AboutJurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychologist Expertise I have a degree in Psychology from the Sydney University and a Postgraduate Diploma in Clinical Nutrition.
I am also the author of “GETTING OFF THE HOOK” which deals with the nutritional and psychological treatment of personality disorders. It is freely available on the internet at Google Book Search.
I am interested in the relationship between nutrition and behaviour, and as a Probation ans Parole Officer facilitated groups for offenders, many of whom were alcoholics and drug addicts, sex offenders or compulsive gamblers, as well as the whole gamut of “personality disorders”.
I am also the ex-editor of the Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia Newsletter, a quarterly publication dealing with hypoglycemia and related health problems.
Its web site, together with a shortened course of PSYCHOTHERAPY can be visited at: http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Experience Nutritional Psychotherapist
Organizations The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Publications GETTING OFF THE HOOK which is freely available on the internet at Google Book Search.
Various articles in Hypoglycemic Health Association Newsletter
Education/Credentials BA(Psych) (Sydney University) Post Grad Dip Clin Nutr (International Academy of Nutrition)
Question My fiance of nearly 2 1/2 is currently in his 8th treatment center. He's at a half way house in Atlanta and will continue on to a 3rd quater house. His crack addiction has left me mentally, physically, spiritually exhausted. He typically will relapse 1 weekend out of the month and then he stays completly sober abstaining from alcohol, prescriptions pills and so forth. Without any warning signs he would disappear while I was either asleep, at work, or out with friends. On most of the crack binges he would only have about $20 on him, yet managed to get high for 2days. He would never answer the phone, it would either be dead, turned off, or on silent. I would go through so many emotions, from being extremly angry down to worry of if he is alive. When he was finished he would just come home, like nothing ever happened. He would never tell me where he had been, who he had been with, and how he manged to stay out with basically no money. Finally, I managed to get a confession out of him two months ago. He told me that for the past 3 years he had been having unprotected anal sex with his fathers best friend, who is gay, and was once considered a mentor to me. I was dumbfounded, never would I think my fiance would stoop so low to sell himself and much less to such a close family friend. I basically had a mental breakdown as a result of this and sought treatment in order to cope. My fiance and I didn't speak for nearly 60 days due to his treatment regulations. That was time that I needed to really sort things out and get away from my anger. We now talk on a daily basis, and I'm still madly in love with him. I do feel that he is my soul mate and I know that the monster crack made him was not the man I was in love with. He assures me that he wants nothing to do with this man, no communication or anything. I just am so oblivious to why a straight man would have anal sex with another man unprotected and for money if he wasn't gay or if he didn't actually enjoy it. To me I would think that this would have only been a few time occassion, not a 3 year affair if there were no feelings or emotions there. If I do stay, how long before I decide to move back with him. I have thought at the least a year of sobriety, but I still have doubts about his true sexuality. Will he continue to be a man on the down low regardless of if he relapses or not. Help I've NEVER even heard of a situation like this and hate that it's me posting this question. Is there anyone else who has been through something similar?
Answer Dear ashlee,
The reality is that a drug addict will remain so unless he is treated for his addiction. Addiction is not a psychological disease but a physical disease that is difficult to treat. You have to understand the nature of addiction and its causes, because you can treat it. I can help you to understand by getting you to read articles on the subject. Please read:
and ask to be referred to a Nutritional Doctor, Clinical Nutritionist or Nutritional Psychologist.
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Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychologist
Hon. Editor of
The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia.
www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Author of "Getting off the Hook"
Freely available at Google Book Search
Skype: jurplesman
