| Subject | Date Asked |
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| Alcoholic brother over for Thanksgiving | 11/20/2009 |
Q: My name is Katrina and I am 21 years old. I have a brother who is 26 and has been suffering ...
A: I know it is hard to watch someone you care about going downhill with alcoholism. It is important ...
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| Concerned Sister Far Away | 11/12/2009 |
Q: I am writting in regards to being a concerned sister who is living far from a serious problem in my ...
A: Merrie-Beth, I can see how frutrating it is to sense a problem and not be able to do much about it. ...
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| Alcoholism | 11/8/2009 |
Q: I'm sure that my husband is an alcoholic. He doesn't get drunk but he drinks everyday a six pack or ...
A: Ashley, I know how frustrating this is for you, I have been there personally. The first thing to ...
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| alcoholism | 11/7/2009 |
Q: I'm not to sure how this goes but i have a few questions. I am with a great man but he's only great ...
A: Mandy, it is not so complex as you may think. He is an ill person and addicted to alcohol, this is ...
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| alcohol poisoning | 11/5/2009 |
Q: and thank you for being so generous with your expertise! My son says his high school friends claim ...
A: Elizabeth, the odd thing about the answers your son's friends are giving him is that vomiting is ...
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| Is boyfriend an alcoholic? | 11/3/2009 |
Q: . I'll try to keep this brief, but I feel it's important to get as many details as possible into ...
A: Lara, often people that grow up in alcoholic homes have poor communication skills. They have to ...
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| Beer belly | 10/30/2009 |
Q: I am worried about my husband. He used to be a heavy drinker, getting pissed at least once a week. ...
A: Vanessa, There are many causes for the "Beer belly" and most of them are not beer. However, liver ...
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| Is boyfriend an alcoholic? | 10/28/2009 |
Q: . I'll try to keep this brief, but I feel it's important to get as many details as possible into ...
A: Lara, it is common to have some doubts when living with a problem drinker. The denial of the person ...
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| dealing withan alcoholic parent | 10/27/2009 |
Q: I've read a few questions that have been posted, but nothing is every the same as your own issues. ...
A: Caughleigh, I know these situations that involve parents or other family members are difficult. It ...
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| Alcoholic boyfriend | 10/22/2009 |
Q: I'd really appreciate your opinion. I'm 37 and dating my 39-year old boyfriend for the past 5 ...
A: Kleo, your friend is an alcoholic and by the sounds of it he has not recovered very much as he ...
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| Special occasions... | 10/19/2009 |
Q: Okay, so I'm not sure whether I would call myself an alcoholic or not...I guess it depends on your ...
A: Ryan, Often, switching drinks to control your drinking is not a good sign. What if eventually you ...
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| Alcoholic Boyfriend | 10/17/2009 |
Q: I hope I'm posting this in the right section. I am having a problem talking to my boyfriend about ...
A: Tonya, You have more than ample evidence that your boyfriend has serious alcoholism problems. It ...
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| drinking | 10/16/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend wouldn't technically be considered an alcoholic, drinking is recreational and usually ...
A: Ashley, it sounds like he is having some bad reactions to excess drinking. Alcoholism is not always ...
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| boyfriend in denial | 10/15/2009 |
Q: I recently moved in with my boyfriend of just over a year. When we met, we both drank a few times a ...
A: Trish, It sounds very much like your boyfriend is addicted to alcohol or at least he is not ready ...
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| alcoholic husband in recovery | 10/9/2009 |
Q: my husband has been sober for nearly 2 mos. he was attending many aa meetings but has cut back to 2 ...
A: I know it may seem strange but your husband is likely to be somewhat unbalanced in his values at ...
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| Personality of alcoholics | 10/7/2009 |
Q: In August of 2008, we had a family intervention and my husband chose to go into a 28 day rehab ...
A: Rae Anne, First off I believe you did the right thing with the intervention. Secondly, the choice ...
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| alcoholism, or other issues? | 10/5/2009 |
Q: I had my first drink when I was 12 but didn't develop much of a habit until about 17. I smoked ...
A: Alicia, perhaps the first thing to mention and you have probably heard it before is how hard it is ...
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| Help Me | 10/3/2009 |
Q: I am a forty year old female alcoholic. Alcoholism has stolen everything from me and just recently ...
A: Marla, You can get better but to stop drinking you need to go to AA meetings even if you dislike ...
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| is it a recovery or is he faking? | 9/21/2009 |
Q: my husband stopped drinking about 6 month ago due to problems with law. he did very well in the ...
A: Tasha, Alcoholism is an illness that requires a recovery program to overcome. It sounds as if your ...
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| Forced AA | 9/20/2009 |
Q: Can you force someone to attend AA meetings when you know they need them? If so, can this ever ...
A: Ann, AA is voluntary and accepts people back anytime with no problem. Sometimes the criminal ...
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| alcoholism? | 9/18/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for two years. He drinks 2-4 times a week. He says it's not a ...
A: Sabrina, In my experience the growing paranoia, jealousy, sneaking/lies are definitly signs of a ...
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| Sons drinking and depression/anxiety | 9/13/2009 |
Q: My son is 27 and was in hospital for depression and anxiety. I know he drank a lot while in ...
A: Good day, It is common for problem drinkers to develop some emotional difficulties due to the ...
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| Alcoholic relationships | 9/3/2009 |
Q: I am a 49-yr old female that has been in recovery now for 5 yrs. and love it. My significant other, ...
A: Pam, as you are probably aware alcoholism is a progressive illness and without abstinence it ...
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| How do i help my fiance? | 8/29/2009 |
Q: My fiance and I love each other and it is very obvious to everyone we have a 2 hour long distance ...
