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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Husband and wife drinking | 12/28/2011 |
| Q: What is the percentage of a marriage staying together when one alcoholic stops drinks and the other ... A: The percentage depends on many factors so is not a good indcator for success in marriage. Recovery ... | |
| alcoholic boyfriend | 12/11/2011 |
| Q: I've wrote to you twice before, asking about how to deal with my boyfriend's alcohol problem and the ... A: I can understand your confusion as it can sometimes be very difficult to see what is happening to us ... | |
| alcoholic boyfriend | 12/10/2011 |
| Q: I've wrote to you twice before, asking about how to deal with my boyfriend's alcohol problem and the ... A: It is the first steps to recovery that are the hardest. By going on with your own life you have ... | |
| son | 9/15/2011 |
| Q: On Aug. 17 I posted a question to you concerning my adult son. Your answer helped me not feel as ... A: I do not know any words that can soften your loss. It is important to allow your feelings to be ... | |
| Questions about if I have a drinking problem | 9/10/2011 |
| Q: I know that this is something I have to answer for myself but I'd like your opinion. My father was ... A: Let me just say that if you are concerned about your drinking then it is likely becoming a problem ... | |
| Alcoholic Husband | 8/31/2011 |
| Q: married 3yrs to my husband, who is an alcoholic.He has been to AA - then decided he was cured!!!Went ... A: It is always every good woman's wish that their man will wake up one day and stop his drinking so ... | |
| tolerance and alcohol | 8/22/2011 |
| Q: I am confused about the relationship between one's alcohol "tolerance" and one's BAC. Let's use a ... A: Tolerance is generally dependent on the liver's ability to metabolize or break down the alcohol ... | |
| Alcoholic boyfriend | 8/17/2011 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend are both 28, we've been together for a few months and we're very much in love, ... A: If your relationship is going okay today then that is what matters most as none of us can predict ... | |
| son relaspe | 8/17/2011 |
| Q: This time my adult son has hit bottom and it keeps getting lower. He was sober for almost 2 years ... A: There is only so much you can do for a person that is afflicted with alcoholism. Your son is a very ... | |
| Mother's secret drinking | 8/2/2011 |
| Q: I am 31years old mother of two, and have recently discovered that my mother(64yrs) is secretly ... A: I can understand you being concerned with your mother's health. The thing that does concern me is ... | |
| My 22 yr old son is an alcoholic. | 6/30/2011 |
| Q: My son is 22, lives at home, works, and is taking on- line classes. We found out several years ago ... A: Where alcoholism is concerned it often does not help much to give the person information. The ... | |
| My 22 yr old son is an alcoholic. | 6/30/2011 |
| Q: My son is 22, lives at home, works, and is taking on- line classes. We found out several years ago ... A: Let me start by saying that alcoholism is a terminal deadly illness. I say that not so much to shock ... | |
| Alcoholic in recovery | 6/14/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend has been in recovery for 2 years. He is 46 and was a binge alcoholic for years. His ... A: It sounds to me like you and he are having relationship problems that are not being resolved because ... | |
| Alcoholic ex BF and our daughter | 6/13/2011 |
| Q: My alcoholic/drug addict ex partner has been using since he was 12 years old and is now 37, with ... A: You have many questions but I will try to outline what I think is happening here. A man that is ... | |
| Do I drink too much? | 5/31/2011 |
| Q: I am 28 and over 6’6” tall and weigh about 200lbs. I did not start drinking until I was 21 and out ... A: Jason, Problem drinking is characterized by loss of control. This means not being able to choose ... | |
| Did I kill my husband? | 5/8/2011 |
| Q: I took vows to love, honor and obey in sickness and in health, before God. And I married my husband ... A: The context of your question seems to indicate you have not addressed your co-dependence in this ... | |
| Alcoholic boyfriend | 4/19/2011 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend are both 28, we've been together for a few months and we're very much in love, ... A: Clara, When your boyfriend admits to his drinking being excessive and does not do anything about ... | |
| update | 4/17/2011 |
| Q: .you have helped me greatly two other times recently and I promise this will be my last question as ... A: Joanie, One of the components of alcoholism is the blindness that the alcoholic experiences. This ... | |
| Alcoholic boyfriend | 4/11/2011 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend are both 28, we've been together for a few months and we're very much in love, ... A: Clara, You have many questions here but the real question is can you handle detaching yourself from ... | |
| My Boyfriend | 4/7/2011 |
| Q: I have a question regarding my boyfriend. I really want to help him, I am just realizing right now ... A: Megan, I know it is a very frustrating thing to watch someone you care about as they self-destruct. ... | |
| Recovered alcoholic and intimate relationships | 4/5/2011 |
| Q: I'm 22 and I'm a very active member of AA and NA. I have almost 2 years clean. I am terrified of ... A: Relationships, especially the romantic kind can really stir up one's insecurities. We often give up ... | |
| meds | 3/10/2011 |
| Q: I am a schizophrenic in recovery. In the past, sponsers have pressured me into stopping my ... A: I think the reason your past sponsers are telling you not to use meds is because they are afraid you ... | |
| Addiction to Alcohol | 3/9/2011 |
| Q: My wife start heavily drinking in 2006 and since then our life went from wonderful to unbearable. We ... A: It may help to know that when a person is addicted to alcohol as it sounds your ex is they cannot ... | |
| How do I help my husband? | 2/28/2011 |
| Q: We have been married for almost 23 years, but been together for 25 years. When we fist met my ... A: Just to give you an idea of your husband's drinking history and behaviour I am going to copy bits ... | |
| How do I help my husband? | 2/24/2011 |
| Q: We have been married for almost 23 years, but been together for 25 years. When we fist met my ... A: Let me just say that you are not alone in this type of experience with an Alcoholic. The struggles ... | |
| Is my husband going to get worse??? | 2/20/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I met when were 18. I knew he liked to drink, but thought he would grow out of it. ... A: The pattern you describe in your relationship with your husband is very typical of addictive ... | |
| substance abuse counselor | 2/9/2011 |
| Q: I am a former nurse, and I am a recovering addict (opiates). While in rehab I saw that many of the ... A: Often people in recovery are enthused about helping others. This comes probably from experiencing ... | |
| withdrawing slowly | 1/12/2011 |
| Q: i will try to keep it short. 50yrs old 20+ yrs problems on & off. Have had the willpower from time ... A: It is often the feelings we have that tempt us to drink. The effects of drinking can be very ... | |
| husband has an alcohol problem | 1/8/2011 |
| Q: My husband has been abusing alcohol since we met 14 years ago. Truthfully, I abused it too, but as ... A: Erin, The problem with getting an alcoholic to see what is happening is complex as you have found ... | |
| withdrawing slowly | 1/7/2011 |
| Q: i will try to keep it short. 50yrs old 20+ yrs problems on & off. Have had the willpower from time ... A: I believe being prepared to drive again is unique to each person. It depends alot on your present ... | |
| withdrawing slowly | 1/6/2011 |
| Q: i will try to keep it short. 50yrs old 20+ yrs problems on & off. Have had the willpower from time ... A: I think cutting down on alcohol intake is a good plan. If you suspect that you have a drinking ... | |
| moving on quickly | 1/5/2011 |
| Q: I was living with an alcoholic for 3 years. Life was very bad - one crisis to the next. I ... A: A few things I want you to consider. The first is that true alcoholism is an addictive illness. It ... | |
| Marriage to a Recovering Alcoholic | 1/1/2011 |
| Q: Twenty-six months ago I married the man I thought was my soulmate. In the past few months, he ... A: The expectations of many people in relationships are dashed after the honeymoon stage is over. The ... | |
| What happens after an intervention? | 12/31/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for close to 16 years; during this time, my mother-in-law has been an alcoholic ... A: If you are confronting your mother-in-law without an organized intervention involving an alcohol ... | |
| How? | 12/29/2010 |
| Q: I'm 25 years old...and my boyfriend is 26. We come from entirely different families and backgrounds. ... A: Sam, If you are involved in a relationship with an alcoholic things will progressively get worse ... | |
| Alcohol, Drug Use and Sexual Behavior | 12/27/2010 |
| Q: I am involved with a 39 yr old man, Rob (not his real name), who has been a binge-drinker since he ... A: Natalie, The behaviours an alcoholic/addict exhibits can vary somewhat depending on the person and ... | |
| Addiction Displacement | 12/22/2010 |
