AboutDerek Johnson Expertise Any behavior in which you are compelled to engage in when you do not want to can lead to an addiction.
Experience I offer counseling (http://www.kasamba.com/derek-johnson) of all types -drugs, alcohol, sexual, anger, depression, co-dependency, anxiety, grief, stress, eating disorders, distortions of thought, compulsions, mood disorders, controlling behaviors, inferiority, marriage and family, motivation, life coaching, relapse prevention and recovery counseling- from an eclectic approach.
My abilities are being refined daily by supervising a counseling center that offers counseling to 120 clients. I have 10 years of direct care in all counseling arenas. I also have 2 years experience working with the mentally handicapped. Additionally, I have 2 years experience in Marriage and Family relationship issues. I have personally and unfortunately experienced sexual abuse, a suicide attempt and many addictions. This gives me a unique perspective in helping others.
Organizations Teen Challenge of Florida Florida Certification Board International Society for Mental Health Online International Certification & Reciprocity Consortium
Education/Credentials Certified Mental Health Professional # 50190 (MA)/ Certified Addiction Professional #3279 (MA) / Bachelor of Science in Psychology and Sociology / Internationally Certified Counselor #24570 / Certified by the Florida Certification Board / Certified by International Certification & Reciprocity Consortium / NET Institute Diploma for Counseling and Addiction Studies
Expert: Derek Johnson Date: 5/5/2008 Subject: My inability to deal with my sister herion issues
Question How can I get passed the anger, frustation, hatred that I have toward my sister. I hear her name and feel the need to vomit! It is simply exhausting just being around her. she has been clean from herion for 8 months or so now and says this is the time it is going to work.. I roll my eyes and wish a boulder would fall on her head or something.. This is just not me, I cant stand the person who I have become. This has paralized me mentally, physically. I am just at my limit. My sister has been away for a year now "getting clean" in a damn country club that my parents paid for. My parents have put so much time, money, effort, pain, agony, hope, faith into her thinking that perhaps this will fix the problem or that will... hasnt done a damn thin in 20 years, why would they think that now?
My sister and her crack head husband thought it would be a btillant idea to bring a bahy into this world (not even considering the fact that between the both of them they already have 4 kids that they take care of) So... fastforward abit to June 17 2007. sister andhusband show up to my sons b-day party with "the flu" and want me to care for their child until they can be ready for him... oboy - reality check.. long story short.. Traci has been out of the picture for a year. I have custody of her beautiful son Ryan, my folks have custody of her beautiful daughter Holly. Now, traci is transitioning to our area as I had reqeusted.. but she did not find a place to live... instead she expects that my folks will allow her to stay with them until she is able to get back on her feet again... Do they not recognize that this is a form of enabling. What do I do? What can I do? It is tearing me apart, it is tearing my mother and I apart. Mom feels the need to protect the crack head adn I feel the need to protect my mother. double edge sword. what do i do?
Answer Hi Christine,
I am sorry to hear about your sister and the state that you have gottne yourself into. You have no control over her or your parents actions - only over your response. And it seems that you are suffering from many symptoms of harboring unforgiveness towards her.
Granted I only know what you have typed but that is my guess. Anger, frustration and hatred are byproducts of unforgiveness that is buried deep in the subconscious.
My advice would be to examine this and see if it is something that may be the case. If so, I can offer you help via online chat or I can send you some good worksheets that outline forgiveness wonderfully.