A: Alyssa, this is a tough situation for you both. He has to deal with parents that refuse to take ...
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| alcoholics & relationships | 8/25/2009 |
Q: I have a good friend who is an alcoholic. From the outside, you'd never know. He's a professional, ...
A: Joanna, part of the answer you are seeking lies in your own desire to maintain contact with a man ...
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| alcoholics & relationships | 8/24/2009 |
Q: I have a good friend who is an alcoholic. From the outside, you'd never know. He's a professional, ...
A: Joanna, alcoholism can amplify a persons shortcomings or problems but the dishonesty is a behaviour ...
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| Friend has drinking problem | 8/21/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend's sister has been having problems with alcohol in the past few months, and it has ...
A: Glennis, Alcohol problems are tough to deal with especially if the person is in denial or not ...
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| alcholic | 8/20/2009 |
Q: i left him 6 mths ago which was a really difficult decision to make he had been drinking every day ...
A: Alcoholics that are still ill and not actively seeking and practising a recovery program are prone ...
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| could my husband be a alcoholic? | 8/17/2009 |
Q: I was trying to find something on the internet and came across this sight, I hope you may be able to ...
A: Cheryl, Even though it is possible your husband has drinking issues it is also possible he just has ...
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| Beer Belly? | 8/10/2009 |
Q: I am not an alcoholic but I do drink to much, especially beer and plan on cutting way back. I hope ...
A: Van, it is true that beer causes weight gain. Beer is about 140 calories per bottle. The way the ...
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| Recovery in Rehab | 8/6/2009 |
Q: My sister currently is in a Rehab facility my parents put her in. She wanted to go but now after a ...
A: Rebekah, her struggle will be in coming to terms with the denial which is part of alcoholic ...
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| Recovery in Rehab | 8/5/2009 |
Q: My sister currently is in a Rehab facility my parents put her in. She wanted to go but now after a ...
A: Rebekah, Making a change in her lifestyle is going to be a big challenge for your sister. I would ...
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| Effects of Alcohol | 8/1/2009 |
Q: I am not a regular drinker. I haven't drank in several months. I decided to go out with some ...
A: Kirsten, It is true that alcohol can reduce our inhibitions. Some of the feelings we have ...
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| Narcissism | 7/28/2009 |
Q: A friend of mine is a recovering alcoholic. He stopped about two years ago and relapsed once, but ...
A: Moni, many of the unfavorable traits exhibited by alcoholics develop while they are drinking or at ...
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| sober for 6yrs. | 7/27/2009 |
Q: MY husband stopped drinking himself for 6 yrs.If someone stops drinking but does not deal with any ...
A: Terrie, it won't take long for him to resume where he left off drinking. Without any recovery ...
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| alcohol | 7/21/2009 |
Q: well hello my name is Jessica and well this Saturday my boyfriend was drinking with his friends and ...
A: Jessica, Alcohol dialates blood vessels and some people will show "flushing" that can also enhance ...
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| How to handle a husbands increasing alcohol abuse | 7/14/2009 |
Q: I have been married to a man that has always been a drinker. We have been married for 27 years and ...
A: Jaque, are you still trying to influence him? My advice was to focus on yourself. You can now see ...
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| How to handle a husbands increasing alcohol abuse | 7/13/2009 |
Q: I have been married to a man that has always been a drinker. We have been married for 27 years and ...
A: Jaque, most certainly anyone on the outside would tell you it's easy, just pack up and leave. Of ...
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| Moderate Drinking | 7/9/2009 |
Q: I've been doing a great deal of research on the health benefits of beer recently, and I am very ...
A: David, Alcoholism is characterized more by the loss of control when drinking than how much a person ...
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| alcohol | 7/6/2009 |
Q: what is the effect of 2/3 drinks on a person who takes them daily or if he reduces to 2 days in a ...
A: Rajnish, light or moderate drinking is not always harmful to your health. However there are signs ...
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| DATING A RECOVERING ALCOHOLIC | 7/5/2009 |
Q: I HAVE BEEN DATING MY BOYFRIEND FOR 6 MONTHS. IM COMPLETELY IN LOVE WITH HIM. HE HASNT DRANK IN 2 ...
A: Leanne, It can be tough for a recovering alcoholic in the first year or more depending on the ...
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| alcoholic relationships | 6/30/2009 |
Q: i have had a relationship with this woman for nine month. We drank together and have been friends ...
A: Good day, I will start by saying you are doing well as far as being aware of her drinking problem ...
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| why I am emotional when drunk? | 6/29/2009 |
Q: After consuming alcohol I lied and exaggerated things talking with my best friend. After years of ...
A: Shashi, alcohol is a chemical that can influence our minds and our emotions either good or ...
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| Alcoholism | 6/23/2009 |
Q: I am the only girl sibling and from a family of genetic alcoholics. This disease has haunted my ...
A: Gail, Sorry to hear about your brother. Many of the problems alcoholics have can be helped if they ...
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| hello where do i go for more info? | 6/19/2009 |
Q: my sister may finally take my advise and move interstate to be with me during her advance stages of ...
A: Emma, the best resource for recovering alcoholics is to attend alcoholics anonymous meetings on a ...
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| alcoholic brother | 6/16/2009 |
Q: my brother lives with my mom and i in my mothers house his drinking is horrible. any money he makes ...
A: Deborah, this is becoming a problem for many parents these days. My best suggestions is to draw a ...
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| alcoholic boyfriend | 6/15/2009 |
Q: I have learned a lot about alcoholism because of a long-term relationship I was in with my boyfriend ...
A: Donna, as I mentioned above he may try to tell you things he thinks you want to hear or things that ...