| Q: My husband is a recovering alcoholic who has been sober for nearly eleven years. Before we married, ... A: The behaviour you are describing is related to an obscessive-compulsive disorder which is somewhat ... | |
| Alcoholic Spouse | 12/13/2010 |
| Q: I will try not to make this too long. My husband has been an Alcoholic for 20+ years. Had a period ... A: Caitlin, Thank you for the good feedback. As to your follow up questions: Should you contact him? ... | |
| Alcoholic Spouse | 12/12/2010 |
| Q: I will try not to make this too long. My husband has been an Alcoholic for 20+ years. Had a period ... A: Caitlin, It is hard to understand raging alcoholics but usually they are projecting their anger ... | |
| Staying in a relationship with an alcoholic | 11/21/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my partner for two and a half years, in the beginning we would ... A: Marie, It sounds like you are being pulled two ways at once in this relationship which is actually ... | |
| Husband who is cancer free wants to drink and divorce me | 11/7/2010 |
| Q: I have an alcohol husband that was diagnosed, operated on and went thru chemo and radiation for head ... A: Jamie, Sometimes people change as recovery or no recovery progresses. This causes them to grow ... | |
| wet brain | 11/1/2010 |
| Q: i think i have it iv been a heavy drinker off an on for 10years an have tried many times to stop ... A: Melissa, I hope you will not let your fears or embarrassment stop you from getting help and proper ... | |
| Spouse of a recoving Alcoholic | 10/25/2010 |
| Q: My wife is in her fist year of recovery. I found out that she is have a relationship with her ... A: Steve, I am glad to hear you are willing to sort this problem out in a mature way. There are many ... | |
| My husband is slowly becoming a prisoner of alcohol | 10/22/2010 |
| Q: My Husband started drinking four months ago. He hangs out with people he barley knows because they ... A: Carolina, I understand your concern but wonder where your fears come from. If your husband has had ... | |
| My Son | 10/18/2010 |
| Q: My son is 29 Year old and has a problem with drinking he has been in jail for 4 years I think do to ... A: Linda, It is hard to feel so powerless over our children. Even though your son is at an age when ... | |
| How to move on from the hell hurt and pain | 10/14/2010 |
| Q: I have only been married a year but living with my husband for the last 5 years we have 2 very young ... A: Kerrie, Things can get very complicated in relationships when addiction is present. It is also much ... | |
| Acoholism And Father-In-Law | 10/8/2010 |
| Q: I know a lot of people have this same dilemma, but i have a household consisting of myself, my 5 ... A: Scott, I know it is difficult to be caught in the middle of a problem with inlaws. Any choice you ... | |
| Is my boyfriend an alcoholic? | 10/2/2010 |
| Q: I think my boyfriend might be an alcoholic. We've been dating for almost a year and a half, he's 21 ... A: Eva, Generally alcoholism is characterized by loss of control. It sounds like your boyfriend is ... | |
| Boyfriend's road to sobriety | 9/30/2010 |
| Q: My question is, is it wrong of me to continue drinking in a normal/controlled manor, even though my ... A: Jennifer, It is not a moral question to drink or not to drink. If a person experiences problems due ... | |
| personality types of men who become alcoholics because of their controlling wives | 9/22/2010 |
| Q: I would like to get as much info as possible on Men who become alcoholics because of their ... A: Laura, I have been an addictions counsellor for 25 years and have never seen a case of someone ... | |
| How to explain a fathers Alcoholic behavior | 9/15/2010 |
| Q: I'll try not to make this too long, but I really need some help. Below is some background. My ... A: Theresa, I think you are doing great. It is important to set boundaries as your ex is just testing ... | |
| dealing with friends who are alocholics | 9/7/2010 |
| Q: I am in a choir at a University and I have 2 friends that have really attached themselves to me. ... A: Andrea, I sense your desire to be "nice" to these people but sometimes it is nicer to set healthy ... | |
| Drinking alcohol | 9/6/2010 |
| Q: I have a friend that has been drinking a 30 pack case of beer for about 40 years. He is 60 and ... A: Louise, Long term drinking can have many effects on a person. One is just the physical health ... | |
| wife throwing all away | 8/30/2010 |
| Q: Dru, My wife of 11 yrs has finally served me with divorce papers. She has transformed before my ... A: Brian, I know it is difficult when a relationship ends for whatever reasons. It is a time of many ... | |
| Alcoholic Ex | 8/25/2010 |
| Q: I'll try not to make this too long, but I really need some help. Below is some background. My ... A: Theresa, Hi, I will just point out some things for you to consider. Alcoholism is a chronic ... | |
| People who stand by the alcoholic | 8/23/2010 |
| Q: A friend has been involved with an alcoholic for over two years, decides enough is enough, breaks ... A: Michelle, It is one of the mysteries of being involved with alcoholics that is hard to comprehend, ... | |
| 4 Alcoholic Brothers-Help! | 8/9/2010 |
| Q: I have an odd problem I was hoping you could help me out with. I'm happily married to a girl who ... A: Kerry, I admire your interest in changing the alcoholic brothers but of course we can't really do ... | |
| Relapsed | 8/8/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 3 years has been sober for 13 months. It has been tough and very much a roller ... A: Stef, Often relapse happens because of two things. One is he has not deeply accepted the fact that ... | |
| Alchoholic husband | 7/30/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for ten years,he has recently quit, drinking and is going to na.he isnt ... A: Drinking, drugs and their resulting behaviours can really strain a relationship. Recovery can also ... | |
| Mother's alcoholism | 7/20/2010 |
| Q: First, thank you for taking the time to read my question. My sister, brother and I are all very ... A: Erin, When approaching a person you suspect is addicted to alcohol it is important not to talk down ... | |
| guilt | 7/18/2010 |
| Q: How to cope with the guilt of knowing I have to leave my husband for the sake of self preservation A: Ginny, Hi, I know it is hard to leave a person even though it is sometimes necessary for the good ... | |
| how can I fix this ? | 7/14/2010 |
| Q: I am 30 years old living abroad from my parents but we have always been a close family. My mothers ... A: Ann, being the oldest sibling often makes one feel super-responsible for others. You seem to ... | |
| How much is too much | 7/6/2010 |
| Q: I am a 27 years old male and a regular drinker. I drink daily with in a range of 180ml to 270 ml of ... A: Sathish, About 120ml per day is considered safe for men's health. This is if they are healthy ... | |
| Does my wife drink too much? | 6/9/2010 |
| Q: First off I would like to thank you for taking the time to read my question. My wife and I have ... A: Sam. In my experience I would say your wife has an alcohol dependency. The amount is excessive for ... | |
| Recovering spouse delaying divorce | 5/31/2010 |
| Q: I have several questions, but let me first describe my situation. I have been married to my ... A: Lauren, I will give you my take on your questions but am not qualified to give you official legal ... | |
| My boyfriend is a binge drinker alcoholic. | 5/15/2010 |
| Q: I'm 27, my boyfriend is 28. We have been together for just over a year. I knew of him before as we ... A: where to begin with you is really a problem for me as I know you have been lectured by others about ... | |
| Is my boyfriend an alcoholic | 5/11/2010 |
| Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for 7months, he's 25, in school and has a job. When we first started ... A: Nicole, It is good to be aware of how minimizing and denial set in when someone has a drinking ... | |
| Is my boyfriend an alcoholic | 5/10/2010 |
| Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for 7months, he's 25, in school and has a job. When we first started ... A: Nicole, your boyfriend is showing some warning signs of a developing dependence on alcohol. Hiding ... | |
| Alcoholism and Anti-Depressants | 4/30/2010 |
| Q: My husband is an alcoholic. He's been in AA and sober for 18 months now. I am a member of our local ... A: Natalie, I can understand your concern with your husband's health. I would certainly encourage him ... | |
| i think my friend is an alcoholic | 4/18/2010 |
| Q: I've known my friend for an year and a half now. We used to do the same lessons in alevels but I ... A: the best thing for your friend to do is have an assessment done to check where her drinking may be ... | |
| my sister | 4/10/2010 |
| Q: My sister is 19 years old, I'm 24 years old (we are about 5 1/2 years apart). My sister's alcohol ... A: the struggle to understand alcoholism is very difficult for families or anyone on the outside of the ... | |
| My husband won't quit drinking | 3/24/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I are both 26, We met in a party atmosphere, and both loved to drink. Up until ... A: No person likes to believe they have a drinking problem or alcoholism. It is natural for him to make ... | |
| How can I help my Fiance stop drinking | 3/18/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year and half, and he is a alcholic. I grew up with my ... A: Hannah, it is good to be concerned with your boyfriends problem as long as you understand that he ... | |
| EX alcoholic boyfriend | 3/16/2010 |
