About Amarnath.B Expertise Helping build recovery in the lives of individuals, families and communities affected by alcoholism, drug dependency and related diseases.
Involved in counseling/rehabilitation.
Can answer any question on this subject.
Experience 6 years of counseling in the area of chemical dependency.
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Expert: Amarnath.B Date: 5/22/2008 Subject: Girlfriend Recovering from Roxy addiction
Question Ok here is the short version. My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year. We have been friends for about 5 years. When we started dating seriously I found out that she was addicted to and snorting Roxycotin. She claims it was from back pain etc... We got her to detox in a hospital for a couple of days and then she was released. THen she got back on the pills. SO then I sent her to a doctor for her back becasue she was claiming that the pain was severe enough for her to seek medication. So we got her on some Darvocet. I was distributing them to her so she couldn't abuse them. She started to pocket them and starting snorting Roxy again. She claimed she wanted to quit so we got her hooked up with another doctor and was prescribed Suboxone. I went well for a couple of months. THen she got off the suboxon and then went back to the roxy. She claimed she wanted to quit again and now she is back on the suboxone again. Here is my problem. She lied and lied and lied and lied about her addiction. She wasn't where she said she was going to be when she said she was going to be there. On a daily basis. She lied about taking the pills when I would confront her she would lie to my face but it was completly obivous that she was messed up. I would get extremely angry because I don't understand how she could lie to my face on a reglar basis and still claim that she was in love with me. I feel like I dont even know who she is and don't think I can ever trust her. At this point I'm not sure I want to trust her. Should I even attempt to save this relationship? I don't think I will be capable of trusting her ever again? I do still love her but why would I volunteer to put my self through so much pain just to stay with her. Please help!!!
Answer Hello Jason,
Your girlfriend is an addict and needs help. You are just enabling her. I think it is time you leave her and give her time to recover.
At this stage the only answer for your friend is to get herself admitted to a rehabilitation center. Addiction is a disease and cannot be cured...it can only be arrested by staying stop. She should also be introduced to NA (Narcotics Anonymous), which is a self-help group and millions have been leading a happy and sober life through attending daily meetings of NA.
Please do not delay as addiction is fatal. You can surely get back together after she recovers.