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| alcoholic boyfriend | 6/14/2009 |
Q: I have learned a lot about alcoholism because of a long-term relationship I was in with my boyfriend ...
A: Donna, If you have a problem with your boyfriend related to alcohol abuse then that is a negative ...
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| She doesn't remember | 6/12/2009 |
Q: I dated this woman for three years and always suspected she was an alcoholic. Every time I ...
A: Brian, I can understand your feelings toward this incident with your ex. If you both have no ...
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| Alcoholism | 6/5/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend died 2 weeks ago from complications of alcoholism. Why do people with this problem push ...
A: Annette, I am sorry to hear about your loss. It is hard to understand the power of alcoholism, how ...
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| Is this my problem or his? | 6/4/2009 |
Q: I am mostly a nondrinker. When I met my husband, 34 years ago, he openly said that he had had a ...
A: Judy, you say he admitted he had a drinking problem when you met, this would indicate that your ...
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| Can't deal with husbands drinking | 6/2/2009 |
Q: I have been married to my high school sweetheart for going on 12 years now. I am a stay at home mom ...
A: I know how hard it is to feel more or less powerless over a person or situation. Alcoholism is a ...
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| My son drank last night! | 6/1/2009 |
Q: My 30 year old son is an alcoholic, He moved in with us in March of 2009 and after 2 months of CHAOS ...
A: Antonietta, the only part of the question that makes it difficult is the sincerity of your son's ...
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| My Husband, the Alcoholic | 5/26/2009 |
Q: When he met, he straight up told me he was an alcoholic and that if I were going to be with him, it ...
A: Good day, I am sorry to say that he has no excuse for staying an alcoholic when there are plenty of ...
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| husband drinks everyday | 5/24/2009 |
Q: To Start, This is really important to my marriage. I met my husband 8 yrs ago. He was young and ...
A: Josee, I know these problems seem to sneak up on people. We always think the drinking will taper ...
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| Homeless Nephew | 5/19/2009 |
Q: I have a nephew, age 22, who is homeless/ currently living in an abandoned house in Michigan. His ...
A: Jeff, it may be difficult to see your nephew in this condition. Unfortunately drug and alcohol ...
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| ups and downs | 5/7/2009 |
Q: My BF has been sober for 9 months now. Our relationship has been off and on for three years now, and ...
A: Kaira, It is normal for a person in recovery to go through many changes in their thinking and ...
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| drinking! | 5/5/2009 |
Q: Hey! I wasn't quite sure were to put this, i'm not an addict but its a question on alcohol. I'm 16 ...
A: Neela, There is bio-chemical basis for depression. Three major neurotransmitters in the brain ...
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| Hard to get drunk? | 4/22/2009 |
Q: I was never an alcoholic but I was a heavy drinker, and I used to get drunk pretty fast-just a few ...
A: Good day, The way it works is after a period of heavy alcohol use the liver develops more of the ...
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| Blackout | 4/21/2009 |
Q: As a college-aged male, I have had my experience with alcohol. Recently, however, I experienced my ...
A: Josh, fragmentary blackouts are usually caused by a rapid increase in the blood/alcohol level. ...
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| Ex Alcoholic Boyfriend | 4/4/2009 |
Q: I was in a relationship with my Ex for 4 yrs. He drank a 6pack of Budlight everyday. Is he an ...
A: Eileen, I would say your Ex was very likely an alcoholic although it depends more on how it ...
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| how to talk to my dad about his alcoholism | 3/31/2009 |
Q: My father was only with me until I was three and wasn't a part of my life for 13 years. since he ...
A: Hannah, sometimes people do have relationships out of guilt rather than clear choice. I think the ...
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| My husband and our marriage needs help. | 3/29/2009 |
Q: I have been married for 4 years. My husbands family has all be to AA. This has been an on going ...
A: sam, the way you and he behave has become a pattern. He is like a bad child and you feel ...
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| alcoholics | 3/28/2009 |
Q: I am 23 yrs old and am engaged to a 31 year old he is a drinker and will go 7 days drinking pure ...
A: Katie, it sounds like a bad situation to be in. Many drinkers need to go through alot before they ...
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| alcoholism | 3/27/2009 |
Q: i was just wandering,im not an alcoholic,but i like to have maybe 3 or 4 beers a night. ive been ...
A: Katherine, I can't see any problem with quitting fast or slow but you may experience some minor ...
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| Anger from liquor | 3/25/2009 |
Q: over the past several months my boyfriend and I have noticed that when I drink I tend to become very ...
A: Sara, it is not a good sign when alcohol starts to affect you emotionally, mentally and/or ...
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| Leave or be supportive and Stay? | 3/24/2009 |
Q: My fiance and I got together just over a year ago and got pregnant just after we got together. When ...
A: Heather, if your fiance is an alcoholic and it sounds like he is this will likely go on much ...
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| aa-divorse | 3/23/2009 |
Q: I am a 30 year old wife and mother of a six year old boy. My husband and I have been married for 6 ...
A: Olivia, your feelings are undertandable under these adverse circumstances. Your husband is a very ...
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| 19 year old son | 3/22/2009 |
Q: My 19 year old son is always drunk or drinking. He has moved back home after his apartment complex ...
A: Good day, It is hard to do what needs to be done when it is your own son. We want to be kind and ...
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| leave tobbaco | 3/17/2009 |
Q: i leave abuse tobbaco pan paragh manik chand etc etc so i m very depressed i feelings of guilt and ...
A: Good day, all these feeling are quite normal for a person with addictions. The substances we use ...
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| How do I approach the drinking? | 3/16/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have been married 15 months now. When we met the first couple of months he didnt ...