| Q: Please help me!! Exactly 3 years ago my ex alcoholic of 4 years broke-up with me after a week into a ... A: Lena, As you seem to have realized this relationship is very destructive to you both. The reason he ... | |
| i've just about had enough | 3/12/2010 |
| Q: Please help shed some light on this. I have been with my man, andrew, for 4 years now. we are not ... A: Mary, I can save you some time by saying that from all you have told me your boyfriend is ... | |
| Is my girlfriend an alchoholic | 3/6/2010 |
| Q: my girlfriend is 17 turning 18 soon, she drinks quite often with her friends or every week or so ... A: Liam, it is common for people with a drinking problem to deny it and believe they can quit anytime. ... | |
| How to approach my father about his drinking... | 3/3/2010 |
| Q: I am 25 years old, my sister is 21, my dad is almost 52. A little history before I get to my ... A: Brittany, I am concerned about you confronting your father without an intenvention counsellor ... | |
| i dont know what to do!!! | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: im in a relation ship with a man that has a really bad drinking problem!! im 6 months pregnant with ... A: Catia, it sounds like you are living with someone that has many behaviour problems and probably a ... | |
| I broke a promise and my husband left me | 2/18/2010 |
| Q: I'm so heart broken right now and filled with guilt and shame. On Dec. 13 I had been drinking wine ... A: Elaine, I know you want to make amends but I believe your focus should be on your own sobriety as ... | |
| memory blackouts and crazy behaviour when drunk | 2/16/2010 |
| Q: I am writing as I suspect I may have a problem with alcohol, and am really at loss. Whilst I do not ... A: Alex, if you do a search online there are many self-assesments for problem drinking. I have listed ... | |
| memory blackouts and crazy behaviour when drunk | 2/15/2010 |
| Q: I am writing as I suspect I may have a problem with alcohol, and am really at loss. Whilst I do not ... A: Alex, it is very commendable that you recognize a possible problem with alcohol. The illness that ... | |
| Father in Law,an addict | 2/14/2010 |
| Q: My father in law has been into drinking since many ages,i personally have spoken to him about ... A: Sherin, Hi, I know it must very difficult to watch your father-in-law continue to harm himself by ... | |
| Recovering Alcoholic Boyfriend | 2/11/2010 |
| Q: Druideck, I'm pretty confused by what's happened over the past month and just not sure how to ... A: Susan, It is unfortunate that he felt the need to be dishonest with you in the beginning. Many ... | |
| In a realtionship with a recoverying alcholic | 2/3/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a realtionship with an AA, its a great wonderful one , i understand to a degree ... A: Margaret, there may be some reason he is not open with his feelings. I would suspect he is feeling ... | |
| living with an alcoholic | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: I currently have my nephew (age 28) living with me. He was recently discharged from hospital with ... A: Diane, The unfortunate thing about life is that we can only do so much to help or change others. ... | |
| Stopped drinking | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend who is 44 has stopped drinking for 8 months. I thought our relationship would improve ... A: Bren, The twelve step programs do encourage working on our own reactions and behaviours as these ... | |
| recovery | 1/29/2010 |
| Q: After a 2 yr drinking problem that came to a head when my sister moved in w/ me- and after grave ... A: Ginny, I would say communication with her is desirable so she knows you support her in her attempt ... | |
| am I a drunk? | 1/28/2010 |
| Q: My mother insists I am, but I tell her that I only have a problem with drinking when I do it without ... A: Jeanie, there is no doubt that drinking starts out as fun even for alcoholics. It feels good and we ... | |
| Leaving Husband | 1/13/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for a little over 2 years. He is 41 and I am 44. He has been ... A: Jill, I hope you are well. It is normal to feel some regret or even grief when things change. You ... | |
| Leaving Husband | 1/11/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for a little over 2 years. He is 41 and I am 44. He has been ... A: Jill, Hello, it is never easy to leave someone even when things have become mostly bad in the ... | |
| Husband who gets drunk and doesnt come home | 1/3/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 20 years, around the 17yr mark I divorced him because of his ... A: Melissa, Your husband's behaviour is a hard thing to understand but I will try to explain to you ... | |
| ex partner | 12/30/2009 |
| Q: it as now been 1 year since i seperated from my partner things are still no better his behaviour has ... A: Kelly, if you are no longer with this man and he is abusive I would suggest you advise him to stop ... | |
| Hep C and drinking | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: My husband has Hep C. Also in the past he has had pancreas problems, being sent to the hospital. He ... A: Louise, Alcohol is very bad for the pancreas and doctors recommend that a person abstain from ... | |
| alcoholic wife in recovery, facing divorce | 12/18/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to my alcoholic wife for 15 years. She is in recovery working the 12 steps of AA ... A: Jon, I know that the changes recovery often brings can be upsetting as well as life changing. The ... | |
| My roomates alcoholic boyfriend | 12/11/2009 |
| Q: Good After noon Druideck, My question is actually for my roommate Her name is Amy. Amy is 21 years ... A: Yes there are reasons for Amy's behaviour. One reason is that people are sometime attracted to ... | |
| legal drinking age | 12/10/2009 |
| Q: a student at University of Caterbury.Im doing a research about legal drinking age. Could you please ... A: Mazin, In my opinion the legal age is fine if set at the age a person is considered an adult. My ... | |
| alcholic ex | 12/8/2009 |
| Q: I was involved with an alcoholic for 3 years. For the first 6 months he was in and out of hospital ... A: Going from your description of this guy's drinking I would say he may have good intentions but I do ... | |
| my partner of 5 years is an alchoholic | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: My partner drinks heavily every night and I believe he drinks more on his way home, he can have more ... A: Maria, Often when someone has a drinking problem they also have low self-esteem and it is hard for ... | |
| I've left my alcoholic boyfriend but now what do i do? | 11/25/2009 |
| Q: My ex-boyfriend and i were together for 3 years and lived together for two.we are both 32yrs old. ... A: Shannon, it is natural to feel down when you break up with someone. We always dream of things being ... | |
| is my dad an alcoholic? | 11/22/2009 |
| Q: at first the word alcoholic scared me, but now i just want to no if he is one. 2 years ago he got a ... A: It does sound like your dad has a drinking problem. Most people don't need to drink that often ... | |
| Alcoholic brother over for Thanksgiving | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: My name is Katrina and I am 21 years old. I have a brother who is 26 and has been suffering ... A: I know it is hard to watch someone you care about going downhill with alcoholism. It is important ... | |
| Concerned Sister Far Away | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: I am writting in regards to being a concerned sister who is living far from a serious problem in my ... A: Merrie-Beth, I can see how frutrating it is to sense a problem and not be able to do much about it. ... | |
| Alcoholism | 11/8/2009 |
| Q: I'm sure that my husband is an alcoholic. He doesn't get drunk but he drinks everyday a six pack or ... A: Ashley, I know how frustrating this is for you, I have been there personally. The first thing to ... | |
| alcoholism | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: I'm not to sure how this goes but i have a few questions. I am with a great man but he's only great ... A: Mandy, it is not so complex as you may think. He is an ill person and addicted to alcohol, this is ... | |
| alcohol poisoning | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: and thank you for being so generous with your expertise! My son says his high school friends claim ... A: Elizabeth, the odd thing about the answers your son's friends are giving him is that vomiting is ... | |
| Is boyfriend an alcoholic? | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: . I'll try to keep this brief, but I feel it's important to get as many details as possible into ... A: Lara, often people that grow up in alcoholic homes have poor communication skills. They have to ... | |
| Beer belly | 10/30/2009 |
| Q: I am worried about my husband. He used to be a heavy drinker, getting pissed at least once a week. ... A: Vanessa, There are many causes for the "Beer belly" and most of them are not beer. However, liver ... | |
| Is boyfriend an alcoholic? | 10/28/2009 |
| Q: . I'll try to keep this brief, but I feel it's important to get as many details as possible into ... A: Lara, it is common to have some doubts when living with a problem drinker. The denial of the person ... | |
| dealing withan alcoholic parent | 10/27/2009 |
