Expert: Crystal - 8/9/2009

Question
my husband is addicted to crack cocaine,pills etc.he did go to rehab and has been going to church and attending his meetings until about three weeks ago he has came in drunk and high he has been getting advances on his paycheck quote so he can party i just caught him cheating on me and had him arrested for domestic violence.he has agreed to go back to rehab but there isnt any openongs til oct.they did nothing to him in court and now hes living wherever he can find a place to stay.he keeps calling me but i dont think i can let him come home.i have been on the internet searching for meetings for me to attend and i cant find anything in my area.can you suggest any sites?

Answer
Tammy,

I don't know where you live but I know that most states have a 211 number you can call and they have resources of all kinds. I would call a treatment center and ask them if they have any other suggestions or names of other treatment centers in your area. I would not allow him to come back home at this point if at all. Domestic violence is a serious situation and can become potentially lethal to the victims who allow the offender back into their lives. You are not obligated to be his savior but that is your choice. I would seek alanon meetings for yourself before you take any measures or make any decisions either way. Families of addicts suffer right up there with the addict, just in a different way. Make sense?