A: Jen, it helps a bit to understand how alcoholism works on a person. He may never have intended or ...
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| My boyfriends brother is destroying everyone!! | 3/15/2009 |
Q: I don't even know where to start! my boyfriend is 23 and has a 28 year old brother, they both live ...
A: Jessica, It is very upsetting to see how people help alcoholics to their doom unknowingly. Of ...
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| best friend at a dangerous level | 3/11/2009 |
Q: her drinking is now starting to turn into violent fits. tearing up her home, throwing her loving ...
A: Jo, She has a treatable problem but it has to be her that decides to help herself. When others ...
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| coworker's drinking | 3/7/2009 |
Q: I have recently become aware that a coworker of mine may have a problem with alchohol. As a ...
A: Michelle, I can understand your concern about your coworker's drinking and behaviour. The bottom ...
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| 9 days... | 2/28/2009 |
Q: So, I have a question for you. A little background first: I'm a 27 year old female professional ...
A: Niki, hi, how are you doing today? As you can see alcohol has very powerful presence to it, enough ...
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| boyfriend gets drunk for 2 days every couple of months | 2/24/2009 |
Q: Ive been with my boyfriend for almost a year and hes been trying to not drink as much as when we ...
A: Good day, there is not much you can do other than refuse to take part in providing money or alcohol ...
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| Behaviours | 2/17/2009 |
Q: Can you mull over some questions please? 1.I can go for weeks without booze, or just having a ...
A: Good day, it does sound like you are possibly developing a harmful dependence on the booze. The ...
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| AA and religion | 2/16/2009 |
Q: I am forty years old, married for nearly 17 years and have drank on and off since I was fourteen. I ...
A: Good day, I can understand your reluctance to attend AA meetings. There is often some talk by some ...
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| I Can't Let Go | 2/13/2009 |
Q: I have been dating an alcoholic for 6 years. Things have been up and down. I have kicked him out. He ...
A: Laura, Being a codependent is a bit like being an alcoholic in that the patterns of behaviour are ...
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| How to tell if husband is serious about making a change? | 1/30/2009 |
Q: I have been married for 8 years and have two children, ages 6 and 4. My husband has always been a ...
A: Heather, I will try to give you some points to understand his alcoholism better. This is an illness ...
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| When do I know? | 1/29/2009 |
Q: I am sure you have a lot of people asking this. But even if I did my research, I am still unsure. ...
A: Karo, one of the signs of alcoholism is loss of control of when a person drinks and no control over ...
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| How to end relationship with alcoholic | 1/28/2009 |
Q: I have been living with my alcoholic boyfriend for 4 years. He has gone through treatment in the ...
A: Leah, Breaking up with someone is never easy, there are too many emotions involved. He may be aware ...
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| Alcoholizm | 1/27/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend of seven years is a functioning alcoholic. He drinks 2-4 nights a week depending on ...
A: Jacqueline, It sounds like he is heading for self-destruction and no one can stop him but himself. ...
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| childrens wellbeing | 1/10/2009 |
Q: i have written to you before but my problems just seem to be ongoing,my husband walked out due what ...
A: Carol, I know how it is to have a dream or idea of how things should be in a family or a ...
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| Would responding hash up too much? | 1/9/2009 |
Q: I left home when I was 16 due to an extremely abusive and alcoholic mother. (I have never really ...
A: Jane, You can not minimize the pain you have because of the issues with your mother. I can ...
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| Would responding hash up too much? | 1/8/2009 |
Q: I left home when I was 16 due to an extremely abusive and alcoholic mother. (I have never really ...
A: Jane, this is a difficult question because it is so deeply personal to you. We are often torn with ...
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| Am I an alcoholic? | 1/6/2009 |
Q: I guess I want to know when or how you decide that you're an alcoholic versus you just need to cut ...
A: Natalie, there isn't anything inherently wrong with drinking until it has adverse effects on your ...
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| alcoholic grandparents | 1/4/2009 |
Q: It is well known having alcoholic parents can affect a child's health. Neither of my parents are ...
A: Kay, if your parent's fathers were alcoholics then your parents, siblings and you could be affected ...
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| should I bail out my brother with his 3rd DUI | 1/2/2009 |
Q: My 50 year old brother is a sever alcoholic with cirrhosis of the liver and is in poor health. He ...
A: T, I am not sure what your intentions are toward your brother at this point as he sounds like he ...
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| In shock | 12/30/2008 |
Q: Six months ago my husband started reducing his OCD medication and using Facebook. One woman in ...
A: Shilo, you owe him nothing from the way he has treated you. Whether you have contact or break it ...
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| friend who is a alcoholic | 12/28/2008 |
Q: Please Help I have a best friend who a consider as close as a sister I have known her for over 10 ...
A: Melissa, Alcoholism can happen to anyone but the strong addiction and the denial keep people ...
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| My Fathers many Addictions... | 12/27/2008 |
Q: My parents had me when they were only teenagers, but gave me everything. They were both around ...
A: Nestle, this whole situation with your family has been building up since you were born. The living ...
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| Alcoholic | 12/24/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 8 1/2 years and he is an alcoholic. We are both in our ...
A: Kristi, Often living with an alcoholic results in building a dependence similar to his addiction to ...
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| Alcoholic | 12/23/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 8 1/2 years and he is an alcoholic. We are both in our ...
A: Kristi, it sounds like your husband is very much in denial and at present has not reached a point ...
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| partner who binges, | 12/19/2008 |
Q: I've been involved with my partner for 2 years. When I first met her she would binge drink every ...
A: Liza, I know it is difficult to end relationships even when they are becoming quite toxic to us. ...
