About Amarnath.B Expertise Helping build recovery in the lives of individuals, families and communities affected by alcoholism, drug dependency and related diseases.
Involved in counseling/rehabilitation.
Can answer any question on this subject.
Experience 6 years of counseling in the area of chemical dependency.
Organizations Volunteer expert in Alcohol Addiction with allexperts.com
Education/Credentials Graduate/Post Graduate
DLCAS Hazelden/Addiction Studies/Theory & Practice of Addiction Counseling/Dual Disorders
Expert: Amarnath.B Date: 7/18/2008 Subject: Should I stay
Question I've been in a relationship with a man whom I've grown to love very much, just recently I learn he was a recovering crack addict. I only learn this because as of two weeks ago his behavior start changing and he would leave a few days at a time.My first thought was that he was cheating on me. His mother later confirm that is wasn't the issue. She never told me what his problem was just that he wasn't cheating on me. He came back this Monday and went directly to his mother house and call me. He told me he had mess up and we needed to talk. He would not allow me to see him until the next day. When i saw him I knew that he had been using drugs. He check himself into a Rehab.He told me he had only been using for four days I knew that was a lie and I didn't even say anything. He at Rehab now. i talk to his mother later that day after he went to rehab only to find out that he was a recovering addict. He never ever share this with me and I never new until this week. His mother said this is the first time in his life he's ever check himself into a rehab and he's 40yrs old. I do love him but I don't understand why he wouldn't tell me something that important maybe i could've help him. Now he wants me to wait for him and i don't know if that would me wise. Should I stay with him? He has yet to tell me the truth about this. He was clean for 4 years before this relapse.
Answer Hello Chanel,
At the outset, I'm glad that your boyfriend checked into a rehab and has the desire to stop. Remember, addiction is a progressive disease. It cannot be cured. If your boyfriend had been attending NA (Narcotic Anonymous) meetings, a self-help group for recovering addicts, I'm sure he would'nt be in this position and he would even have told you about his past. One of the most important or the most important part in recovery is honesty. Honesty to oneself and to others.
I suggest that you confront him and also see a counselor yourself before you think of leaving him.
