Expert: Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist - 8/6/2008

Question
I'll just give you the basic stuff. At first when we visited our hometown my brother was all about hanging out with us. He had no money or job and wanted to go with us,my husband and I, everyday.He would sleep all day until 1 and 2 til we came and got him up. His little friends would stop by here and there but never stay long. One guy was living with him because of "marital probs". The next time we visited he'd just gotten a job, my brother would have friends over more often and they'd stay all night almost every night. We walked in his house and it was a mess. He blamed it on his friends. Things were even broken such as, a broom, a chair,and closet doors. My grandmother, who lived in the adjacent house complained of loud banging,noises and him staying up all night. Now this last time we visited my brother had no time for me whatsoever. He used me to get alcohol, being underage and all, and left with and excuse of having to pick up a friend who's mom was drunk and couldn't come get him. He didn't even want to come over. I had to basically beg him to hang out. What is so strange is that the 2nd to last time we were there he would call EVERYDAY and ask what we were doing as if he wanted to spend time with us only to leave when we got there. He was supposed to be getting in the military, but he hasn't. He lost interest with college a while back and quit and hasn't even thought abt going back. What's his deal?

Answer
Hi tori,

You have to realize that an addict is a destroyer of relationships. They are very manipulative and their behaviour will worsen over time. There is little you can do, because your brother has to want himself to get of alcohol or addiction.

If and when he is motivated, he can be helped. Please go to

Why Alcoholics Drink? at
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/WAD.html

Alcoholism (Addiction) is a Treatable Disease at:
http://curezone.com/upload/PDF/Articles/jurplesman/alcoholism_treatable.pdf

Self-help Personal Growth Psychotherapy at:
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/self-help_personal_growth.html

and discuss with a Nutritional Doctor, a Clinical Nutritionist or a Nutritional Psychologist if you want to, and if your brother is ready.

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Jurriaan Plesman
Editor of
The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia.
www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Author of "Getting off the Hook"
Freely available at Google Book Search
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