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| emotionally distant | 12/13/2008 |
Q: I am married to a recovering alcoholic. He has been sober for 4 months now. I have supported him ...
A: Lulu, Alcoholics recover according to their own timetable and how well they adjust to a sober life. ...
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| In shock | 12/10/2008 |
Q: Six months ago my husband started reducing his OCD medication and using Facebook. One woman in ...
A: Shilo, It is never wrong to take care of yourself. Go ahead and write down whatever you decide to ...
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| Dating a recovering alcoholic | 12/8/2008 |
Q: Are there emotional and behavioral patterns individuals can have even if they are recovering ...
A: Good day, As alcoholics recover they do gain some emotional strength but it depends on the ...
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| In shock | 12/6/2008 |
Q: Six months ago my husband started reducing his OCD medication and using Facebook. One woman in ...
A: Shilo, I can understand you must feel very confused but a person with drinking problems or ...
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| odor | 12/1/2008 |
Q: I am currently with an alcoholic in recovery for six weeks. Is it possible to still smell alcohol ...
A: Maria, The answer is no as far as alcohol goes but there can be other health conditions that can ...
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| My alcoholic ex partner sayes he no longer loves me. How do I get over it. | 11/28/2008 |
Q: I have been in a 5 year relationship with a man whom I believe to be an alcoholic, I will give you a ...
A: Kerry, the first thing I want to say is that when things are going badly it is easy to feel like it ...
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| Is this typical? I feel like my world is upside down! | 11/27/2008 |
Q: My husband (soon to be ex) has been a "functioning" heavy drinker for a long time. He doesn't fall ...
A: Erin, I am not sure where to start but as far as underlying problems go you have enough "over"lying ...
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| My husband just won't stop.... | 11/17/2008 |
Q: I am in love with my husband and it is so hard for me to walk away from our relationship. I've ...
A: April, it is hard to have a relationship under "normal" conditions. By normal I mean two mentally ...
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| drinking again | 11/10/2008 |
Q: My husband has been sober for almost 9 years, In may (our sons college graduation) he had a few ...
A: Joleen, the questions to ask are "does his drinking cause family problems, financial problems, ...
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| My fiance is an alcoholic | 11/5/2008 |
Q: I have read many of the articles online and have just left my partner for a second time in eight ...
A: Therese, I understand how confusing it is to be torn in different directions at the same time. It ...
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| Alcholic Father | 10/29/2008 |
Q: My dad has been an Alcoholic since before i was, and i never really noticed how bad it was until he ...
A: Marie, of course his drinking is not your fault it is a problem he has developed over time. ...
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| is he alcoholic? | 10/27/2008 |
Q: My husband drank every night of his life since before I met him. I knew he had a problem, but I ...
A: Amanda, the illness of alcoholism affects the family over time as well as the alcoholic. It is ...
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| What to do | 10/23/2008 |
Q: my dads been an alcoholic for 10 years. I try talking to him, but he takes no advice from me or my ...
A: the first step in helping your Dad is in getting help for yourself by attending some Al-Anon ...
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| recovery | 10/22/2008 |
Q: I am a recovering alcoholic 40 year old single male uk national.I have been 18 months in a ...
A: Good day Daniel, it sounds like you have a great start on recovery, good work! When living sober ...
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| Worried about husband/father over drinking | 10/21/2008 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for 18 years. He has always had a drinking problem since he was ...
A: Pina, once a person passes a certain point which varies depending on the person, it is no longer ...
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| addicted to an alcoholic | 10/14/2008 |
Q: I am so lost..I think. About 4 months ago I received a phone call from my x-"recovering" alcoholic ...
A: Lena, I noticed that you wrote in about a month ago and it sounds like things are going about the ...
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| Husband & Beer | 10/10/2008 |
Q: I have emailed Rebos a few times, but I see he is on vacation. In summary, I noticed a big change in ...
A: Debbie, Alcoholism is an illness of denial, this denial affects the drinker and everyone around ...
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| Alcohol abuse by a loved one | 10/7/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend has a problem with being able to stop drinking before she becomes belligerent and at ...
A: Good day Nathan, Relationships can be strained by alcohol abuse and it's resulting behaviours. ...
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| Husband Relapsed | 10/6/2008 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for 6 years.When we married, he was finishing his AA program.He ...
A: Good day Amanda, I hear you saying your husbands drinking doesn't bother you and then again that it ...
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| symptoms | 10/1/2008 |
Q: I think that my father is an alcoholic, but I am not sure. Can you tell me which are the symptoms of ...
A: Good day, the symptoms of alcoholism are many. One primary symptom is denial that there is any ...
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| :( I need help | 9/29/2008 |
Q: I am in love with an alcoholic , I was raised by an alcoholic , and statistically I am an alcoholic ...
A: Good day, I know that drinking alcohol especially to an alcoholic is in the beginning at least a ...
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| The guilty feeling | 9/27/2008 |
Q: Every morning I wake up saying this will be the day. Then by the afternoon I need a drink. Can ...
A: Dave, the guilt that you have failed personally can combine with other factors of this illness to ...
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| Post Acute-Withdrawl Syndrome | 9/24/2008 |
Q: I think I might be experiencing some of the symptoms of PAWS and am in the care of a doctor. I was ...
A: Good day, there are many feelings of ups and downs in recovery as our brain chemicals and our ...
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| sad | 9/20/2008 |
Q: My soon to be husband has not been ship out yet but he think it is o,k to drink and he gets really ...
A: Jessica, the first thing you should do is get to a safe place like a relative or friend or a ...
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| father alocoholic | 9/19/2008 |
Q: I have a problem with my father who has become an alcoholic since past 8 months. Not a single day ...
