Expert: Peter L. - 10/12/2010

Question
I  Met  my bf  7 monts  ago  he  was  in  halfway  - Sober  house  and  now  he  lives  wit  me at  my  parent  house and  he  smokin  crack  again  and  he got me  doing  it  now  to  and  we  got  caught  stealin  just  to  get money  and i  dont  know what  to  do  im  so  scared  but  cant  stop but  i  want  to  my  life  is  falling  apart but  evertime  i  say  im  done  i  just  think  of  how  it  waas  before the crack  and  he amazing person

Answer
Jamie,

Talk to your boyfriend about getting help.  You should each be in different treatment centers, or at least different treatment groups.
You have to work on your recoveries independently.  If he refuses to get treatment, you have to get it on your own.  You may not be able to continue in this relationship if he does not get help or want to recover.  

You started using crack due to pressure from him.  Recognize that you were OK before you started using, and can be OK again.  

What do your parents say about all this?  Do they see what's going on?  Maybe your boyfriend should move out, maybe get into inpatient treatment. This might be the right thing for you to do as well.

You mention that he is an amazing person.  Maybe so, but you are not seeing the best of his behavior.  If you both get help and stop using, maybe you can continue your relationship and even thrive together.  But, if one of you doesn't want to stop or get help, I doubt your relationship will survive.

Hope this helps,
Peter