| Q: I've read a few questions that have been posted, but nothing is every the same as your own issues. ... A: Caughleigh, I know these situations that involve parents or other family members are difficult. It ... | |
| Alcoholic boyfriend | 10/22/2009 |
| Q: I'd really appreciate your opinion. I'm 37 and dating my 39-year old boyfriend for the past 5 ... A: Kleo, your friend is an alcoholic and by the sounds of it he has not recovered very much as he ... | |
| Special occasions... | 10/19/2009 |
| Q: Okay, so I'm not sure whether I would call myself an alcoholic or not...I guess it depends on your ... A: Ryan, Often, switching drinks to control your drinking is not a good sign. What if eventually you ... | |
| Alcoholic Boyfriend | 10/17/2009 |
| Q: I hope I'm posting this in the right section. I am having a problem talking to my boyfriend about ... A: Tonya, You have more than ample evidence that your boyfriend has serious alcoholism problems. It ... | |
| drinking | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend wouldn't technically be considered an alcoholic, drinking is recreational and usually ... A: Ashley, it sounds like he is having some bad reactions to excess drinking. Alcoholism is not always ... | |
| boyfriend in denial | 10/15/2009 |
| Q: I recently moved in with my boyfriend of just over a year. When we met, we both drank a few times a ... A: Trish, It sounds very much like your boyfriend is addicted to alcohol or at least he is not ready ... | |
| alcoholic husband in recovery | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: my husband has been sober for nearly 2 mos. he was attending many aa meetings but has cut back to 2 ... A: I know it may seem strange but your husband is likely to be somewhat unbalanced in his values at ... | |
| Personality of alcoholics | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: In August of 2008, we had a family intervention and my husband chose to go into a 28 day rehab ... A: Rae Anne, First off I believe you did the right thing with the intervention. Secondly, the choice ... | |
| alcoholism, or other issues? | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: I had my first drink when I was 12 but didn't develop much of a habit until about 17. I smoked ... A: Alicia, perhaps the first thing to mention and you have probably heard it before is how hard it is ... | |
| Help Me | 10/3/2009 |
| Q: I am a forty year old female alcoholic. Alcoholism has stolen everything from me and just recently ... A: Marla, You can get better but to stop drinking you need to go to AA meetings even if you dislike ... | |
| is it a recovery or is he faking? | 9/21/2009 |
| Q: my husband stopped drinking about 6 month ago due to problems with law. he did very well in the ... A: Tasha, Alcoholism is an illness that requires a recovery program to overcome. It sounds as if your ... | |
| Forced AA | 9/20/2009 |
| Q: Can you force someone to attend AA meetings when you know they need them? If so, can this ever ... A: Ann, AA is voluntary and accepts people back anytime with no problem. Sometimes the criminal ... | |
| alcoholism? | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for two years. He drinks 2-4 times a week. He says it's not a ... A: Sabrina, In my experience the growing paranoia, jealousy, sneaking/lies are definitly signs of a ... | |
| Sons drinking and depression/anxiety | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: My son is 27 and was in hospital for depression and anxiety. I know he drank a lot while in ... A: Good day, It is common for problem drinkers to develop some emotional difficulties due to the ... | |
| Alcoholic relationships | 9/3/2009 |
| Q: I am a 49-yr old female that has been in recovery now for 5 yrs. and love it. My significant other, ... A: Pam, as you are probably aware alcoholism is a progressive illness and without abstinence it ... | |
| How do i help my fiance? | 8/29/2009 |
| Q: My fiance and I love each other and it is very obvious to everyone we have a 2 hour long distance ... A: Alyssa, this is a tough situation for you both. He has to deal with parents that refuse to take ... | |
| alcoholics & relationships | 8/25/2009 |
| Q: I have a good friend who is an alcoholic. From the outside, you'd never know. He's a professional, ... A: Joanna, part of the answer you are seeking lies in your own desire to maintain contact with a man ... | |
| alcoholics & relationships | 8/24/2009 |
| Q: I have a good friend who is an alcoholic. From the outside, you'd never know. He's a professional, ... A: Joanna, alcoholism can amplify a persons shortcomings or problems but the dishonesty is a behaviour ... | |
| Friend has drinking problem | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend's sister has been having problems with alcohol in the past few months, and it has ... A: Glennis, Alcohol problems are tough to deal with especially if the person is in denial or not ... | |
| alcholic | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: i left him 6 mths ago which was a really difficult decision to make he had been drinking every day ... A: Alcoholics that are still ill and not actively seeking and practising a recovery program are prone ... | |
| could my husband be a alcoholic? | 8/17/2009 |
| Q: I was trying to find something on the internet and came across this sight, I hope you may be able to ... A: Cheryl, Even though it is possible your husband has drinking issues it is also possible he just has ... | |
| Beer Belly? | 8/10/2009 |
| Q: I am not an alcoholic but I do drink to much, especially beer and plan on cutting way back. I hope ... A: Van, it is true that beer causes weight gain. Beer is about 140 calories per bottle. The way the ... | |
| Recovery in Rehab | 8/6/2009 |
| Q: My sister currently is in a Rehab facility my parents put her in. She wanted to go but now after a ... A: Rebekah, her struggle will be in coming to terms with the denial which is part of alcoholic ... | |
| Recovery in Rehab | 8/5/2009 |
| Q: My sister currently is in a Rehab facility my parents put her in. She wanted to go but now after a ... A: Rebekah, Making a change in her lifestyle is going to be a big challenge for your sister. I would ... | |
| Effects of Alcohol | 8/1/2009 |
| Q: I am not a regular drinker. I haven't drank in several months. I decided to go out with some ... A: Kirsten, It is true that alcohol can reduce our inhibitions. Some of the feelings we have ... | |
| Narcissism | 7/28/2009 |
| Q: A friend of mine is a recovering alcoholic. He stopped about two years ago and relapsed once, but ... A: Moni, many of the unfavorable traits exhibited by alcoholics develop while they are drinking or at ... | |
| sober for 6yrs. | 7/27/2009 |
| Q: MY husband stopped drinking himself for 6 yrs.If someone stops drinking but does not deal with any ... A: Terrie, it won't take long for him to resume where he left off drinking. Without any recovery ... | |
| alcohol | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: well hello my name is Jessica and well this Saturday my boyfriend was drinking with his friends and ... A: Jessica, Alcohol dialates blood vessels and some people will show "flushing" that can also enhance ... | |
| How to handle a husbands increasing alcohol abuse | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to a man that has always been a drinker. We have been married for 27 years and ... A: Jaque, are you still trying to influence him? My advice was to focus on yourself. You can now see ... | |
| How to handle a husbands increasing alcohol abuse | 7/13/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to a man that has always been a drinker. We have been married for 27 years and ... A: Jaque, most certainly anyone on the outside would tell you it's easy, just pack up and leave. Of ... | |
| Moderate Drinking | 7/9/2009 |
| Q: I've been doing a great deal of research on the health benefits of beer recently, and I am very ... A: David, Alcoholism is characterized more by the loss of control when drinking than how much a person ... | |
| alcohol | 7/6/2009 |
| Q: what is the effect of 2/3 drinks on a person who takes them daily or if he reduces to 2 days in a ... A: Rajnish, light or moderate drinking is not always harmful to your health. However there are signs ... | |
| DATING A RECOVERING ALCOHOLIC | 7/5/2009 |
| Q: I HAVE BEEN DATING MY BOYFRIEND FOR 6 MONTHS. IM COMPLETELY IN LOVE WITH HIM. HE HASNT DRANK IN 2 ... A: Leanne, It can be tough for a recovering alcoholic in the first year or more depending on the ... | |
| alcoholic relationships | 6/30/2009 |
| Q: i have had a relationship with this woman for nine month. We drank together and have been friends ... A: Good day, I will start by saying you are doing well as far as being aware of her drinking problem ... | |
| why I am emotional when drunk? | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: After consuming alcohol I lied and exaggerated things talking with my best friend. After years of ... A: Shashi, alcohol is a chemical that can influence our minds and our emotions either good or ... | |
| Alcoholism | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: I am the only girl sibling and from a family of genetic alcoholics. This disease has haunted my ... A: Gail, Sorry to hear about your brother. Many of the problems alcoholics have can be helped if they ... | |
| hello where do i go for more info? | 6/19/2009 |
| Q: my sister may finally take my advise and move interstate to be with me during her advance stages of ... A: Emma, the best resource for recovering alcoholics is to attend alcoholics anonymous meetings on a ... | |