A: Dileep, he will just buy more alcohol if you give him money. If he needs things like food, get him ...
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| father alocoholic | 9/18/2008 |
Q: I have a problem with my father who has become an alcoholic since past 8 months. Not a single day ...
A: Dileep, I know it is distressing to watch your father in this condition. It is difficult to deal ...
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| Am I the one with a problem? | 9/17/2008 |
Q: Please help me understand what the heck is going on. I was in a relationship with an alcoholic for ...
A: Lena, you basically pegged the problem when you said you feel addicted to him. This guy has living ...
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| help with alcoholic boyfriend | 9/15/2008 |
Q: I am having issues with my current boyfriend. We have been together for 18 months, and he is a ...
A: Jodi, many of the things you mentioned are classic behaviours of an alcoholic. Hiding drinks, ...
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| Husband Drinking | 9/12/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 18 years. We have been through some major financial downfalls over the past ...
A: Robin, I understand how difficult it is to care for someone that is making choices that are ...
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| Alcoholic girlfriend, unstable boyfriend | 9/11/2008 |
Q: I think I am here to try to talk myself out of carrying on the relationship with my girlfriend. She ...
A: Scott, you have a long troubled history with this relationship. As I see it you have to decide what ...
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| children | 9/6/2008 |
Q: He has supposedly stopped drinking since last November but I actually doubt it.Normally I keep ...
A: Carol, I know it very sad to see a father that doesn't seem to care but your husband is wrapped up ...
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| post breakup with alcoholicex, confusion | 8/22/2008 |
Q: My ex and I broke up after 8 years off and on. We broke up when realized he was still doing coke (i ...
A: Gena, It is always difficult when relationships end whatever the reasons. Alcohol and/or drug use ...
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| Drunken rages | 8/20/2008 |
Q: I was wondering if you could help me or at least give me an idea of what is going on. I am twenty ...
A: Shea, there is something wrong if you blackout during drinking. This is a sign of problem drinking ...
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| Inside and Outside the Circle of an Alchoholic | 8/13/2008 |
Q: Amazing, and well worth celebrating, is that my partner and myself have some how avoided becoming ...
A: Brenda, I congratulate you on making choices that promote your individuality. It is difficult to ...
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| My husband is an alcoholic | 8/7/2008 |
Q: My husband is an alcoholic, a bad one. We lost our home in 2006 because he started drinking after 4 ...
A: Debbie, I know it is hard to be torn between wanting a relationship and the reality that it is ...
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| rules for driving | 8/1/2008 |
Q: We are about to have to tell my dad that he cannot drive our 15 month old anywhere because of his ...
A: Good day, I can understand your concern and I agree with keeping your child safe with or without ...
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| alcoholics in the family | 7/27/2008 |
Q: We have a cousin who has been in AA and Celegrate Recovery for a year and doing well. The problem is ...
A: Charlotte, As you probably know from this alcoholic girl's behaviour she is a very ill person in ...
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| Dry Drunk | 7/22/2008 |
Q: I currently broke up w/ my bfriend of 3 years, I have found that although he has been sober for 10 ...
A: Dori, there are many alcoholics that after initially recovering do not follow any form of ...
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| to believe or no to believe | 7/17/2008 |
Q: My question is about what an alcoholic is capable of. My sister (the alcoholic) has almost ...
A: Angy, Alcoholics become very ill during the progression of their alcoholism. They start going ...
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| Question | 7/16/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend of five years won't admit he's an alcoholic or go to an AA meeting. I have finally ...
A: Paula, I know how much relationships can hurt and it is hard to accept that sometimes they fail for ...
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| can I forgive? | 7/8/2008 |
Q: My experience of living and then leaving my alcoholic wife was shocking and leaves unresolved ...
A: Robert, sorry, I only received this short message of yours so I can not respond well to your ...
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| Friend of Bill W. | 7/6/2008 |
Q: "but at some stage of his drinking career he begins to lose all control of his liquor consumption, ...
A: Good day, what it means to me is losing the ability to start and stop drinking when you choose ...
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| Reuniting | 7/3/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 21 years. My husband, an alcoholic has been in treatment centers 5 times. ...
A: Michelle, be very cautious here as you and I both know how manipulating alcoholics can be drunk or ...
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| anxiety about future | 6/25/2008 |
Q: The last 5 years I have been through the mill with my husbands drinking and despite him trying to ...
A: Good day, Alcoholics are often irresponsible and the family learns to stop depending on them. The ...
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| my wife went in loving me and came out not | 6/23/2008 |
Q: my wife and i have been together for eleven years we have had lots of problems but when we are ...
A: Jayme. there is no easy answer as to why she wants to end the relationship. I would imagine it has ...
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| Behaviour | 6/19/2008 |
Q: Why is it they can hold down a job and go out of their way to please and keep in with fellow workers ...
A: Good day, Alcoholics can sometimes be great people pleasers when it comes to outsiders. They seem ...
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| Our baby will be here soon, and he won't quit drinking. | 6/9/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend, let's call him Sam, and I have been to together for 4 years. I should probably mention ...
A: Stephanie, just look at what you wrote to me, do you see the pattern that repeats itself over and ...
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| My Husband | 6/7/2008 |
Q: After almost thirty years of marriage my husband has started to drink. I am really upset. Both my ...
A: Good day, this is unfortunate but he is an adult so he can decide to drink or not drink. I think ...
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| Drinking friend | 5/23/2008 |
Q: my question is my friend and I have been friends since we were kids and now we are 40 well I am 40 ...
A: Anna, I see this happen to so many people like your friend. They don't even know life without ...
