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My son is a user of hard stuff, he is seeing a suboxum doctor but to him it's recreation. I am disabled and on Methadone and atavan for severe pain at a pain clinic. He is violent and keeps me prisoner by not letting me use the phone or leave the apartment to get or call the police, he also gets my money and pills using his bullying tactics. He is 18, I am 56 and sick, he doesnt do anything except get high, nothing, and he lies and steals, I dont want to live anymore. Marc
Marc I am so,so sorry at this awful situation you are in and what is happening to you. I will do my best to help you and I am always here to talk to and get you through it so do not hesitate to contact me as much as you like.
Your son is totally disrespecting you and being down right cruel. It is the drugs that have turned him into this and addicts act out negatively in so many ways and unfortunately its the parents that usually bear the brunt of such behavior.
My concern is you. You must be in severe pain if the pain clinic has put you on Methadone and I figure the Ativan is for anxiety but I know also it acts as a muscle relaxant also. With these drugs you are taking it doesn't surprise me that he is bullying you for them.
This may sound harsh what I am going to say and it's up to you if you decide to do this and that is expel him from the house. Tell him to leave. Make him leave and get the police to escort him out,change the locks and put a restraining order on him which will stop him from coming 100ft near you. I already know what you are thinking:'but he is my son'. Yes he is your son but it doesn't mean he is allowed to harm you. Marc you said 'I don't want to live anymore'-and it is your sons behavior which is making you feel that way and the only way out is to remove what is causing you so much pain.
I cannot say anymore than that. I don't want to see you end your life. There is a way out and that is what I have already told you to do. Its tough love on his part too as being expelled from the house may even be a wake up call for him because at the moment it's all too easy for him. He acts out with you,he is cruel to you,he steals your money and your much needed medicine and I tell you now if he is made to leave he will see that the world out there isn't as forgiving as you and it could,as I said,be a huge wake up call for him and actually put him on the straight and narrow. Have a serious think about it.
I am always here,don't hesitate to contact me again if you want to and I am more than willing to help see you through this.
Peace to you, Caroline
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Caroline West
Expertise
My expertise in this area is in illicit/street drugs as well as some over the counter and prescription drugs/meds. I can answer questions about most illicit drugs and prescription drugs. I can offer advice on Opiate maintenance drugs like Methadone, Subutex and Suboxone,and the process of going through a Detox and/or Rehab. I understand the problems Drug use can cause regarding convictions and debt problems. There is a difference between recreational drug use and drug addiction and can answer questions on both. Relationship advice if you or your partner is using and can offer help there too. Drug addiction is no joke and it can shatter the lives of the family as well as the user so I can also offer help and advice to friends and family. Drug dependency creates a great deal of issues both mentally and physically and left untreated can lead to poor Mental Health, Psychological and Physical harm and worse. Life can become unmanageable in many ways including work and schooling alongside breakdowns in relationships,risk of convictions and a reduction in personal care. I can offer advice and support in all these areas having been in them and now out of them.
Experience
I have had multiple drug addictions in the past that have included Cannabis,Heroin,Crack,Benzo's,Codeine and over the counter tablets as well as prescription medicines and taken near enough everything. It caused a great deal of problems in my family and I also had suffered breakdowns,Hospitalizations,suicide attempts,convictions the lot. I had been in a 7 year drug using relationship which was tough. I've come out the other end now and haven't used illicit drugs for 5 years. I really do understand what it is like for the user and those around them.
Organizations
I am in 4 other categories here at All Experts: Abusive Relationships; Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy or DBT which can simultaneously help those with BPD and with Drug/Alcohol Problems; and Teenage Problems.
I also belong to Care2.com which helps various causes all over the world.
Education/Credentials
I have schooling up to A-Level standard,College Diplomas and what I offer here is valuable 'life experience'.
Past/Present Clients
I have done this voluntary job here at All Experts for about 3 years now.
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