Expert: Crystal - 2/1/2008

Question
My husband is physically handicapped.  He walks with crutches.  He is addicted to crack. We have been together for five years but I recently found out this has been going on before we even met.  I've given him plenty of chances to quit but he always goes back.  I didn't know how overpowering addiction was and I probably wouldn't have married him if I would've known.  I don't think he will get help so now I'm dealing with the pain of leaving.  I feel like I just can't make the move without him getting help but he refuses to get help.  How do I make myself not feel like its my fault if I leave without him getting the help.

Answer
Karin,

You can't force someone to get help if they don't want help. It is not your fault for choosing to not be taken down by his addiction. You need to do what is best for you too and if he doesn't want help then you can't make him want it.

Crystal