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| my husband is a alcoholic | 5/22/2008 |
Q: Hay I just don't know what to do, I'm not from here so my English writing is terrible. But I'm ...
A: I am a recovered alcoholic for over 22 years. He can recover without professional help as I did. ...
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| Far away brother has a problem | 5/14/2008 |
Q: this is one of the toughest letters I am sure I have ever written. My brother lives in PA. My Mother ...
A: Erin, what makes these situations so difficult is the drinkers denial of their problem. ...
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| Setting boudaries with problem-drinking husband | 5/13/2008 |
Q: I've been married to my husband for almost one year, but we've been together for 8. We've always ...
A: Leah, your behaviours are all in reaction to what might be an addictive process in your husband. ...
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| no happy ending | 5/6/2008 |
Q: My wife and I have been estranged for about a month now as I had to ask her to leave because of her ...
A: Scott, if a crime was committed he should certainly be charged but as you say it depends on what ...
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| What now??? | 5/2/2008 |
Q: I just broke up with my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. After a month of uneasiness, I confronted her ...
A: Brian, the nature of alcoholism is strong denial. This eventually affects the people that live with ...
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| no happy ending | 5/2/2008 |
Q: My wife and I have been estranged for about a month now as I had to ask her to leave because of her ...
A: Scott, the nature of alcoholism is that it requires the almost decimation of a person for them to ...
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| Trying to understand my friends behavior | 4/26/2008 |
Q: I have been close friends with an alcoholic for 2 years, since we met in graduate school. My ...
A: Laura, this guy needs to work on his sobriety and his honesty and his fear of closeness or ...
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| burning off alcohol | 4/25/2008 |
Q: Can the body burn off alcohol with exercise? Some say no and some say yes.Those who say no claim ...
A: RJ, alcohol is metabolized through the liver but how fast it gets there is an issue. The level of ...
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| trust | 4/25/2008 |
Q: The last few years my husband has been drinking more and more heavily and walked out on the family ...
A: Carol, It is very hard to trust someone that has hurt us in the past. We have good reason to be ...
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| no happy ending | 4/23/2008 |
Q: My wife and I have been estranged for about a month now as I had to ask her to leave because of her ...
A: Scott, I know it is a terrible feeling to see your wife in this condition. It is very hard for ...
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| WIFE IS AN ACHOHOLIC | 4/21/2008 |
Q: MY wife has been drinking heavily for years. Over the past 12 months it really became a problem. I ...
A: Dave, I can sense all the frustration you have with your wife and in-laws. Alcoholism is not ...
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| is my ex-girlfriend an alcoholic | 4/20/2008 |
Q: I have just broken up with my girlfriend of four years. She was the love of my life. When we first ...
A: Jason, when you met this girl you were both active drinkers. It is not surprising that she has a ...
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| Son's Alcoholism and Drugs | 4/20/2008 |
Q: My son is 27 and is in a serious situation. He has used drugs and alcohol for years, and will quit ...
A: Jennifer, alcoholics are blind to how severe their problem is. The illness creates a strong sense ...
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| Son's Alcoholism and Drugs | 4/18/2008 |
Q: My son is 27 and is in a serious situation. He has used drugs and alcohol for years, and will quit ...
A: Jennifer, this a difficult question because the answers are few. Your son has drank himself into ...
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| Husband alcohol... | 4/16/2008 |
Q: I was wondering if you could help me figure if my husband is an alcoholic or not? I think he is but ...
A: Sue, drinking every day is a sure sign of alcohol dependence. Whether he can quit without help at ...
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| alcoholic wife | 4/15/2008 |
Q: Two weeks ago I finally got my wife to leave. in the last year she has been kicked out of rehab ...
A: Dave, your wife has a mental, emotional and spiritual illness. This is not something you or I or ...
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| My Ex Husband | 4/9/2008 |
Q: I am writing to you regarding my ex-husband who is an alcoholic. We have been divorced for about 2 ...
A: Carol, late stage alcoholism can mimic alot of mental problems. Some people damage their brain ...
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| Mood Swings | 4/5/2008 |
Q: My husband is a heavy drinker. He will drink everyday for three weeks and only stops when he starts ...
A: Marsha, this situation is not the same as living with a person in alcoholic recovery. If your ...
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| Partner | 4/3/2008 |
Q: We have spoken before..and now I feel like I need your advice again..My partner is drinking more now ...
A: Pauline, I do not think it will matter to him how you feel as he can not control his behaviour ...
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| Partner | 4/3/2008 |
Q: We have spoken before..and now I feel like I need your advice again..My partner is drinking more now ...
A: Pauline, when a man treats you badly and you keep trying he knows he can treat you badly over and ...
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| Bringing wine to a party | 3/25/2008 |
Q: My husband is an alcoholic (binger), has been sober for 8 months. Hooray! We socialize w my family ...
A: Barb, your husband is doing well by the sounds of it. I believe guests that come to your home ...
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| Living with an recovering alcoholic | 3/20/2008 |
Q: I am living with a man who has almost 2 years sobriety - this time and is a survivor the the ...
A: Yvonne, alcoholics are very impulsive and have little patience. Your friend is right about sober ...
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| Living with an recovering alcoholic | 3/20/2008 |
Q: I am living with a man who has almost 2 years sobriety - this time and is a survivor the the ...
A: Yvonne, I know it must be difficult to live with a struggling alcoholic. The problem with some ...
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| My partner is an alcoholic | 3/17/2008 |
Q: Iam at a lost and don't know what to do. My partner and I have a great relationship..we been ...
A: Pauline, it may not be so easy to move on. Often getting involved with a man like this can be ...