| alcoholic brother | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: my brother lives with my mom and i in my mothers house his drinking is horrible. any money he makes ... A: Deborah, this is becoming a problem for many parents these days. My best suggestions is to draw a ... | |
| alcoholic boyfriend | 6/15/2009 |
| Q: I have learned a lot about alcoholism because of a long-term relationship I was in with my boyfriend ... A: Donna, as I mentioned above he may try to tell you things he thinks you want to hear or things that ... | |
| alcoholic boyfriend | 6/14/2009 |
| Q: I have learned a lot about alcoholism because of a long-term relationship I was in with my boyfriend ... A: Donna, If you have a problem with your boyfriend related to alcohol abuse then that is a negative ... | |
| She doesn't remember | 6/12/2009 |
| Q: I dated this woman for three years and always suspected she was an alcoholic. Every time I ... A: Brian, I can understand your feelings toward this incident with your ex. If you both have no ... | |
| Alcoholism | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend died 2 weeks ago from complications of alcoholism. Why do people with this problem push ... A: Annette, I am sorry to hear about your loss. It is hard to understand the power of alcoholism, how ... | |
| Is this my problem or his? | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: I am mostly a nondrinker. When I met my husband, 34 years ago, he openly said that he had had a ... A: Judy, you say he admitted he had a drinking problem when you met, this would indicate that your ... | |
| Can't deal with husbands drinking | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to my high school sweetheart for going on 12 years now. I am a stay at home mom ... A: I know how hard it is to feel more or less powerless over a person or situation. Alcoholism is a ... | |
| My son drank last night! | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: My 30 year old son is an alcoholic, He moved in with us in March of 2009 and after 2 months of CHAOS ... A: Antonietta, the only part of the question that makes it difficult is the sincerity of your son's ... | |
| My Husband, the Alcoholic | 5/26/2009 |
| Q: When he met, he straight up told me he was an alcoholic and that if I were going to be with him, it ... A: Good day, I am sorry to say that he has no excuse for staying an alcoholic when there are plenty of ... | |
| husband drinks everyday | 5/24/2009 |
| Q: To Start, This is really important to my marriage. I met my husband 8 yrs ago. He was young and ... A: Josee, I know these problems seem to sneak up on people. We always think the drinking will taper ... | |
| Homeless Nephew | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: I have a nephew, age 22, who is homeless/ currently living in an abandoned house in Michigan. His ... A: Jeff, it may be difficult to see your nephew in this condition. Unfortunately drug and alcohol ... | |
| ups and downs | 5/7/2009 |
| Q: My BF has been sober for 9 months now. Our relationship has been off and on for three years now, and ... A: Kaira, It is normal for a person in recovery to go through many changes in their thinking and ... | |
| drinking! | 5/5/2009 |
| Q: Hey! I wasn't quite sure were to put this, i'm not an addict but its a question on alcohol. I'm 16 ... A: Neela, There is bio-chemical basis for depression. Three major neurotransmitters in the brain ... | |
| Hard to get drunk? | 4/22/2009 |
| Q: I was never an alcoholic but I was a heavy drinker, and I used to get drunk pretty fast-just a few ... A: Good day, The way it works is after a period of heavy alcohol use the liver develops more of the ... | |
| Blackout | 4/21/2009 |
| Q: As a college-aged male, I have had my experience with alcohol. Recently, however, I experienced my ... A: Josh, fragmentary blackouts are usually caused by a rapid increase in the blood/alcohol level. ... | |
| Ex Alcoholic Boyfriend | 4/4/2009 |
| Q: I was in a relationship with my Ex for 4 yrs. He drank a 6pack of Budlight everyday. Is he an ... A: Eileen, I would say your Ex was very likely an alcoholic although it depends more on how it ... | |
| how to talk to my dad about his alcoholism | 3/31/2009 |
| Q: My father was only with me until I was three and wasn't a part of my life for 13 years. since he ... A: Hannah, sometimes people do have relationships out of guilt rather than clear choice. I think the ... | |
| My husband and our marriage needs help. | 3/29/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 4 years. My husbands family has all be to AA. This has been an on going ... A: sam, the way you and he behave has become a pattern. He is like a bad child and you feel ... | |
| alcoholics | 3/28/2009 |
| Q: I am 23 yrs old and am engaged to a 31 year old he is a drinker and will go 7 days drinking pure ... A: Katie, it sounds like a bad situation to be in. Many drinkers need to go through alot before they ... | |
| alcoholism | 3/27/2009 |
| Q: i was just wandering,im not an alcoholic,but i like to have maybe 3 or 4 beers a night. ive been ... A: Katherine, I can't see any problem with quitting fast or slow but you may experience some minor ... | |
| Anger from liquor | 3/25/2009 |
| Q: over the past several months my boyfriend and I have noticed that when I drink I tend to become very ... A: Sara, it is not a good sign when alcohol starts to affect you emotionally, mentally and/or ... | |
| Leave or be supportive and Stay? | 3/24/2009 |
| Q: My fiance and I got together just over a year ago and got pregnant just after we got together. When ... A: Heather, if your fiance is an alcoholic and it sounds like he is this will likely go on much ... | |
| aa-divorse | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: I am a 30 year old wife and mother of a six year old boy. My husband and I have been married for 6 ... A: Olivia, your feelings are undertandable under these adverse circumstances. Your husband is a very ... | |
| 19 year old son | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: My 19 year old son is always drunk or drinking. He has moved back home after his apartment complex ... A: Good day, It is hard to do what needs to be done when it is your own son. We want to be kind and ... | |
| leave tobbaco | 3/17/2009 |
| Q: i leave abuse tobbaco pan paragh manik chand etc etc so i m very depressed i feelings of guilt and ... A: Good day, all these feeling are quite normal for a person with addictions. The substances we use ... | |
| How do I approach the drinking? | 3/16/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 15 months now. When we met the first couple of months he didnt ... A: Jen, it helps a bit to understand how alcoholism works on a person. He may never have intended or ... | |
| My boyfriends brother is destroying everyone!! | 3/15/2009 |
| Q: I don't even know where to start! my boyfriend is 23 and has a 28 year old brother, they both live ... A: Jessica, It is very upsetting to see how people help alcoholics to their doom unknowingly. Of ... | |
| best friend at a dangerous level | 3/11/2009 |
| Q: her drinking is now starting to turn into violent fits. tearing up her home, throwing her loving ... A: Jo, She has a treatable problem but it has to be her that decides to help herself. When others ... | |
| coworker's drinking | 3/7/2009 |
| Q: I have recently become aware that a coworker of mine may have a problem with alchohol. As a ... A: Michelle, I can understand your concern about your coworker's drinking and behaviour. The bottom ... | |
| 9 days... | 2/28/2009 |
| Q: So, I have a question for you. A little background first: I'm a 27 year old female professional ... A: Niki, hi, how are you doing today? As you can see alcohol has very powerful presence to it, enough ... | |
| boyfriend gets drunk for 2 days every couple of months | 2/24/2009 |
| Q: Ive been with my boyfriend for almost a year and hes been trying to not drink as much as when we ... A: Good day, there is not much you can do other than refuse to take part in providing money or alcohol ... | |
| Behaviours | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: Can you mull over some questions please? 1.I can go for weeks without booze, or just having a ... A: Good day, it does sound like you are possibly developing a harmful dependence on the booze. The ... | |
| AA and religion | 2/16/2009 |
| Q: I am forty years old, married for nearly 17 years and have drank on and off since I was fourteen. I ... A: Good day, I can understand your reluctance to attend AA meetings. There is often some talk by some ... | |
| I Can't Let Go | 2/13/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating an alcoholic for 6 years. Things have been up and down. I have kicked him out. He ... A: Laura, Being a codependent is a bit like being an alcoholic in that the patterns of behaviour are ... | |
| How to tell if husband is serious about making a change? | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 8 years and have two children, ages 6 and 4. My husband has always been a ... A: Heather, I will try to give you some points to understand his alcoholism better. This is an illness ... | |
| When do I know? | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: I am sure you have a lot of people asking this. But even if I did my research, I am still unsure. ... A: Karo, one of the signs of alcoholism is loss of control of when a person drinks and no control over ... | |
