice that is also fizzy.
  A: Shannon, wanting fizzy non-alcohol drinks is just a sign that he is having trouble letting go of ...
help12/16/2007
  Q: My husband is an alcoholic. He of course denies this completely. It is wrecking our life. We have ...
  A: I am very familiar with your situation as it is repeated so many times in alcoholic centered ...

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