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| My partner is an alcoholic | 3/16/2008 |
Q: Iam at a lost and don't know what to do. My partner and I have a great relationship..we been ...
A: Pauline, I know it is human nature to help someone that seems to need help. It is also wise to know ...
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| Alcholism | 3/15/2008 |
Q: My Husband doesn't drink until Friday after work. We used to drink a couple of drinks (bourbon & ...
A: Shirley, When drinking has negative consequences and a person keeps drinking there is usually a ...
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| shame | 3/2/2008 |
Q: I feel totally ashamed of myself for marrying a person with a drink problem,he walked out on me 2 ...
A: Carol, An alcoholic is a person addicted to alcohol. The addiction is an illness that affects the ...
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| How to deal with an alcoholic spouse. | 2/28/2008 |
Q: Please help: I am currently pregnant, with two other children, and i do not work right now. Back ...
A: Carmen, what kind of alternatives are there for you where you live? Violence is not something to ...
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| Alcoholic Friends and Familiy | 2/23/2008 |
Q: We have friends that think it is normal to get together at least 3 times a week and drink heavily. ...
A: David, when living with or around alcoholics people often develop responses that are unhealthy. It ...
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| Adjusting to life with my sober husband | 2/19/2008 |
Q: My husband is currently in recovery for 3 months. He is half way home and I am in search of ...
A: I admire your willingness to learn about the recovery process. There are many books about ...
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| Further to your answer to my earlier question | 2/12/2008 |
Q: two years ago, my brother had met with an accident (hit and run where he was hit) and as a result of ...
A: RO, It is a very helpless feeling to know your brother needs help but seems to be refusing your ...
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| ex | 2/9/2008 |
Q: i guess i have to start from the start. I left my common law husband of 15 years a little over 3 ...
A: just wanted to give you a comment on your question. It sounds like you are having a hard time ...
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| alcoholism with my daughters boyfriend | 2/8/2008 |
Q: They have been together 2 years... he dosen't drink every nite but has finally admitted that he does ...
A: Mary, this is an odd situation but typical for people involved with an active alcoholic, by that I ...
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| I want to help my brother | 2/2/2008 |
Q: I have a 38 year old brother with some serious issues. He began drinking in his teens and has been ...
A: Ro, it is admirable to care for your brother's welfare even though you are separated by so much ...
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| adult child of alcoholic | 2/2/2008 |
Q: My father has been an alcoholic as long as I can remember (I am 34) my mom finally divorced him ...
A: Lori, there is no easy answer to deal with the problem of alcoholism in a family member. Has your ...
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| need help | 1/28/2008 |
Q: My son is 24 and an alcoholic. He is currently living with me. I tried to help with his finances, ...
A: Heather, I know this is a hard situation to be in as your feelings get pulled one way and the ...
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| Alcoholic Relationships | 1/27/2008 |
Q: I started dating a girl from a different town about 8 months ago when I first started recovery in ...
A: Adam, I know all this seems very confusing but things do get better with time and sobriety. I ...
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| alcohol addiction | 1/20/2008 |
Q: Why do alcoholic continue to ruin your life after you finally get enough nerves to leave. After 28 ...
A: Gwen, -anger does not feel very good but is a natural response to being in a situation like yours. ...
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| bamboozled | 1/14/2008 |
Q: I have written a couple of times before but always seem to have a lot of unanswered questions in my ...
A: Carol, when a person is in the throes of active alcoholism his behaviour is often most bizarre to ...
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| Divorcing the alcoholic | 1/13/2008 |
Q: I'm divorcing my alcoholic husband of 17 years due to abuse, then dependence on alcohol that ...
A: hope things are getting better for you. I recovered over 22 years ago and know most of the games ...
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| Keeping sane | 1/10/2008 |
Q: I took my partne back when he had reach rock bottom and needed help, I took him back on the ...
A: Linzi, I know how difficult this situation is since I have been there too. Your partner may or may ...
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| My husband.... | 1/8/2008 |
Q: I come to you with an issue. I come from a background with an Alcoholic father and alcohlic ...
A: Liza, this man is fighting physically with you, irresponsible and endangering his career, his ...
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| ex | 1/8/2008 |
Q: i guess i will start off saying that i have asked this question before to others but want more feed ...
A: Michele, if he is still drinking and has not had any alcoholic treatment, I suspect the problem is ...
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| I'm trying to recover - spouse is not | 1/5/2008 |
Q: I've recently been diagnosed as bipolar and I've discovered that I've been using alcohol to ...
A: A, it may be difficult to be around drinkers this early in your recovery. He is not the one making ...
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| How A Recovering Alcoholic Feels | 1/4/2008 |
Q: I love a man who quit drinking October 27. He had one relapse one week later where he drank what ...
A: Merideth, I am amazed at your positive attitude towards what must be a very difficult situation to ...
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| Mum | 12/31/2007 |
Q: My question is about my mum. She has been a heavy drinker for a while but visiting her this ...
A: Rebecca, this is a difficult situation for your Mum and your family. It is not healthy to drink so ...
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| relapse | 12/21/2007 |
Q: I have a son who was about 80 days sober and living in a sober living house. He just had his 28th ...
A: Mary Jo, after a relapse it is normal to feel like a failure. Feelings like this can just make the ...
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| After Rehab | 12/18/2007 |
Q: so that he has something to drink. He wants a fruit juice that is also fizzy.
A: Shannon, wanting fizzy non-alcohol drinks is just a sign that he is having trouble letting go of ...
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| help | 12/16/2007 |
Q: My husband is an alcoholic. He of course denies this completely. It is wrecking our life. We have ...
A: I am very familiar with your situation as it is repeated so many times in alcoholic centered ...
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