| How to end relationship with alcoholic | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been living with my alcoholic boyfriend for 4 years. He has gone through treatment in the ... A: Leah, Breaking up with someone is never easy, there are too many emotions involved. He may be aware ... | |
| Alcoholizm | 1/27/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend of seven years is a functioning alcoholic. He drinks 2-4 nights a week depending on ... A: Jacqueline, It sounds like he is heading for self-destruction and no one can stop him but himself. ... | |
| childrens wellbeing | 1/10/2009 |
| Q: i have written to you before but my problems just seem to be ongoing,my husband walked out due what ... A: Carol, I know how it is to have a dream or idea of how things should be in a family or a ... | |
| Would responding hash up too much? | 1/9/2009 |
| Q: I left home when I was 16 due to an extremely abusive and alcoholic mother. (I have never really ... A: Jane, You can not minimize the pain you have because of the issues with your mother. I can ... | |
| Would responding hash up too much? | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: I left home when I was 16 due to an extremely abusive and alcoholic mother. (I have never really ... A: Jane, this is a difficult question because it is so deeply personal to you. We are often torn with ... | |
| Am I an alcoholic? | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: I guess I want to know when or how you decide that you're an alcoholic versus you just need to cut ... A: Natalie, there isn't anything inherently wrong with drinking until it has adverse effects on your ... | |
| alcoholic grandparents | 1/4/2009 |
| Q: It is well known having alcoholic parents can affect a child's health. Neither of my parents are ... A: Kay, if your parent's fathers were alcoholics then your parents, siblings and you could be affected ... | |
| should I bail out my brother with his 3rd DUI | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: My 50 year old brother is a sever alcoholic with cirrhosis of the liver and is in poor health. He ... A: T, I am not sure what your intentions are toward your brother at this point as he sounds like he ... | |
| In shock | 12/30/2008 |
| Q: Six months ago my husband started reducing his OCD medication and using Facebook. One woman in ... A: Shilo, you owe him nothing from the way he has treated you. Whether you have contact or break it ... | |
| friend who is a alcoholic | 12/28/2008 |
| Q: Please Help I have a best friend who a consider as close as a sister I have known her for over 10 ... A: Melissa, Alcoholism can happen to anyone but the strong addiction and the denial keep people ... | |
| My Fathers many Addictions... | 12/27/2008 |
| Q: My parents had me when they were only teenagers, but gave me everything. They were both around ... A: Nestle, this whole situation with your family has been building up since you were born. The living ... | |
| Alcoholic | 12/24/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 8 1/2 years and he is an alcoholic. We are both in our ... A: Kristi, Often living with an alcoholic results in building a dependence similar to his addiction to ... | |
| Alcoholic | 12/23/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 8 1/2 years and he is an alcoholic. We are both in our ... A: Kristi, it sounds like your husband is very much in denial and at present has not reached a point ... | |
| partner who binges, | 12/19/2008 |
| Q: I've been involved with my partner for 2 years. When I first met her she would binge drink every ... A: Liza, I know it is difficult to end relationships even when they are becoming quite toxic to us. ... | |
| emotionally distant | 12/13/2008 |
| Q: I am married to a recovering alcoholic. He has been sober for 4 months now. I have supported him ... A: Lulu, Alcoholics recover according to their own timetable and how well they adjust to a sober life. ... | |
| In shock | 12/10/2008 |
| Q: Six months ago my husband started reducing his OCD medication and using Facebook. One woman in ... A: Shilo, It is never wrong to take care of yourself. Go ahead and write down whatever you decide to ... | |
| Dating a recovering alcoholic | 12/8/2008 |
| Q: Are there emotional and behavioral patterns individuals can have even if they are recovering ... A: Good day, As alcoholics recover they do gain some emotional strength but it depends on the ... | |
| In shock | 12/6/2008 |
| Q: Six months ago my husband started reducing his OCD medication and using Facebook. One woman in ... A: Shilo, I can understand you must feel very confused but a person with drinking problems or ... | |
| odor | 12/1/2008 |
| Q: I am currently with an alcoholic in recovery for six weeks. Is it possible to still smell alcohol ... A: Maria, The answer is no as far as alcohol goes but there can be other health conditions that can ... | |
| My alcoholic ex partner sayes he no longer loves me. How do I get over it. | 11/28/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a 5 year relationship with a man whom I believe to be an alcoholic, I will give you a ... A: Kerry, the first thing I want to say is that when things are going badly it is easy to feel like it ... | |
| Is this typical? I feel like my world is upside down! | 11/27/2008 |
| Q: My husband (soon to be ex) has been a "functioning" heavy drinker for a long time. He doesn't fall ... A: Erin, I am not sure where to start but as far as underlying problems go you have enough "over"lying ... | |
| My husband just won't stop.... | 11/17/2008 |
| Q: I am in love with my husband and it is so hard for me to walk away from our relationship. I've ... A: April, it is hard to have a relationship under "normal" conditions. By normal I mean two mentally ... | |
| drinking again | 11/10/2008 |
| Q: My husband has been sober for almost 9 years, In may (our sons college graduation) he had a few ... A: Joleen, the questions to ask are "does his drinking cause family problems, financial problems, ... | |
| My fiance is an alcoholic | 11/5/2008 |
| Q: I have read many of the articles online and have just left my partner for a second time in eight ... A: Therese, I understand how confusing it is to be torn in different directions at the same time. It ... | |
| Alcholic Father | 10/29/2008 |
| Q: My dad has been an Alcoholic since before i was, and i never really noticed how bad it was until he ... A: Marie, of course his drinking is not your fault it is a problem he has developed over time. ... | |
| is he alcoholic? | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: My husband drank every night of his life since before I met him. I knew he had a problem, but I ... A: Amanda, the illness of alcoholism affects the family over time as well as the alcoholic. It is ... | |
| What to do | 10/23/2008 |
| Q: my dads been an alcoholic for 10 years. I try talking to him, but he takes no advice from me or my ... A: the first step in helping your Dad is in getting help for yourself by attending some Al-Anon ... | |
| recovery | 10/22/2008 |
| Q: I am a recovering alcoholic 40 year old single male uk national.I have been 18 months in a ... A: Good day Daniel, it sounds like you have a great start on recovery, good work! When living sober ... | |
| Worried about husband/father over drinking | 10/21/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 18 years. He has always had a drinking problem since he was ... A: Pina, once a person passes a certain point which varies depending on the person, it is no longer ... | |
| addicted to an alcoholic | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: I am so lost..I think. About 4 months ago I received a phone call from my x-"recovering" alcoholic ... A: Lena, I noticed that you wrote in about a month ago and it sounds like things are going about the ... | |
| Husband & Beer | 10/10/2008 |
| Q: I have emailed Rebos a few times, but I see he is on vacation. In summary, I noticed a big change in ... A: Debbie, Alcoholism is an illness of denial, this denial affects the drinker and everyone around ... | |
| Alcohol abuse by a loved one | 10/7/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend has a problem with being able to stop drinking before she becomes belligerent and at ... A: Good day Nathan, Relationships can be strained by alcohol abuse and it's resulting behaviours. ... | |
| Husband Relapsed | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 6 years.When we married, he was finishing his AA program.He ... A: Good day Amanda, I hear you saying your husbands drinking doesn't bother you and then again that it ... | |
| symptoms | 10/1/2008 |
| Q: I think that my father is an alcoholic, but I am not sure. Can you tell me which are the symptoms of ... A: Good day, the symptoms of alcoholism are many. One primary symptom is denial that there is any ... | |
| :( I need help | 9/29/2008 |
| Q: I am in love with an alcoholic , I was raised by an alcoholic , and statistically I am an alcoholic ... A: Good day, I know that drinking alcohol especially to an alcoholic is in the beginning at least a ... | |
| The guilty feeling | 9/27/2008 |
| Q: Every morning I wake up saying this will be the day. Then by the afternoon I need a drink. Can ... A: Dave, the guilt that you have failed personally can combine with other factors of this illness to ... | |
| Post Acute-Withdrawl Syndrome | 9/24/2008 |
| Q: I think I might be experiencing some of the symptoms of PAWS and am in the care of a doctor. I was ... A: Good day, there are many feelings of ups and downs in recovery as our brain chemicals and our ... | |
