Expert: Rebos - 6/25/2006

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Followup To

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My boyfriend complains that his orgasms aren't as intense as they used to be when he was younger (he's 50)and his ejaculations aren't as strong. They're almost a let down. I'm pretty sure it has something to do with his drinking but I thought I would ask for an opinion. He's been drinking nightly, to excess, for many years.  His parents and I recently did an intervention with him but although he said he was going to stop drinking he hasn't. Maybe if I can convince him that quitting drinking would improve his sexual satisfaction it would give him a push to stop drinking.

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Good morning Bonnie:

Thank you for your question. I will do my best to give you a satisfactory response. However, your e-mail did not give much detail about your boyfriend’s drinking history. You question seems like “the tail is wagging the dog”. In any case the answer to your question…Does drinking play a big part in sexual arousal? YES. absolutely. Drinking promotes the liver to convert testosterone to estrogen, Testosterone is equal to libido! Alcohol can diffuse through the barrier between the arteries and the brain to slow down the nervous function. It  numbs the nervous system to weaken erection and the sex act for men after 30.


Thank you for your swift reply to my question. Just for clarification, my boyfriend has no trouble getting and maintaining an erection. His problem is that his orgasms aren't as intense as they used to be. As far as his drinking history goes, for the 4 years that I have known him he has been drinking an average of a 12 pack of beer a night and I know that this had been going on for many years prior to our meeting. Is there any more information you can give me, or maybe some websites that would have more in depth information relating to this problem? Thank you.

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Good afternoon Bonnie:

Thank you for your follow up question.

When I wrote that your first question was like “the tail wagging the dog” what I meant that you are more concerned about your boyfriend’s orgasms than you are about his alcoholism! Yes from what you describe you boyfriend is having a problem with alcohol. You do know that a lessening of his orgasms at his age will not kill him, but his drinking as much as you say that he is, will eventually kill him… in the meantime he will end up making your life miserable.

I’m sorry if my answer is not what you want to hear, but I must tell you the truth about alcoholism that you may not be willing or able to see what your future holds for you. If I were you I would start attending Alanon meetings to find out what the disease is all about. . If you do not have Alanon's local number call the following toll-free numbers: 1-800-344-2666 (United States) or 1-800-443-4525 (Canada