Expert: james52144@earthlink.net - 2/13/2007

Question
hi, sir
   The other night, I was working out at a gym and I noticed my friend who works there and I said hi to him and to tell him that it was my birthday. I smelled his breath and noticed that he was drinking on the job since it was his friend's birthday. He acted alright throughtout the job. (He's a personal trainer at the gym)I watched him train hi client and he said I should join them. I didn' feel like it but I wanted to watch him train his client. I walked by and then he put his arm around my waist and touched my stomach. He toldd me he wanted to hang out with me after he's done with his job.
  When he was done with his job, he drove his Porsche to pick me up cos' he wants to "take me home." It was then and there he told me he was drunk and feel like jerking. He asked me to do him a "favor." I was shocked and then he drove me. I told him to rest and not drive but he drove ten blocks down very quickly. He was rambling about how he was a cop and a military man even though i wasn't true. He said he felt like having sex and he started driving me to his place. Frightened, I told him to drive me back." He did so immediately saying "If you want to end it this way and you don't need to explain anything"
  The next day I talked to him and he said he doesn't remember what he said to me. Was he lying? He was definitely ddrunk. He said he don't remember but he does remember that he told me not to worry and that he drove me back. What made him say those sexual thingsto me and was he lying when he said he didn't remember or was it the alcohol? Sorry for the long post.  

Answer
Dear Yan

It is entirely possible for someone to drink enough to medicate any inibitions about lying and then to "black out", which means the alcohol induced amnesia of what happened. Black outs is one of the symptoms of alcoholism. Someone can be very fit physically and still be an alcoholic. Another symptom of alcoholism is drinking when it is inappropriate, such as when they are at work or driving an automobile. This fellow definitely has a drinking problem.