| sad | 9/20/2008 |
| Q: My soon to be husband has not been ship out yet but he think it is o,k to drink and he gets really ... A: Jessica, the first thing you should do is get to a safe place like a relative or friend or a ... | |
| father alocoholic | 9/19/2008 |
| Q: I have a problem with my father who has become an alcoholic since past 8 months. Not a single day ... A: Dileep, he will just buy more alcohol if you give him money. If he needs things like food, get him ... | |
| father alocoholic | 9/18/2008 |
| Q: I have a problem with my father who has become an alcoholic since past 8 months. Not a single day ... A: Dileep, I know it is distressing to watch your father in this condition. It is difficult to deal ... | |
| Am I the one with a problem? | 9/17/2008 |
| Q: Please help me understand what the heck is going on. I was in a relationship with an alcoholic for ... A: Lena, you basically pegged the problem when you said you feel addicted to him. This guy has living ... | |
| help with alcoholic boyfriend | 9/15/2008 |
| Q: I am having issues with my current boyfriend. We have been together for 18 months, and he is a ... A: Jodi, many of the things you mentioned are classic behaviours of an alcoholic. Hiding drinks, ... | |
| Husband Drinking | 9/12/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 18 years. We have been through some major financial downfalls over the past ... A: Robin, I understand how difficult it is to care for someone that is making choices that are ... | |
| Alcoholic girlfriend, unstable boyfriend | 9/11/2008 |
| Q: I think I am here to try to talk myself out of carrying on the relationship with my girlfriend. She ... A: Scott, you have a long troubled history with this relationship. As I see it you have to decide what ... | |
| children | 9/6/2008 |
| Q: He has supposedly stopped drinking since last November but I actually doubt it.Normally I keep ... A: Carol, I know it very sad to see a father that doesn't seem to care but your husband is wrapped up ... | |
| post breakup with alcoholicex, confusion | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: My ex and I broke up after 8 years off and on. We broke up when realized he was still doing coke (i ... A: Gena, It is always difficult when relationships end whatever the reasons. Alcohol and/or drug use ... | |
| Drunken rages | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: I was wondering if you could help me or at least give me an idea of what is going on. I am twenty ... A: Shea, there is something wrong if you blackout during drinking. This is a sign of problem drinking ... | |
| Inside and Outside the Circle of an Alchoholic | 8/13/2008 |
| Q: Amazing, and well worth celebrating, is that my partner and myself have some how avoided becoming ... A: Brenda, I congratulate you on making choices that promote your individuality. It is difficult to ... | |
| My husband is an alcoholic | 8/7/2008 |
| Q: My husband is an alcoholic, a bad one. We lost our home in 2006 because he started drinking after 4 ... A: Debbie, I know it is hard to be torn between wanting a relationship and the reality that it is ... | |
| rules for driving | 8/1/2008 |
| Q: We are about to have to tell my dad that he cannot drive our 15 month old anywhere because of his ... A: Good day, I can understand your concern and I agree with keeping your child safe with or without ... | |
| alcoholics in the family | 7/27/2008 |
| Q: We have a cousin who has been in AA and Celegrate Recovery for a year and doing well. The problem is ... A: Charlotte, As you probably know from this alcoholic girl's behaviour she is a very ill person in ... | |
| Dry Drunk | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: I currently broke up w/ my bfriend of 3 years, I have found that although he has been sober for 10 ... A: Dori, there are many alcoholics that after initially recovering do not follow any form of ... | |
| to believe or no to believe | 7/17/2008 |
| Q: My question is about what an alcoholic is capable of. My sister (the alcoholic) has almost ... A: Angy, Alcoholics become very ill during the progression of their alcoholism. They start going ... | |
| Question | 7/16/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend of five years won't admit he's an alcoholic or go to an AA meeting. I have finally ... A: Paula, I know how much relationships can hurt and it is hard to accept that sometimes they fail for ... | |
| can I forgive? | 7/8/2008 |
| Q: My experience of living and then leaving my alcoholic wife was shocking and leaves unresolved ... A: Robert, sorry, I only received this short message of yours so I can not respond well to your ... | |
| Friend of Bill W. | 7/6/2008 |
| Q: "but at some stage of his drinking career he begins to lose all control of his liquor consumption, ... A: Good day, what it means to me is losing the ability to start and stop drinking when you choose ... | |
| Reuniting | 7/3/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 21 years. My husband, an alcoholic has been in treatment centers 5 times. ... A: Michelle, be very cautious here as you and I both know how manipulating alcoholics can be drunk or ... | |
| anxiety about future | 6/25/2008 |
| Q: The last 5 years I have been through the mill with my husbands drinking and despite him trying to ... A: Good day, Alcoholics are often irresponsible and the family learns to stop depending on them. The ... | |
| my wife went in loving me and came out not | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: my wife and i have been together for eleven years we have had lots of problems but when we are ... A: Jayme. there is no easy answer as to why she wants to end the relationship. I would imagine it has ... | |
| Behaviour | 6/19/2008 |
| Q: Why is it they can hold down a job and go out of their way to please and keep in with fellow workers ... A: Good day, Alcoholics can sometimes be great people pleasers when it comes to outsiders. They seem ... | |
| Our baby will be here soon, and he won't quit drinking. | 6/9/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend, let's call him Sam, and I have been to together for 4 years. I should probably mention ... A: Stephanie, just look at what you wrote to me, do you see the pattern that repeats itself over and ... | |
| My Husband | 6/7/2008 |
| Q: After almost thirty years of marriage my husband has started to drink. I am really upset. Both my ... A: Good day, this is unfortunate but he is an adult so he can decide to drink or not drink. I think ... | |
| Drinking friend | 5/23/2008 |
| Q: my question is my friend and I have been friends since we were kids and now we are 40 well I am 40 ... A: Anna, I see this happen to so many people like your friend. They don't even know life without ... | |
| my husband is a alcoholic | 5/22/2008 |
| Q: Hay I just don't know what to do, I'm not from here so my English writing is terrible. But I'm ... A: I am a recovered alcoholic for over 22 years. He can recover without professional help as I did. ... | |
| Far away brother has a problem | 5/14/2008 |
| Q: this is one of the toughest letters I am sure I have ever written. My brother lives in PA. My Mother ... A: Erin, what makes these situations so difficult is the drinkers denial of their problem. ... | |
| Setting boudaries with problem-drinking husband | 5/13/2008 |
| Q: I've been married to my husband for almost one year, but we've been together for 8. We've always ... A: Leah, your behaviours are all in reaction to what might be an addictive process in your husband. ... | |
| no happy ending | 5/6/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been estranged for about a month now as I had to ask her to leave because of her ... A: Scott, if a crime was committed he should certainly be charged but as you say it depends on what ... | |
| What now??? | 5/2/2008 |
| Q: I just broke up with my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. After a month of uneasiness, I confronted her ... A: Brian, the nature of alcoholism is strong denial. This eventually affects the people that live with ... | |
| no happy ending | 5/2/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been estranged for about a month now as I had to ask her to leave because of her ... A: Scott, the nature of alcoholism is that it requires the almost decimation of a person for them to ... | |
| Trying to understand my friends behavior | 4/26/2008 |
| Q: I have been close friends with an alcoholic for 2 years, since we met in graduate school. My ... A: Laura, this guy needs to work on his sobriety and his honesty and his fear of closeness or ... | |
| burning off alcohol | 4/25/2008 |
| Q: Can the body burn off alcohol with exercise? Some say no and some say yes.Those who say no claim ... A: RJ, alcohol is metabolized through the liver but how fast it gets there is an issue. The level of ... | |
| trust | 4/25/2008 |
| Q: The last few years my husband has been drinking more and more heavily and walked out on the family ... A: Carol, It is very hard to trust someone that has hurt us in the past. We have good reason to be ... | |
| no happy ending | 4/23/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been estranged for about a month now as I had to ask her to leave because of her ... A: Scott, I know it is a terrible feeling to see your wife in this condition. It is very hard for ... | |
| WIFE IS AN ACHOHOLIC | 4/21/2008 |
| Q: MY wife has been drinking heavily for years. Over the past 12 months it really became a problem. I ... A: Dave, I can sense all the frustration you have with your wife and in-laws. Alcoholism is not ... | |
