Addiction to Drugs/confused

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I have a partner who is a veteran of heroin use and he has been clean for years.  However he does use pain medication for his back and often when I see him he almost seems to push pills onto me as well.  I say no and he becomes insistent on why I am saying no.  He gets tense and asks me whats wrong and I am confused by this behavior we are intimate but we arent declared either.  I am not sure what to do or think or feel.I feel lost lonely and confused by him altogether.help

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Hey Annie,

Before I answer, I just would like to understand what you are asking a little bit more, because I am slightly confused.

When you say your partner "seems to push pills onto me as well" what does that mean exactly ? Is he getting you to take the pills or is he getting you to keep them for him ? This is where I am a little bit lost.

If you let me know this then I will be more than happy to offer what I think.

Hope all is well with you

Gareth

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Given that I am not a “medical professional” I cannot answer questions on medication and the like, however, I can offer my experiences thereon. I am able to offer answers to questions on the effects of most drugs (street and prescription) as well as advice regarding halting the use of and recovery from active addiction, which plays a very important role in the recovery process as well addressing underlying issues and reasons as to why drugs and the like are abused. I am also able to address any questions regarding dealing with depression, suicide and self-harming, recovery from these and advice on creating a different lifestyle without these afflictions. I can also answer questions from families, friends and partners of drug users and depressed persons, and in addition to this, I have a very good understanding of the 12-step recovery program.

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With a long history of severe clinical depression, self-harming and substance abuse (since the age of 12) I “successfully” managed to lose all that I owned (marriage, home, children) as a result of suicide attempts, numerous hospital visits and severe drug use for 18 years, ranging from street to prescription drugs. I am now about to enter my 8th year free from substance and depression and my 4th year free from cutting myself. I know what it is like to be suicidal and in the grips of active addiction and self harm, how difficult it appears to reach out to people for help, and at the same time, I know how I managed to free myself from the lifestyle and how I continue to create a happy life without the use of medication and constant therapy and the like

Education/Credentials
Life Change Consulting, Master Practitioner of NLP, Advanced Neurological Repatterning, Ericksonian Hypnosis, Master Hypnosis, Performance Consultant, Master Result Coach, as well as a Masters Degree in Life Experience.

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Have spoken to school and groups (ages 12-16), ranging in size from 50 to 200 attendees at a time, as well as speaking to parents of school children. Have also worked one-on-one with young adults with successful and continuing results. Currently working on creating and presenting a development program encompassing all areas of change in lifestyle, as well as a magazine and book publication.

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