| is my ex-girlfriend an alcoholic | 4/20/2008 |
| Q: I have just broken up with my girlfriend of four years. She was the love of my life. When we first ... A: Jason, when you met this girl you were both active drinkers. It is not surprising that she has a ... | |
| Son's Alcoholism and Drugs | 4/20/2008 |
| Q: My son is 27 and is in a serious situation. He has used drugs and alcohol for years, and will quit ... A: Jennifer, alcoholics are blind to how severe their problem is. The illness creates a strong sense ... | |
| Son's Alcoholism and Drugs | 4/18/2008 |
| Q: My son is 27 and is in a serious situation. He has used drugs and alcohol for years, and will quit ... A: Jennifer, this a difficult question because the answers are few. Your son has drank himself into ... | |
| Husband alcohol... | 4/16/2008 |
| Q: I was wondering if you could help me figure if my husband is an alcoholic or not? I think he is but ... A: Sue, drinking every day is a sure sign of alcohol dependence. Whether he can quit without help at ... | |
| alcoholic wife | 4/15/2008 |
| Q: Two weeks ago I finally got my wife to leave. in the last year she has been kicked out of rehab ... A: Dave, your wife has a mental, emotional and spiritual illness. This is not something you or I or ... | |
| My Ex Husband | 4/9/2008 |
| Q: I am writing to you regarding my ex-husband who is an alcoholic. We have been divorced for about 2 ... A: Carol, late stage alcoholism can mimic alot of mental problems. Some people damage their brain ... | |
| Mood Swings | 4/5/2008 |
| Q: My husband is a heavy drinker. He will drink everyday for three weeks and only stops when he starts ... A: Marsha, this situation is not the same as living with a person in alcoholic recovery. If your ... | |
| Partner | 4/3/2008 |
| Q: We have spoken before..and now I feel like I need your advice again..My partner is drinking more now ... A: Pauline, I do not think it will matter to him how you feel as he can not control his behaviour ... | |
| Partner | 4/3/2008 |
| Q: We have spoken before..and now I feel like I need your advice again..My partner is drinking more now ... A: Pauline, when a man treats you badly and you keep trying he knows he can treat you badly over and ... | |
| Bringing wine to a party | 3/25/2008 |
| Q: My husband is an alcoholic (binger), has been sober for 8 months. Hooray! We socialize w my family ... A: Barb, your husband is doing well by the sounds of it. I believe guests that come to your home ... | |
| Living with an recovering alcoholic | 3/20/2008 |
| Q: I am living with a man who has almost 2 years sobriety - this time and is a survivor the the ... A: Yvonne, alcoholics are very impulsive and have little patience. Your friend is right about sober ... | |
| Living with an recovering alcoholic | 3/20/2008 |
| Q: I am living with a man who has almost 2 years sobriety - this time and is a survivor the the ... A: Yvonne, I know it must be difficult to live with a struggling alcoholic. The problem with some ... | |
| My partner is an alcoholic | 3/17/2008 |
| Q: Iam at a lost and don't know what to do. My partner and I have a great relationship..we been ... A: Pauline, it may not be so easy to move on. Often getting involved with a man like this can be ... | |
| My partner is an alcoholic | 3/16/2008 |
| Q: Iam at a lost and don't know what to do. My partner and I have a great relationship..we been ... A: Pauline, I know it is human nature to help someone that seems to need help. It is also wise to know ... | |
| Alcholism | 3/15/2008 |
| Q: My Husband doesn't drink until Friday after work. We used to drink a couple of drinks (bourbon & ... A: Shirley, When drinking has negative consequences and a person keeps drinking there is usually a ... | |
| shame | 3/2/2008 |
| Q: I feel totally ashamed of myself for marrying a person with a drink problem,he walked out on me 2 ... A: Carol, An alcoholic is a person addicted to alcohol. The addiction is an illness that affects the ... | |
| How to deal with an alcoholic spouse. | 2/28/2008 |
| Q: Please help: I am currently pregnant, with two other children, and i do not work right now. Back ... A: Carmen, what kind of alternatives are there for you where you live? Violence is not something to ... | |
| Alcoholic Friends and Familiy | 2/23/2008 |
| Q: We have friends that think it is normal to get together at least 3 times a week and drink heavily. ... A: David, when living with or around alcoholics people often develop responses that are unhealthy. It ... | |
| Adjusting to life with my sober husband | 2/19/2008 |
| Q: My husband is currently in recovery for 3 months. He is half way home and I am in search of ... A: I admire your willingness to learn about the recovery process. There are many books about ... | |
| Further to your answer to my earlier question | 2/12/2008 |
| Q: two years ago, my brother had met with an accident (hit and run where he was hit) and as a result of ... A: RO, It is a very helpless feeling to know your brother needs help but seems to be refusing your ... | |
| ex | 2/9/2008 |
| Q: i guess i have to start from the start. I left my common law husband of 15 years a little over 3 ... A: just wanted to give you a comment on your question. It sounds like you are having a hard time ... | |
| alcoholism with my daughters boyfriend | 2/8/2008 |
| Q: They have been together 2 years... he dosen't drink every nite but has finally admitted that he does ... A: Mary, this is an odd situation but typical for people involved with an active alcoholic, by that I ... | |
| I want to help my brother | 2/2/2008 |
| Q: I have a 38 year old brother with some serious issues. He began drinking in his teens and has been ... A: Ro, it is admirable to care for your brother's welfare even though you are separated by so much ... | |
| adult child of alcoholic | 2/2/2008 |
| Q: My father has been an alcoholic as long as I can remember (I am 34) my mom finally divorced him ... A: Lori, there is no easy answer to deal with the problem of alcoholism in a family member. Has your ... | |
| need help | 1/28/2008 |
| Q: My son is 24 and an alcoholic. He is currently living with me. I tried to help with his finances, ... A: Heather, I know this is a hard situation to be in as your feelings get pulled one way and the ... | |
| Alcoholic Relationships | 1/27/2008 |
| Q: I started dating a girl from a different town about 8 months ago when I first started recovery in ... A: Adam, I know all this seems very confusing but things do get better with time and sobriety. I ... | |
| alcohol addiction | 1/20/2008 |
| Q: Why do alcoholic continue to ruin your life after you finally get enough nerves to leave. After 28 ... A: Gwen, -anger does not feel very good but is a natural response to being in a situation like yours. ... | |
| bamboozled | 1/14/2008 |
| Q: I have written a couple of times before but always seem to have a lot of unanswered questions in my ... A: Carol, when a person is in the throes of active alcoholism his behaviour is often most bizarre to ... | |
| Divorcing the alcoholic | 1/13/2008 |
| Q: I'm divorcing my alcoholic husband of 17 years due to abuse, then dependence on alcohol that ... A: hope things are getting better for you. I recovered over 22 years ago and know most of the games ... | |
| Keeping sane | 1/10/2008 |
| Q: I took my partne back when he had reach rock bottom and needed help, I took him back on the ... A: Linzi, I know how difficult this situation is since I have been there too. Your partner may or may ... | |
| My husband.... | 1/8/2008 |
| Q: I come to you with an issue. I come from a background with an Alcoholic father and alcohlic ... A: Liza, this man is fighting physically with you, irresponsible and endangering his career, his ... | |
| ex | 1/8/2008 |
| Q: i guess i will start off saying that i have asked this question before to others but want more feed ... A: Michele, if he is still drinking and has not had any alcoholic treatment, I suspect the problem is ... | |
| I'm trying to recover - spouse is not | 1/5/2008 |
| Q: I've recently been diagnosed as bipolar and I've discovered that I've been using alcohol to ... A: A, it may be difficult to be around drinkers this early in your recovery. He is not the one making ... | |
| How A Recovering Alcoholic Feels | 1/4/2008 |
| Q: I love a man who quit drinking October 27. He had one relapse one week later where he drank what ... A: Merideth, I am amazed at your positive attitude towards what must be a very difficult situation to ... | |
| Mum | 12/31/2007 |
| Q: My question is about my mum. She has been a heavy drinker for a while but visiting her this ... A: Rebecca, this is a difficult situation for your Mum and your family. It is not healthy to drink so ... | |
| relapse | 12/21/2007 |
| Q: I have a son who was about 80 days sober and living in a sober living house. He just had his 28th ... A: Mary Jo, after a relapse it is normal to feel like a failure. Feelings like this can just make the ... | |
| After Rehab | 12/18/2007 |
| Q: so that he has something to drink. He wants a fruit juice that is also fizzy. A: Shannon, wanting fizzy non-alcohol drinks is just a sign that he is having trouble letting go of ... | |
| help | 12/16/2007 |
| Q: My husband is an alcoholic. He of course denies this completely. It is wrecking our life. We have ... A: I am very familiar with your situation as it is repeated so many times in alcoholic centered ... | |
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